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Some people use this tragedy to project their daddy issues on Leo. The point is that you shouldn't do hard-core spirituality if you have mental or emotional problems and can't afford therapy. Is this fair? No it is not fair but this is how it is. I wouldn't do spirituality if I couldn't afford therapy.

Frame control nob: informal <> formal I approach 2 girls I the gym. In the gym I usually approach formal. It is not a place to do direct game because the chance of awkwardness is high. This is important: when being formal it is important to be congruent. If one is having a friendly casual chat, but one is subcommunicating informal (sexual or needy) things, it is a huge red flag for her. It is OK to play with the nob of formal and informal but your body and mind has to be congruent. I see formal game as what they call vibing in pickup and I see informal as hooking/attraction/man to women frame in game. Direct game: opener > hooking (informal) > vibing (formal/informal) > close Indirect game: vibing (formal) > hooking (informal) > close Evaluation: With the first blonde girl that I talked about. I got stuck in qualification phase. This is the first time I do game in the gym. I don't blame myself but I do have this tendency when girls don't give me a lot to work with. Next time I will just keep going forward instead being stuck. I noticed I disengage from my feelings and start thinking and get in my head during these moments. The second girl was a cutie in a crop top. Also in the gym. I saw her looking at me couple of times. I got really turned on by her. I did formal opener. We were vibing and suddenly I got really excited about talking to her and my vibe was kind of off. Same thing happened as with the last girl. I just stopped engaging and got in my head. I'm not really disappointed about these approaches. It is the first time in the gym and the first time I'm doing Indirect game. I still have to find my way around but I do get annoyed about getting in my head, stop engaging with her. The thing is that in the gym there is no hurry. I can play long game and it is better to take it easy and not take big risks. I will be using a different strategy in the gym than on the street.

To build upon my last post about frame. Game is really all about game and the ability to maintain and project it. I approached a 9,5 blonde girl in the gym. I had a frame of iron. She was all shy and reserved. She did qualify and id ask me some questions back. I know I had to push through but my calibration was kind of off. She was just rrrr. Calibration is key in game. It is really about sensing her vibe in a teakwando way and using her momentum to push your own momentum in your favor to create the desired man to woman frame. I'm too polite. Way too polite but I'm still doing better than 90% of the beta males around here. Now I understand how and why the 10% fucks the best females. Setting proper frame is comparable to fucking her. Not physically but mentally. You really have to catch her at ground zero and lead her to man to woman. In day game, the emotional frame of girls is not hyped up like during night game. Catching her at her ground zero is really important and than gradually upping up the emotional pumps. It is not about the words you pump in her. It is about the emotions you pump in her.

Luckily my therapy is covered by my health insurance. I wouldn't do spirituality if I couldn't afford the professional help.

I made a shift from word based game to frame based game. I was not even aware I made this switch but it was a gradual process. The last girl that gave me her digits gave me the insight. I was able to turn the conversation man to women and it was transrational. It was not explicit. It was implicit language. I used my words to point towards a frame, man to woman, in a span of 2 minutes. I discovered that it is very important to keep the lead. The moment you lose it the girl just get confused. I will be training leading my frame. This ties very well with psycho cybernetics: set the intention/frame and let go of micro management. Be instead of do. And if you do only do in broad strokes. Being certain of your frame is matter of confidence. If you spoke to hot girls and they liked you, you will carry that reference experience (past frame) with you to the present and the future. So when you talk to another hot girl, you will have multiple frames and more options to navigate the situation.

A 12 year old will have a parent to check in on him/her. That is why we don't need to build a world that is made for 12 year olds; they have their parents who will keep a short leash on the kid if he is being dangerous.

That won't change anything for his family. To come back at grounding. Especially for airy fairy types it is important to ground and integrate because if you don't do that, you will go "up" very high and then come back very "hard". I made an extensive topic about this a while back but it didn't get a lot of attention on this forum because it is not popular to speak about it. Unfortunately now it is too late.

Those two statements are contradicting each other. That is what I'm saying. To integrate one needs to relate.

