Raptorsin7

@soos_mite_ah Based on how you are perceived my members of the opposite sex for dating and sex. It's an amorphous topic, but I have a strong intuitive sense for how it plays out in reality. And there are concrete aspects. Tall, muscular men with handsome faces have high SMV. Short, scrawnny men with poor body language have low SMV. Why do asian woman obsess over white men asia? Because they are viewed as inherently more valuable because of their race. Everyone wants to secure the highest value partner they can. It goes back to cave man days, and evolutionary psychology. Tall, strong, competent men can protect and kill others, so woman feel safe and secure, and their children will have better genetics.

@something_else Because IR is so clean, and I don't want to type more than I have too

@soos_mite_ah SMV= Sexual Market Value and IR= Interracial Dating

In my opinion, the issue for asian men is that they have the lowest perceived SMV and so when it comes to IR or normal dating they are seen as less valuable and so they are fighting an uphill battle. This is a very uncomfortable fact to consider, and my concern is that most dating coaches (idk about the guy above I couldn't find any relevant videos) simply ignore this or downplay it's significance. Why I resonate with a guy like John Elite is he deals with the harsh reality, rather than sugar coating it for people and avoiding triggering people. I grant that he has unresolved emotional and psychological issues. Nevertheless, it's all about where the student is at when it comes to coaching and helping, and there is still tremendous value to be had from people who appear toxic. There are many sages in the world who are not saints. People can speak the truth and still have shadow issues, it does not mean they are not speaking the truth because they have unresolved issues. I see your point, but you can have people who appear happy and at peace but are still full of shit or are dishonest for some other reason. I'd rather have a dysfunctional person who is in touch with, and speaks the truth, vs some guy who just appeases his audience and doesn't want to trigger anyone because it's bad for business, like so many PUA coaches. I think most men interested in pickup don't necessarily want a LTR right away. I don't consider myself as into pickup, i'm actually getting coaching from John Elite, but I'm interested in just general self improvement and not pickup, but I think it would be fun to be a devil and sleep with lots of woman for a bit, before I consider settling down. My main point is just for asian men to be wise in choosing PUA people to listen to. There are many supposedly wise people on this forum who lead people astray with their poor advice about pickup, and I just wanted to state my opinion.

I just started following this PUA asian guy called John Elite. He talks about some harsh truths about dating men, like how only 1/5 asian men will procreate and 50% of asian woman(likely in the west) will marry a white guy. Does this guy deal with harsh realities like that head on?

Very interesting thanks. I will try the transmissions at home and see if they effect me

@Mz HydeI'm going to start working with this pua guy above. I think there is a lot of promise here. I am not really interested in pickup, but I think this guy will help me with a military approach that I need to get myself out of this apathetic state. I already had 1 call and it was incredibly enlightening. A lot of things were tied together.

I just booked a 1-1 conversation with this guy, and spoke to him on facebook. I have never been so excited for a conversation. This guy is a mystic in a pua's clothing. He speaks the truth

Maybe I don't. But my warning stands nonetheless. Therapy and meditation should be enough to make you healthy. At the very least make sure you stick with those.

I want you to take a step back from pickup until you don't have the psychology of a crazy person.

Yeah, yeah. It won't be funny if you get a sexual assault charge or some of other bs like that. Hurt people hurt people. Until you solve your root issues you are a walking liability

What's so crazy about salvia? Any kind of suffering dissolves if you just stay with it long enough without getting entangled in thought loops.

Keep doing practices like this. Be careful with pickup. You have the emotional constitution and psychology of a sociopathic right now, you could really hurt someone until you get yourself together, My advice, focus less on pickup and more on practices.

@Zeroguy @Nahm Riddle me this. If you understand and can successfully manifest, I want you write 1 million dollars for raptorsin7. You manifest 1 million dollars and then send it to me. If it's as simple as open mindedness and letting it come, what is the issue with my request?

I never get the stuff on my dreamboard. What changed? I am going to write I want 1 million dollars now. But I bet i won't get it

How did you learn to manifest?

