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@Zenterus good stuff. There are definitely tradeoffs to being direct. And directness is definitely a spectrum, not a binary. Some situations require more directness, some less. You should be able to hit the gas and the brakes just as easily.

@Hezbollah if you've got that much money, you might have success with social circle. Have tried throwing events?

@CARDOZZO never had any luck with any of that. And I tried a lot. The closest thing I get to an OBE is an altered-dream state that happens on nights with poor sleep. The dreams are hyper-lucid and hyper-real in terms of imagery and emotions. Sometimes there are messages for me, where I feel like I'm tapped into a deeper level of my mind. I will often be flying, jumping huge distances or falling.

Lol. Belongs in the conformity examples mega-thread.

"...I made 5 professional, feature length films" he whispers as he closes his eyes and makes his ascent

@Artsy value is survival value. Just ask yourself: "what would help her survive?". That question will explain everything.

This would be such a cool idea for a film itself. A Neil Breen type cult director has been sparking debate about whether he's a genius or complete hack. Some film students investigate his life. In the end, they uncover evidence that could reveal the truth, but they choose to destroy and preserve the mystery. The audience never knows. Any aspiring filmmakers reading this want to make it happen?

Well I watched Double Down by Neil Breen. I would love if he turned out to be a secret genius. Concocted this character of a well-meaning, but delusional director who...tried. If so, I hope he takes the secret to his grave. Keep everyone guessing.

Never forget the rules:

It's tradition:

It was traumatic, but no one is pretending it didn't happen.

They don't need to "chase" you. Chasing is actually problematic. What you actually want is surrender. There is a difference.

All these issues have been discussed ad nauseam. And they continue to be discussed, even though COVID doesn’t dominate the headlines everyday. I’m not really sure what you are expecting. People have to move on with their lives.

Yeah, because life goes on. We are onto new problems, new situations that require attention. COVID was years ago at this point. How much do you really expect it to still be at the center of mainstream conversation?

People have done almost nothing but talk about COVID.

Yeah I'm not following this. We have better models than Freud or Lacan for understanding masculinity / femininity.

@enzyme Awesome, keep going!

Buddhist conformity:

What I like: she is genuinely skilled at identifying issues in relationships and patterns people have. Helpful for people who have been through trauma and are looking for real solutions. What I don't like: she gets too caught up in new age fantasies. Her political takes are often questionable or flat out wrong. And she struggles to actually embody the polarity concepts she speaks about.

1) Stepping into your frame does not mean following you blindly 2) You can lead the relationship to higher things that feel more fulfilling That's true. Frame control and leadership is values-neutral. You can lead people to heaven or hell. But you still need leadership. That's not incompatible with her being in your frame. Compatibility is her being willing to enter your frame. Compatibility is not about being identical or “equals”. She doesn’t need to already value what you value. And if there’s something you genuinely want her to value, you can lead her there, but only if she’s in your frame. Matching values or high consciousness won’t save a relationship where she cannot relax into your direction.

There is already much stage Orange in our mode of government. It's not strictly Blue.

Good work.

Yup, you got it. Being in your frame is the core of her femininity. Then you lead her where you envision the relationship going.

When the time is right, higher stages of development will begin to outcompete lower stages of development. This is how it always works. Until then, things have to play out. So don't get ahead of yourself.

Women are going to have a different relationship to these things than you. Don't look for women who are deeply into spirituality or personal development. Look for women who are wanting to be in your frame.