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Do two 6 rounds of Wim Hof breathing. Go to boxing 2-3 per week. Do 33 push ups, pull ups squats and you won’t have time for those funny thoughts.

We are aliens to aliens.

Fulfillment of desire doesn’t lead to happiness (in fact the absence of desire is happiness) so the solution for neediness is not fulfillment because that will lead to a hedonistic trap. The solution is recognizing you don’t need the external thing. Changing a need to a want. And feel gratitude for the now without being attached to a desired future outcome of having the object or state of your desire. In other words: loving the process (of the now) instead of the outcome in the future or having the desire the past would have been different. Imagination and desire is intimately connected so we have to be careful what we imagine by having a cap on that bitch. Overthinking and neediness are connected (I made a topic about that yesterday) That is what I understood from this topic and research on this topic.

I feel like it is an impossible cycle. If you don’t have it you want it and if you want it you don’t have it. So how to get out of it? Just noticing it and solving it internally is ideal but impossible. Neediness is bad not only in dating but also in business and other aspects of life. If people feel you are needy they won’t give you a good deal. In dating it is no different. Usually I hug a girl too fast after meeting her and I can just feel her cringe. Or if a hot girl offers her phone number I become all weird about it. Recently I got into a new business and the same thing happens when about to get a deal. I just my own doing. My neediness caused me so much suffering that I’m starting to hate it which causes the neediness to go into my shadow and even cause more havoc.

@Moksha I think it is healthy to rage if this happens. Freedom is not better than the opposite. If the well-being of others is important that is an enslavement but you are willingly giving your freedom away when you are having kids.

They were not smart because of it but despite of it.

@Moksha infinity is freedom but total freedom is not freedom. To be free we need to be defined.

I only meditate for 14 minutes per day but I really need to get into that shit and meditate. I’m not doing anything fancy. Just basic pranayama.

“Life is difficult or life sucks”

I don't get enough carbs so I eat rice twice a week. Some people say it is unhealthy but is it? I'm eating mostly veggies and different kinds of fresh cut meats. They go great with such diet.

I just got an epiphany. What we really desire is desire for the self, not the other person or thing. And because of ignorance we project our desire onto others and things. But this will never fulfill us on the soul level. Only on the body level. For example if you are addicted to a certain food and your body craves it all the time, there is probably some lack you have on the soul level and that is why you are using this coping mechanism to fill that hole in your soul. But it will never happen unless you find a way to feed the soul instead of the body.

Nicely put. It seems that my salvation is in spirituality. I feel stupid. Especially after today I hugged a girl too fast after day game and it was kind of uncalibrated and needy. Still got her phone number but I’m afraid I messed up while she was the girl I was looking for. Same fuck ups happened in my business because of neediness.

@LSD-Rumi true. There are higher and lower desires. I want to let go of lower desires.

I explained that in detail in my post. Buddhism evolves around letting go of desire so obviously there are ways. Desire comes from identity so letting go of identity means letting go of desire.

Very SD turquoise of you but I don’t think most people will grasp it because people are barely SD yellow here.

I have been experimenting with micro doses of magic mushrooms while practising my fields of choice and wow. It is insane how quick you learn if you use it in the right way but I'm considered magic mushrooms are not that healthy with a lot of toxins in it. What do you guys use? Don't recommend me modafinil or something. I'm looking for a substance that will give me brain elasticity.

So this girl asked me mine so asked her body count and I was kind of shocked because she seems so innocent and pure. She asked me opinion and I tried to brush it off but from my energy it was clear I was flabbergasted. I mean every healthy guy would be considering all the diseases that go around. I still wanted her around so I didn’t give me true opinion plus I didn’t want to hurt her feelings. No way I’m going to marry a woman with a high count but I’m ok with dating her but I think I screwed up my chances with her. Vibe is so important. That is all they look for. I just don’t know how to respond to it. Especially when she was trying to justify her count with some feminist arguments.

I got a warning for this thread so I’m not going to participate in this thread anymore.

I didn’t ask the question. She asked me so I had to ask it back. You seem emotional about this topic. Well well. We are judgmental aren’t we? You are entitled to your opinion just like me. I’m trying to be accepting but I’m struggling with it as I explained. Try using that argument during a job application ? True

To be totally free is to not be free

@Yimpa dunno man. I’m not feeling that love.

@Yimpa I don’t think contradictions exist. It is just that our mind doesn’t understand it.

Judgement goes two ways. It is like talking to yourself in the mirror without noticing that and giving the other a hard time.

I do

Can somebody explain to me why non duality and solipsism is into contradiction to each other? To me it seems compatible. Non duality says there is only one, and solipsism says that too.