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Leo looks very graceful to me. He is one of the most graceful spiritual teachers I've seen! His big-picture thinking, his conceptualizations, his holism, his depth of understanding, it's all unbelievably graceful. Graceful in an unparalleled way. As an individual, you're going to be graceful in your own unique way.

Somebody please explain this to me. When did I say in my last thread that I was 'projecting a feeling of inadequacy' or that 'I'm not taking responsibility'? When did I say anything about my sex-life? I'm talking about the whole industry and what I find fishy about it. Why is it so hell-bent on proving that men aren't good enough as they are? I find that this message comes from the dating-industry and it doesn't reflect reality. I find that men are good enough as they are, if they are authentically who they are. Isn't it counter-productive to send men this message that they aren't good enough, if you are a dating-coach? Very very confusing.

Is the 'improving yourself' part about getting with a woman or is it your natural growth-process? Before you tell me that 'the dating industry precisely tells you what that growth is', I'm going to say that's debatable. It's not about personal growth, it's about 'self-improvement' to get female validation. As someone who has been growing myself because I naturally felt called to it (not for some external results), my experience has been that the dating-advice they give never made any sense to me. I'm not attached to their 'results' or the 'results' they're telling me to chase, which is why I have the courage to have this conversation. It's always 'work out', 'go out and 'talk to girls' (whatever that means)', 'take personal responsibility', like what does any of this have to do with getting laid? They'll say that 'the proof of the advice is in the following of it' and then when you follow it and it doesn't work, they'll be like 'Don't come bitching and moaning to us, figure it out yourself! Rule #1, take personal responsibility'. What an ingenious way to escape accountability.

True that. I won't disagree. But, that's not the message from the dating-industry. They say things like 'You have to self-improve FOR GETTING WITH A WOMAN'. The definition of 'your growth', 'your confidence' is all dependent on external results! That isn't authentic, I can guarantee you that.

@AdamR95 Yeah but who has the authority to say whether he's good enough or not? Is it the hot woman in question? Is it the 'results' he gets (whatever those mean. When you talk about 'results', you sorta cease to see women as individuals and you start rating them on a 1-10 scale, that's the general direction you go) Or, is it himself? Or, is it conditioning from a whole society that tells men that they aren't inherently good enough?

What if the 'hot woman' in question is attracted to him for who he is? In that situation, who are you to say whether he deserves to have her or not? Oh damn. I see. The dating industry doesn't like it when a guy is good enough as he is.

@Gesundheit Why would you want to get with a woman who isn't attracted to who you authentically are? That was the first thought that came to my mind. Why would you want to spend the rest of your life walking on eggshells, trying to get her to be attracted to you? I mean, it's all good and fine to unconsciously end up in such a situation, but why would you consciously choose it? How far are we willing to go to get laid? How much are we willing to sacrifice to get laid?

Oh. I see. It's all about 'doing something'. Right. If you 'take responsibility', then you get to 'do something' and we get to charge you money to help you 'do something'. Goddamn. Ingenious profiteering off of male insecurity. Whether the advice is good or not, whether it's factually accurate or not, if you 'do something' and 'get results', all your problems will be over!! People won't pay attention to whether the advice actually makes sense or not, whether the theory actually makes sense or not because they're so insecure that they'll 'do' whatever someone tells them works! When it doesn't work, they won't come back and ask you why it didn't work because the money was for the advice, not the results!! The answer you'll get is 'You didn't apply the advice well, you didn't take enough personal responsibility', all pandering to the insecurity. Well, 'doing something' does sorta work to get female approval. It's the mirror-opposite of being a nice-guy. The truth really doesn't sell. That's why they won't tell it to you. The truth is that attraction exists from the other side whether you 'do something to create it' or not, that women do as much for male attention if not more. They won't give you information that makes you feel more secure in yourself, they'll give you information that sells. Another truth is that if a woman wants to reject you, nothing you do is going to change that. Guys want to hear that they can control whether a woman accepts or rejects them. This is also why it sells. What I'm talking about applies especially to redpill and more unconscious forms of dating advice.

Here's a theory - Dating advice for men focuses so much on what's wrong with men, why men aren't lovable, why men need to be fixed, why attraction that isn't inherently there has to be created because it benefits them. It benefits the dating-coach industry to basically scam men and to have them go round and round in circles trying to fix themselves, basically chasing their tail. Why do women focus so much on what's bad and wrong about men? Same thing. It benefits their survival-agenda to do so. Does it benefit women to say good things about men? I don't know. For example, as we all know, feminism. I'm starting to see how well it pays to be anti-male. The anti-male BS pays so damn well! The dating-industry is a huge industry. I think I'm going to be a nice guy and I'm going to keep my mouth shut about this because the dating-industry's money depends on me keeping my mouth shut about this!!

