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@tsuki hm. I told her multiple times.

@Nahm I always try to make people try to understand me because I was never understood by my parents. Therapy is so confusing for me and after what you said it became even more confusing. Depth psychology and the archetypes in particular gave me a road map and access to source energy so I feel like it helped me. I feel like a different person but problems don't disappear over night. Perhaps it needs time. I still have some OCD, laziness and such. True. I meant this: she never addressed my intellectualization. One or two times she told me that she didn't know how to help me but that was a long time ago (like 8 months ago) but since then she told me we started looking eye to eye.

What about a gay person? I'm not gay but I called a therapy office and I had a good connection with the therapist who is probably gay (I could hear it from his voice). Sometimes I do this. I felt like I didn't make any progress so I started reading depth psychology myself. Unfortunately she doesn't have knowledge of this topic. I made major progress with the help of Jung's archetypes. I believe if I didn't do this self-study I wouldn't have the progress that I have right now. Jung's archetypes are a great template for self-development and energizing oneself. To be honest she did help me do that, but the real problem is my intellectualization of my problems. She didn't know how to deal with my intellectualization I guess which is her problem. She is getting paid, not me.

@flowboy Thanks, what I found out is that I need somebody from my own age. Older people don't understand my struggles. They grew up in a different age. I'm still thankful for my current therapist. I was sad I couldn't visit her anymore but perhaps it was for the better. I still have to read those books. My current book list is too long.

My insurance covers it. I think the core of why I'm going to therapy is to self actualize. There are obstacles I explained that is withholding me doing that. Especially bad childhood, OCD and dissociation are big topics in my therapy.

For god sake just stop with the psychedelics. In my opinion, psychedelics is only the cherry on top of the apple pie. What really counts is the apple pie which is spiritual work. Psychedelics is just a booster. If you are stuck, you will even get stuck even more. Last year I made the same mistake. It is like holding down the gas while the clutch is in neutral. It is very bad for your health, you will age like a mother ****er on psychedelics.

35 is the perfect age to settle down. After that it will get complicated and difficult. If you have status, social circle, money, you can pull it off a little longer though. The bottom line is this: your looks are fading, perhaps balding, so you need to compensate your age/looks with something else like I explained above.

greatness is relative anyway

You got angry when I used that word and now you use it yourself hahaah.

Girls like masculine energy. I won't go into detail what that entails but what girls want is very selfish. I had a hard time accepting that although my requirements of the opposite side is equally selfish. I discovered that we want the polar opposites of what we are + we are looking for the opposite sex to heal our trauma's in a conscious or subconscious way. This also counts for girls: they want masculine energy + somebody who can scratch their traumatic itch. There are actually ways of finding out if a girl has a traumatic past (most do) and you can cater to that.

@Lyubov how did you develop the fuckboy frame? Which sources did you use?

Distances in the US are bigger so people are spread over the land and so are the hot girls. There are a lot of fat women in US compared to Europe. Guys are willing to pay more to get in a room with the fancy people.

I don't get why nobody talks about salsa dancing. There is always a shortage of guys with salsa dancing. You get instant report. And most girls go there to find a boyfriend. With the new lockdown the clubs are closed so I don't have an option anyway. You hit two birds with 1 stone: learning to dance and socializing. It is like shooting ducks. Why go to fucking expensive clubs? Here in Europe hot girls are everywhere.

Take a broader perspective on addictions. Read the best books on addictions so you get a mental map and understanding of your problem. The problem is not your porn addiction. If you find a way to defeat it, it will be replaced by another addiction. What they say is that addiction is a distraction from suffering, trauma and deep hurt that you don't want to face. If you have a off day. Lock yourself into a room and do nothing. Don't even think: that is another distraction. Let the shit come up but you need to be prepared mentally as I said. Get therapy if possible.

It is weird because you think it is weird. When you think you are weird for not holding a drink, stop your thinking and question it: is it really weird for not having a drink in your hand? Perhaps the drink is just a distraction for your lack of social skills. Having no social skills: that is weird!

I find that one of the least weird things about him to be honest.

How do you befriend a group of girls? I'm afraid they expect me just to pay for stuff.

It is a cashier girl. So I don't want to date her. There are two reasons for that: I go to that store every week and I don't want things to get awkward. And secondly if she wants to do something with me she has to initiate. Normally I always initiate with girls but this a little experiment. I want her to want me so much that she invites me to do something with me. So I already know her for half a year and when she sees me she is excited and asks me how I'm. In the last half year we literally talked about everything: we already know about each other's lifestyle, we talked about products, hobbies, joked a lot about things. Yesterday I noticed that things were getting a little bit boring: we already talked about everything and secondly she looked like she had a bad day so the vibe was off. I know I could just ask her out. I don't want to. This girl is a little experiment I'm doing. I'm trying to figure out how I can vibe things up so much that she will beg me to go on a date with her. So how could I do it? For the guys on this forum this might a fun experiment. It is a good way to train non attachment.

@Salvijus I don't like only teens.

Feminine energy is submissive but people can misinterpret what I said. Couple of days ago I said I don't like women above 30 and I got a warning for being sexist and judging women on their appearance. ? I really don't take this forum serious anymore. I put a complaint to Leo and he didn't even care. If the mod bans me so be it.

I wish that was true for me. DMT fucks up my circadian rhythm while cannabis doesn't do that.

Perhaps I chose the wrong words. I prefer somebody who is willing to work on the relationship. Some people simply don't want to improve (!). I'm constantly working on myself so I don't expect anything from the other that I'm not putting on the table.

@Gesundheit2 true. That is why I want a moldable girl who can be taught.

Hot, blonde, funny, submissive, bubbly, intelligent, and ambitious.

Be authentic. You can do everything by the book but if it isn't you she won't buy it. Guys can sniff authenticity. So if you are smiling and it is fake; forget about it. Even if you can pull a fake good smile eventually she will smell it. So it is rather to have a normal smile (and be authentic) than have a huge fake smile (and be unauthentic). The problem is that when you are new you don't know what is being authentic. It is an incremental process: build it slowly.