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Yes, people can rationalize all kinds of low standards and nonsense. It is a serious challenge though. Maintaining attraction over years and years is no joke. Most dead bedroom couples would love to have the passion back, but they just don’t know how. Attraction will not be moralized, reasoned or idealized into existence. It’s a wild beast that cannot be controlled.

Honeymoon phase is 6-18 months according Gottman’s research. https://www.simplypsychology.com/articles/relationship-stages-psychology

It’s pretty bad out there. That’s why everyone talks about the “honeymoon phase”.

Almost every couple loses attraction to each other over the years. If you can avoid that, your relationship is extremely rare.

A casual Christian who doesn’t really take it seriously might be okay. Many people consider themselves Christian just because it’s the default growing up and they don’t know anything else. But they don’t really care. Or secretly they have a lot of doubts about it. But if she’s expecting me to go to church all the time, participate in all their rituals, raise our kids Christian or even expects me to convert, then absolutely not.

Within a certain limit. Where exactly that line is, is not obvious. I would have to take in full picture of her.

IME, you can even go beyond that. But it’s very rare and requires two exceptional people.

Hate can be a useful tool in the decentering process. But it’s also caustic. You want to let go of that eventually and get beyond it. Decentering is not the end of relational development, it’s a stage.

Peltola looking like a lock as well, although still not called. That would make 56 senate seats. Significantly better for the Dems than most polling predicted.

The podcast hosts actually seem to have a better intuition here than Martin. They correctly pushed back when he tried to ground his distinction in "consistency".

They are risking their lives to support our survival.

Trust, openness, care for others, stability, not excessively materialistic, supportive, self-awareness, inner peace.

If it’s very serious, then yes I agree. But again, such situations are so rare. It’s not worth spending mental time worrying about such things. If on the off chance it happens to you, just use your best judgment and deal with it then.

…and there it is.

Yes, just let it go. If she’s genuinely a danger to people, you could call security and tell them what is going on. But you don’t need to defend your masculine frame by retaliating in such a situation. Fighting, arguing or competing with women is generally wrong in principle. Don’t do it.