When doing spiritual work it is important to ground yourself in Shakti. If he had studied Buddhism and then come to New age spirituality I believe he wouldn't committed suicide. Leo's teachings are dangerous to airy fairy type of people. I read the dudes post and he comes across as such. It is very easy to misinterpret Leo's teachings if the person is airy fairy. Spirituality should go hand in hand with grounding and integrating. Otherwise nasty stuff can happen.

Probably it was the psychedelics. People who have depression should be careful. I made a topic on this matter a while ago.

With RSD it is around 2k With others like The Natural lifestyles 3k and 4k <> 15k for a weekend Just look at this: I always wanted to take a seminar like this until recently. 1,5 months ago I started cold approaching without a coach or help; just self study. Now that I watch videos like this I'm like "wtf?" people pay thousands of dollars/euros to a pony tailed dude to tell them to say "Hi, what's up?", "You are cute", "what is your name?" to women? It seems people just pay the money so somebody can tell them and give them the permission to approach another human being. Of course there is feedback you get from the coaches but just buy a recorder put it in your pocket while doing approaches and you can listen back to yourself. This seminar is not even going further than the pickup phase. This is how you can simulate a PUA workshop: Buy a recorder to record your interactions Go to a neighboring city (not your home city) and this will significantly diminish your approach anxiety; and just be yourself even if that causes shame Find a good balance between theory and practice; if you are too deep in the theory; stop studying theory until you took equal amount of action Find a PUA friend so you can do it together; he doesn't even need to know PUA; I found one who is just a natural

@Muhammad Jawad my condolences

Sexy, beautiful and especially feminine women love brutality. Condition: the brutality has to be in a tamed way. Uncontrolled brutality is a turn off but if you can show light hearted genuine brutality she will shake on her legs from excitement. Being a horny dog is much better than being fake and nice to her. I still have this "wankerness" inside me; I will need to take my time to integrate and transcend this part of me.

Hookup culture is different than dating culture. For dating they look at long term value in a partner. For short term they don't look at long term value like what your education and fat your wallet is. For short term the only thing that is important is how she FEELS. If she feels she want to unzip her pants for you, you need to get the logistics straight and make it possible for her to do that. Plant the seed in her brain and make the plant grow.

There are many variables that contributed to my success. I changed too many to single a variable out. Stopping FAPPING really turned me in a beast though. Now I know that busting one out without putting in the effort to get a girl is no option anymore, I changed. I can´t really put it in words.

Another unexpected approach. I went to the supermarket. There was a brunette with beautiful green eyes. She had a face mask on. It was hard to read her signals. I thought she wasn't interested from the nonverbal and verbal signals I was reading. I decided to burn the set down and decided to close within 3 minutes because why not? The store was almost closing; I had to close it. It is the FRAME, not the words. The words are only means to an end and this approach proved it. We only exchanged like 4-5 sentences but a lot of meaning was within those sentences. In a certain way communicating in a subtle/implicit way is better. The few sentences and words you exchange are packed with meaning and the chance to fuck it up is smaller because the more you talk the bigger the chance you can fuck it up; and the less you talk the smaller the chances are you can fuck things up. The conversation was so silly. I literally talked about a random product. She didn't respond. I saw she was shy so I couldn't judge if she didn't like me or not. There wasn't disengagement though; she smiled shyly so I proceeded with a random transition in the conversation... I randomly asked about what she was doing after work.. She said "Nothing".. I teased with saying "so no parties tonight?" kind of teasing and lowering her value - at this point I really had to cut the conversation because the store was closing: I told her to give her number to me so I could invite her to my friend's party. She had to think about it for 2-3 seconds and she said yes. She wrote her name and phone number on a piece of paper and gave it to me. After this alteration she even didn't look in my eyes. I said "talk to you later" and I left. I really don't get women. Why she didn't look in my eyes? Previously I thought these girls were above my league but they aren't. Women just operate in a different way. I still don't get them. Something says to me that she is going to flake but let's see. Fuck these women. I'm doing these pickups for myself and to expand myself. If there is one thing I learned about women: if you don't care about yourself, they won't care about you!

