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I learn well when I categorize knowledge. When I read a book I always see knowledge nuggets as something to store in my mental library. The trick is to categorize it as you gain it. Uncategorized knowledge is quickly forgotten in my case.

Kurds aren't the largest group without a country. There are many other ethnicities (in India) and elsewhere without a country.

Good one.

It is on the must read list: It is an amazing short book. Very well put together and the concepts in this book connect with the book Mindset from Carol Dweck. How I see mindsets is like this: according to your mindset you judge life experiences (such as successes, failures and effort). This book called "Tame your Gremlin" is focused more on your dark side. Your inner beast that a lot of people have a hard time taming. The book is basically focused making a distinction between your higher self (i.e higher observer of true self) and lower self (your Gremlin). It is a no nonsense book. I read it with two sits. It is a classic self-help style written book. Very reader friendly. I'm amazed it is not popular on this forum and elsewhere. 5/5.

How old are you?

@Thought Art @Thought Art thanks man, I will definitely pick up those 2 other books.

I have two big ones dangling.

@Roy that is true. Fear turns into excitement if you embrace it. I guess the only thing I worry (and thus not approach when I have the chance) about is my lack of smoothness, leaving too many empty spaces in the conversation and not leading. I think approaching a girl can be compared to dancing. Having couple of good moves that last couple of minutes is not enough. A good dancer is consistent for perhaps an hour. Last weeks I did do some approaches but this problem of not having a strong base is something I can't improve. If I just "be myself" as the popular advice goes I'm just silent and I think it comes off as boring. It doesn't work if you are trying to seduce for short term hookup. Girls want to have fun. Good vibes.

But there is Self, right? I thought "me" is just the universe.

My advice is to look for a nice guy, not the most attractive asshole that you might find attractive. About the gym: guys don't approach you because they have been told to leave women alone in the gym. If a woman wants to be approached by me in the gym, she has to give EXPLICIT signs that she is interested in me.

Damn, those things are expensive.

In the US water is dirty, in EU not so much

Home is here in the now. Drink that poison and open the gates to nirvana.

I alwasy thought US had more hot girls than Europe.

Your afraid of the thought of death. Not actual death, since you don't know how the ACTUAL experience of death will feel like. Old lady once told me: Now you are living, and you worry about that. When you die, you worry about that.

I just can't take stress because of my past. Learning code can be done through youtube and forums.

Being a wage slave has its romantic sides. One doesn't have to worry about developing oneself. Just going with the flow and if you play office politics the right way you are set but it is not all moonlight and roses as the video explains. Nowadays everybody knows you have to develop yourself. It is not even that most people don't want to develop themselves: they simply don't have the time, plan and resources to do it. I have to many issues to be entrepreneurial. For people like me being a wage slave is only option on the short run until I become a good enough programmer, which is a question and not a given. After watching the video above I fire got lit under my ass. I really need to develop some skills if I don't want to be used as a work donkey. A lot of wisdom right there in that video. I think on the market the only thing that matters is the value you give people. My best bet is to develop my programming skills or take an IT job in the government which is more humane. Working for the government doesn't sound so bad for me. Perhaps lower pay but you get less stress and more certainty.

I smoked 0,4 gr of Silvia (non extract). In no way a breakthrough dose. I took it to experiment. There was definitely no major changes in my perceptions but things started changing in my peripherals. There were holes. They seemed like a glitch in reality. It was not scary. More kind of funny. I started doing some self inquiry and that felt different. It felt like I could tap in my my inner child. I don’t know if that tapping into was taping into my real self. It felt wholesome and I felt connected to my feelings. I think the lesson I got out of this is that I have to be more connected to my feelings. I saw that there was a clear distinction between conceptional thinking and emotional thinking. All in all it felt like a great experience. A micro dose is between 0,5 en 1,5 grams. I don’t have intentions to surpass that.

True, tinder is depressing. Real life seems the only realm where average guys can get girls but nowadays a lot of girls are afraid of covid if you get close.

I always knew I was a fool, I just didn't know how to change.

How do those books work together?

The question is do you really want that? Tyler has the lifestyle and can get away with it. If you are an average joe and have a normal job, normal salary and normal lifestyle, I feel like it can get creepy. IMHO, maximum ago for pickup should be 35 years old or something. If you are 40 and trying to pick up 20 year old piece of hot ass... I don't know man.

Getting a girl is not even that difficult. Even the dumbest people in the world can get a girl. The hardest thing is to work on yourself and solve your neurotic behavior. Once you solve yourself, getting an average girl is like scratching your butt. Look at it like this: do animals like birds have trouble attracting mates? No, they don't as long as they are traumatized by something. They just use their instinct and intuition. It is the same for human. Attraction shouldn't require effort. Seduction does. I'm not good at seduction and I'm not focusing on that at the moment.

What about if you are a traumatized person? Is it not better for that person to develop and clean his psyche before taking psychedelics? I took psychedelics several times and most of them were bad trips.

Are they the same?