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I think you're on the right track. This was basically the combo that I did for a few years. As far as a concrete plan, I can't give you that. Part of this work is that you have to develop your own plan that suits your needs. But here are some general tips: Learn all the theory around dating and attraction. Read books (Way of The Superior Man, Men are From Mars, etc) and watch PUA content on YT (Austen Summers, Natural Lifestyles, Sasha Daygame, Playing With Fire, etc) Find friends who you can go out with to help you approach Get in physical shape and get your fashion down if you don't already Do spiritual work (meditation, yoga, breathwork, psychedelics, retreats etc) Consider a good therapist, ideally one with some spiritual knowledge I know it's a lot, but if you do all this you'll be on a solid path. The PUA stuff can be kind of manipulative and creepy but it's a good first step for a lot of guys.

Similar, but my sense is that it can go much deeper. Sexuality could be a whole domain of mastery that someone spends 20-30 years fully exploring. Most people have not even gotten close to that, I know I haven't. These sexual experiences where you totally feel in flow and connected are likely only the tip of the iceberg. But I'm speculating, not talking from my own experience.

Yes No Exactly right. All concepts of God are false. When Leo says "you are God", he is not asking you to construct a new belief per say. He is asking you to deconstruct your entire reality so that only Absolute Truth remains. After you do that, then you can use these conceptualization like "you are God" to point the way for others.

@EddieEddie1995 Awesome. What do you feel made the difference? Why is it that you were able to drop into the experience this time? Besides weed and the room you were in.

@Sempiternity I think it’s a really cool idea. Some questions I would ask yourself: How are you going to afford a down payment on land and developing it? You need a significant initial lump sum of cash. Unless you have savings, it sounds like your inheritance is coming in too slow for something like this. Have you considered other housing structures? Yurts, Geo domes, Cob, Super adobe etc What is the legality for doing something like psychedelic retreats in Washington? Will you also be living there? Overall I think it can be done. You’re basically talking about building a retreat center or some sort of transient ecovillage. Maybe research those and get some inspiration.

I don't personally like dinner dates. My diet is pretty strict and so it's hard to even find a restaurant with healthy food. But many girls still enjoy that kind of thing so you'll be fine. To me, this advice is dicey. Some guys think they're going on a date, when in actuality they're just a free meal ticket for the girl. In that case I would suggest he'd keep his wallet closed. But paying can sometimes also be really good, even if it's early. Sets a good masculine provider frame. But don't attach it to some sort of expectation that now she owes you sex.

@knakoo Her points generally overlap with my own experience. But I feel this is the key: Any piece of advice must be understood as to whom the advice is being given. If you're a meek guy who isn't in his masculine and doesn't know how to lead, then yes I'd say this is really good advice. And there are a lot of guys out there who are like that. So this kind of advice is necessary. But there's also far more to having great sex than what she is saying. It's not just about being super dominant all the time. And to her credit, she mentions that at the end.

@RendHeaven I wouldn't say women have it across the board worse. There's just pros and cons when it comes to dating for both genders. That said, I think your post highlights a real insight, which is just how physical male attraction can be. Women are attracted far beyond the physical when it comes to men. Your personality / life situation does probably 90% of the leg work, which is nice because it can be developed and actually improve over time. But as a guy, I don't need a woman to have a specific kind of personality or life situation to be physically attracted to her. I just need to know what she looks like and I can tell you. Now, that does not mean she's a girl you'd want to date. It doesn't even mean you would necessarily try and have sex with her. There are plenty of other factors that come into to play, especially if you're considering a relationship with a girl. But I would agree that the initial filter for guys is looks. If she doesn't pass that, don't expect things to go much further. And I do believe this is part of the reason women are much more concerned with how they look than men. It's far more important to their sexual strategy. Looks also can create a halo effect for men. If she's good looking, you're much more likely to rationalize "good" personal qualities about her. Whereas for a girl who was less good looking, you wouldn't notice or maybe even care about those qualities at all. Is this all really shallow and depressing? Maybe. I'm not looking to make a moral argument here, I'm pointing out observations I've made. Maybe there is a reality where we are all so higher consciousness that we transcend all of this. Men don't care about looks any more and women don't care about men who can provide and protect her. But regardless, it starts with becoming aware of what patterns we are in.

