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@emind Yes it can. You should be able to attract women without talking and without them having any idea who you are. That’s a purely energetic form of attraction. It won’t happen everytime, but if it’s not happening at all, your energy is off.

I don't think that aspect was suggesting women go back to being helpless victims. There can be a shadow side of dependency. Rather, it's about how the masculine and feminine energies manifest themselves. I love being a leader. When I'm owning a situation, it just feels so right. It's like I'm home. Because I know good things are going to happen for everyone around me. Most guys would agree with that. But if you were to honestly ask most women how they feel about being a leader and having to take charge, you would get much different responses. It doesn't feel right to them. This doesn't mean some girl can't go channel her inner Khaleesi if she wants. It's a free will universe, and some women undoubtedly are more masculine than others. But in my experience they typically don't enjoy it the same way men do. When I'm in a long term relationship with a girl, I love when she tells me things like "You make me feel safe". There's just something about that which strikes at the core of what it means to be a man. And when she feels safe, that's when her femininity opens up and she gets to feel like a woman.

Of course. That’s what it means to live in a universe governed by law of attraction. I also agree. The feminine will tend to fall into place when the masculine is there. Awesome, I believe you. I don’t think we’re fundamentally disagreeing. As a man, you take 100% ownership all the time. What I’m really looking to discourage is moral judgments.

@billiesimon Yeah she did a very good job with this, props to her. For anyone who liked this, I would read Iron John by Robert Bly.

Because you can just as easily get in a relationship with someone who isn’t long distance. Long distance is basically the worst parts of a relationship with none of the good. You don’t get to see each other, you don’t get to have sex, you don’t get to eat together. You basically can’t do shit except talk on Skype. Why make it harder than it has to be? Why not just find someone local?

@Sukhpaal Breakups aren’t fun, but they can be amazing for personal growth. Some of my absolute best lessons have come from breakups. Don’t be afraid to feel, it’s not going to kill you. Also, I would just forget about long distance relationships. Do it if you really want, but I find them a waste of time.

@MM1988 Lol yes dating can seem like a minefield. You don’t want to be try-hard, but you also can’t try to not be try-hard, because that’s try-hard. And you can’t do nothing, because if you do nothing, nothing happens. So WTF? If you really want to make this more natural, it starts with inner game. Yes there are things you can do externally to make things easier, but I would focus inward for awhile first.

Part of it is usally that she feels so much shame over her sexuality, that the only way she can enjoy it is if “happens to her”. If she feels she cooperated at all, then all that shame will surface. This can happened to men as well. But I think it’s generally more common in women because of slut-shaming. Part of it is also just feminine energy. Feminine energy is receptive and free flowing. It’s surrender. Even a woman doesn’t have a rape fantasy, most women do want the experience of being dominated, directed, and controled during sex. They want the man to take charge, which frees them up to feel feminine.

Depends on what you mean. I definitely don’t see then as immoral, and I don’t see them as having made a “mistake”. If anything, I just think they could be better off if they adjusted their dating strategy.

I think there’s depths of nonresistance you can get into. What you’re describing here sounds like a basic level of tolerance, although I could be wrong. I’m talking about a dramatic shift in your levels of resistance, usually which happens all at once when you can’t take it anymore.

Because a relationship is a cooperative endevour. If someone is cheating, i.e the relationship is essentially failing, then both parties probably have some fault. Let’s say a man steps out and cheats on his wife. The initial response from most people would be “boo, he lied and cheated. What a scumbag”. But no one is seeing all the hours his wife is nagging him, eroding his self esteem and making him feel less of a man. So he cheats. Now you might say “boo, his wife is such a bitch, it’s all her fault”. But no one is seeing all the times where maybe he didn’t appreciate his wife, which caused her to nag him. On and on this goes. Now factor in that both people are just responding to the societal programming they’ve been given since growing up, and you realize that blame is really just a joke. It’s impossible to actually blame one person for anything. So if there’s any problem in a relationship, both people need to take responsibility and at least be willing to examine their behavior.

@archi It’s a fair question, but I’m curious why you’re so concerned about your friend’s problem.

Usually it’s either because she’s sexually frustrated or she feels no sense of stability. Just depends on the situation. The way I see it happen the most is she’s out partying with her friends and gets swept up in the emotion of the moment. Some guy is pressing all the right buttons and she just goes with it. But I’ve also seen it where she will be far more deliberate about it. Cheating is whatever you say it is. There are no hard rules in relationships that exist. Only the ones you as a couple decide upon. For some couples, having sex with someone else wouldn’t be considered cheating. It just depends. Honestly, I think “cheating” is a bad term. It implies that the “cheater” is wrong or bad and that the other person is the victim. In reality, almost any situation where cheating takes place is a two way street.

