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It’s not just “these days” though. It’s maybe stronger due to MAGA, but the left has been like this for a long time. They’ve always been in a fight against fascism and injustice.

I don’t consider myself a strong patriot. But even I’ve grown tired of listening to progressives in the US just endlessly bash America. I would like to see someone like Kyle Kulinski make an hour long episode just talking about all the ways America is great right NOW. Not when we have some progressive social democracy. Not when we make “progress”. Right now. But of course, they will never make such a video. They are too focused on endless criticism.

This I agree with. Definitively not necessary to push it that far once you have solid inner confidence in yourself. The 5-10 women thing is mostly compensation.

Indeed

Ultimately there has to be some process by which you get to know someone. And that process by definition will start with less probing, less commitment. Really it's not a question of "should I keep it light?" or "should I be super serious?". It's a question of when and how much. Also, you can do both simultaneously. I can keep our interaction quite light on the surface, while internally I'm actually looking at her quite closely and making judgments. "Seriousness" does not have to be explicit. Once I'm confident I see long-term potential, I will stop seeing other people pretty fast. Could easily be 3-5 dates and we are there.

You can make the distinction practically. It might be useful at times. But ultimately the distinction has to collapse.

Truth is not the same thing as authenticity. It's not possible to cleanly distinguish between the authenticity / performance binary. Truth is meta.

Both are possible. Performance and truth are not mutually exclusive.

It's ironic because a lot of people who talk about frame control also care about male leadership. But a man who cannot take feedback and adjust is arguably way more of a dangerous leader than one that can. Trump is the perfect example. Trump has insane frame control, but he does it by completely blocking out truth and trying to distort reality. Trump is like the Sith Lord of frame

Control is a problematic way of thinking about it, but frame itself is useful as a concept. I wouldn't throw the baby out with the bathwater.

I think of it like frame gravity. You don't need to control anything. You just care about truth. Truth has a gravity to it.

Dude, no. You're already a pretty good-looking guy. That is not your issue. Do you want a girlfriend? What are you looking for?

My use of "they" was referring to the redpillers. Of course feminists are also self-biased. But that's a different topic.

Their understanding of feminism alone is so obviously self-biased.

Not necessarily though. Because yes, Blue is good at commitment. But look at what it sacrifices for that commitment. It requires radical self-repression and conformity. Development is not straightforward, linear progress. It's a twisted, counter-intuitive process of evolving tradeoffs. You're probably worse at commitment precisely because you came from a more developed culture than your grandparents.