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@kray Because the west has partially already gone through that phase. Think about the Puritans or Victorian era. The west has always been uptight. It’s only now that the pendulum has swung so that some part of the west is less uptight. Advances in technology and materialism mean that people don’t want or need to engage in strict moralizing about these things. Uptightness becomes obsolete.

@Insightful27 I agree what everyone has been saying. It doesn’t sound like from your story you have any reason to feel guilty, nor do I believe the police will actually get involved. It sounds to me like a miscommunication. It’s important as men that we learn how to read both implicit and explicit consent. But it’s also possible after an experience like this to become paranoid. You’re young and forming opinions about how the world works. So pay attention to the conclusions you might be drawing from this.

For helps avoid plateaus. Keep the muscles guessing. I just don’t think it’s worth the risk. I get that you’re looking for that post-workout insulin release, but maltodextrin is a highly processed sugar and I’d rather not put that in my body. Especially when you consider that other alternatives exist that can give you the same effect: In small doses I’m sure you can take maltodextrin and not die. But I just don’t see its upsides relative to healthier foods.

You don’t have to lower your reps every time. It’s just about what you want to focus on building. Different rep ranges target different things. Olympic lifters and powerlifters tend to go high weight, low rep because they want max strength and don’t care about much else. But a bodybuilder, whose main concern is muscle size and physique, is going to be building in a lot more volume. So think about what your goals are. I personally prefer a more balanced approach, where I vary rep range and weight on a weekly or bi-weekly basis. Again, it all depends on your goals and where you currently are in your fitness journey. For most people, I think full body a couple times a week is probably ideal. Most people only need 48 hours to recover, maybe even 24 hours in some cases. And on your rest days you can do some light cardio if you want, just don’t overdo it. Currently my split looks like this: Monday: HIIT Cardio, Pull day Tuesday: Low Intensity Cardio Wednesday: Off Thursday: HIIT Cardio, Push day Friday: Low Intensity Cardio Saturday: HIIT Cardio, Full body bodyweight exercises Sunday: Off You don’t have to copy that split but might give you some ideas on how you want to structure things.

Looks good. Ideally, I would vary the workouts a little more. Strength is usually built at around 5 or fewer reps, that’s when you’re really tapping that Phosphagen system. And if you really want to build muscle, I’d be hitting that 15 rep mark at times with 30 second rest for max hypertrophy. Also, there’s more to fitness than compound lifts. What about your aerobic exercise, mobility or your endurance? Maybe those aren’t important goals for you, but to me they go hand in hand with being a healthy, fit person. Not someone with just big muscles. Regardless, these are rather nitpicky points I’m making. The most important thing is you have a plan, be consistent with it but also adjust as you learn more over time. Maltodextrin is not good for you. I’d cut that out. I’d incorporate more healthy fat into your diet. Fat is going to be more calorie dense to help you put on size. If you can find grass-fed ghee, that might be a good place to start. You don’t just want to be a carb burner. I’d also consider adding some red meat. That will help you get your protein and fat in. And that’s going get you a lot of essential amino acids (bcaas) for building muscles. You won’t even need to take creatine if you eat enough red meat. Meat has creatine.

You could eat nuts, that’s what I did when I was vegan. Definitely a calorie dense food. But I’d argue meat is going to be way healthier than eating a bunch of nuts everyday for many people.

@Regan I don’t need someone who is outwardly spiritual. That can just be another form of ego. I myself might not even seem like someone who would be into these kind of ideas. What I care about more is emotional maturity, aligned goals / lifestyle, personal chemistry and her willingness to grow. Which could mean she is into spiritual topics, but not necessarily. I dated one girl a couple years ago who didn’t know a thing about meditation or any of this. But she more mature than many of the girls I’ve met. We got along really well.

@Tristan12 if you’re going to eat pasta and bread for calories, why not meat? Meat will be healthier than either of those.

@ValiantSalvatore You’re most likely fine. People may even want to repost. If you have their contact info you could just ask for permission.

@Fadious The bigger thing I see here is that you’re implicitly assuming there’s one “right answer” to what you’re asking. Like a math question. But the reality is that human interaction is way more complex and chaotic than that. Sometimes you should tease. Sometimes you shouldn’t. Sometimes you should double down. Sometimes you shouldn’t. Sometimes what you do goes well. And sometimes it doesn’t. Of course if you’re new to game, then these kind of questions are natural. You’re trying to learn and I’m not really being helpful by just saying “there’s no answer”. When you’re new, you want an answer to grab onto. You want/need clear instructions on what to do. And that can be helpful. But it’s also limiting and not real life. Next time you’re out, see instead if you can “feel” into what the right answer will be in any given situation. You will be wrong sometimes. Contemplate about it afterwards. If you can develop that inner radar, you won’t need to post on forums or ask dating gurus about what to do any longer. Use these tools if you want temporarily, but also keep in the back of your mind that you are going to outgrow them. Make us obsolete. If any dating guru you have is not doing that, you have a false guru.

