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@A Fellow Lighter “When we supposedly ‘give things meaning' what we're actually doing is attempting to discern purpose. In this, we can be right or wrong about the meaning of something. ” so could we say intention is the cause, meaning is the effect?

It is not about the techniques. As long as the prana is moving.

Some major shifts in my perception about dating: Thanks to the work of Robert Moore I learned that real shifts in perceptions come through crises. One should actively look to create a crises in one’s life to initiate transformation. This is what I discovered about people and women. In summary I learned I shouldn’t put them on a pedestal. I did for a very long time and I knew I shouldn’t but now it just clicks. Lessons: I overvalued physical beauty. I was a servant of obscurity/devil. The tragicomic thing is when you don’t value the thing you will get it thrown on your lap A woman is not your mother. She doesn’t love you for you. She loves you for what you mean to her. don’t take advice from a woman on how to be a man if you want to fuck around with girls, position yourself rightly. Physical, emotional, mental weakness is punished. Strength is rewarded. It is really true that in your figuratively speaking darkest hour, you will find salvation. So don’t postpone the darkest hour. The answer is within but you need to seek it outside yourself to come to the conclusion that is not outside of yourself: you already have everything you need Change in perception is the deepest teachings

Try finding a wing. It will cut your learning curve considerably. Like how a cub learns how to play and hunt by watching his older siblings.

Since I joined the local gym I have been observing myself and others in a social perspective. How come some people get to make social connections so easily and others not? Some people obviousaly don't want to but if you are a well rounded person, who is young and who is looking for a mate social capital and status can be very valuable. My observations in the gym Girls don't have to be approached. They become part of the cool club because the cool guys will include them Alpha male group don't approach beta male group If you are not part of the alpha male group you have to approach them and demonstrate you are part of them by confidence, lightness, fun, and expressing yourself People who are part of the alpha group are very present and not stuck in their head I still don't get why I have to push myself to become social. I actually did push myself out of comfort zone and made two loner fitness buddies whom I train with but I still haven't managed to become part of the cool club. The cool club consists out of 10 dudes or something. I befriended 2 of them but I kind of got awkward and got a sensory overload. This shouldn't be that hard because I see other new comer dudes in the gym ( like me) who became part of them in less than a week.

I might friendzone this older lady I'm dating. She is older than me and I fall for young girls. Also I don't want to ruin my friendship with her. We can connect very deeply. I'm just afraid we will have sex and I will get bored very quickly and it will ruin things. She is also very jealous and constantly looks at me if/when I look at other females which I do. The thing is that I'm just too weak to say it to her which is my problem in life: being weak and being indecisive. Soon I will have to be decisive and I will have to force myself to do it because now I'm procrastinating doing it and the more I wait, the harder it will become to friendzone her. She is already getting touchy and trying to invite me to her place and shit. I'm not into sex anyway. I'm doing sexual transmutation which is a Buddhist practice to transform sexual energy into creative energy.

This girl I met through a party wants to go on a date with me. She told me she broke up from her 3 year old relationship. It will be our first real date and I was wondering how to handle this situation. In the past, during different dates, I caught myself ending up as a therapist for the girl. I don’t want that to happen but at the same time I also don’t want to be OCD about it. What topics to talk about and avoid?

This is why I stopped with 5 MeO. All the suppressed shit gets released.

I’m getting into MBT treatment. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mentalization-based_treatment

If you assume the worst you probably have some traumas. Do CBT and MBT treatments if you had any traumas and if you are serious. No need to reinvent the wheel.

Focus on doing, not on thinking or having. You can realize it now or wait until things get very dire and realize it then. I recommend the book "The Obstacle is the Way"... your emotions will tell you what you are avoiding, find it, and face the problem. Most people don't want to do the emotional labor but there is no way around emotional labor. Nobody can do it for you.

There is an instinctual aspect and a mental aspect of it. Your instincts just want you to spread your genes. Once you have done that your body to chillax. Obviously you are deceiving your instincts when watching porn and you should not do it or keep it to a minimal (or in proportion). And the mental part of it could be more complex, it really depends on your programming.

Cheeky bastard

So I had a date, the first in a long time (like 5 months): I just realized have much I have grown. Last year around this time it would have been unimaginable going to dates like this, especially with a girl like this. It is really about grabbing life by the balls. I'm still very hesitant about grabbing life by the balls but there is definitely improvement. There are years of bad conditioning so it is not weird that things need time. A major sticking point is my vibe, I'm still not chill/tranquillo like I should, but compared to last year, there is a major positive shift in my vibe. I know it is bad to compare myself to others so I'm not trying to do that but I can't help myself. So my main focus will be to fix my vibe, which won't only help my dating life, but help my life in general and prop up my quality of life. I'm not sure how I'm going to do this but I will be doing a lot of meditation, mantras and release work. Apart from that I have noticed that I've started to simp on this girl which is not good. Before the date she responded to my text every 30-60 minutes and now she does every 3-6 hours, which annoys me and makes me overthink things. This is an example of my problematic ego and I will apply release work on it. He is not IFS licensed, unfortunately.

No. She was definitely receptive because she was asking what I was doing tonight. I just didn't want to break my no-fap challenge which is much more important than a girl for me.

What do you think about kissing? Do you always try to kiss on the first date if you like her? She was a little shy so I was hesitant to do it. Good one. By the way, I had the date and she didn't even mention her ex. It was a nice date. We ate a pizza, went for a walk, ate some ice cream. I was like this in the first 10 minutes because she looked so stunning like those blonde female tennis players and I could tell she was disappointed by my vibe, but I quickly let that go through letting go and pranayama. After that it went only upwards. At the end we vibed very well but we weren't in the park anymore and I really didn't find a good opportunity to kiss her. Excellent points

There is even something better = hot peppers will give you crazy erections, it is nuclear food

I had a date last weekend. She was a little older than me which is unusual because I love younger girls. It was a great experience and I learned a lot from that reference experience. She has a great heart. Perhaps I should give her a chance. My recent discoveries is that my traumatic past has a huge influence on me. Something that I can't change over night according to my therapist. It is not weird that a lot of girls don't like me or that they disappear after the first couple of dates. I'm a wounded person. I'm heavy on the heart. Younger girls like light hearted guys, that is just the facts that I have to deal with. Level? What do you mean? He is a psycho therapist.

It is not about the openers. It is about the vibe. Not caring about the outcome and just enjoying yourself should be your main goal. Those two things are already a huge accomplishment if you can pull it off.

This will lead to the slow but steady disintegration of the Russian federation. It is a huge blow to the collective Russian ego and minorities will smell blood. On top of that the Russian economy is slowly getting dismantled by the sanctions. I'm expecting Russia to become much more aggressive because it is seeing the writing on the wall which will only accelerate its demise.

Not so long ago you uploaded videos of yourself and you had hair?

You too, Brutus?

Excellent channel: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLbZsCM6xnLIXEhjIKukYuWX9tn9VVpGAf A lot of value right there and it is for free! I read a lot of books on chakras and this guy just knows his stuff. Don't miss out.

Yes, I'm doing IFS and very recently I started using matras during meditation

There is really no out of the box solution for this. For some they have to get in touch with their inner femininity so it will spark their inner masculinity.... And for some it is that they are too feminine and they need to spark their masculinity. In general you want to balance your inner femininity and masculinity and become a whole person and when you meet a feminine girl, she will polarize you and you will become masculinity through your instincts. It is really about listening to your instincts. Do no fap, if you can't feel your masculine instincts. This work is about getting in touch with your body.