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Hey buddy thanks for your honesty. I know it was a shitty move. She still answered me though, has even send me pictures where she is and mentioned what she did on her trip. She also said before she left she is looking forward to catching up with me. Without me mentioning anything about it. She didn't reply know since 8 days but i didn't contact her again. Not sure i should shoot her a text without pressure.

Hey guys, Firstly thanks for your awesome videos. Also for your audibook that i just bought in audible. I met this girl i knew already before in a club. This time i was single and it sparked straight away. We kissed made out. I took her number. Met her for a dinner and dessert the week after. The date was really good. We kissed and made out two times in the car. She brought me home. I didn't want to ask her already to come up. The week after i wanted to catch up with her again. She sounded very keen to see me again. She even asked the day before what time we catch up. Half hour later she cancelled. Said sorry she leaves already in 2 days for vacation overseas and realised she has too much to organise before. But she likes me and want to spend more time with me. I was really pissed as she knew we couldn't see each other 6 weeks as i am leaving for vacation when she comes back. I told her that's lack of interest if you know you aren't seeing each other 6 weeks and you still can't make the time for a date. She said sorry again it's not lack of interest and she didn't change her mind. Its just that she is really busy to prepare for the trip. I didn't contact her a while as i was still pissed. Said to her than. That i was upset but i can understand if she was really that busy. That i wish her great holidays. She said she is looking forward to catch up with me when she is back and that she wishes me good holidays too. One week later when she was already overseas, i shoot her a message. She texted back the same day. Has send me pictures and small talk. On my next text message she didn't reply anymore, that's now 4 days ago. I didn't to anything to text her again. Did she lost interest? If she texts me back as i am still not able to put her on a date. What should i do? Wait a few days till i reply as well and just reply with a short message? Cheers Johnny

I asked if someone has experience with affirmations in comparison to afformations, whether someone knows what works better. Your answer is to tell me the mind can answer questions?

Hey guys, I came across another concept then using affirmations. It's very similar to affirmations but instead of saying something like: "I am confident" It's formed into a why question like: "Why am I confident" I didn't really try afformations and have to find out more about it but I still did a short experiment and also realized that by doing my daily affirmations the brain tries in the background to neglect the affirmation by saying things like: "No you aren't" "Are you sure" "I don't believe that" When I use afformations in form of a why question, this resistance is not there. I feel the mind can't neglect the afformation because it is already busy with finding reasons why what is said is true and there by is accepting it as reality. Would be great someone has already experimented and tested both methods long term and compared them.

Hey buddy thanks for your message. It sounds really interesting, i couldn't really afford that right now. I try to work on my issues for a while with techniques and books i can find. I will also work on my selfdevelopment in general and see how i feel in a few months.

I got another post and the same happened to me. I met a girl she is really attractive and I'm in general very confident in dates and most girls are attracted to me, but after the third date with her i had very negative thought patterns: i am not good enough for her, what if she rejects me etc. .They got triggered because there have been some similarities to the girl that caused this trauma when i was a teenager. All that is telling you that there are still issues you have to work on. I started by writing all these experiences down who are causing this traume. I used the childhood vow worksheet of leo. Then i took the 3 main ones and created 2 daily affirmations and a visualisation specifically for that topic. It's definetely something you have to work on. My topic is being scared of rejection because that's what made me feel unworthy in my childhood. It sounds like you got the same problem. If I date high quality girls and i am in a good place and my whole live ordered These fears are not coming up, but when i see signs similar to how the girls in my past behaved before they rejected me, i get really scared and all this bad thoughts and emotions start.

@flowboy Yeah i definetely wanna focus on my trauma and the toxic thought patterns i carry with me. I do meditation, yoga, journaling, now specifically i started with daily affirmations and visualisation to recondition my emotions and thoughts about these past traumas which are holding me back. I also do a lot of sport, running, gym and swimming to increase my pain limit and callous my mind and body. I also looked for books woth other methods for healing ptsd. The girl is definetely not the most important thing right now, it wouldn't make sense anyway till i fixed that stuff, because the same damaging patterns would come up. Later on i can still think about getting in touch with her. It's definetely not the right time yet.

Wow, thanks for your detailed reply. You are right I acted from a place of scarcity. I didn't use the words fear and scared or didn't tell her that i feel that way. I did pickup a long time a go. I was and I am still pretty successful in picking up even good looking girls, but when i feel there is a great connection to one of them. I start to get needy and scared. My dad rejected me and made me feel worthless my entire life. I got a trauma that i took with me into all intimate relationships when i felt i met the right girl. I didn't tell her about all that. I said just i have to sort out myself because i just broke up and it's not the right time to meet someone and that we possibly can start in the future from zero. But first i really have to get rid off the toxic memories, Patterns, thoughts and emotions which are holding me back to open up. That is stuck in me now around then years already.

Hey guys, I met a girl and i felt we have a great connection, we just met 3 times but we kissed made out and had very deep conversations but after the 3. Date i was getting really scared of rejection and that she isn't really into me. She didn't reply for hours sometimes and i felt there are some indicators she could be still into her ex. I backed off because i didn't wanna get hurt and i had bad experience before with other girls. I didn't tell her i am scared. My last message was 2 weeks ago i wrote her i am sorry because i was blaming her before that she isn't showing enough interest. And that i am confused and that it takes longer then i expected after i just broke up and that i need to take time for myself now. She didn't answer to that. I thought i should possibly be honest and let her know i was scared to get hurt, because i didn't know where she is at with her feelings and interest towards me.