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William B Irvine's book is really good.

Sometimes I don't know what to eat and in those times I don't think in terms of dishes but in terms of countries. Every region in the world has a certain signature. I let my taste buds or intuition choose a region and I narrow it down to a dish. It is not only what is healhty but also what your body needs. Learn intuitive eating.

True. It is not the thing but your relationship to the thing. For PMO was an escape. A lot of years were wasted while I could have used those years to date women and grow.

@dflores321 yea, it is kind of strange people still don't understand the effect of porn on porn addicts.

Same with me. Telling me to just squeeze one out is like telling a drunkard he can have one beer. It is not going to work.

My eye contact with girls has changed. I don't know what it is. It is not something I'm doing but a different way of being. I have been working on my solar plexus chakra. I think I look more alive. My eyes are bigger. It is crazy how the mind and body works. It is best described at this. When I'm looking at a girl I'm not sucking energy. I'm projecting energy. I'm not reactive. I'm proactive. It is crazy how subtle seduction is. When you have this masculine energy that I describe above girls will show submissive signals. I'm starting to look different at communication. There was this realm of communication through being that I'm starting to be more conscious of.

@Leo Gura please do post pics

Toxins aren't stored in organs. The organ liver only filters the toxins and deposes it. https://www.nourishingdays.com/2010/06/liver-qa-why-liver-is-not-full-of-toxins-and-where-to-find-good-liver/

Unapologetically being a man.

Some girls lose attraction if they know they fully `tamed` the guy. There is no mystery and game anymore. Especially if you were so easy to tame and she didn´t have to invest that much to tame you she will drop you like a brick.

If you had endure serious childhood trauma, you need professional help. It is possible to get help from forums and books but you can misinterpret this advice and do more harm than good. Trauma is frozen emotions. Emotions like anger that you couldn't feel towards your parents during the abuse. You disidentified with these emotions but you actually have to feel them to let them go. The negative energy needs to leave your body. It is very nuanced and it is hard to do it at your own without good professional help.

Good video that connects to what I said above about wielding grounded power and not giving your power away: Having said that wielding personal power is only an aspect of the whole picture. I have troubles with this part of the picture so I will be focusing on it for the time being. I believe this is a major sticking point with my PUA skills and I can even see my lack of power and the problems it causes in other areas of my life. I made a topic about it here:

What I believe is true turns out to become the truth. It is interesting how the brain works.

What I said the last two post in this thread connects to the thread I made a couple of days ago: Girls love a guy with grounded personal power (somebody who doesn't seek validation, but is the one who gives validation to others); it is basically power play. In every conversation there is an underlying power dynamic at work, language is a way to express this dynamic. Thus it is stupid to be so obsessed with language. If one focuses on language you are just communicating on the surface level. Most guys only communicate on the surface level and they are not aware of what is happening below the surface. Women are much more socially savvy and they communicate and pick up stuff on a much deeper level. It doesn't mean women understand what is going on, they think on a more gut level and say "I'm not feeling attracted to this guy and I don't know why" while the guy is being super needy. I always thought I could study the theory and get good with women. That is really half of the work. The theory part can be borrowed from others. The practice and the so-called muscle memory can only be developed with boots on the ground. Getting good with girls is really about programming the auto-pilot (unconscious brain). It needs a correct map of the social matrix; and have the confidence and ability it can navigate the social matrix

Building upon yesterday: In popular culture they talk about "pick me guys/girls". These are people who want to be picked. I definitely carry this energy. I think it has to do with my center of power. My history has conditioned me to give away my power to others. It is very counter intuitive to keep my power within myself so it can become - personalized - power. I have been doing some grounding exercises while being in interactions. I'm trying to be mindful of where my awareness is: is my awareness within my own body or is my awareness focused on the other person? The regulator of this awareness is fear. The more fearful I'm the more concentrated I'm on the outside world (scanning for dangers); the less fearful I'm the more concentrated on myself (my body). The regulation of this awareness is a balancing act. Sometimes I'm to grounded in myself and not aware of the surrounding. It can come off as uncalibrated but I don't care. I'm experimenting. What I noticed is that when I put my awareness on my body and just follow my instincts - without interference of the higher brain functions - I notice that I become more animal like. I didn't have the chance to experiment with this enough but women love this masculine raw energy. Eventually I will have to channel this raw energy into something refined, but fuck that, I think I'm going to experiment with this newfound raw masculine energy. It somewhat feels like being an animal. It is very strange because I'm a dude that is mostly in my head. Just giving no fuck and following these instincts and impulses results in a massive expansion in behavior and ego-boundaries. I'm making mistakes but I'm seeing these mistakes as reference experiences. At this stage of my development I'm giving priority to quantity over quality. Stacking upon reference experiences will give my auto-pilot more data and it will mean it will be more accurate in the future. Actually that is my current ordeal: being able to trust my (masculine) instincts and impulses and acting upon it.

Remove the obstacles that prevent you from connecting with other people. Attraction is effortless. Does the earth have any trouble attracting the moon?

Women aren't static. They change. Especially in their younger years some have very high standards and then they find out they are getting older and that 10/10 white knight in shining armor is not coming. Or she is fucking with alpha males and find out she is just getting used and if she is smart she will find the pattern of dump and dump. The older they get the more they will settle for a beta provider male. As a guy you should see through this scheme and chose your own destiny: get a good deal by being proactive!

I need to work on my frame aka inner reality. Being in touch with my own emotions is something I have problems with. Soon I will be posting ways I solved this. Not having a strong frame can cause to be flaky in the conversation and is it really weird that the girl will be flaky on you? There are really two components. Have a strong (masculine) energy and having strong/clear intentions/designs.

Cut porn for 3 months and things will turn to normal. It will be hard but if you want it hard enough it is possible. Your brain needs a dopamine reset.

@Striving for more If you are new, you are going to make tons of mistakes. Getting a particular girl you fancy is going to be difficult. You will be overanalyzing and be in a state inertia. Just get past the particulars and shock your system with a lot of experiences with random girls. With every interaction go out of your comfort zone by 10%. Letting go of attachment and neediness is difficult. I'm working on this myself. What I'm doing is, in sets I'm trying to be in my own body (with my awareness), instead of putting the awareness on her. If you put the awareness on her you will try to impress her etc. The moment she knows you are an easy catch or desperate she will lose attraction, if you are not above average looking or her particular type.

I'm on the path of becoming mildly muscled. It has a lot of advantages such as passive caloric burning.

Important insight I had last saturday about women: Experimented with being an asshole:

Go meta. Keep giving context. Persist.

I'm learning. Stop being a little bitch.

I did 7 approaches today to experiment with my new attitude. Being an asshole doesn't work. Especially if you are uncalibrated. Even girls that hook and qualify stop being interested after being so uncalibrated. This is how being an asshole does work: being an asshole 20% of the time + 80% being calibrated. Below is a video to see how it works out. This is an interesting pickup prank channel if you speak Russian or Turkish: If you want to be an asshole it won't work if you are an asshole right from the start. You have to first open-hook-vibe and establish good report/comfort and show value. After she has bought in you can display dickish aspects gradually. It is important not to lose the hook point. The more she is interested the more dickish you can become.