StarStruck

The ecstasy of real sex is much better than porn. The smells, the intimacy, the sweat, the immersiveness and interactiveness is unmatched in my opinion. I think it depends on what your kink is, my kink is a girl´s submissiveness.

I had it once or twice when girls ask a financial favor in an indirect way, indirectly signaling me so I get the hint and buy her something. It is a very clever way of doing it because it is covert. For example: This girl told me she is cold, that her coat is getting old, that she doesn’t have another coat, and some other similar remarks. I acted like I didn’t get the hint and just showed sympathy for her coldness. Is this the right way to do it? I only knew this girl for 2 dates and she started ignoring me afterwards. She probably found me boring and then tried to degrade me to a sugar daddy. LoL.

There is nothing to understand, they are more emotional than us, while we are more logical.

Yes, I offered her my coat but she said no. Haha, I undestand but thanks. I already bought us pizza, coffee, we went to a lounge. That investment from my side. In my view investments should come from both side, we dated twice, it would skew the investment ratio in the relationship. Anyway, the real sticking point for me would be to find ways to become more fun and entertaining to be around, which should be the real issue of this thread. David Hawkins stuff helped me to become a less negative, depressed person and be more loving and upbeat in general but I'm no where close where I have to be. It is true, it happened more than once that girls blocked me after a date. It isn't the coat, guys. Especially where I'm from girls are not that materialistic. They want connection most of all.

I want her to have sex with me because she wants me. If I have to buy a coat, I rather go to a prostitute. Also the problem is not this particular girl. The problem is I'm not very emotional (apathetic) and a little bit stuck up. I rather spend my money on some kind of therapy to fix that, rather than to pay that money for coats. No, why? She liked me when I approached her but she got bored. People can change their minds. Also I don't look very rich or something, nor am I old lol.

Yes, I liked her. I'm not going to lie, she looks stunning but she also had a kind and warm personality. The first half of my time with her was amazing, the second half was getting boring. I wasn't surprised she blocked me.

No, she really liked me when I approached her. I could see it in her eyes. I just messed it up by being boring, not knowing how to game her. The thing is that, I had girls tell me I'm boring so it would be a disservice to blame her. She is a very beautiful girl and she deserves the best. I could afford it. Agreed

We didn’t even have sex. She blocked me after the second date. Girls block me because of lack of connection. I rather spend money on myself to fix myself rather than paying for coats for girls so they tolerate my presence.

Does this mean Leo will stop with writing his book?

The book procrastination equation helped me to stop my addictions. It sounds weird but it is too complicated to explain it here.

Not only that. Judging them in general does wonders. If the man doesn’t set the frame, she will do it, against your interests.

That is what I was thinking. Perhaps Leo has a plan. Now everybody wants to hear it while before it only a few would give a rats ass.

No, I'm definitely boring. I heard that I'm boring once or twice. I'm working on it though. When girls find me boring (I can see it on their face), they always try to pull that trick of getting something material out of me. This pattern happened more than once so I got a good nose for it. I just need to be more fun and add more value to the dates. In that case, they won't ask me for material favors because she already got hers if you know what I mean. I mean I do get it. They go on a date with me for the fun, perhaps I'm a little boring and silent at times, and they think, what they heck am I doing here? Let me at least get a coat out of this. Haha

I have been thinking about the same and I honestly there is no magic pill. You just have to run through your karma; be weird, needy, get it out of your system by acting it out and noticing the neediness in your body and letting it go. Mindfulness is indeed curative.

The first thing he will be doing in Kiev is to put-in.

To boil it down it comes down to thinking versus feeling. if you feel too much start thinking and if you think too much start feeling. Talk from your emotions and feelings. When you enjoy the other will. And if they don’t it is their problem.

Go out and take some dancing classes instead of staying at home with your dick in your hand. If you are average and not weird, you will at least some reference experiences and you will start getting out of your shell. Put yourself in situations that are structured for people to socialize.

I know I'm the Self, but so are those other people who never awaken, suffer all of their lives and die a miserable death, without awakening.

Some people never awaken, what about that?

From the book letting go: ”when we look at the truth of what is behind the feeling we have already moved up the scale from apathy to fear” I obviously get what Hawkins explained here but according to the scale there is the feeling grief between apathy and fear. Does that mean we can skip LOC levels? I read two of his books and it is a bummer that he doesn’t address such basic things.

I don’t know if that metaphor fits. According to spiral dynamics one can’t skip phases. One can only pass through it very swiftly. I think the same counts for the LOC model but I’m not sure.

My opinion on Julien RSD: The only RSD instructor worth your money is Tyler. All the other instructors are just monkeying Tyler.

This product is fairly priced. It is about 300-400 dollar. But if you really want to get to the core just buy the book the charisma myth and human magnet syndrome. You will be off a lot cheaper. Julien is usually all over the place. I don’t like his teaching style. That is my personal opinion. He also has some book reviews on his channel. If you are smart just read the books he is reading and you won’t have to buy is programs.

True but there is a difference between doing something out of fear (out of survival) and doing something out of a higher more positive emotion. This. And he should also get into transactional analysis. The book games people play is great.

Ask the question “what for??” to get to the bottom of the feeling. Keep asking that question. And eventually you will find out that it is about fear and survival. Back in the day it was important that people liked you. Not today. So let go of that fear. if you are afraid you won’t be able to create abundance anyway. It is an inside job.