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Still love living here. No other country I'd rather be. But yeah, we have some serious issues to work on.

I feel ya man. It can be rough out there.

@Zenterus Lol bro. This is why people eventually settle down. Hooking up with girls in perpetuity is a hellish roller coaster.

The men are deliberately withholding something they know their girlfriend probably wants to get a reaction out of her for social media.

That is exactly what some men do. Whether or not it’s “okay” requires looking at how coercive it was and what the consequences were. No one is getting hurt by your girlfriend wanting you to eat a brownie with her. This is a stupid false equivalence with something like sexual assault.

Not at all. Eating together is a way of connecting. Step out of your male mind and see it from her perspective.

If you have a good venue and know what you’re doing, you might be surprised. Yes, it’s a very specific skill to be good at cold approach. You need to be extremely good at initiating and creating positive first impressions. That takes a certain kind of personality and mindset. I’ve met a ton of guys who definitely are attractive and social otherwise, but they completely fold if they have to cold approach. It’s not something a lot of people are used to doing. And most serious cold approach is on a spectrum with what you’re describing. You might work the venue, get to know lots of different people and draw attention + social proof that way. Obviously it’s not one size fits all. But it is something almost every guy can immediately go out and try, regardless of slack-lining skills

No, you don't have to ask me questions. I was mostly just curious. I am working a project right now that is focused on teaching Tier 2 masculinity & relationships. So it's useful for me to see kind of problems guys are struggling with. And I think our perspectives slightly diverge here.

I see. Yes, that's a challenge if you're looking for frame alignment on an overt, intellectual level.

I'm not following how you see frame. Why do you see women being in your frame as not natural?

Yeah but that's not necessarily actually better. It depends on how good your setup is. Cold approach is nice because you can set the right frame immediately and just go for what you want. Direct / indirect approaches both have tradeoffs.

Nice! Sounds like some serious insights.

@Razard86 is correct here. This is not God-realization, no matter how nice these teachings sound.

The women you’re describing may be more extreme or overt about it. But every woman wants to respect their man. That’s not some unique phenomenon.

Some men have always died virgins. It's not a problem as long as you're not deceiving yourself about your situation.