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Many reasons. Think of all the assumptions being made when you assume free, open sharing is automatically better.

Yes, good example of holding frame. IRL though, it's not necessarily this overt. Frame can be extremely subtle.

@Miguel1 I think you know some of my thoughts on this. It sounds like you are organizing your dating life around maximal disclosure. For you, the more vulnerability and openness, the better. That is not how I think about dating. Disclosure needs strong boundaries, especially during the early stages of meeting someone. You don't just dump everything on them. You should be selective with what you share. I do not consider that discernment a violation of truth.

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Also, how do you now have more forum posts than me? You are a forum fiend

This is a bad take. Yes, online dating apps are playing a larger role, which are visually driven. But that does not mean the chief thing women desire from modern men is now their looks.

Probably a backlash from everything Trump-related.

Bro, social media is not stopping women from getting horny. Attraction is way too serious and deeply rooted in survival for that to happen. If some reasonable percentage of women are not finding you attractive, you are doing something wrong. Period.

This is just completely false. I get that you're in a bad spot right now, but this ain't the answer.

There’s no easy answer for that. You have to develop wisdom and choose your pressures wisely. That’s the only real solution.

Yes that’s the crux of the issue. Ultimately, you want to ground your masculinity in something not tied to success with women at all. You should be able to be an old, decrepit monk living in the forest alone and still be 100% masculine. But that’s not the full story. You are never going to experience being a man outside of the pressures and expectations that come with that. To be a human at all is to be an amalgamation of these pressures. So give up looking for your authentic self as a human. Your authentic self is not human at all. The goal becomes not just to burn off all these expectations but to learn to relate to them more consciously, more deliberately.

Valid points. I will be taking a different approach, but yes just teaching men tricks on how to get laid is grossly insufficient if you're serious about masculine development. My project will focus on sense-making around masculinity and what it means to be a good man. Everything else is secondary.

This is good advice. Fits in well with my own experience.

I’m not suggesting it’s perfectly predictable. Obviously there is uncertainty, struggles, difficult conversations. This is not a contradiction. The only kind of love humans do is ego love. If you want non-ego love, you can’t be a human. To be a human in human relationships means ego love. Regardless of how developed you are.

Quite the assumptions.