I like Gary V, he brings a lot of of value to people and definitely is not your typical Orange CEO. At the same time be aware of your bias. Gary is bringing value to you and you resonate with his perspective, so it's easy to peg someone's development as higher than it is when they are helping you. Gary is not enlightened. Nor is he living at the peak of humanity. Just because someone talks about authenticity and doing what you love does not make them on par with the yogis. This doesn't mean Gary is bad. Actually, his SD Orange / Green perspective is really crucial as we shift in society from Orange to Green. But Gary is Green at best. Maybe some yellow at times if you're being generous.

These are excellent questions, and they honestly feel way bigger to me than any one human can answer. Something like this requires massive collective intelligence. You need people who deeply understand the current monetary / financial system, programmers, AI researchers, activists for pushing it to the public, etc. I'll attempt to just pitifully nibble at the ankles of your questions. "How would you create an onboarding system of people onto this type of system?" Potentially you could test something like this at the local level first before the nation-state level. You issue a local currency for X area, perhaps a city, and then put the AI to work. See what happens. Refine and get positive results before attempting to move higher. As you'd move from each level (city -> state -> nation -> global???) , the AI and the system as a whole would like have to get increasing complex and refined. "What technologies and synthetic intellects exist today in the current platforms we use?" The market is a sort of collective intelligence. Also you have various forms of government intervention, e.g monetary & fiscal policy. These distort the "pure" free market. Also the Facebook AI, although it would have to be massively changed for this purpose. "What social factors are at play that stop this type of system happening?" Neoliberalism / libertarian philosophy, as they would like see this as a distortion of the market. Stage Orange individualism and stage Blue ideology. Basically, people at different stages of the spiral are not going to agree on how your purchasing power should be weighted. Also, you have to factor in business interests. If prices are being constantly changed by the AI, essentially business owners are no longer in control of their prices. I doubt they will like this. It may make it difficult for them to accurately predict earnings. "What the are the potential risks and rewards of in-acting this type of system?' The biggest risk I see is that the AI would fail deliver on its promise. Instead of incentivizing conscious behavior, it ends up incentivizing the opposite. It becomes manipulated by devilry. Another potential failure could be incentivizing consumerism itself as a method for achieving good social outcomes. In reality, we want less consumerism. Sometimes the best purchase is the one you didn't make. The biggest potential reward is the opposite. You incentivize pro-social purchasing behavior on all major social outcomes, e.g environmentalism, health care, consciousness, education, etc. "Would all factories need to be highly automated and communicate to each other?" I don't know. I'm not seeing the connection between factory automation / communication in all of this. "Would humanity live more free, interesting, healthy and highly creative lives?" It's very possible. And of course that is the goal, which should influence every decision that is made about something like this. I think enacting this with a UBI could potentially be really powerful. Especially if that UBI is how the money supply is created. Versus just attempting to run UBI through the current monetary creation process.

Have you read Slow Sex by Diana Richardson? It talks about all this. I found it way more paradigm shifting than Mantak Chia and a lot of other tantric teachings.

@Thought Art I like the idea. Essentially, you're trying to reverse perverse incentives in the system so that money flows towards things that contribute to a higher consciousness society. As apposed to now, where often times it's the other way around (money flowing towards creating a lower consciousness society). I think there's many potential ways we can accomplish that goal of reversing perverse incentives. Demurrage currency is maybe at the top of that list for me. I will play with your idea some more and see what comes up. The first challenge I see with what you're proposing is that people are not conscious enough to know what purchases will lead to a higher consciousness society. Even if you pick things with scientific approval, unless your scientists are fairly conscious, they will not know what is worthy of approval. They will just approval things that fit their stage Orange, rationalist worldview. And so you'd likely have a lot of fighting over how high your purchasing power should be weighted. How would you get around this problem?