Do you generally advise people to drink reverse osmosis? And then adjust the diet to ensure proper minerals for hydration? In my personal experience, it’s far, far easier for me to “eat my water” than drink it. But it seems like even this has a limit as my lifestyle is very active right now and so I lose a ton of fluids / electrolytes naturally. So mineral water, sometimes even with some sea salt, seems to do the trick.

@Luna Eating can be a deep pattern for a lot of people. What are you eating typically? And how often?

@tsuki I’m more interested in the minerals that alkaline water has than the PH value. Minerals are important for hydration and really just your overall health. So I think it’s definitely worth drinking for most people, especially if you’re concerned you might be low in essential minerals or suffer from dehydration.

@Carl-Richard Glad to see you included Jordan Hall on there. He doesn’t get the same amount of attention on here as Daniel but he seems just as intellectually brilliant and a good dude overall. I think you could also add Buckminster Fuller to the Game B category, as he was talking Game B before it was called Game B. I think you could also make a category for certain economists as they tend to think systemically. People like Herman Daly, Nicholas Georgescu-Roegen and EF Schumacher inspired a whole generation of ecological and degrowth economists. Irving Fisher, Marx and Keynes of course also come to mind. There’s a ton that could be added to that list.

@Rasheed Why do you want that? What’s the goal? It shouldn’t be a problem as long as you have a big enough meal with calorie dense foods. Some people say it’s hard to eat that much food in one sitting, but if you eat slow enough you can likely do it. I’ve been doing OMAD for several years now and my weight barely fluctuates at all.

@Lyubov Cold showers. Or hell, just go stand outside with your shirt off in that temperature. That’ll wake you right up.

@Nightwise The problem I find with these tests is that once you study SD, you know all the “right” answers. And it becomes easy to distinguish what color the researchers are testing you on due to obvious key words, e.g higher authority, consensus, competition, etc. So really, someone could score Yellow or above easily even if they are not at that stage of the spiral through intellectual agreement vs embodiment. If you really want to know your SD color, look towards your actions and behaviors. That will give you a better clue of what you truly value versus what you think you should value because your ego wants to be “highly developed”.

Most definitely. What about just do nothing? No coffee, no fruit. I know some people really love their coffee, but from a health perspective, I don’t see it as necessary. If your concern in energy, there are better ways to get energy IMO. Alternatively, you could start swapping coffee for tea that has no calories. This way you still get something warm to drink and possibly caffeine, but does not break your fast.

@Mada_ I wouldn’t bother counting calories. I got obsessed with doing that in college, really just isn’t necessary. There are far, far better ways to lose weight. For instance, what’s your eating window? Are you regularly fasting and eating low glycemic foods? How about practicing heat / cold exposure? Functional breathing patterns? If you’ve got all that down, you’ll never have to worry about counting calories or your weight again.

@rnd That is how it works. I don’t know about your recommended time of 8-10 hours though. I’d say that’s a hotly debated topic with a lot of nuance. David Sinclair, for instance, usually does a 2 hour window. I’ve personally been on somewhere around a 2-6 hour window for the past couple of years, seems to work amazingly well for me.

@integration journey Loud night clubs are just always a variable when it comes to game. You can improve how you handle them but they’re part of the terrain. You have to adapt. Speak closer, even directly into her ear if you have to. This can also build intimacy and could be considered a mild form of physical escalation, which is good. But you also have to be aware of her reaction to you getting close and see how she responds. Speaking in a higher pitch also helps a lot. The higher frequencies cut through the noise easier. And you want to practice projecting without letting your voice get caught in the back of the throat or feeling like you’re straining. If you strain, you’ll blow out your voice in no time at all, especially if you’re new to night clubs. Last thing you can do is use your body. If the night club is super loud, most people won’t be talking much anyway. And using your body can be more powerful than verbals. So communicate with your whole being, not just one narrow channel (mouth).

No I won’t. Maybe respecting gurus has more of a tradition in India, but to me it looks like you’re in a cult. No they don’t. Non-duality predates India, hate to break it to you. You can find non-duality in every major religion and culture. That’s the exact same logic the west would have used to colonize India.

This dude sets off my fake guru alarm like crazy.

Not true at all. All kinds of girls go to night clubs. It’s extremely common. Especially in Vegas, she could just be there for a friend’s birthday or bachelorette party. Maybe she doesn’t even like clubbing but she’s there for the same reason Leo is there: clubs are where people go. So the fact that she’s at a night club, especially at a young age, says little about her. You really can’t make the assumption she’s some sort of low conscious club rat that will never grow out of it. That may be the case sometimes, but most times it will not. Speaking from experience, I met my last LTR at a bar/night club setting. I think we only visited a bar twice the entire time we were together.

I wouldn’t necessarily seek integrity. That can backfire and turn into you moralizing yourself and creating a shadow for not being more selfless. That’s sort of the stage Blue “pious” trap. Integrity and selflessness are really just the product of spiritual development. I would commit to awareness, healing, contemplation, authenticity and discovering your “true self” instead. From there, integrity naturally arises because you’ll be in alignment. You’ll no longer be in conflict with yourself.