Raptorsin7

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  12. Posted

    1 hour ago, Leo Gura said:

    There's definitely valuable lessons to learn from living among hippies. Just don't get stuck there.

    In the end those hippies are full of shit, just like everyone else :D

    What matters is not the average awareness of any community, but YOUR awareness of yourself.

    Yeah I'm conscious of that. I'm not sure where I'm going next, but I have another week here and then I'm serving at a 10 day vipassana course, so I'm hoping to get some inspiration on where to travel next 

  13. Posted

    21 minutes ago, How to be wise said:

    @Raptorsin7 I’m guessing you’re not the ‘loner’ type, like I expect most people here are.

    Do you tell them to watch Actualized videos?

    I am a loner type, and no I don't personally watch Leo so I don't reccomend his videos. Although I do mention i post on a spiritual forum 

     

    10 minutes ago, How to be wise said:

    That idealisation doesn’t exist. Don’t fall into the ‘avoidant trap’. It’s basically when somebody deep down is afraid of being in a relationship, but outwardly they think that they haven’t met ‘the right person’, and they use this as an excuse to keep intimacy away. 

    Firstly, there’s no way you’ve never met a girl you’re attracted to. ‘Strongly’ is just another avoidant trap, an excuse to not be in a relationship. As for ‘click with’, let me break it to you, you will never meet someone identical to you. Everyone on this planet is different. The only pre-requisite of a relationship is that she accepts your lifestyle and values, and you accept her’s. If that is set, there’s absolutely no reason to not be in a relationship. 

    I recommend reading the book ‘attached’ by Amir Levine to learn more about the avoidant trap. 

    Yeah I cam see how I am in that trap.

    And yes there are some women here who catch my eye, but it seems like I would just be forcing myself into a relationship not because I really feel drawn to someone here but because I'm needy and ill take what I can get.

    I'm also hesitant about jumping into a relationship unless there's a stromg attraction because there may be someone for me on the othetside of patience.

    I will likely be travelling more after my 2 week volunteer commitment so it's possible I will meet more people as i travel 

  14. Posted

    15 hours ago, aurum said:

    @Raptorsin7

    What blindspots does the Actualized.org community have in comparison?

    I think this forum has many people who have not integrated the values of hippies but because they have a lot of knowledge they think they are somehow beyond that stage of development.

    I think part of it is due to being anonymous on the internet. But there's so much autism and emotional retardation in how people relate to each other here.

    I think the biggest blindspot would be that many people would consider the average awareness of this community to be higher than that of a typical stage green eco community, when I think it's the opposite.

     

  15. Posted

    15 hours ago, EternalForest said:

    How do you feel about those that are lone wolves now?

    I think it limits your growth, especially if you've never fully integrated living with other people in a happy and healthy way. 

    I am/was a lone wolf and I can see it's a largely a defense mechanism to avoid dealing with the uncomfortable reality of dealing intimately with people.

    I think the path of myself as a lone wolf will be to visit communities and grow and then slowly find a place to integrate into long term so I can heal and thrive with other people 

  16. Posted

    18 hours ago, spiritual memes said:

    Has this experience changed your political views or views around masculinity?

    Yeah, I'm much more open minded towards progressive values and politics, but I still have a sense the entire political system is broken and a shift to community living is where the solution is, not in large scale leftist governments.

    Here I've dropped any sense of judgment towards gays, trans people etc, I see that everyone is just doing their best and I am no position to understand or dictate how other people ought to live.

    The men here seem to be much more intune with their femininity, so that's something I'm hoping will rub off on me so I can become a more integrated person 

     

  17. Posted

    On 11/24/2022 at 7:42 PM, Sincerity said:

    Good for you! For the sake of experience and different perspective I would very gladly go myself.

    Idk what to ask really. Anything you don't like there so far?

    If you could write up some small report afterwards or notes on what you've learned I'd be happy to read it. :)

    I'm planning to visit more communities while I'm travelling through Europe for the next few months so I'll have more perspective.

    One thing I'm longing for is a deep relationship with a women, but I haven't met anyone here that I'm strongly attracted too and click with. But that may be also due to me not being on the right place to be available for a relationship 

  18. Posted

    13 minutes ago, Ulax said:

    @Raptorsin7 How would you describe the energy?

    Very chill, non judgmental, open, warm, some people struggling so you can sense its not all sunshine and rainbows.

    I'd say it's a very cool place to visit and experience, but I have a longing to visit other communities and see what's out there. 

    A big lesson here is that I'm motivated to explore other communities and learn from the diverse experiences of the people who live there 

  19. Posted

    Just did my first naked sauna. It was on my mind since I first got here, and I'm happy I pushed myself to do it. 

    I feel insecure because flaccid my penis is smaller than average, but erect I'm not insecure about it, but this is a great lesson in self acceptance and accepting that I am not perfect 

  20. Posted

    5 hours ago, Zeroguy said:

    What have you learned there?

    I've learned a lot, but here are the main takeaways.

    I've learned how trust reality and to stop feeling the need to control my path. I continuously accept and surrender to what's happening and the steps on the path are unfolding spontaneously now.

    I've become more tolerant of things/people I used to judge. Single mothers, trans people, gay people, hippy etc. I don't judge them and I feel great humility in not needing to be the morality police.

    I am expanding my comfort zone and I'm pressing up against deep fears, like being naked around many people and living in a tiny room with 3 other people.

    I feel it's easy to spend hours meditating while living here. Today I spent a good 3-4 hours meditating and I'm growing the confidence to meditate in public spaces. I had a women interrupt me to talk, and we had a great convo and I didn't need to do anything 

    I've learned from the lives of other people. I'm interacting with such interesting and diverse people. Everyday I connect with new people and have conversations that blow my mind

  23. Posted

    Wow I am loving this hippy community. It's pretty amazing how much my life has shifted since I left my basement to travel.

    I am meeting some incredible people in this community. I believe I will spend some significant time here, it feels like my destiny is to be here and to evolve, and also to evolve the community.