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Okay that's really interesting. I think I would travel to a bunch of different cities and try a bunch of different stuff and see what I like doing. I am not a big party person, but maybe it could be fun to do it in a few cities with a big group. What length of time do you think is ideal for solo travelling? I think I would want to spend at least a few months but I'd also want to spend some time in just pure isolation too so that would cut into the trip

Haha that's funny you mentioned hostels specifically. This has been something i've been thinking of, I have a strong resistance to staying in hostels. I love being on my own and I think I would find much more peach being on my own and just renting a solo place. But at the same time I think I would be missing out on so much growth because I'm taking the path of least resistance here. I think I would some compromise where I stay in hostels for part of it and stay on my own for other parts

Wow this is kind of dark in hindsight. I would not have read that thinking this guy wanted to commit suicide but I guess you can't really tell. Well at least moving forward we can be more aware of this kind of stuff

That's interesting wow. I'm planning on going on solo trips once covid is over i'm hoping it'll be a good growing experience. It's definitely tough out there good luck with dating hope it works out

@intotheblack Ahh interesting thanks I think this generation of people will see lots of single people. The red pill community talks about this online a lot, but I think many people aren't aware of the epidemic of single people that is occurring in many developed countries. Are you originally from North America? Where did you move from and where to? (Don't have to be specific if you don't want to, maybe just continent or region if you're more comfortable)

@intotheblack Do you have any sense of what the dating market is like for woman around your age? Also, I guess this is kinda tough and personal, but would you consider yourself someone who is desired by men you desire or do you struggle to find compatible people in dating? Do you have any sense for why you were single for 5 years?

I would be very surprised if it became a trend for men to date older woman the same way men date younger woman, but I guess it's possible. It's depends on the age disparity. Like a 35 year old dating a 25 year old isn't a big deal imo, especially when you consider the emotional maturity of both partners. I think it's odd when someone dates someone who is very dissimilar in their mindset and emotional maturity

@intotheblack Hmm yeah I guess 10 years is a pretty big disparity. But you don't think there's a double standard with men and woman dating older vs younger? I couldn't imagine dating an older woman. A few years younger or maybe the same age sounds ideal

@intotheblack What do you think of the other stuff I wrote?

@hyruga So you would be open to it? See it's kind of like a catch 22. A man who has high character, loving etc would they be the kind of person who entertains a poly situation? I would like sideways at a guy who claimed to be high conscious but who who has a relationship with 6 woman or something. But if a person is a genuinely a good person then maybe it would be a good situation to have multiple partners. I think most men are low quality for relationships so it would make sense for 1 guy to have lots of woman

35 is pretty old. High risk pregnancy starts at 35 for woman, and if you are that age you are limited in the amount of children you can have. Also, when it comes to dating preferences men prefer younger woman, so the dating options for a 35 year old woman are severely limited compare to 35 year old men. A 35 year old man will have no issues dating woman 25-35. A woman who is 35 will have severe issues dating men who are 25-35 etc I think you run into problems with this mindset too though. How many people have followed this philosophy only to wake up in their mid 30s etc and realize they want a family or a long term partner but their options are severely limited. I think the dating options tend to dry up quick as you approach your 30s. I'm 25 but I hope I don't end up in my mid to late 30s looking for a partner. I have an uncle who's in his late 30s and it's sad to see him try to find someone. I think that same situation is way worse for woman.

@intotheblack What percentage of men do you think you find desirable for a relationship? 5,10,20%? I think a lot of woman want the same small percentage of men so it's kind of inevitable that some woman will get left behind, so dying alone or accepting some kind of poly situation may be the only options available. I think there is an unfair double standard that works against woman. I would be willing to settle at a certain point but even then if there were no desirable options I would be content to die alone, but I also think it's easier for a man to adjust his desirability to woman than vice versa. So this more of a problem for woman than men.

@intotheblack I'm not saying those are the only options lol. I'm mostly speaking to the demographics around being single, like the stat about 3/4 of black woman won't be married or the epidemic of being single in Asia, and what the options would be for people in these situations. Like imagine if you are 35 year old single woman who is having trouble finding a partner. Lots of people are on a trajectory of dying alone, but maybe some of them would look back and think they would have rather shared a man. I mean in Islam you are allowed up 4 partners haha Not that I agree with this personally. I think the ideal situation is to have 1 partner, and I think men who deal with multiple woman while claiming to love their wives or partners etc are delusional

@Being Frank Yang Very cool congrats and good luck

@Being Frank Yang Ahh very interesting. Is there anything further on the spiritual path to pursue or understand, or are you effectively done seeking? What are you pursuing now?

@Being Frank Yang I've seen visions like these a few times when I focus on the third eye on LSD but i always found it kinda distracting and useless. Do you still get these kinds of visions post enlightenment or is the state more functional?

@Zeroguy I know I had his instagram too. I would never guess from his personality he seemed pretty reasonable and grounded. I think he deluded himself and took the spiritual philosophy too far. Check out the thread in meditation section, it's blowing up.

@Zeroguy Remember @SoonHei? That guy jumped off a bridge. He claimed some spiritual justification about death not being real. Pretty serious stuff. I feel for Leo he's getting crucified. His sister is even blaming Jed a bit because he messaged him about it.

This is a good lesson on getting too caught up in spiritual lingo, and not grounding techniques and concepts in reality. There really doesn't seem to be anything wrong with @SoonHei's logic around life and death, given the commonly understood concepts around death, infinite imagination, love etc. Can anyone here say with certainty that what he did was WRONG or BAD? But at the same time, at least for me, there is an intuitive sense that this guy was missing something crucial and behind his spiritual jargon there was a deep misunderstanding or immaturity. As much as we want to talk about blame and members taking more responsibility here, I think this is a very unique case. @SoonHei seemed to have good mental health and a reasonable mind. I don't see how this could have been prevented, and to blame Leo or Nahm seems very off.

@Zeroguy Well I think I am a narc and I can't run away from myself haha. I'm not saying to keep her, I would never get in a relationship with someone with any thing close to a personality disorder.

That all sounds great but in theory but in practice I never see anyone live up this kind of spiritual jargon. Can you shift into the parallel reality where you manifested 100 million dollars and send me a mere 5 million? Just shift into that vibration of consciousness. Infinite potentiality right?

@Zeroguy Why not just have sympathy and understanding? But at the same time these kinds of people are dangerous and you have to protect yourself first and foremost

@Anon212 Nice sounds like a good call. Take sometime and really evaluate what direction you want to take. You're young enough where there isn't a lot of pressure to get it right quickly. Don't commit to something that there's a strong chance you will regret At the same time if you do pursue a PhD program you can leverage it in unique ways, and you can certainly find a streamlined approach to course work where you can be far more efficient than your average PhD student.

Frank Yang has sparked a non-dual war on the forum haha. Not sure who i'm going to declare for

Haha let the non-duality wars begin