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Ideally game should be a subconscious process. A cool guy who is respected doesn’t think about how to be like that. This is a very deep subject that is explained in psycho cybernetics. The real gold is in identity shift.

Girls don’t approach like guys. They do social game. If you have a loving vibe (loving life) girls will just sit or stand next to you and start talking to you. If you are traumatized by lack of love it won’t happen because you will have a screwed up vibe. Girls are very sensitive to your vibe.

If you are a regular guy (who had a loving childhood) you don’t need to approach. They will come to you and if they don’t come to you, it is very easy to get one by just being not weird and not creepy. The thing is that these guys are traumatized, weird and creepy because of lack of love in their childhood. And trauma can’t be healed by getting your dick wet, it is just supplication to trauma, not solving the root of the problem.

She is on the magic school bus if she is 16-24 of age. If you got all the free stuff and genitals thrown at you your personality would change too. You act like a dog and be treated like a dog. Act like a boss and be treated as a boss. Girls will treat you as you treat yourself. They are very harsh but it is basic survival. Only after you reached the "we" phase, she will see it different. Respect yourself and move on. Stop paying for dates. Let her invest too. She will respect you for not acting like a provider simp. Dignify yourself. They disrespect you because you disrespect yourself. In the same way if you don't think you are hot they won't find you hot.. but if you think you are hot yourself they will think you hot too. Girls are weird and they don't even understand themselves, so don't look for answers from them. Developing a strong frame of reality is something I'm working on too. It is not easy.

If you procrastinate and don’t know why you lack insight into yourself. Your identity is like an invisible prison. The walls are made of fear so when you encounter fear you have to move towards it. Not move away from it. The way to get to know yourself is not by thinking about yourself but feeling yourself. No phun intended.

I’m just a nice person. I can’t help it but only people who are nice themselves appreciate it. Personally I think a person should have both the quality of niceness and the opposite of it. Some people are repulsed by niceness because they see it as weakness. I’m starting to integrate the opposite of niceness to become whole. If I don’t want to dance with somebody I will just say no without making excuses. Or when I feel like putting somebody in their place I will just do it. Being a nice guy is just an identity you build and if it is working for you you should keep it but it if don’t that identity needs to die for a new one to arise. Now I think about it niceness is not that bad. If you are traumatized and you are nice to compensate that is what really disgusts people. Now I think about it I get why people are repulsed by it. It is a very unpleasant vibe.

Simple way to stop being a nice guy is to stop pinging her. This will solve most of the problem.

He still believes you are a rat. He is just not saying it anymore.

@LastThursday I didn’t say resistance is a thing. I was talking about my relationship to resistance. And relationships aren’t things but it is a process like you say.

@Sincerity recontextualization of resistance is needed. Resistance is neutral just like gravity is. If gravity doesn’t do what you want it to do it doesn’t mean it is lazy. You just don’t understand gravity and project your own human shit onto it in the same way you do with laziness. Understanding the laws of physics and metaphysics is the same. They are neutral forces, they have nothing against you but also nothing for you, just like god.

Excellent example of power versus force https://x.com/randomvido/status/1703876161757946341?s=46&t=_b_ryXoCsOXMmPUcexEK7w Turkish bodybuilder, Savas Cebeci (49), who is +250 lbs/+115 kg called out a 125 lbs/57 kg professional MMA fighter named Kaan Kazgan (28).

There are two schools really. One says that one should listen to the emotions, do subconscious work, listen to your emotions. This is the only way to heal and I agree but at the same time this approach makes you weak. Second approach says to not listen to your emotions and just do what you need to do. Emotions make you weak and you want to be strong which give get you success in all aspects of your life. This is the approach that masculinity teachers teach to their student. That is basically their main message. All other messages are sub. I think it is not either or. One should should both schools. The whole thing is the know when to use which school. Emotions are important feedback but you also don't want to be a slave of your emotions, otherwise you will be stuck in a vicious cycle of low LOC thoughts and emotions that feed each other.

Who says that? Break the bones in your hand and it will grab itself.

These are my latest insights on the topic. Being nice is such a buzz word. Being nice is being socially calibrated. It about being depolarizing. The cost of being too nice is that you sacrifice too much of your authenticity. Or in other words sacrificing authenticity to be depolarizing. In social skills you need 80% authenticity (polarizing) 20% social calibration, being nice (depolarizing) With nice guys it is the other way around. They calibrate too much. There are also guys who suck both at social calibration and authenticity but that is a different topic. If you are a regular non autistic nice guy you need to learn to let go f the fear to be disliked and be polarizing. It is better to have good friends and good enemies than having no friends and no enemies.

I was not pointing at gender but pointing at archetypical energies.

Somebody read Jordan Peterson Emotions are feminine and from the body. Thoughts/logic are masculine and from the spirit. According to Buddhists your body and spirit have to marry each other but like a real marriage it is difficult to set up a good marriage. Feeling heals; thinking amplifies.

Key skill to develop for letting go is concentration. When you are facing your inner or outer demons, the last thing your conscouisness will want to focus on bodily sensations and let go cognitions and emotions.

@sholomar Larry explains how to release it. @Larry Kaul So when you have the urge to smoke, just feel the bodily sensations and let go of cognition of the emotion. Emotion is a bodily feeling + value judgement from the mind. So the bodily sensation is closer to the source code which is in your body aka subconscious aka primitive+emotional brain. Burning through karma by chain smoking is not the way through get rid of the addiction of smoking. I don't believe in this approach. That is not how you should deal with karma through acting out. The best way is to feel the urge of smoking in the body and just stick with it which is an emotionally demanding task and the whole point of emotional mastery. Usually and almost always, the suck it up crowd don't know anything about psychology but they just talk about what worked for them to get a certain material results. They have a point that one should do the important things in life but where I don't agree is that one should suppress their feelings when doing it. One should do the important but emotionally difficult thing while feeling every fiber in their body. Doing the difficult thing in life is comparable with taking a cold shower Wim Hof style. Your body says no to the cold but you do it, and just keep breathing and trying to relax while your body screams to jump away from the cold. The cold is discomfort zone while warmth is your comfort zone.

I like the phone analogy when it comes to emotions. Emotions are just notifications, like notifications on your phone. Just observe them and open them if you want but don't be an addict and open all notifications all the time because that will make you an addict. The whole point is that have a phone that doesn't give you nonsense notifications all the time. If there is a virus, remove it. If there is an useless app that spams with your notification centre, uninstall it. I don't like Leo's view on addiction. There are people who are burning through their karma all of their life. A life can be spend burning karma and you still won't be able to burn through it. It is just acting out which David Hawkins talks about. A better approach is to releasing it. Pleasure principle is a bottomless hole. One should understand that seeking pleasure is not the end all be all of life. So good luck with filling that hole. It can't be done.

I talked to a lot of psychologists and when you say maps of consciousness they look at you like you spoken some sorcery

@Bobby_2021 I still have to look into that paper but to me it sounds like SD

You are stuck in beta brain waves. There are special meditations to get out of it.

@Bobby_2021 what were the benefits of being in his outer circle?

In my opinion construct awareness is not an on or off switch but more of a knob. Everybody is construct aware to some extent. The question is how deep or shallow. Another thing is becoming aware of the construct and having the skills of undoing the construct are two separate skills. Awareness is only curative to some extent.

@Bobby_2021 do you have any proof you were in his outer circle? Screenshots or any other material? Why were you associated with his academy? I’m not a judge so I don’t get why you want me to be a judge. I’m just curious.