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You look very pretty ?

@AdamR95 Maybe work on integrating stage red masculinity. From your picture and writing style I get a sense that woman are repelled by a lack of masculine/assertive/alpha energy

The first part of your post is why I look sideways at any parents who are eager to facilitate the transition process on their children. You are basically dooming your child to social ridicule based on your own need to be morally consistent and woke

I'm more just trying to understand what people consider transphobic compared to what people think is acceptable. Clearly if people have a preference against transwomen/transmen theres some baseline lack of acceptance compared to natural men/woman. I think this entire trans movement is born out of people deeply misunderstanding their own suffering and identity. But I still think trans people don't deserve persecution or hatred

Yes, this is a very good sign imo. Keep feeling into that sensation in the crown until it dissolves itself and the crown opens

I always said I was on the wisest mother fuckers on this forum hahaha. It's all about love. We are loving beings. Let's see if I hit some kind of dark night, but as long as I keep loving the love isn't stopping.

It's all about love from here on out. Love and let Love.

Love Love Love

@Buba What kind of meditation were you doing? Love is your salvation. Learn to love. Contemplate what love is. Love is awareness. So because you are always aware you always have love available. It takes time but learn as much about what love is as possible. If you learn to love, no more problems

I wish everyone on the forum love and good fortune

Happy Birthday man

@soos_mite_ah Do you think having a preference that excludes trans people is inherently ttransphobic?

Yeah I agree about being skeptical about woman giving dating advice. Although I think @Emerald makes good points and I wouldn't dismiss her analysis on this basis. But I have noticed the phenomena of woman saying one thing about what they find attractive/acceptable, only for their actual behaviors/lifestyles to resemble the opposite of what they were saying. I made a thread a while ago about men not valuing a woman's success in dating, and initially the woman responding were offended etc. Then after a few comments you could see how the opinions started to change in the opposite direction.

Okay thats fair. I agree anything Is possible, but it's not very useful when having these kinds of discussions. Like its possible that a serial killer is actually very woke and loving and he kills for love, but in discussing the psychology of serial killers this kind of point is kind of nonsensical

I understand that and I don't think a man can guarantee success with any one woman based on objective factors But even in last part of your post you said theres very little about female attraction thats objective... So you think the majority of men can have success with women if they dont meet the objective criteria I listed above? My view is that for higher quality woman, which is what most on men here probably want, you have to have be sufficiently attractive in an objective sense before subjective factors come into play. Like how many woman will honestly turn down a confident, tall, good looking, wealthy, emotionally integrated, and happy/peaceful man.

I'd be curious to know if there are any trans people who chose to transition after finding peace. I'm assuming that trans people get surgeries etc bevause they think it will solve their suffering, but if they were already there would be no need to make such a change.

@Emerald But don't soft factors come into play only when the objective criteria is met? How many woman would choose a short, financially unstable, emotionally unstable man with low confidence and low leadership quality? If we're talking about quality woman with comitting to then I'd assume virtually no one. Once these criteria are met sure there are lots of subjective factors that come into play, but you've effectively eliminated the vast majority of men in your dating pool based solely on objective factors. It seems misleading to emphasize subjective elements of female attraction, when what matters most is objective factors given what I wrote above

What if they had a penis, and were able to embody masuckine traits? I don't think not having a preference for trans people necessarily makes you transphobic but you have to understand why people have preferences they have and the impact. If everyone in society was not transphobic but preferred non trans people, then you have a sort of systemic transphobia. Similar to how people argue you can have racist systems, without a bunch of individual racists

The thing is I think your partial agreement around the emotional issues is a driver for your preference so in that sense it can be viewed as transphobia. I think people hide behind their preferences out of fear of judgment, and likely because they want to maintain their self image as a progressive person etc

@KennedyCarter What if they had reassignment surgery?

I think a lot of people hide their transphobia by clinging to their preferences. They can say oh it's just my preference to save face and believe they aren't a bigot etc . I wouldn't date a trans woman, I just don't believe an emotionally well adjusted person would mutilate their body over beliefs around identity.

https://www.youtube.com/c/SamaneriJayasara This channel is run by a woman and has high quality guided meditations

@TK2021 Why so hostile and aggressive? You can make your point the same way without all the extra baggage. It's such a poor way to communicate, unless someone provokes you there really is no reason to engage like this.

I find that meditating right before bed is great. It's like i'm already relaxed and capable of relaxing because of the melatonin

@hamedsf This is not true. There can a lot of benefit of being in a place that imposes structure on your meditation practice