@Jacob Morres I just made it up. Because I speak from conscious presence so I generate wise quotes lol

Do you have a meditation practice? If so, what kind of practice are you doing and what is your perspective on how the practices are unfolding? You can literally transform your personality in an instance if you can get in touch with deep repressed emotions and sensations

@Raphael Speak from your own conscious presence. Become in touch with the present, and act spontaneously from this conscious presence. I don't know if you can guarantee it will be the right decision. But you will be acting with integrity because you are speaking the truth, as the truth. It's also consistent and reliable, because there is only ever this moment. So when you make decisions while in touch with the moment, you always know where to go if you want to speak the truth, and with integrity.

Not really a concrete answer. But it does take my to own presence which is significant. Here's the thing. I already know what it means to be healed and well from my psych trips. It's the same transformation process every time. I lay down, i become very sensitive to what I feel and the sensations of the body, and if i'm able to feel into my sensations and not get distracted I will have a breakthrough. The breakthrough completely changes my perceptual field, I lose virtually all suffering and discomfort, and I have this amazing clarity and equanimty. My goal is to live from this space. And the first step is getting in touch with my own presence. Yeah I definitely have issues with my diet, health, etc. But I don't know how to all of a sudden satisfy these basic needs. It takes tremendous discipline to eat healthy, work out hard etc. I try to work out or eat healthy, but I give in to my addictions very easily. I can see how I need to address my base as well, but Idk how to go about that in an effective way. All the advice just seems to be just do it. But when it's so much easier to get sucked back into addictions then it is to have iron will. I was thinking of doing some kind of medtation retreat or wellness retreat in the near future, I figure it could be like my rehab and give me a chance to start new habits with a clean slate. I may consider an ayahausca retreat too, but I dread having to drink the tea because I can't even look at psychs without gagging now, so I bet i'd just throw it up. I don't really have survival issues in the sense that I have money or safety needs. I'd say I have issues with discipline, relationships, and direction. But take relationships for example. How am I supposed to just go and get my needs for intimacy satisfied. I view woman as sex objects, and the kinds of woman who I would be into would not be into given my current situation and emotional constitution. I can see the wisdom in getting my foundation solid, like my diet, exercise etc. But I have no idea how to approach that successfully, and also I'm not so certain that solving those issues will get me what I want. I already know what works from deep meditation and psychidelics, I don't see the sense in turning away from that to solve basics without a clear undesrtanding of how basics will move me forward. One thing I tend to see on this forum from guys like Leo and even Nahm, is when they don't know how to answer a person's questions or give specific guidance they default to the amorphous just solve your basics. As if it's that simple to just develop strong habits, healthy relationships, end your addictions etc.

Nice diagram. Do you have any sense on how to work with this knowledge? Like I am aware that I have issues with shame, guilt, and grief and I can feel the discomfort in the assoicated part of my being. But then Idk what to do about it. I've only managed to make real headway while on psychidelics, and even then it's not guaranteed

Too much talk and conceptualization, not enough time spent in proper silent meditation/contemplation

@Mz Hyde I was just listening to this rumi vide, and I could feel my whole body light up. It felt great. This kind of thing is what I think will help me progress in life. But these kinds of feelings seem so fleeting and rare. I guess they are becoming more common, but the question is how to make this kind of stuff my default way of being.

Yeah, so this journal right now as you add to it in comments they will all be held under this specific title. You can make as many journals as you want, and then all the comments from each journal will be self contained under each heading. So this Journal can you assist me, will be the title and contain all these comments you make. You can edit specific posts as well

This is a good point. When I ask the question it immediately leads to the my presence, but still I am suffering. This question silences the mind, but I still suffer. I don't know why. I just know when I took psychs, there is an energetic process that unfolds that ends up with me feeling incredible clarity, bliss etc. I just know that right now I am not there, and I feel dissatisfaited with whatever i'm feeling now. I don't know. I think psychidelics would be the best thing for me right now, but when I take them I get nauseous and bad headaches so I'm trying to go without. I think I can't fully surrender and accept whatever arises, I still cling and have aversion to certain feelings and sensations so I remain stuck on the hamster wheel. No I don't have a plan. I have a decent sense of what I want. Money/wealth, work I can sink myself into, and either a relationship or fun casual sex. I try to contemplate and ask god/myself to show the path on how to achieve this. But so far almost nothing. There's a rumi quote about how we can ask all from ourselves. But idk why when I ask I don't get clear answers.