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Agreed, it’s just a general point.

@Arthur There's a lot of victim / scarcity mentality around these stereotypical liberal ideas. Don't get too sucked into it. At the end of the day, rich people have a completely different way of thinking, feeling and taking action than poor people. That's why they have what they have. And it's not some big secret on how they do it, almost every rich people at some point ends up helping others do the same. You could figure it out if you really wanted. In fact, most rich people I know would GLADLY help poor people. But poor people often don't want to be helped. They are stuck in their beliefs and ways of doing thing. For all the people who complain about income inequality, how many of these people have actually started a business? How many of these people have actually read a book on marketing? How many of them are willing to put themselves through the extreme turmoil most entrepreneurs put themselves through on a regular basis? Very few. So my point is that while maybe our economic system does need to change, don't let that become a victim story. The fastest way to make sure you stay poor is to blame / condemn people who are rich.

It is tempting but you’re not going to logic your way into a girl’s pants. Commonalities actually do work though, I purposefully build commonalities all the time. It’s just that commonalities don’t equal attraction. And the commonalities don’t have to be deep. That’s another trap. I’ll take “Omg we almost have the same birthday!!!” over just about anything else.

@SFRL It's a turn off if you're qualifying yourself by saying those things. Because now you're seeking her approval. Otherwise it's basically irrelevant in terms of attraction. Are you suddenly going to be attracted to a girl just because she said she's a vegan? No, you're looking for a slim body, ass and titties. In the same way, a girl isn't suddenly going to be attracted just because you said you do meditation. Sub-communications, sub-communications, sub-communications.

@Rebec It's very simple, your emotions are basically habits. If you could track the amount of times someone laughed, was depressed, got angry etc each week, you'd see that it's basically the same, No matter what is going on, people default to their emotional habits. You do. You could change your emotional state right now if you really wanted to. It's not even hard, we just resist it for various reasons. Maybe, but that's outside of your control so forget about it.

I grew up Catholic, and it was extreme difficult for me to tell my family about how I saw things differently. So I understand your position. I don't know how strict your parents are, but considering you're 14 my answer is to keep your mouth shut. Not forever. But this isn't something I would recommend just dropping like a bomb right now. Be more strategic about it.

@XYZ I'm sure some people could find happiness in it but in general it's not for me. I like leading, I like being in charge, I like the unique challenges that typically come with being a man.

I most definitely will be. It’s important to talk about.

@GenuinePerspectiveXC Dabbling versus commitment.

@Sahil Pandit Just seeing the sheer amount of scarcity mentality people (including myself) have around money. Once you start seeing it. your entire world view changes. Quick story, I was standing in line at a convenient store the other day. The guy in front of me was buying a pack of cigarettes, and it turned out that this pack of cigarettes was $3 more than what he was used to paying outside Miami. This guy must have gone on a five minute rant about how ridiculous the price was, how Miami is bullshit because of how expensive everything is, so on and so forth. The cashier had no idea what to do. I honestly feel bad for that guy. Because if $3 is a big enough deal to make you start ranting, what does that subconscious say about your self-belief to create wealth for yourself? If you were to put a dollar amount on how much this guy valued his time, how low would it be? But he probably grew up in poverty, and so that way of thinking is all he knows. Conversely, I am also blessed to have experienced some of the most extravagant living. Being in nightclubs and watching billionaires blowing hundreds of thousands of dollars in a single night. A dinner for a few people that costs $5,000. Art pieces that sell for millions of dollars. And they do this with essentially no hesitation. The monetary gap between people who have money and those that don't is so absurd. Even if you're making 100k a year and think that means you're doing well, you are an absolute peasant to many of those people. And you have to be around people who have this kind of money for the gap to truly sink in. I'm just continually blown away not only by the differences in money, but by the differences in thinking and what is considered "normal". So yeah, there is a crazy amount of money out there. For anyone who owns a business and is worried about the price they charge, realize that people are spending probably 1000x your price on products that don't help them at all. They literally might do that just out of boredom. So you don't need to feel guilty.

