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For me Buddhism solved my addiction to porn. They already practice semen retention for thousands of years and the benefits are already proven by science. You really can't find the solution to your addiction in a forum post, you really have to dig deep into yourself and use spirituality.

You have to take a leap of faith but also not be foolish about. Give her indicators like touching on the leg/arm, then face. Hold eye contact, if she allows you to look into her soul, you have a good chance.

@Leo Gura I guess they don't need to understand our needs. In a PUA I think the vibe is the point of contact between male and the female. It is what she judges the male on. Internally the male could the masculine but if it can't broadcast it it doesn't have an effect. Vibe is also a snapshot of your personality and you get judged on it without mercy: especially in the beginning. I befriended an obnoxious pickup guy who is a natural and he has zero game and just rolls on confidence/vibe/masculinity. It was such an eye opener. All the things I thought I had to be were false. It was a humbling experience too because this guy has nothing going for him and they still chose him. He just blasts his vibe onto the girl, holds frame and keeps the vibe going. That last part I have trouble with and I think it is just a matter of exercise, presence and experience. This is what I meant. I want to get this PUA frame down before I will look for a serious relationship.

I got friendzoned by her as expected. I would have been a miracle if she didn’t after I flinched and acted shy at the end. She is still up to hang out as friends. Energy/vibe one radiates and frame is so important. Before pickup I was totally blind for this. I’m not even angry, disappointed and sad about this happening. I get it. The difference between men and women We males just get off from a girls physical beauty. Females get off from the vibe of the guy and if you don’t have the vibe you just become an annoying dildo that doesn’t understand her needs. Females have an over abundance from guys to pick from so they pick the ones with the qualities that they don’t have themselves: masculine confident character traits. As girls they understand our needs and that is why they wear crop tops and makeup and shit. As guys we should understand their needs too. It is simple as that.

Rigidity is not good but having no skeleton and being a clown is not good either. The phrase "buy me chocolates" won't even work if it is not delivered the right way. Especially if it is done in a clownesque way, instead of a confident way. Holding frame is nonverbal, it is staying energetically grounded. From this place you can get away with a lot. If you are energetically reaching, it is creepy, you will be seen as an energetic beggar. The basic enemy of being grounded is fear. For me, my fear is messing up the set, which I (probably) did by fearing it. It is a self-fulfilling prophecy. Testosterone (which is in the body) will they you what to say and what to do but you have to keep grounded in the body, if you start fearing you lose contact with - your balls - and move up in your head. With pickup you basically want to stay in attack mode, not defence mode but at the same time you also have to be receptive to see how much you can escalate to not over-escalate. Shit test, which this thread is basically about, are basically to see if you can hold your ground.

Dating is really about self-development and gaining self-knowledge. As another user said: people are mirrors, you are basically looking at yourself. Don't be a monkey who looks in the mirror and think there is another monkey in the mirror. No, it is just you. Especially girls just give back the vibe you give to them. If you give bad vibes, you will get bad vibes back or they just ignore you. So you have to work on yourself, get to the root cause of your negativity and process that/let it go. It is difficult work.

Learn from girls and how they do it: Ignore Give short answer Be dismissive In other words, you don't need to spell it out. Just give hints and most will bail. Spelling it out is rude and should be avoided unless she is trying to push the envelope.

@Leo Gura I was getting the phone number of the one with the crop top and the other was equally cute. Perhaps even cuter. She said you are not going to get her number too(from the other girl)? I said “what? you guys want a threesome?” And they giggled and said yes. I’m still not sure if they are serious but if they were they aren’t going to bend over backwards for a timid nerd which I revealed by flinching haha. I don’t even want a threesome. One is enough.

Sometimes I'm confused what the difference is between a concept, belief, principle, thought, and so on. A lot of them are synonyms but a lot of times there are fine distinctions depending on the context it is used. Is there a book on the book list that explains these metaphysical differences?

My English is bad compared to the other languages I speak. It is not even my mother language. Yes. It is confusing me. I find it strange that Leo doesn't have a video on these simple basics. How can you even communicate complex ideas when people don't have a firm grasp on the basics?

