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Gender identity cannot be rigidly defined when you deeply look into it. So yes, some people may identify in alt ways. Whether that’s harmful or not is a different question.

Burden is a perfectly good word to describe the experience of responsibility. There’s a weight to it. Burden does not necessarily contradict authenticity.

You need respect from anyone you are going to lead.

Mastery can improve your skills and your confidence. It does not eliminate burden.

No, because writing this comment is not a serious burden. I'm talking about actual burden with consequences, not just having fun. Imagine if you wrote the wrong comment and five people died.

Still a burden, just willing taken on.

Yes, that's how respect works.

Yes, of course.

The person who is respected bears the burden. The value is that if you fail to hold the burden, you lose respect.

That's the whole point. Respect needs to be inherently burdensome.

Not at all. No amount of consciousness overrides the need for respect in a relationship.

I would choose respect, because there's nothing that resembles love from a woman without respect.

I do. I think we see it pretty similarly. Attraction is more basic, more primitive than charm. Attraction doesn't require any of the logical nessesities we usually tell ourselves. The black box is in control, not us. What is considered "charming" is usually justified by deeper feelings of attraction. I can be attracted to someone I know logically is not a good idea to pursue. In which case, I can overrule my attraction. But that doesn't usually change the attraction itself. I also find attraction to be a specific state of consciousness. It's familiar. I know when I'm in that head space and when I'm not. And it seems to work like a feedback loop with the other person, where my state of consciousness influences them and their state influences me.

How do you see the difference?

But is "charm" different from attraction? I think it is.