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Pickup is not about homosexuality. That's just absurd. Pickup exists because men want to have sex with women. Yes, some PUAs have emotional and ego issues. But that's not the reason pickup exists. Every guy is doing some version of pickup, it's just a question of how healthy it is.

Only a small minority of guys who get into pickup ever sleep with 100s of women. The vast majority couldn't even do that if they tried.

Yes, but also what are you? What is "me" made out of? The ontology question is absolutely deep and extremely serious. Realization of the ontological nature of reality should leave a person shell-shocked, if they haven't realized that already. It's not just contrast to materialism. Consciousness is a great word. It describes it very well. That's only meaningful if someone has understood the ontological ground first. Which almost no one has. Most spiritual people are playing energy-games and doing little to no actual ontology.

Yes that sounds right. If you have some extra sensitivity, that's interesting. Maybe it's even useful. But are you conscious of what it is you're sensitive to? What is energy, ontologically? Animals are sensitive to all sorts of phenomena humans are not sensitive to. But they are not conscious.

It's both.

Yes, it's divine self-deception. God deceives itself. I'm not joking, but that is essentially the cosmic joke of waking up.

Do not make health your #1 priority unless you have a condition that requires it. Take care of your health, but then forget about it and move onto higher things.

I'd say that's accurate. Any energetic experiences do not appear to have any sort of directionality. And relaxation feels more mental / emotional than physical. I once had a bliss experience during a Strong Determination Sitting, where I was in pretty significant physical pain. No. The only thing releasing sexual energy does is affect my sex drive. If I'm releasing a lot, then my sex drive goes down. If I retain, then usually my sex drive feels a lot more "primed". Nothing else really changes. It's analogous to eating a meal. If I just ate a meal, I'm probably not going to be hungry for a little while. But that's about the extent it affects me. There's not much of a noticable spillover effect to other areas of my life.

Because you don't know that yet.

I did salvia in college a couple times with friends. It was definitely strange, but nothing traumatic or scary about it. Just some college kids getting high and laughing about it. I'm guessing our doses were relatively low. We smoked it, but I was never good at holding an inhale of smoke that long anyway.

Relaxation, yes. That was one of things that hooked me in my early 20s on meditation. After my first month of consistent meditation, I had such an intense experience of relaxation that it rolled into essentially total bliss. I felt like I had taken MDMA. The afterglow lasted for about a week. Years later, I did a 10-day Vispassana retreat where I also had some interesting bliss experiences. I also unlocked some sort of energetic buzzing at the base of the right side of my neck. Afterwards, the buzzing in this spot would often reactivate when I did energy work, or sometimes just spontaneously. At one point when I was being very consistent with my practice, it would reactivate daily. I could essentially turn it on and off at will. Also around this time, I would occassionally wake up in the middle of the night to my spine spasming, almost like I was having a non-sexual orgasm. It was not as pleasant though. So yes, I've experienced relaxation, buzzing, tingling, etc. But I would not use terms like "unwinding", "shooting out the top of my head" or anything like this. I would just caution against judging awakening from any physical feats or interesting energetic experiences. Physical feats are more dream-content and may be misleading. What's essential is understanding of reality. You could cut my leg off and my understanding of reality would not change at all, even though my physical health and vitality would be diminished.

I do not experience transmutation in any meaningfully, noticeable way. My motivation towards everything else in life stays the same. It’s only my sex drive that is affected. Experiment for yourself. Your experience could be different.

Substance would look like some or all of the following: Original peer-reviewed research that has impacted the scientific community and conversations in a meaningful way Detailed proposed mechanisms and methodological development Detailed successful case studies Empirical feedback process In-depth explanations of how you build on mainstream understanding Acknowledging the limitations of your work and seeking to improve it through adaptability ...honest work towards all the above if you don't currently have them, since nothing starts from that place Substance is not: Mindless bashing of the mainstream and your competition Celebrity endorsements Using scientific buzzwords and "science-sounding" arguments Random testimonials Focusing on and hyping up founder credentials Non-falsifiable mechanisms Claiming your modality as a cure-all Basically, it's the difference between selling and honest inquiry.

Commonalities are good, but that's just part of how you create a connection. There's much more to it.

It is not rare at all. Understanding feels available to me at almost all times, if I choose. Very self-sustaining. Sometimes I do get distracted and lose awareness though. I'm not sure what you mean exactly by running up against a threshold or state-maximizing. Explain?

I prefer the definition of awakened state I used as moment to moment understanding. I think it's more accurate.

4 dates? How long have you known this person?

It still doesn't seem effective. I'm going to assume by "awakened state" you do not mean existing as pure, formless, Godhead. Because there's no way you're making that your baseline state. If by awakened state you mean a moment by moment understanding of what this is, what your reality is, then yes I'm made much progress in that area. My clarity is better than it's ever been. It's so obvious what reality is and how it couldn't be anything else. This is pure consciousness. That said, I still think my understanding could be deepened. So I'm not claiming any sort of end state.

I've done years of all that. Some of the practices seem to have an energetic effect, depending on how you want to define energy. I think transmissions are mostly BS though. I'll believe it has that effect for you. But that's just not my experience. I've easily done over a thousand hours of meditation and that's also not my experience. I do not get any sense of unwinding energy. And that has not seemed to hamper my awakening at all.

I read vibes from teachers. I would not say I have experiences of "subtle energy". Shaktipat from Esmann does nothing for me. No effect.

I notice nothing from watching Jan Esmann.

If you're having sex, it doesn't matter at all. Just have sex when you want and forget about it otherwise. It only matters if you're single and looking to meet someone. In that case, I find it's good to cut down since too much ejaculation can diminish some of your motivation. You'll pass up opportunities you shouldn't.

This is an advertisement, not substance. Sorry dude, but I've been in the bodywork world too long. I still think this is BS.

How'd you do it? Good work.

He's been doing IFS for years now. Nothing new there.