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@levani There's a book called The Charisma Myth that's decent. Just spend a lot more time in social situations, especially around people who you already consider charismatic. They'll rub off on you. And then also just do the inner work, e.g shadow work, trauma release, etc.

@Christdas Hilarious, but this is actually how it happens for a lot of pickup guys. This is how fuck boys are born. You take a guy who was used to be feeling burned and used and then they flip it around and treat girls like shit. Not saying it's healthy. It's just what I see happens.

@Scholar I agree it gets dysfunctional at times. I would to see more examples of non-violent communication between people on here. Especially when it comes to these polarizing topics. At the same time, you'll be hard pressed to find any community that doesn't suffer from the same problems at times. We're not very good at relationships yet.

@GroovyGuru Most people invested in crypto are engaging in glorified gambling. They have very little to no interest in the social impact of their investing, they are just trying to beat the market. That said, I see crypto as having the potential to disrupt the current economic system. Anything that messes with the money supply is a big deal.

@SamC I find Sadgurhu ignorant on a lot of subjects. This is one of them. Yes, Ayahuasca isn't the end all. But he dismisses it as if it's just a waste of time, minus maybe some digestive cleansing and emotional relief. Tell that to the thousands or maybe even millions of people's lives who have changed from taking aya. Tell that to the people who have cured their cancer. Tell that to the tribes and shamans that have been using aya since their inception to heal people and connect with Spirit. If psychedelics aren't your path, fine. And certainly being able to achieve non-dual awareness while sober is critical. But I find his position lacking.

Money is the main tool that has allowed society to grow to the level that it has, for better or for worse. Prior to money, exchanges would typically only occur between people who had a deep level of relationship. But as a universal value, money allows for transactional, anonymous exchanges between people who have no relationship. This is what allows something like a large city to exist, where many people don't know each other. As long as you have money, you can get what you need from a complete stranger. One of the downsides of this is that people now lack strong relationships. As the realm of money grows, more and more aspects of human experience that were previously based on relationship become transactional. My sense is that we're heading for an integration. It's highly unlikely that we will be getting rid of money anytime soon as a tool, but it is going to decrease in importance. More and more human experience will be moved back into the realm of mutual aid / gift. This is what is necessary for a Stage Green society to emerge based on community and relationship.

It's definitely okay to do that. Just be genuine about it. She may not be willing to answer you though. Or she may simply lack the self-awareness to know why she really cut contact with you, beyond what she is telling herself.

What is it specifically that you feel makes you angry?

Yeah you got it. Almost everything in nature is interdependent. The benefit of independence is that you don't have to rely on anyone and no one relies on you. But ironically, the cost is exactly the same. Do you really want to rely on yourself? And of course most people in western culture would say "yes!". But this is just a product of our particular culture. No wonder people are so fearful and constantly feel like they have to fight to survive. They are trying to rely on themselves instead of seeing support all around them. And then that of course becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Cultures that believe in independence end up destroying relationships and community.

They're not a joke. Life is relationships. You have a relationship to your food, to objects you own, to your friends, family etc. The problem, for various reasons, is that we're not very good at them. Everyone wants to be independent. But independence has a price.

Bruh It's good that you're taking personal responsibility for you life. I'm sure your job does benefit you. But you really need to take a deeper look into how capitalism works and not just swallow the neoliberal kool-aid.

@LearningPodo I was in a frat in college. As bizarre as it sounds, I actually do think it benefitted my growth. Yes there was lots of lower consciousness activities like drinking, partying, etc. But it helped me gain a lot of the social skills I have today. Made me a lot more comfortable in those kind of situations. It also gave me a sense of community. A sort of “home” I could also return to. So while there are a lot of critiques you could make of fraternities, the reality is I don’t think I was ready to learn those unless until I experienced it. Sounds like you might be the same. It’s a shame because fraternities could play an important role in growing up for guys. But they’re just so enmeshed in a toxic culture that it becomes almost impossible.

I’m not sure what your point is? I’m not saying I’m above the effects of celeb worship. I fall into it sometimes. My point is just that the more conscious you become, the less that halo effect will be noticeable.

@Justin Michael It's because of the perceived value that a celebrity has. It basically plays into every cognitive bias there is (social proof, scarcity, authority). Subconsciously it feels like they are different from other people. Of course this is not true. A celebrity is just a person, and often that perceived value is totally manufactured. But for a mind with a low level of consciousness, you'll place them above others. I've found that the more you do spiritual work, the less you get caught up in celebrity worship.

It can be tricky. The difference can be subtle at times. But keep in mind, it's not like your angels won't communicate to you with thoughts. I've just found that it has a bit of a different feel to it.

@StudentOfLeove 30 hours is not that long to go without asleep. So it sounds like your visuals were more for a different reason than lack of sleep per say.

@Hello from Russia Yup. Cause and effect is impossible to really determine. We just chunk down infinite connectedness to make sense of the world.

I don't have many people I know who are that religious. But usually a nodding head and a "uh huh, sounds great" works well . I personally interpret it as awakening. The Christ consciousness of Oneness returning to the world.

Yeah that's the biggest hurdle people have to get over. Especially if you're used to questioning everything like most of us on this forum. I just talk to them. There is no formal process. I speak out loud or just in my head, they hear you either way. It helps if you've learn to quiet the mind.

Of course it will. Silence the mind and let God speak.

@StateOfMind Yes I talk with my guides all the time. I even know one of their names. No, they're not "living up there" in any sort of physical sense. They're not physical. But yes, the angels and guides are as real as anything else. Everyone has them, everyone can speak to them if they choose.

Everyone has some form of psychic abilities. Most are just blocked in people because of the dominance of the analytic mind. I'd recommend researching the different clairs if you haven't already (clairvoyance, clairsentience, claircognizance, clairaudience) and see how you relate. How can you "prove" it? Well, you kinda can't. Psychic abilities are intuitive and work through "direct knowing". You can test your abilities and get confirmation, but in my experience you'll never be able to prove it beyond any doubt the mind can come up with. The mind can always come up with reasons why it's not possible.

@Mysterious Stranger No one can really tell you what you should master. That's the whole point of mastery; it comes from beyond just other people's opinions. So the question is what do you want to do? You've got this life and you're not going anywhere for a while. So what do you feel like doing? Not expecting you to have a complete answer right now. Just keep asking yourself that.

I do coincidentally click the link below in my signature. Really everything Leo talks about on the Actualized.org YT channel is about waking up. So if you're familiar with his content then you should have an idea. It's all an awakening that's what we're doing here.

@JayySur Good ol' Donny, leaving the same way he came in. Lying his face off. Someone like him really makes me question my beliefs about how do we view people. I believe that when we see the best in people we simultaneously call that forward. But where do you draw the line with someone like Donald? He's been a great, ugly mirror for four years.