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Yes. It's not right to diminish what women do. This just feeds the gender wars, because of course women will feel undervalued and unseen in their labor. Appreciation for what both sexes bring to the table is essential to have good relationships.

I would believe there's something to that. Mothering is hard work and creates survival pressure.

On competence: A woman can be feminine and be competent. The most feminine woman I ever dated was a nurse, whose job obviously required lots of competence. She also had domestic skills, like cooking. And when I'm dating, I do look for basic life competence. A woman who cannot tie her own shoes is not going to be a good mother. She needs to be relatively stable, dependable, etc. If her life is a complete mess, she might be feminine, but it's still a red flag. @Emerald is right about this part.

Don’t rope me in with your challenges I appreciate crying when appropriate.

“Only positives” does not exist. Just contemplate what are the tradeoffs of masculinity and femininity.

@Emerald I have not seen that you are openminded on this topic. So I will not continue debating.

Winner, winner. God / Survival generates perpetual diversity and specialization. That’s what men and women are: co-evolving, symbiotic survival specializations.

Yes, it IS a liability and survival risk! Women’s relative weakness is exactly why men needed more strength. That’s what tradeoffs means.

I mean that if you want to be strong, resilient, independent and a protector, all those things come with tradeoffs. Being strong requires a tradeoff. Being resilient requires a tradeoff. So on and so forth. You do so at the expense of other traits and attributes. This is the case even if you want to become “balanced”. “Balanced” is a tradeoff.

They can be adapted to some degree. But even still, not without tradeoffs. If you want to become more balanced in your masc / fem, go ahead. I think that’s part of mature development. But it won’t be without tradeoffs.

I am describing why things were the way they were. The modern developed world is more complex. We have a bit more autonomy, survival is a bit less brutal, and the scale is much larger. More people want to be psychologically balanced and whole, rather than unbalanced. This also has tradeoffs.

No, because all those things have tradeoffs. You do not get anything for free.

You are fine. I have spent an unholy amount of time contemplating these questions myself. It’s very challenging. You are getting all your information for people who themselves are confused. Sorting it all out takes a lot of time.

This is still flattening the differences.

But not to the same degree. Men have always been responsible for the vast majority of killing and brutal survival activities. Why else have men always done the war? Women needed to be shielded from that, precisely because their role was to raise children. And war is too dangerous. Degree is what matters here.

That's just your limbist conditioning End leg supremacy!

Too far. Denial of the woke agenda is exactly part of the woke agenda.

This is the worst part The political agenda is so obvious.

But how else will you improve your social skills without talking to them?

Sounds like you believe you are not good enough for her. You gotta work that out. Or at least talk to women you are more comfortable with.

Green uses science to support its worldview and subsequent political agenda. Nothing new about that.

About as profound as it gets for rationalists.

They're releasing a new EP in a couple of days!

Tears could mean many things. Context is needed.

No, it IS wrong. That's precisely the problem. If Redpill was truth, we should all become redpillers. But it's not. There are some truths in the Redpill, but it's coated in a bunch of bitterness, misogyny, misunderstandings of development and just general male-bias. Strip it for its truth and leave the rest.