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If you have a good venue and know what you’re doing, you might be surprised. Yes, it’s a very specific skill to be good at cold approach. You need to be extremely good at initiating and creating positive first impressions. That takes a certain kind of personality and mindset. I’ve met a ton of guys who definitely are attractive and social otherwise, but they completely fold if they have to cold approach. It’s not something a lot of people are used to doing. And most serious cold approach is on a spectrum with what you’re describing. You might work the venue, get to know lots of different people and draw attention + social proof that way. Obviously it’s not one size fits all. But it is something almost every guy can immediately go out and try, regardless of slack-lining skills

No, you don't have to ask me questions. I was mostly just curious. I am working a project right now that is focused on teaching Tier 2 masculinity & relationships. So it's useful for me to see kind of problems guys are struggling with. And I think our perspectives slightly diverge here.

I see. Yes, that's a challenge if you're looking for frame alignment on an overt, intellectual level.

I'm not following how you see frame. Why do you see women being in your frame as not natural?

Yeah but that's not necessarily actually better. It depends on how good your setup is. Cold approach is nice because you can set the right frame immediately and just go for what you want. Direct / indirect approaches both have tradeoffs.

Nice! Sounds like some serious insights.

@Razard86 is correct here. This is not God-realization, no matter how nice these teachings sound.

The women you’re describing may be more extreme or overt about it. But every woman wants to respect their man. That’s not some unique phenomenon.

Some men have always died virgins. It's not a problem as long as you're not deceiving yourself about your situation.

You cannot solve the novelty problem just by adding new women, unless you are willing to do that perpetually.

The Coolidge effect only matters when you introduce a new partner. Your harem partners are not new or novel. You will have had sex with them tons of times and will have normalized to it all, in the same way that you normalize to one partner in monogamy. Adding a new partner in a harem is rare. Additionally, if you are relying on the Coolidge effect for your sex drive, what about the rest of the women in your harem? They will be unsatisfied. You'd mostly only be interested in hooking up with the new girl.

I highly doubt that would change things too dramatically. Libido is fairly stable, like the amount of food or sleep you want. You can't alter it that much just by having access to more women.

How do you even have sex with this many women?

It’s possible to be strategic without projecting insecurity.

I have worked with some pros. Either way it’s not worth it for me. IRL works plenty well.