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@Peter Miklis If you have multiple children, would you not have a strong relationship with all children, even if it's not necessarily equal. Respond to above and then maybe edit your post

@DefinitelyNotARobot But couldn't you also develop a strong and intimate connection with multiple partners? Imagine a circumstance where you are with 1 woman, and she has 3 very close friends like her, who couldn't find a partner because high value men are more rare than high value woman. This could be a win-win-win circumstance. I see no reason why it's not possible to have an equally strong relationship with multiple woman

Lol. Believing in curses tells everything a person would ever need to know about another person. Be careful I might curse you

@Peter Miklis I disagree, those qualities I listed above will correlate with being a good father. Show me psychopaths that are interested in emotional integration lol

@Gesundheit2 I'm just responding to a phenomena i've observed. Aren't you guy the guy who thinks he got cursed, and thinks that actually impacts your life?

Looks are only 1 part of the equation for an attractive man. A man can be conventionally ugly but still be incredibly attractive if he checks the other boxes.

@Gesundheit2 We are already at this place friend. Look up stats on single woman in Korea and Japan

@Peter Miklis Here's a tiny list of high quality characteristics imo: High intelligence, emotional integration, confident, leadership qualities, tall, financially successful I'm saying that high quality men are by definition attractive to woman, and vice versa. It's not a perfect overlap, but I don't think anyone would say a homeless a guy is high quality, and I doubt many woman would be eager to partner up with a homeless guy

For those of you who were once spiritual seekers but reached the end of the path, what was it like at the end of the seeking process. How did it unfold? Did you uncover past memories, emotions, etc that were the main blocks? I'm sure seekers on this forum can find this very helpful.

@Javfly33 Heal the wounded child in you. This guy has great content on this subject.

Do you think you're maybe having a manic episode and you've deluded yourself into thinking you've had a spiritual break through?

Sounds a like a recipe for success

@Emerald @RendHeaven I can speak to this from direct experience. In the story I wrote above what sparked my motivation to change was my dad yelling at me and threatening to kick me out. I came home late one night and my dad got mad at me and made some off hand comment, I didn't think he was actually going to kick me out, but it caused some deep fear/worry that kinda woke me up and motivated me. I disagree with how Leo approached the comments, I bet he would regret that comment if this guy actually harmed himself, but there is something to be said for saying/doing something that cuts deep to shake people like this out of whatever emotional/mental web they are caught in.

@InsecureAnon Hey I can relate but from a different angle. When I was 19, I'm 25 now, I got really insecure about my hair potentially falling out. It kinda happened over night, one day I noticed my hairline and then I realized based on my genetics I'd be bald young and I completely snapped. I got depressed for a full year and I basically went into a hole. Everytime I would look at a guy I'd analyze their hairline. I could tell if someone was going bald, early recession, perfect hairline etc it was a disaster. I would look in the mirror all the time to hyper analyze my hairline and I couldn't go a day without it consuming my entire thought process. When I finally got over it, to a large extent i'm not fully over it, I basically 180'd my thought process and life, and let me tell you man I was never so happy in my entire life. I reached a point where I felt like a completely different person and I couldn't even remember the old version of my self. I reached a place of great equanimity with my hairline and my overall view of myself and my ability to function skyrocketed. You can also 180 your thoughts and feelings towards your height. They key is acceptance and embracing everything associated with being your height. You must love your self at 5ft8. If you think someone who is 6ft + is happy and loving, then imagine you were that height and how you would feel about yourself if you were that height. You can also look for people who are 5ft8 or below that you admire and respect. I remember I was obsessed with Michael Jordan motivational videos because he was a badass bald guy. I realized Michael Jordan was the apex of a human and bald, so I could also reach that level. These are just examples, they may or may not work for you. But fundamentally you must accept and love every part of you that you have gone to war with over your height. Notice all the negative thoughts and feelings associated with your height, and love and accept them. Those thoughts and feelings can be welcomed like guests entering a house. It's not going to happen over night, but once you get rolling the results can occur astonishingly quickly. I went from obsessed about my hairline and miserable to functional and feeling better than I ever had in less than 2 weeks.

@ivankiss I think it depends on your emotional/mental state. A few years ago I went on a self help tear and felt better than I ever had. During a 4 month stretch I was only sleeping 4-5 hours and I felt better than I ever did on more sleep. I think it all depends on how you feel and how integrated you are, I wouldn't buy into the 8 hour standard

@VeganAwake Haha yeah maybe I need one of those shock callers

I spend around an hour or two laying in bed and listening to guided pointers by teachers, or I'll spend 5-10 chunks doing deep breathing, awareness of awareness, etc. I don't have a formal practice but at this point I can see the distinction between everyday life and attachment to thinking, and simply being aware and shifting from conceptual knowing/thinking and non conceptual knowing from just being . I'd say fundamentally i'm trying to sink into the experience of just knowing, or being aware. I can feel "Stuff" arising when I go to this place, and all my best psych experiences came as a result of directly tapping into the knowing, to the point where I get a complete perception shift

Have you heard of IFS therapy? I think it's based on integrating the multiple sub parts. Makes sense in the context of non duality too because theres always the awareness that's aware of each of the parts. I defintely have a lot of inner sub part conflict but I'm not sure how to reconcile them all yet

This is what I'm struggling with. When I practice I am starting to just accept and sink into what is, and I notice the tendency to get distracted by thoughts. But it still feels like I'm waiting for something to happen. It seems like this is how people get stuck seeking for years. This is it. But its also not it, because its still unsatisfying. It seems like unless I'm practicing with psychidelics I just get stuck being present with these tense/dense feelings of the body. Only on psychs do I start to go deeper and let go/transform some of the stuck feelings. I'm definitely motivated/moved by negative feelings in the body but it's taking a long time to uproot them. I've listened to numerous pointers by different teachers, and I'd say I'm aware of/from the stillness for months now, but I still haven't let go of these dense feelings like I can do sometimes on psychs.

I'm not going to have a goodie facade. I'm not going to try to be offensive, but one thing i want to talk about is how spirituality isn't about being a perfect person. And haha i'm not messing with any neurotic broads. But if they want to watch my content and get me more views then so be it.

@RendHeaven Nice. I'm planning on doing something similar, but i was thinking of doing a podcast. Yeah there really is a niche in online content creation for some young spiritual folk.

Wow nice. I'm hoping to have that kind of break through soon. It's kinda like using spirituality to power the success of the character. The fun part of being a devil haha. What kind of content are you thinking of making?

There's a conception that in North America asian woman have a higher sexual market value than asian men, as a result many asian woman are entering into interracial relationships with predominantly white men. So you have a situation where a large number of asian men are unable to find partners because they are unable/unwilling to date woman of other ethnicities. I've heard in places like China and Korea that being white is fetishized and desired, so it makes sense that white people would have an advantage in dating when it comes to countries like China, Korea etc. I've noticed this phenomena where I live, Vancouver, but I never really asked any of my asian friends if they are aware of this phenomena. I think it's a pretty interesting social dynamic, but I also wonder if this may be overblown or an illusory concept. I'm curious to hear people's thoughts on this. Do you buy it? Do you have personal experience with this.

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@Gesundheit2 Take a psychedelic. Also, check your direct experience and ask are you happy and at peace with yourself fully. Suffering is hard to miss haha.