Approached a really cute girl today on my way home. She was very happy to be approached but she had a bf and she had to catch the train so I had to keep it short: I decided to say something witty, it was all or nothing, "do you want a second boyfriend?" while smiling, her body language said yes but her mouth no. I was surprised I was able to say something dickish like this out of nothing. I couldn't capitalize on the situation but I was happy. I was kind of surprised of myself. Last year I was in ashes.. I really did rise out of my ashes.

Ever heard of the bitch shield? Those girls can have a nice personality once you get through the barrier. This has nothing to do with PUA by the way.

Recently I solved a lot of my problems because of certain wisdom I gained. I don't know where this trigger comes from. I have this repulsion to share. It is probably to keep my edge with survival against others. Also I won't get credit for it. I think there is nothing wrong with this but another part also feels bad about it. It is a matter of power. Why would I give my power away to my peers?

Pushpull in my book is about balancing positivity and negativity. Unfortunately girls react to negativity so I usually lean towards that.

It is classic push-pull. Nothing special. It can be trained solo or in set.

Pickup is very comparable to two people playing piano on free style: Most people have trouble talking random shit to a random girl for 5 minutes. If we use the pianist analogy... If you are a pianist, how can you play a duo with another pianist if you can't even play a random tune for 5 minutes? For a piano piece to be enjoyable there needs to be a tune. My problem is that I have catchy tunes but there are huge gaps within the piece. I need to learn how to play freestyle piano for 5-15 minutes straight without big pauses in them. Pickup is not only about playing a catchy tune, that a girl might like, it is also about matching the other person. Your tune might be a very catchy tune, that you like but you also need to consider if the girl can match your tune in a melodic/harmonic way. If she can't she won't feel comfortable playing a duo with you she will feel out of place and stop playing with you. The two pianist have to play a piano piece that is in harmony for it to be enjoyable. If the piece is not in harmony it will feel very awful to the ear. A good piano play is played from the heart and feelings: if you play the piano mechanically, forget about it! You won't enjoy playing and she won't enjoy playing. With piano playing requisite variety is key; lateral versus vertical Leading requires pro activity. Passivity and waiting for a female to lead is just stupid. Just keep playing different tunes and see which one she likes; she will play along with you if she likes the tune. The more tunes you have up your sleeve the better. Girls expect you to lead the piece, and she will follow. If you can't even play the piano for 5 minutes and be enjoyable to yourself, don't expect her to jump in and do your job for you. If you leave huge silent gaps in your play, forget about it. My sticking point is the last point. A lot of times I just freeze up and stop playing "piano" and the girl just looks at me and feels uncomfortable. I have seen girls that liked me a lot in the beginning stop liking me or flaking on me. I never got why! Girls will never say in your face "you can't play the piano!". Women are usually good at playing the piano but they are not good in leading. It is my job to lead the play and if I'm fun, she will happily join me and we will get this:

@Raphael when it first came out it was cutting edge, now it is... meh..

I couldn't do any approaches the last couple of days. It has been rainy. Only option is approaching in the mall but that is kind of weird with the face mask on. Only did some flirting with the female staff in the supermarket. Usually I would totally freeze when I see a stunner. Now talking to stunners is second nature. My body demands me to talk to them so I do it. To staff or places where I come often I don't use direct game. I flirted with two female staff to practise my indirect game. Something I don't have a lot of exp with. Indirect is much more difficult than direct. Opening and hooking was flawless. This is how it went: I spiked a good amount of emotions but for some reason I couldn't capitalize on it. I didn't know what to say. It is hard because I'm used to direct game and in that context I have enough things to say. Unfortunately with this indirect approaches I got in my head very quickly. I don't think I did something wrong. I just don't have the muscle memory with indirect game. What I noticed that I go into interview mode when I don't know what to say. I need to work on making pushpull statements, observations, teases and just fucking relax so that I can build that mental muscle memory. What I lack is that basic rhythm/vibe in the conversation. The two girls were very hot. Just amazingly hot. I didn't have any problems with showing and projecting intent. One month ago that was a different story. I would quiver and act very giddy and unattractive. I'm glad I made this progress. The next plateau I need to overcome is having that basic rhythm and vibe in the conversation.

I have trouble with always having stuff to say. There are moments that I just blank out. Having a wingman fill in the blanks helps me a lot. I can also pick up on the vibe he is sending out.