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@krockerman You just need to allow yourself to feel. The emotions are already there.

@bliss54 Well "living with people" is not the same question as "living with your parents". I actually think living close to your parents could be really nice. The problem is, most people have dysfunctional families and all sorts of trauma from growing up. And society is not really set up for that. It's set up mostly for you to get a wife and then get a house / apartment to raise your kids. For you, it sounds like some independence from your parents would be a good thing. What do you like to do? How do you want to spend your life?

It sounds like you're trying to "force" yourself to spiritual. That won't work. Force is just implies more resistance and fragmentation. You want to get your whole being in alignment. Okay, so you want a lamborghini. So what? What's wrong with that? Why is that bad? I had a phase where I was into everything you just listed as well. What if you allowed yourself to have those things?

@xxxx In my Theta Healing training, we were taught how to do future readings for clients. I've also had several readings done for me and the results have been very interesting. My belief is that we can see the future. However, it's not as solid as you might imagine. When I do a future reading, I'm just seeing a possible outcome for the client. That outcome can be changed. So there is value to it but it's not set in stone. Tarot and crystal gazing comes to mind. However, these are just tools to tap into your intuition and aren't actually necessary. The way I personally do it is just ask.

@kras Just do it. It'll be a good learning experience regardless of the outcome. Take a long-term, growth mindset when it comes to dating.

@seeking_brilliance Oh that's beautiful. I will look out for this.

@Alotofquestions Focus on health and strengthening your immune system. Whether it's Covid or a dangerous vaccine you are worried about, don't forget your own power.

@Danioover9000 I can see that being a necessary stepping stone for society. I'd like us to get to a point where self-defense no longer needs to be taught though. Perhaps that's naive but I believe it's possible. How? By solving violence at the root level. People do not just attack or bully other people. If that was the case, that some humans are just crazy animals you have to defend against, then maybe self-defense would be justified. But I don't believe that. I believe violence is the result of trauma and lower spiritual consciousness. If you heal that, then what do you need self-defense for? In Conversations With God, God talks about how violence does not exist in highly evolved societies. And that beings in this society would not defend themselves if they were truly attacked. They don't perceive death or damage as real. Of course, we could say we don't live in such a world. But perhaps the only reason we don't is because we believe we can't. We believe we must defend ourselves, so we create a self-fulfilling prophecy where that becomes true. It's a good question to ask though. I don't think there's any easy answers. Thanks for sharing your perspective.

@Strangeloop If the thought that calmed you down was about being straight rather than gay, then I think it’s pretty obvious what happened. You have a shadow around homosexuality. It doesn’t mean you actually are gay. But see if you can observe all the shame that comes up at the thought that you might be. I never knew I had this shadow until I did psychedelics. I was started feeling a deep sense of love while talking to another guy I was friends with. And it freaked me out BIG. Like wtf, I’m not supposed to feel this way about other men. What does this mean? It made me realize just how much shame there was around this idea for me. I actually feel it’s a common shadow for guys to have too. So much of our identity gets wrapped up in trying to be masculine and good with women that the thought of being gay is really terrifying. Aubrey Marcus once mentioned on a podcast that he wants to make out with a guy just to prove that it’s not a big deal and the world didn’t explode. Sounds funny but I think he has a point. Like who gives a shit who you are attracted to, really.

@Eren Eeager Guru needs to google Wim Hof method

The benefits are that you're actually taking a full breath. If you're just breathing from your chest, you're breathing is extremely shallow. And that is going to subconsciously trigger anxiety / fear/ fight or flight response. When your breathing is deep and full, just the opposite occurs. It signals to the subconscious that you are safe. And you enter into a parasympathetic state, which is associated with creativity, intuition, healing, etc. Try Wim Hof Method. I could never go very deep just doing shamanic breathing. But doing Wim Hof breathing, I've been able to do 45 minutes so far. Same effect as far as I can tell.

That's good. But I'd say it's more about the kind of content you're consuming on the internet in terms of your attention span. If you're reading an ebook, you're probably alright. If you're binge watching shock videos on youtube with jumpcuts every 10 seconds, yeah you might cause some damage. Meditation will help. But it's not a substitute for poor habits outside of it. No. Limiting belief for sure. Yes. So do that.

I wouldn't look at it this way at all. Think about it more like distortion. You already are unconditionally loving, generous, compassionate and all those things we seek doing spiritual work. That's who you are. But there's some distortions to actualizing that for most people. Distortions that comes from trauma, societal programming etc. And ultimately, it's just a game God is playing with itself. So no, you don't have to live with inherent selfishness because you are not inherently selfish. No one is inherently selfish. Our goal is to see that and actualize it.

@The Don Hate to say it, but if you're being awkward you're still anxious. The two go hand in hand. Likely what has happened is just that your anxiety has diminished. It's still somewhat there, but it's become more subtle. Which then makes you act it subtle weird ways. Just spend more time socializing with people and doing the spiritual work. Notice any habits or environmental factors that may be contributing to your anxiety. The awkwardness will continue to diminish over time as you become more in alignment. Right now, it's like you're an instrument that's playing out of time with the rest of the orchestra. So you gotta get back into the flow.

Love it. Dude gives no fucks. And that's exactly the attitude you need for improv. If you start getting in your head about it, it ain't gonna work. You just gotta let go, flow and trust. I really feel it's a spiritual experience.

@Fran11 I have left behind several friend groups myself. It's not easy but it can become necessary. The good news is that then you'll have created space for people who are more in alignment with your values to show up.

@Striving for more You start to attract them the more you believe in yourself . More practically, you have to look for them. Entrepreneur masterminds, meetups, charity events, etc. Get creative with it.

Seeing some good stuff here. My long term goal is to live in more harmony with nature. I want to wake up to fresh dew on the grass and go to sleep under a starry sky. I want to feel connected to the things I own and consume. And I want to do it with the people I love. More practically, that would mean homesteading with my family and / or starting an ecovillage. At the moment though, I have essentially none of the practical skills to make that work. Nor the necessary business infrastructure. So I think 2021 is going to be largely about me reskilling myself and continuing to redesign my business to reflect this goal. If that's all I did, it be a very successful year. That would set me up to actualize this vision by the time I'm in my mid 30s. I also have to find a wifey who is down for this

@Lyubov You definitely can. But often someone ends up trying to make the situation more than platonic, usually the guy. If you really want to have female friends as a guy, you gotta be okay with letting go of that.

I love this I play with the trees all the time.

@Peo I would like to see a move towards decriminalization at least. Criminalizing drugs has not proven effective at stopping people from doing them, its just made it more shady. And if someone is addicted to a drug like cocaine, that's a mental health issue. I find throwing people in prison for that absurd. Really the whole justice system needs to change.

@keenemind There's no easy answer here. It sounds like you can't yet afford to live on your own. So you're going to have to make this environment work for you while you simultaneously plan to get out. I would also stick up to your father. Assuming he's not going to throw you on the streets, let him know that this business is what you're doing and he needs to adjust himself accordingly as a loving father. Beyond that, continue your meditation practice. Get grounded in your truth every morning before you see your father.

@Meditationdude Stream of consciousness journaling is excellent. You can practice what Julia Cameron calls The Morning Pages. Basically you just write two-three pages of whatever comes to mind, no stopping.

@Beginner Mind I have intuitive abilities. What are you seeking a psychic for?

@73809 You want to start with observing your thoughts. That's because at this point, your thoughts are deeply unconscious and automatic. So you have to bring awareness to that. Eventually, your mind will start to silence. You'll think a lot less and when you do think, it will feel more intentional.