Except you’re not implementing the information you already have. So what good is new information going to do? Those Leo videos will teach you 90% of what you need to know if you’re one of the rare few who actually apply it. Start acting on that and then you can keep seeking out more information for those final tweaks. But the majority of your results come from the fundamentals.

Awesome. Yeah the whole thing is very well done.

Some things become popular because they actually help a lot of people. It’s a must read if you’re trying to understand marketing in the modern age.

@SoonHei Great insights. I played sports my entire life growing up, but I've recently come around to having a renewed appreciation for them. Sports can teach us a lot about life. You're right that the best players are "in the now". Tim Grover talks about this in his book Relentless. But they also put in a ton of dedication to their craft. Eckhart Tolle is not going to step out there and just start dunking on Steph Curry, although that would be amazing to watch.

I believe you. It's just still an excuse. Okay, you don't have the knowledge. How about this? That took me about 30 seconds to find. "Not having the knowledge" is not an excuse in the age of the internet. The question is, why didn't you look up those videos like I just did? I know I'm ragging on you here but excuses will ruin your life.

And now you know why people told you to meditate. Meditation is definitely not a quick fix, but it will definitely help.

Excuses. Why are you really not doing it?

Yes the point is to create that tension and large range of emotions. It’s supposed to be fun. The intention is not malicious. Try out more minor versions of what I’m talking about and see how she responds. If she doesn’t like it, 100% stop. But if she likes it, you can ramp it up to more extremes.

@Amadeusz I think you’re fine, don’t psyche yourself out over these stages. It’s just a model. @Joseph Maynor My experience is that it’s not always that simple. Usually people get a glimpse of a higher paradigm and then have to spend time going back and forth from their old way of thinking to the new.

I would focus on getting the basics down (meditation, clean food, exercise) before you try anything else.

@Shadowraix I would read everything you can by Grant Cardone, Gary Vee and MJ DeMarco as a foundation. I’d also highly recommend Building A Story Brand by Donald Miller. From there, you’ll probably need more technical specific advice depending on what you’re selling.

@Elisabeth @Aquarius Yeah it’s something you’d have to know she’d be comfortable with. Like if you know she likes a little bit of drama just to make it exciting. You don’t just do that with any random girl off the street.

@F A B Fool around for a bit and get her turned on to the point where she really wants to fuck. But don't actually fuck her. Instead, steal her panties so she can't wear them and then take her out somewhere normal like dinner with friends. That will get her really sexually frustrated and create a lot of tension. Tease her over dinner, but not too much. You want it to be almost like an unspoken conspiracy between you too. Then later you can fuck her. You can also do forms of orgasm denial. Fuck her until she is close to cumming, but then abruptly pull out and act like something is wrong. Walk away for dramatic effect, maybe leave the room entirely. Gauge her reaction. You can even start yelling at her things that don't make sense, like "No! I'm sick of this!" Once she is thoroughly confused and upset, then without warning you walk back over, pin her down and start fucking her again.

You're free to do that if you want, maybe that's something you need to experience. I don't know. But know that giving up your desires ultimately won't solve anything. You've been cursed with the awareness that things could be better.

@SFRL I personally don't enjoy online dating. It takes the experience of meeting someone and turns it into this very transactional thing. Too logical, too boring. And the girls you will meet online are no where near as attractive as the girls you can meet in person. It's like the fast food of getting laid. Technically it will get the job done, but I generally don't really find it meaningful. Cold approach I find very meaningful, because almost every time you get laid is usually like this epic adventure. Pushing through uncomfortable emotions, strange foreign environments, having fun with friends, solving logisitics, etc etc. And it's especially meaningful if you're the kind of guy like me for who that wasn't easy to do when you were younger. Cold approach also gives you skills sets that you're unlikely develop just by online dating. It's so easy for me when I go to networking events for my business because you've got so many repetitions of knowing how to create immediate rapport with a stranger. Of course, there are downsides to cold approach too. Mainly that it takes a shit load of time to actually get laid if you're just continually running up to random girls and not building any kind of social circle. So I think the real answer is just to know what you want, know what kind of phrase you are in your life and then go after it.