@tatsumaru The challenge with giving advice about overcoming resistance is that it can look different for different people. If your resistance is to taking action, than maybe something like Steven Pressfield is exactly what you need to hear. But consider that each stage of cognitive development has its own unique resistance. And therefore needs unique advice. Don't try to reconcile all the paradoxes. You're not going to be able to. You're going to have to accept that different advice just works for different people in a different context. Don't try to find the perfect piece of advice, or the perfect model for overcoming resistance. Find the piece of advice or model that helps you overcome resistance. And when it's no longer useful, drop it and pick up the next piece of advice. You can feel in your body what advice rings true for you and what you need to hear. And of course the ultimate test will be whether or not you drop your resistance. If you don't, then obviously that wasn't the right thing you needed to hear. Or you still need more self-reflection and to drop deeper layers of resistance.

@LastThursday Think about emotions, roundness, flow, grace, aesthetics, nurturing and softness. This is just some of what I feel represent the feminine in all of us. Here's a list of more practical activities: Make your life aesthetically pleasing. Think of the cliche of a woman taking a bubble bath. She lights candles, maybe sets up some flowers for herself, maybe some soft music. And then she just enjoys. As a man, we feel this is all totally impractical and a waste of time. That's exactly right, the feminine isn't concerned with being practical. It's about the experience Do a soft form of yoga. Embrace the graceful and round movements that come with it. Be totally conscious while moving your body and slow everything down Make art. Art taps your right brain creativity as apposed to your left brain logic Wear clothing that is colorful. In general embrace colors Spend time just feeling in your body and communicating what you're feeling Hug people Put your hands on your heart and feel it Spend more time in nature Decorate Dance

@sleep It is fine, including achievement . Of course, there is nothing you have to achieve. There is nothing you have to do at all. That's what free will means. But the funny thing about free will is that it's not all it's cracked up to be. You are free to do whatever you want, including nothing. But there will be different outcomes depending on your choices. And some of those outcomes you're going to want more than others.

In a sense, enlightenment is about transcending the dualities of "goodness" and "badness". Essentially, you realize that infinity contains all. But we are biased and make preferences for things as finite beings. When you make that leap, you move to a meta-level sense of peace, joy and happiness. It's not a peace or joy that depends on things being a certain way. That would be biased and conditional. This peace is unconditional. You love everything exactly as it is. Even the things we might consider vile or evil right now. So yes, you could say that an equal amount of bad must exist for all the good. That's duality, that's Yin/Yang. The question is, what's on the other side of that surrender?

@Vision Ironically, our materialist stage Orange society does not actually value material things very much. That is what drives consumer culture and economic growth. You don't value or want what you have. You always want something else, something more. So I'd say moving up the spiral from Orange to Green actually means really appreciating the material possessions we have. Which means you'll probably own "less", although it will feel like more. Also, the desire for something like a car is extremely relative. How do you know buying a car is a good decision? What if you lived in a city with vastly different infrastructure where everything was walkable? Suddenly something that seems essential like a car might not be. People absolutely can buy cars to impress other people. Your material wealth is completely relative to everyone around you. If everyone around you has a car, now you feel like you need one because that's what is "normal". My point is we need to be conscious of why we are buying what we're buy. Freedom is good, but it's not a guarantee we are making conscious choices. Freedom includes the ability to be unconscious.

@random dude Can't speak to Leo's perspective on this, but I'd say revolutionaries can possibly be Red. Keep in mind there is nothing inherently wrong with Red. If we say "that person is Red" or "that country is Red", it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with that country. Red might actually be a big step up from Purple. I don't know the situation in Syria, but it sounds like you're confirming what I'm saying. You're basically saying that a stage Red revolution is necessary because that's the only way to topple an oppressive stage Red regime. Exactly! So Red can be important and necessary. Red's biggest problem is when Red is out of the context and environment where it is successful. You run into hard and fast limits when it comes to Red as the environment moves up the spiral. But that doesn't mean it doesn't have its place in development. It exists for a reason.

