aurum

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  1. That's sounds like a great description of Žižek. But he's still wrong.
  2. @Emerald I apologize if I crossed a line. Guys, be careful of ganging up on her. That's not what this should turn into.
  3. I still kind of am. It just needs to be balanced. It's a nuanced issue. In the past, men have made mistakes both being too authoritarian and being too egalitarian. I'm interested in helping guys to correct both of those.
  4. That is NOT the case for my past partners. The more we had an egalitarian dynamic, the less likely we were to have that sub/dom relationship. It's the ownership that creates the safety and polarity, not lack of ownership. How much I feel the need to govern her behavior usually just naturally adapts to how mature she is. If she's very responsible and capable, I feel the need to do less. If she's not, I feel the need to do more. IRL it's not nearly as authoritarian as it might sound . Respecting her sovereignty is part of positive ownership. Being a slave owner is not my thing.
  5. There's surely some difference. You probably don't need to tell her not to put her finger in an electric socket. But also, those lines may not be so distinct at times. Women literally call men "daddy" in bed.
  6. What you're missing is that men who are more masculine want to be depended on. Much more so than depending on her. This is an actual need, not dysfunction.
  7. This. Don't talk about it, just do it. They'll appreciate it whether they understand what's happening not.
  8. Keep in mind Sowell is a darling of conservatism, NOT a lefty:
  9. Can you explain more about what you've learned regarding the biology? Or perhaps point in the direction of specific resources to learn?
  10. Not only will you experience pain, you must walk into the pain over and over again.
  11. @Santiago Ram what religion are you? I had some fear of blasphemy as well. The key for me was to deconstruct my religion so thoroughly that blasphemy became impossible. It’s like seeing through a magic trick. Once you see through it, you can’t seriously still believe it. You may just have to bunch through the wall here. Question the whole thing to death.
  12. This is a longer one but I think worth it. Low: argumentation, debate, bluster, being opinionated, conspiracy, lack of education
  13. You’ve debunked nothing. In practice, humans will only recognize the 0.000001% of reality that is good for their survival as love. And everything else will just be ignored or actively treated as evil, including the virtues you listed.