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Sure, but I wouldn't call that the core defining characteristic. All of that is more of a downstream consequence of multi-perspectivalism.

Yellow is not about accuracy of models, it's a meta-orientation towards all models, paradigms and perspectives. If you think you have something, show me what you're talking about.

I don’t grant that you have greater predictive ability or understanding of human psychology.

100%. I learn from everyone here. The book is coming out very soon, so I will likely be sharing more about it.

You could be born with a predisposition that helps you develop into Yellow. That's not a contradiction. But a predisposition you are born with is definitely not equivalent to Yellow development by itself.

Development ain't an equal opportunity endeavor. There are many factors that give people developmental advantages and disadvantages.

Yellow is primarily about radical multi-perspectivalism, even beyond the pluralism of Orange / Green. This is not at all something humans are just born with.

I do have a different way of thinking about it, but these are good points. I appreciate the feedback.

You'll have to read my book and decide for yourself. That is not my conclusion.

I talk about evolutionary psychology briefly, but I don't put a focus on hard data. I'm not an academic. My conclusions are mostly based on observation.

I literally just wrote a book about this subject as part of a new project I'm launching. There's way too much depth to compress it into a forum post, but the punchline is that masc / fem are something analogous to your Big Five personality or Myers Briggs. Constructed models that nonetheless capture something important about how you orient to the world. If you deconstruct traditional gender roles and rigid gender ideology, it does give you more range of expression. But it does not change your core orientation. Furthermore, just deconstructing gender roles and ideology is not enough. You must also reconstruct what mattered. I don't experience myself as suddenly "becoming feminine". It's more like masculinity expresses itself differently across different contexts. Because it's confusion.

That does not mean people just flip-flop between masculinity and femininity at their core. I am strongly against this flip-flop argument. It misunderstands what it actually means to be masculine or feminine. Range of expression is not proof of changing your core orientation.

Best argument for polyamory is potentially that it just allows for more people to help raise the children. Raising children with two people alone can be very challenging. Usually you at least need some extended family involved, or maybe some hired help. People in throuples often report it can be beneficial.

You are going to have to heal this wounding eventually.

For guys on this forum who are legitimately approaching Tier 2, then yes some developmental leadership is likely inevitable. And yes, that will create somewhat of a hierarchy between you and her. That being said, most couples who last are at relatively similar levels of development. Otherwise the gap in values and lifestyle will just be too great.