This song will mess up your day. IT has evolved beyond red but here he explains some of the Red realities of gangs: Song is called "Dance With the Devil" by Immortal Technique.

Baby face from O Brother Where Art Thou. Classic red:

It really depends. Yes, of course a live event is going to cost the organizer more in expenses. And a live event could theoretically be more immersive. Therefore a higher cost could be justified in some cases. But what are they teaching at this live event? And who is it marketed to and how is it marketed? There's a lot more variables to consider than "I'm investing in myself". At that's part of the problem. The reasoning of "I'm investing in myself" or "this client is investing in themselves" can easily be used for exploitative purposes. It doesn't mean investing in yourself isn't real. But that's how tricky the unconscious mind is. It can use anything to justify its behavior, and of course the best justification may actually have a hint of truth. This is where you gotta have your eyes wide open. You have to be aware of the potential for distortion of any teaching. The worst offender . Whole Foods = Whole Lotta Devilry I agree with this. The vast majority of useful ideas in selfhelp can be found in books or free videos on YT. I feel this is nuanced. I agree that many of these people are desperate and looking for a quick fix. At the same time, there is such a thing as sleazy marketing that preys on that. It seems like most of what Michael promotes now is fairly conscious, but the marketing strategies themselves can be problematic. Can't just blame it on the people buying either. It's both. And on a deeper level, we could even point to poor public policy / systemic problems lead to this situation. So there's just a whole lot going on. Maybe to a degree, although he likely has little control over that. This is why systemic thinking is so necessary. Even if your intent is to "do" the conscious thing, like expose fake self-help gurus, your decisions can be limited by the larger systems you are a part of.

Thanks Please do. As much as I appreciate what self-help has done for me, the devilry is rampant at times.

Depending on the model you want to use, yes. Logic / rationality tends to be more of a masculine energy. It's linear and it's not emotional. Intuition has more of a feminine energy to me. It's primarily based on feeling rather than analysis, although you can analyze your intuition after the fact. It would look like being in touch with your emotions and the signals your body is sending you. Not being so stuck in your head. Of course, you can't actually separate the masculine and the feminine. These are just useful conceptualizations, and so it be a mistake to think you can integrate your feminine without it affecting your masculine. It all relates.

Don't mean to pop your bubble but Game A / Game B has been around forever. My understanding is that it's part of the lingo of the Human Potential Movement. Perhaps it started even before then. The reason it's making rounds on the forum is because Leo has been sharing videos from Daniel Schmachtenberger, who is part of that crowd.

But Leo, why don't women just want a nice guy??? Let's not make an enemy of survival or attraction. Intimacy/connection can have survival value. And no survival means you don't survive long enough to experience Game B dating. The problem to me is not that people meet each other's survival needs, it's that we do so often unconsciously and in a way that ends up hurting the agenda of others and sometimes our own. In other words, moving from Win/Lose to Win/Win. Or ending zero-sum games as Teal Swan calls it. This of course starts with people making a commitment to uncover their biases and their shadow. There's no Game B dating without consciousness, so that should be of highest priority for people interested in this. From there, we see what emerges. Maybe polyamory, maybe monogamy, maybe something casual, who knows. A Game B perspective would allow for relationships to evolve, and not say "this is the one true relationship type". No, there could be many valid structures for different people at different times in their life. All in all, it's a safe bet that Game B dating it will be based on greater unconditional love. But what exactly that looks like is hard to say. I feel The intentional community Tamera has some interesting Green perspectives on dating: They embrace polyamory, which I realize it's not what many people are looking for. But at least they are considering these questions. More Green perspectives: