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What I like: she is genuinely skilled at identifying issues in relationships and patterns people have. Helpful for people who have been through trauma and are looking for real solutions. What I don't like: she gets too caught up in new age fantasies. Her political takes are often questionable or flat out wrong. And she struggles to actually embody the polarity concepts she speaks about.

1) Stepping into your frame does not mean following you blindly 2) You can lead the relationship to higher things that feel more fulfilling That's true. Frame control and leadership is values-neutral. You can lead people to heaven or hell. But you still need leadership. That's not incompatible with her being in your frame. Compatibility is her being willing to enter your frame. Compatibility is not about being identical or “equals”. She doesn’t need to already value what you value. And if there’s something you genuinely want her to value, you can lead her there, but only if she’s in your frame. Matching values or high consciousness won’t save a relationship where she cannot relax into your direction.

There is already much stage Orange in our mode of government. It's not strictly Blue.

Good work.

Yup, you got it. Being in your frame is the core of her femininity. Then you lead her where you envision the relationship going.

When the time is right, higher stages of development will begin to outcompete lower stages of development. This is how it always works. Until then, things have to play out. So don't get ahead of yourself.

Women are going to have a different relationship to these things than you. Don't look for women who are deeply into spirituality or personal development. Look for women who are wanting to be in your frame.

Of course. It's very easy to believe your problem isn't being attractive enough, when in reality you're just not socializing enough. Socialization not only gives you actual opportunities, but also calibrates you over time if you learn the lessons.

If you built a solid foundation in your 20s and stay healthy, it only gets easier. There’s maybe a small percentage of young women who are uncomfortable with the age gap, but otherwise it’s a non-issue.

Nice work, congrats.

How do you know your work is done? How do you know that is not self-deception?

I don't really know much about either of them, but I doubt Erika is any more or less evil than Charlie.

Probably an oversimplification. But yes, definitely get a hormone panel if you’re struggling. Testosterone but also DHEA, estradiol, SHBG, TSH, IGF-1 etc.

You don't need "game", you need to become the kind of man that women want to follow. That's the only thing that ultimately matters if you want a solid LTR. The issue is that men need to go through a process for developing that. You don't just "get it" by default. And part of that process is actual experience with women. Without this experience, you will have no idea what properly attracts her or understand what keeps her around. It's like expecting you'll be excellent at a sport you've never played. There's no short-cutting this process just by being a chivalrous, hard-working provider. She has to be hooked on the man bringing in the money, not just the money itself.

This is BS. I've experimented with long-term fasting and had none of this. I basically just got worse everyday. If it worked for you, great. But be careful about generalizing your experience.

A lambo??? You are approaching troll status.

Appreciate that, not everyone sees it.

Blatantly false. You really need to question to death where these beliefs came from and why you have them.

I've never been, but I've heard good things about Burlington, Vermont. You just have to like the cold and be happy with a much smaller city. Salt Lake City is also great for nature access.

NYC is my hell. There is no reason to move there unless you're trying to make it big in finance, fashion or theatre.

Well that's your choice. If you want to put off dating for 10 years while you stack cash, you can do that. I understand that aligning money and women at the same time is extremely challenging. But in that case, you better actually do it. Because you might find in 10 years that you've put off dating for so long that you don't even know where to start. Or you told yourself you'd have the income you'd need, but still feel you don't. And now what? Now you're in your 30s, with little to no adult dating experience. That's not a position you want to be in. Alternatively, you could focus on making money but still participate in dating to a small degree. Maybe you find a good local event or venue you like and go there once a week. This at least keeps you open to possibilities and gets you experience with women. Then when you meet the woman you really want to settle down with, you'll be ready.

It is important to be focusing on making money as a guy. And maybe you even need to deceive yourself that dating is impossible to achieve that. But it is self-deception regardless.

Insane vision, ambition, patience, leadership and consciousness. Almost no one will truly do it.

You'd probably really enjoy the PNW if you want mountains + city life.