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So yesterday was my dopamine detox. I read some works, got some work done and overall it was a productive day. It didn't go fully as planned though. At a certain point I felt like crack junky looking around for something for something that would give me a dopamine spike. I did watch some YouTube videos. Nonetheless, yesterday was better than my previous days. Even the act of setting the goal to disrupting my not so productive lifestyle made my days much better. I got a lot more done. I had time to contemplate and do self inquiry. I made some interesting insights when I connected the topics of honesty, self deception, trauma and red pill stuff. I saw how I don't really want to be happy and sabotage myself similar to my mother. I did a lot of trauma release using this technique: I need to get more in connection with my body. During my self inquiry I noticed my objectification of certain things. It was a hard pill to swallow and to be honest with myself. I read two books: -The Art of Psychological Warfare: How to Skillfully Influence People (if you know how to do it, you know how to defend yourself against psychological warfare) -The Way of the Superior Man

I love infinite waters: we all need some of that craziness in our lives. After my detox tomorrow I decided to cut out YouTube for 1 week, with the exception of Ralf: 1 video per day. YouTube is a huge drain on my time. Need to make some radical steps. Ain't gonna fix itself. Also: will make full audit of my week in OneNote.

I will be doing a dopamine detox tomorrow. Things that I will allow myself: walks, yoga, meditation, and reading. I'm trying to work up to a hardcore dopamine detox which is in the right column. This year I have the goal to reprogram my brain with NLP. This is the time. With every year gone, it gets harder to reprogram the brain since it becomes less plastic.

The question “what do I say?” Is the problem. Just say what you want to say. I advice you practice authenticity. Get out of your head and feel into your body.

He is lucky he doesn’t have a real job. Imagine freaking out like that and losing your job.

He has some good points on the health and judicial part of his story but these are non-arguments if you live in a country where it is legal and well-regulated. His point about trauma is true though. If the person in question has trauma's things are just more difficult. I can subscribe to that. I just stick at low doses until I get some confidence.

I notice that some people are overly kind but they are that way in an overcompensating way in the sense that they want to be treated the same way or they fear not being liked or something else. I mean I try to be nice too and I catch myself too on overcompensating. I think it is important where that kindness comes from. I always ask myself am I being kind to get something or to give something? Sometimes I’m just mean(in the sense of not being cheery and being closed) if I feel like it. I don’t want to pretend I’m having a good day if I don’t. The problem with that is that if I’m really honest there is no reason to give something for nothing. There is always this little dopamine rush or something that is a reward. What is your position on kindness / meanness?

Book for this week is "The Procrastination Equation: How to Stop Putting Things Off and Start Getting Stuff Done" https://www.amazon.com/Procrastination-Equation-Putting-Things-Getting-ebook/dp/B003ZSHUP2 Here is a summary: https://blog.rescuetime.com/procrastination-equation/ The whole book is about this equation: I only read the first two chapters and it is a pretty good. It already helped me to put things into perspective and be more wholesome when dealing with procrastination. I already made some links between the formula and how I relate to it. Expectancy is the likeliness of a positive outcome. No need to obsess about past mistakes or possible future failures. Doing that won't get you anything anyway. Just like with enlightenment one has to focus on the now. There is why the difference is made. I don't have an expectancy for the past of the future. I only have an expectancy for myself in the now. Value is linked to the desired outcome, which can be linked to my life purpose. Impulsiveness has to do with concentration: meditation and concentration exercises helped me with this Delay: This indicates how long you must wait to receive the expected rewards, benefits, payouts. The longer you have to wait, the less motivated you’ll be and the more likely you are to procrastinate. This is linked to me to the principle of gain versus pain. I must a greater taste for healthy pain. I still have a major bias for pleasure. I'm trying to get a more balanced relationship between pleasure and pain. Work = pain = success = self love. The more self love I have the harder I will work. Video demonstrating the formula:

This program is creating for dismantling the ego and letting go off all the fears. Especially the stuff that is within the subconscious. This program has altered my paradigm with procrastination, work and girls. After this program you don’t even need to pickup girls. Girls get attracted to you.

@28 cm unbuffed I love being nice to mean people (the ones you described) it fucks their paradigm up. ?

The first time you will remember your whole life and will also probably set the tone of your sexual life. If you do it don't do it out of desperation but from a more sincere/clean position.

I love TikTok. Sometimes I'm in a need for a laugh. There are actually some posters who are grade A comedians.

Also just ditching all friends, feels very inhuman. Social connection and touch is a biological need and it has been proven that it can have bad effects on your health if you stay lonely for long periods of time. This is the reason why Leo might have health issues, although he says his diet is good. These are just my opinions but ditching my non-spiritual friends if I don't have a lot of friends feels like throwing my bad food away because there is no good food around. It is in the hierarchy of Maslow, you need it. You just have to do with the toys that god has given you. If humans hadn't done that, we wouldn't even come so far. In an ideal situation I would only have actualized friends but the actuality is different. Personally, I don't think god has created us to be god, throw away all of our wants&needs and be inhuman. God created us to be human and reach our highest potential. What kind of world would we be living if everybody believed he/she is god? Lmao

To answer the question. It is not either or in my view. Important not to be egoistic and feel better than other people. In my eyes, friends are for mutual spiritual development. One doesn't have to be at the same level or higher for me to be friends with them but there definitely needs to be a give and take. For me it is also matter of demand/supply. If I had a lot of options for making friends, I would be pickier.

Organ meat can be super delicious but you have to be a great cook to make it so. With muscle meat there margin of error is much smaller to dish a bad dish. Just experiment around.

@Dutch guy that one is good.

@Dutch guy it feels like an orgasm but non sexual. The meditation can be found in his books. He also has a YouTube channel.

If you do that concentration exercise and then do Eckhart Tolle meditation you will get cosmic orgasms. Highly recommended.

Do shamanic breathing exercises to test your lungs. If you can do this exercise for 30 minutes you have healthy lungs and have nothing to worry about.

Road less travelled. It is basically the bible of self-help in my eyes.

@Javfly33 so he didn’t disown self help in favor of enlightenment.

@Javfly33 I think we are saying the same thing but from different perspectives. It has to do with paradigms. Everybody is stuck in their current paradigm. Somebody could tell me that meditation should be done for the purposes you tell me but that just goes right over my head especially if I'm needy as fuck. It has to do with spiral dynamics in the sense of one needs to fulfill their current needs before it can level up. By the way I agree that it is not a good idea to put all your eggs in one basket. Perhaps the topicstarter can comment on that in how far he has done self-help.

@Javfly33 that is in contradiction with spiral dynamics. Most people that come to actualized dot org are not zen masters. They in the lower stages. One can't just jump spiral dynamics stages. If you try, you will just fool yourself and people can fool themselves for a very long time.

@28 cm unbuffed I use the powder form and I mix it with water.

I take these: fish oil vitamine d Wheatgrass