Dhana Choko

You are getting there, just relax a little bit. Watch Leo's videos or whatever you feel called to, meditate, relax your mind. Your mind is on overdrive and you are trying to figure everything out so fast. Just breath...

There is a reason for everything. If you do not feel like continuing, self-enquire and just be patient and gentle with yourself. It might be that this program is not the easiest or most efficient way to find one's life purpose for everyone. And that is completely okey. You will find something else. There is nothing wrong with you if you cannot fast forward through this program with full ethusiasim all the time. Finding your life purpose or getting enlightened etc. is not dependant on this one course.

@Natasha In most cases attending therapy (at least where I live) does not mean one has to be on medication. So it is something that should not scare people away from getting help.

When you detox from these drugs one by one, you have your own ayahuasca seremony right there. You don't need to go into the middle of the jungle and spend a lot of money to get through this and have amazing insights and make your life better.

You could kind of argue this both ways: you never heal your self or that you are the only one who ever heals yourself. I guess both are true.

Simon, what would you lose if you did not eat meat, eggs and butter? What part of your identity would be threatened if you did not eat these things?

So you currently think that you might not get the things that you want (admiration, having a girlfriend) etc. if you have different kind of hair. Have you previously in your life had these things, like admiration from other people, friends, girlfriend etc. because of your hair?

Yes, but what would happen if you were ugly and unattractive?

@wasabelllSo what happens if you would be what you consider, ugly or unattractive?

I always talk when I am at peace. If I am coming from ego or I am very upset and I want to hurt the other person or only get my own point across, I will have a break and talk when both of us are calmer. I think it is better than trying to talk it out when both people are extremely triggered.

I am sure you can do many things. You can give talks, you can have your own side business, you can work in other companies as advisor or give lectures. Just be creative and try new things as they come up. You don't have to do just one thing. Introduce yourself to other people and let them now that you are open to giving talks or doing co-operation with people. You would be amazed what comes up!

Many guys look great without hair. But I know it does not help if you have fears. You can ponder what part of you is afraid of losing hair and what you think is your worst fear about this issue. What do you think will happen if you lose your hair completely? What will you think of yourself and what do you think other people will think about you?

Well, you can't really say that. Many people find a way out of their problems on their own, but many people if they have the funds and means can make their life SO MUCH easier by attending therapy. Some people really benefit from having a therapist to ponder things with and work their personal issues out and work with assignments, cognitive therapy worksheets etc. Some people can watch 100's of hours of videos and not get much out of it to fit into their own life, because it is MENTAL work that does not always lead to lasting changes. Confronting difficult emotions and emotional patterns in therapy and having someone to support and gives you space to emotionally see things inside of you, can create lasting transformations. I would definitely recommend, IF possible, to do both! Do as many things as you can - get outside help and talk to someone, but also watch some videos, do mind exercises, read some books etc. It will all help, but put all that together, you will be helped a lot.

Of course relationships and personal growth are compatible. Relationships are one of the best ways to trigger ego and become aware of your inner patterns. They go very well hand in hand and there is no reason why a person would not be able to do inner work in a relationship. This does not mean that one should be in a violent or bad relationship (I am not saying that). It is the same thing with everything - everything goes well with personal growth: relationships, family things, work, hobbies etc. There is nothing that does not "go with" personal growth. Personal growth is not something that is a different subject that is "fighting for time and space in your live in midst of all other areas of your life" but it is the very thing that governs all of the aspects of your life. If family, relationships, work, money and health are the fish in the sea, personal growth is the sea where these fish swim.

Start from establishing meditation routine. Everything else will follow.

A lot of amazing insights here, but for someone who is starting or wanting a little help, I think simple breathing exercises work the best. What I use is a breathing technique from Pranayama Yogananda, where you inhale for 6 seconds, hold for 4 seconds and breath out for 6 seconds. You can also do 4-2-4. I think this helps me if I am suddenly feeling very stressed or hard to relax and surrender. This helps me.

You can definitely do this and it is surely a very interesting experience but you don't need to do anything like this.

It depends what is causing the HBP. There are many illnessed that unfortunately affect bloodpressure. But yes, generally you are right and whatever the reason is, healty lifestyle will always help.

Nothing can prevent or inhibit personal growth if you have an attitude and way of living that is concerned about being aware.

I think this is a bit of an uneducated answer - I am not sure if you read the original post? If one has a relationship of 10 years and is thinking of leaving all of it because of the urge to have some different, fleeting sexual experiences, I would not so easily just recommend doing it. If Frankie actually decides to go on this route trying to fulfill his sexual desires with different women, it involves heavy emotional work, breaking up, leaving a huge part of his life behind and dealing with all of the emotions connected to that etc...There might be an idea between men (and women) that you just casually leave your girlfriend and go stand outside and beautiful exciting sexual experiences just start pouring to you from all doors and windows...:D Not quite so. You will have to deal with things like feeling alone, not feeling understood (casual sexual partners are never going to give you the same emotional stability or understanding as someone who you have known deeply for 10 years), all the feelings connected to the break up (even if it has been on one's mind for a long time) - it is NOT easy. You can definitely go on that road, but guaranteed it will be at some points very difficult and the sexual experiences will rarely "blow your mind". I am not saying it could not be done - it can definitely be done, but the price you pay for it is very high as well and no one can guarantee that Frankie will be extremely happy with his decision. I think it is very wise to really think about it and deeply understand own self and values and what makes his life the most satisfying. The idea of banging hot girls and having few amazing orgasms and getting a sense of being "A Sexually Wanted Man" might have its appeal, but there are a lot of things that one needs to pay to get that experience. I would also question if just changing one's partner is the answer to unsatisfactory sexual experiences - you always take yourself with you wherever you go. It is very much possible that Frankie might be on a brink of having a breakthrough in his sexuality and to go on a new level with it, but does it involve changing the person he has sex with? I think it just shows lack of tools and lack of understanding if one feels bored in his sexual life and the only solution they come up with is to change sexual partners.

Sex is a need until it isn't...

Maybe these people are just selfish and scared, as people very often are. Maybe they care about you and in their small mind they are afraid of losing you. That they do not know who you are and what you have with them will be lost. If you think of it like that, it is kind of beautiful.

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You are very much on point. Our egos very rarely tell the whole story when it "wants" something. It always goes deeper and there are always deeper reasons behind every want and need.

It is very important to understand the part in you that thinks it would be fun It is a valid part of your ego and you need to see it for what it is. So are you sure that doing something (as in having these sexual experiences with different girls) would be the only way to put a stop to these urges you have? Have you had in your life any similar urges that just went away, without you doing anything to that urge or have you always acted upon your urges?