Ground yourself in your spiritual practice. Get a daily meditation habit going if you don’t already to keep yourself emotionally centered. The rewards will come when you are ready, not a moment too soon or a moment too late. This is more than about just pickup. It’s about you learning to consistently tap into who you really are.

No it’s not. It’s hard to understand with words if you haven’t experienced it. I like to feel good, so under normal circumstances I would not choose to sit there. But if you’ve made the deliberate choice to sit there, that’s what you’re doing. That’s reality at this moment. Might as well accept it.

@el_duderino Awesome man!

Pain isn't as bad as we think. You can experience this if you practice Strong Determination Sitting. You're sitting there in the most awful pain, and you think that's the reason why you're suffering. Until you have that breakthrough moment where resistance drops completely. Once that happens, the pain is still there. But it's surprisingly enjoyable. All that suffering was you not trying to be where you are. Pretty ironic.

It is FOMO. Societal pressure saying "you have to be at X by age Y". It's all bullshit. The way you beat FOMO is by being crystal clear on what exactly it is that you want. The more certain you are internally about the direction you're going, the less anybody else's opinion is going to matter. So I would ask myself: if I took away the opinions of others, is that what I really want? If the answer is yes, just go and never look back.

@Aquarius If your family provides for you financially, that's something I would take advantage of. I would sink a lot of time into making your art and just go as hard as possible on your business for now. You are probably going to spend a lot of time alone because of this. I don't know anyway around that. But the good news is that the sooner you're financially independent, the more freedom you'll have to be social as you choose fit.

@EmptinessDncing Marketing isn't awkward, your definition of marketing is just limited. Marketing doesn't have to be you being this sleezy salesman. Leo's free videos are marketing. This forum is marketing. I'm marketing right now. In a sense, everything you do is marketing. The only question is whether your marketing is effective and adds value to everyone in the process. It's not about pretending, it's about understanding who you are talking to. If you have a five year old kid, are you going to teach them the same way you'd talk to a grown man? No, because they have different perspectives and different levels of understanding. People get so tripped on this because they think it's "fake". It's not fake, it's caring and being empathetic enough to relate to your audience. Of course you always want to speak your truth. And some people will just never resonate with it no matter what you do. But the point is you can explain that truth in many different equally valid forms. To be something like a spiritual teacher, it's not about you and expressing your opinions and having to be right. That's selfish. It's all about what does this person need to hear to get to the next level? Everything else is more or less irrelevant.

@Rilles Many reasons. Some may be honestly open minded and searching for truth, but they just haven’t yet had any sort of spiritual experience. Others are too invested in their current belief system because it practically supports them. If you’re a famous scientist with a successful career, you’re probably not looking to burn that to the ground. Which is possible for political reasons. It’s easier for us to say that scientists should just be open minded, but we were blessed to grow up in the age of the internet. I’d argue the internet, and social media in particular, has been the biggest catalyst for the mass awakening going on right now.

@Peace and Love Lol some of the things he is saying might be accurate. But let's be real, what he really wants is to fuck other girls. The reason @SFRL and I can say this with such confidence is because literally every guy is like this. I'll put it to you this way: there is no guy who looks at Dan Bilzerian's Instagram and doesn't have some part of them that thinks it's awesome. The only difference is whether they admit it or lie and repress it. Does that mean men aren't capable of monogamy? No, I wouldn't go that far. There are definite cons of always seeing new girls, so monogamy can definitely be appealing at times as well. Particularly if a guy has already had a period of being very sexually active and is just kind of "over it".

Because he can feel / see the chakras and knows how they manifest in human behavior. For instance, he saw that my heart chakra was very closed. You don't need to be an enlightened master 9000 to know this person will probably have difficultly feeling and expressing love / compassion. I would get a session yourself and see what happens. Just make sure they're the real deal and not some guy who bought a reiki course online last week.

First thing you need to do is just sit and feel. Don't even meditate, that's already doing too much. Just go somewhere you can be alone, sit down, and just feel whatever is going on inside your body. Good, bad, happy, sad, ugly, scary, doesn't matter. Don't try to feel, just feel. Do this for however long you want, but I would suggest at least 30 minutes. You're probably be shocked how much you're unconsciously stuffing down by running around and not taking the time to do this. Emotions come and they go. The way you don't bottle things up is simply by doing what I'm talking about. You just feel. And if something wants to express itself physically like crying or punching something, you can do that too. That alone will do a lot of the healing. But also reflect using that set of questions I gave you and logically breakdown what happened. Is the story your mind is telling you absolutely true? Anyway, this is a good thing that's happening. These are often the kind of moments when you grow.

Yes it definitely was helpful for me. The first time I got reiki, the healer was able to read me in terms of what was going in my life with crazy accuracy. So that made me a believer. I'm also a certified healer myself.