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You not understanding it is proof that Leo is right. ?

Books from Anodea Judith: not specifically one.

Talk to 10 girls and find out. Asking such a general question is useless. Perhaps girls like being gamed by your neighbor, and not by you, while both of you have cock and balls.

Yea, if you go to a bar, all girls will be waiting for you to be picked up. The point is that if you are bad at game you will suck no matter your logistics, both in the bar and on the streets. Getting girls is secondary for me. My primary aim is to just get the skill. Day game is low cost, high reward: the cost is 5-15 minute interaction, the reward is possibility of getting to know a nice girl. The girl in my OP showed the same reaction as the girl in the video. I just fucked it up somewhere in the middle of our interaction. The key is to be connected to your body (i.e manhood). It is in your DNA how to get a chick. What matters is developing the trust in yourself and belief that you deserve her which means no doubting about yourself. I'm doubting myself a lot. My problem is dissociation, I can easily disconnect from my body because of ancient fears (from my childhood) and get into my head (and go into interview mode). Doing pick-up by not being in your head requires training the auto-pilot. You really have to crash couple of times to stock up on some reference experiences so the auto-pilot starts working better. Problem is that these are very painful. Probably I will go to another city and just do some approaches completely on auto-pilot (natural way) and if I embarrass myself I won't give a fuck because it is not my home-city anyway.

It has to do with active-reactive attitude. Male energy is active while female energy is reactive. If their boyfriend or husband doesn't have that non reactive nature she will feel unsatisfied. A women want to be lead by a man who can hold tension, handle her and fuck her deep. Owning male energy has basically to do with being non-reactive to your own fear and other bodily sensations but also being non reactive to her shit tests and tantrums. It starts from the inside though. If a male is reactive to his fears and to her shit tests and tantrums, she will lose sexual attraction to her. Polarity has to be kept.

This is what I did wrong. I didn't keep man-female frame in the conversation. In the beginning I held it and she was interested (I could see that from her body language) and later she lost the interest.

Nice guys use niceness as an asset to get sex. That strategy doesn't work. It communicates that you don't have any standards. If a nice guy is being a doormat to get sex he won't get sex because girls don't give sex to doormats. Nice guys don't understand what girls want and girls understand what they want. It is the blind leading the blind. A girl wants somebody like her dad (I won't go deeper into this. It is a deep topic) but basically girls want a guy with standards and self respect. She wants to chase to get her prize. It has to do with halo effect.

That opener is very generic and good. Nowadays I always start with a custom compliment but I feel like that puts her on a pedestal. She knows that I'm going out of my way to approach her and talk to her. I always made the wrong frame in my mind that I put her on a pedestal when I do that. My frame is: "I'm a kid who is asking for candy". It is difficult because there are so many moving parts to pickup. I'm busy finding 5 interesting qualifying questions to ask her while I'm busy with that it is easy to lose frame. Natural game is hard because it is nonlinear. I rather just memorize 5 interesting qualifying questions and ask it back to back. In fact I think I will do that.

@Leo Gura Currently my balls are big enough to approach solo girls. I don't even know how to entertain two girls. About approach etiquette. It is needed here. Even during the day there are a lot of hot girls walking by. There are two uni's in this area. If she is standing or sitting, it is very easy to not be creepy but if she walks opposite direction to me, I find it difficult not to make it creepy. I can hard stop her (I haven't found good openers for that), or I can walk with her which can be perceived as creepy if she sees I make an u-turn just to chase her.

My only option for a date is taking walks. So I ask her if she likes taking ways and if she says yes I suggest that we should buy a coffee and take a walk in the park or city center.

@Leo Gura Nobody talks about approach etiquette. Do you approach every hot girl when you are out patrolling? Sometimes I have the urge to approach every hot girl and if I don't (which is usual) I can get hard on myself. I go to the city center 2 days per week doing 5 pickups per patrol. I'm very picky with girls and I prefer that nobody sees me when approaching.

A wise man once said: men are like dogs, women are like cats. Cats don't like to be chased while dogs do.

@Harlen Kelly who is Tay? soon I'm starting with the Todd's the System course.

Usually I plan a date on the spot. Something like: what about coffee on next Saturday at 14:00 or something. I'm not confident enough for instant pulls. I feel like she would freak out. I don't think she was that interested in me. Plus she had a bag of groceries with her. But I do get your point. Perhaps in the future I will try that. For now I'm just focusing on being able to do 10 approaches per week effortlessly and being able to calibrate. Currently I'm not socially sawy to calibrate in every situation and if I know I can't I just don't approach. That is my problem. I overthink it and I can't stop it. I don't really know where this is coming from. What I need to do is just to keep approaching but these kind of setbacks just have a big impact on me.

Since 3 weeks I'm doing day game. And before that I did some night game but I didn't know what I was doing. I was a different person last year. Me approaching and having actual 10-20 minute talks with hotties during the day is a huge success in my book. What do you think I'm doing wrong? Usually I have a strong presence, I show intention, and I get into her emotional space. I usually fuck up at the end by not knowing what to say or becoming nervous about the close.

Social situations gives social proof. I get what you mean but there are a lot of men on this forum and elsewhere (PUA community) that can get away with being a stranger on the street. The PUA community encourages to project sexual intent through non-verbal. I don't do that too much because I have a hard time creating comfort (apparently). I don't have a social circle with a lot of hot girls. On this forum people say it can be done. Some users said they have abundance through day game. In every topic, Leo recommends people to do day game. A lot of guys just don't have the balls to do it. I finally grew some but it is not enough. In PUA they say social hook point is 5 minutes. I guess this is not true. It is really about the emotional connection, not the duration, or social proof. I'm starting to get more into her personal rather than asking general questions about her life and qualify but I'm starting to believe it is a numbers game. I'm doing like 5-10 approaches for the last 3 weeks and it has been disappointing.

Just read both and find out for yourself.

I would be careful going back to that dentist after such an escalation. Like Socrates said: I can get angry too to get my way. Last year I was angry at an electronic shop for not taking their used headphones back. They sold me used headphones. Most people just accept their rejection and back off. Not me.

It depends on what kind of work you do. If you are programmer and you have low energy you will have a hard time working 10 hours. But if you are a babysitter, you can easily work 10-12 hours. I know people who are no babysitters but do the same level of intensity work and they work 10 hours per day.

I never do that because I forget what the book is about when I go back to it. If you make notes or underline it is no problem though. If I don't make notes I read it cover to cover in couple of days so most concepts stay online and I understand it cross dimensionally.

Get into Buddhism and do pranayamas. Breath work is key. It helped me.

I cam get my in June or something. They are vaccinating the old people.

Physical reality is Shakti which is the material manifestation of Shiva's god consciousness. The past is real as much as physical reality is real. The past is a root like the root of a plant. Your present has its roots in the past. But the past and present wouldn't exist without the seed of consciousness from Shiva.

This can desensitize your dick

It is a 5 week program. The author of the program is into eastern philosophy and Buddhism. Every week you get the theory and the missions of 1 of the 5 principles. This is a principle based program. I loved how James gives chakra references during the lessons. For example he says you should be in touch with your root and heart chakra. This helped me a lot since I'm in my head most of the time. You really need to do the exercises to get something out of it. This program actually made me approach girls a lot. He asks to approach 5 girls per day in some weeks. I couldn't do that but I believe I still got a lot of value out of this program.