Raptorsin7

How do you know this?

Are you financially self sufficient?

Do you have any concerns about waiting too long and not being able to find a compatible partner after focusing on your own career? Would you be content being single and successful and not having a family?

@soos_mite_ah That's interesting. I would be very curious what goes into those stats. Isn't that circumstance the nightmare scenario for many woman?

I don't think this is true. I think it's much harder for a successful woman to find a suitable partner compared to a successful man. You are free to believe whatever you want, but just because someone sais something that comforts you doesn't mean it's true or helpful in the long run

That's not incorrect though. I think there are many modern woman who find themselves in a situation, mid 30's or higher, where they spent so much time focusing on their career and now that they wish to pursue relationships and a family they have a very limited pool of partners to choose form. You are a speaking to a population of men that is very tiny. How many men would be compatible for a highly successful career oriented woman who desires a man of similar socio-economic value?

@Forestluv Yeah it all depends on what people value. I would value children very highly others won't

@Consept Great point. Thank you If an attractive woman was happy with me living at home and taking care of kids and I was free to do whatever I want and spend however that would be cool haha

Did you read the earlier posts? There's a circumstance where modern woman are achieving high financial success, and as a result they expect to partner with men of similar socio-economic status, but because men don't value success the way woman value men you have an entire group of woman who have priced themselves out of the dating market. If you are a 35 year old incredibly successful woman who is having a hard time finding a suitable partner you would care. And if you are a young woman in her early 20's wondering how to spend the next 5-10 years of their life i think they would care too Haha. You are missing the point man.

I'm talking about what men value in a relationship. Personally I don't value a woman's potential to be influential on society That's not the point. The point is that a woman's success doesn't enhance her value in the eye's of men to the same degree that a woman value's a man's success. It's not that a woman's success is unattractive, it's more that her success isn't all that attractive.

But there are many high conscious men and woman, and i'd imagine a lot of these people will go on to make great partners in the future. Understanding there values and preferences could be very helpful

No, it's actually not bad advice. You have countless examples of men here saying how they don't value a woman's success in the same way that woman value a man's success. A woman who spends who wants a family and a good partner, who spends her entire 20's working on a good career is doing herself a disservice in many ways. Of course for some woman they may be fully content being successful and don't value traditional relationships, kids etc. If you were to tell a woman hey it's all good focus on your career and when you're ready you'll have no problem finding a high value man like yourself, I think that's malpractice

Yeah i don't relish the idea of being in a relationship with a career driven person tbh. What does a typical career require of a person, 50-60 hours a week? There is only so much time and attention in this life time.

In my view my children will likely be one of the most valuable parts of my entire life, I would hope a potential could see the importance of having someone dedicated to raising children. A woman in a traditional role has the potential to pursue interests as well, homemaking is not a 24/7 job. Especially as kids grow up

Maybe for some men, but personally I have no interest in a powerful woman for marriage

@Emerald @Forestluv It's not just about men being threatened by successful woman. There are a lot of costs associated with becoming a financially independent person in a first world country, for the vast majority of people it will take great sacrifice to become successful. I would find it very desirable for a woman who is willing to value family over her own career prospects so I can pursue financial success. You may view that as me being intimated by a successful woman, but from my pov that's not what's happening. There's a reason there aren't two presidents, or two commanders of an army. In almost all cases power will shift asymmetrically in one direction.

@Arcangelo Thanks for your input arc

I don't think i'm atypical for a young western man. I could be wrong maybe i'm unique and men don't value woman the way I do. Hopefully you're right it will make it easier for me to find a partner in the future haha

I'm not shaming them, i'm expressing my preference and value in what I want in a partner. I value looks and character more than success and ambition. I'm not shaming successful and ambitious woman. I don't have to find those traits desirable

I'm not a saying woman should do anything. I'm stating my preferences in a partner. I'm free to desire whatever I want in a partner. I will not be shamed, bullied, and guilted into changing my opinions and preferences. There are many woman who have pursued their own goals and purposes to great effect. I think I could make a great partner some day and I want what I want, if anyone has counter ideals and goals then so be it.

I don't agree taking it this far. I think the issue occurs when woman want to be career driven and self sufficient, but also highly value a relationship and the potential for having children. A woman in her 20's can spend 10 years climbing the corporate ladder and becoming a successful self sufficient person, but when it comes to finding a relationship it won't enhance her value in the ways many woman believe it will. Personally I would find it attractive if my partner went to a good school and studying something interesting

Where do you believe the attraction towards work ethic and ambition comes from? Also imo I think strong work ethic and ambition are of akin with status and high income. The kind of people who will be high income etc are the one's who have a strong work ethic and big goals, and vice versa. What does this mean? I think many of these woman are after the traits you're what describing above but as a result of their higher success they also have higher standards for what they expect. Success and status are proxies for character traits like intelligence, ambition, work ethic etc

@Zeroguy What do you mean

I feel the same way. Have you noticed this trend with your female colleagues? I'd imagine a professor/academic would be at the forefront of this phenomena

@Preety_India Haha okay I'll try thanks for the tips