If she likes you a lot she will put up with business mode for a while. Yesterday I had a date with a little older women than I usually date and it was no business mode at all. If she already likes you it helps a lot but I notice that younger girls (20-25 years old) expect a lot more vibe from me. They are more girly and expect a lead of the vibe. This is really my achilles heel right now.

This is great work. Thank you.

Inertia is death. Movement is evolution into the direction you want. So identify your next move and do it. It is as important as planning shit out.

For how long? I'm always socially exhausted after 1-2 hour into a date and I go into business mode

How dumber you are how better it is… And I have noticed that how hotter the girl how dumber the guy is she is attracted to. Pickup is also about observation really. Observe other successful guys. Especially observe people who embody your alter ego (the opposite that you identify with). So I’m a guy with a broom up his ass and I found a guy who is exactly the opposite of what I’m; he is dumb but fun, not negative but positive about everything, does put people down but with a wink, and is just a nuisance and a narcist. It is unbelievable but girls just eat that shit up. It was infuriating and eye opening. It is what it is. My core beliefs about dating just crumbled even more than it did.

Being fake Ego =effort Faking the being Putting on a front Overcompensating State spiking Button pushing Unnatural Forced Reactive Micromanaging Stuck in your head Second guessing Not letting control go Competitive Getting high when it does work Any result is temporary Being real/authentic Comfortable putting yourself out there Relaxed Fun State is the default Non-reactive Natural Indifferent to approval/disapproval Comfortable in all environments Effortless Outside your head!! Collaborative!!! Any results is permanent!!!

Israel is the Muslim world’s last problem. I don’t get why you guys are being worked up by a piece of land while the majority of the Muslim lands are a smoking hole to put it nicely. Let’s get our priorities straight and develop ourselves. Israel is a beacon of civilization in the region.

This channel is my favorate on the topic https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLr0wsqIKlulvUUspVwWHHeZ0KkdAhyaVd

@Yarco my rule is to only leave 4 tabs open. More than that just clusters my mental RAM. When open links and I find information useful I put it in my common place book. that is how I roll.

Do you guys have a system for open tabs? How many tabs do you have open in your browser? ?

Nice scene from LOTR is a great analogy for shadow work Wormtongue (trickster) = shadow ego (unconsciousness) Theoden (the king) = ego that is stuck and trapped by the trickster White (Enlightened!) Gandalf = outsider/guru/conscious psychologist

Going on a cinema date this Saturday. It is the older lady (36 years old) that I talked about previously. I feel I can learn a lot from her. It kind of resembles the main character of this movie: guy falls for an older woman and she shows her what love is: From doing pickup I noticed these things it is just disturbing how ignorant people are of basic psychology within the pickup community. Men suppose to be good with women naturally. If you aren’t that means you are broken in some way. The way is to heal yourself but the problem is that pickup gurus don’t know shit about psychology so how can they help these broken people? They could do a far better job if knew about psychology which unfortunately they don’t. There is a lack of integration between the pickup theory and trauma psychology. The same counts for people who are doing enlightenment work. Most people don’t know shit about psychology. Know at least the basics from Jung and Freud… and especially know about the archetypes. Just such foolishness even on this forum and this forum suppose to be high ranking on the spiral dynamics mode? LoL, how are you going to dismantle your mind and unlock your mind if you haven’t read about the foundation of psychology? There are no books about it on Leo’s book list which tells a lot. and most shocking is my discovery that most therapists don’t understand psychology. They just scrape by and do what is enough to earn a living. They barely know anything about Freud and Jung. We live in an insane society and everybody is just playing along.

Pocketbook Color E-reader, it is great to speed read on and just the most valuable physical asset I own although I own much more expensive things

I couldn't find any on the book list. What is recommended?

According to the dictionary it is the relationship between two things, or the intention (of the relationship of the phenomena for the individual?). My mind gets stuck at this point. Is the meaning we give things secondary and consequential? If that is so how does that fit into cause and effect? If “meaning” is the effect, what is the cause?