@John Iverson It's not accepted because it's mostly narcissistic. Pick-up generally appeals to guys who don't really want a connected relationship, who are just horny and want to get laid. It's mostly teaching guys how to be a used-car salesman to get into a woman's pants. I'm not going to make moral judgements against it, I'm just calling it what it is, mostly. There are exceptions. If cold-approaching is authentic to you, you will find a way to make it work not just for yourself, but for all involved. If it isn't and you're doing it just to get laid, you will come across as a sleazebag.

I'm not at all against it in the moral sense, nothing wrong with it in the objective sense. It's just kinda distasteful to me personally, that's it.

No should-statements, just pointing out the reality. There's problems with polarity-flipped relationships, so, yeah.

It doesn't mean they want to be a man. But, there is an element of wanting to be a man and just being resistant to being a woman! It's there. Look hard enough, you'll see it.

@tuckerwphotography On a more serious note, you're right. The Stage Orange feminazis are the mean-girl types who I mentioned in my previous comment. They're sorta like the strong, independent woman who essentially doesn't want to be a woman, she wants to be a man because it is a man's world. She envies men, she hates her periods, she's always looking for a way to fight a man in a power-struggle and God forbid if she wins, that's it. Men aren't needed in society anymore!! That'll be the conclusion. At Green, they start to accept their femininity more and they step into their feminine power. That's where they start to give men a real, empowered role in their life which they call Divine Masculine. The whole thing about period-blood art is one of the many aspects in which they accept and honor their own femininity.

@Schahin An enlightened person is not above bordeom. Not at all! You are a human being and you will experience all emotions, including boredom. Having said that, once you become enlightened, you stop taking things for granted. You stop taking the formed life for granted, you stop taking life for granted. You start to become very grateful for the life that you have, for a working body, a working mind, working organs, experiencing life, etc. Life becomes Infinitely Beautiful. You will be able to find beauty in the smallest of things. You will be able to grow yourself in any situation, no matter what. The present-moment experience will be enough to keep you going and you will never be stuck in your life. This is because you won't be identified with a limited, static form, you will be identified with the ever-changing current of forms.

What has worked for you? What do you think has helped you achieve results?

@tuckerwphotography Women don't need men anymore. Women can do everything a man can do and more. Men are human garbage. Men are trash. Men have only caused violence and toxic masculinity. #Killallmen. (Am I right feminists? Please send my check on time for promoting your cause.)

When you said 'Inner circle', the first thing that came to my mind was a syndicate-group of an industry sharing insider trade-secrets with each other and conspiring to maintain a monopoly in that industry lol

The real reason for this is that societies aren't consciously chosen by their citizens. They aren't consciously created by their citizens, rather, they unconsciously evolve. What this means is that people are fighting each other for power. This means that the most ruthless, power-hungry, ambitious, strong-willed people will rise to the top and others won't, not because they are better people, but because they lack the personal strength to do so. We have not reached a point yet where people consciously take responsibility for the society they're living in, much less act according to it. When we do reach that point and when individual human beings do start taking responsibility for the collective, the people in leadership positions will indeed be the most loving, compassionate, capable people.

@Dany Balan I want you to imagine this situation. Imagine that you are one of the world's top leaders. You have the biggest corporations trying to cut deals with you, you have all sorts of people trying to suck up to you and offer you material goods in return for your favors that you can do for them. Doing those favors will mean that you abuse your power and that you will potentially be hurting the system and other stakeholders of the system along with it. But, the entire system is under you! If you want to, you can easily cover it up so well that nobody will even notice. If they do, they will close their eyes because you are the highest authority they report to! What will you do in this situation? Keep in mind that you are one of the world's top leaders, so you will be offered all the biggest material goods and more. Money, sex, power, position, you name it. Nobody will know except yourself that you abused your power for these things. You are getting these things on a silver platter just by virtue of being where you are. One of the big ramifications of saying 'I'm a good leader. I will not accept these material things and I will not abuse my power for them! I will do good things for the people.' is that you will lose those offers. Not only that, you will be closing the doors to people giving you those material things on a silver platter in the future. Do keep in mind that you will be offered all the material things that you want!! You want those material things. You are being offered all the material goods you could possibly want on a silver platter without having to work for it. On the other hand, if you say no, you are choosing a harder path for yourself to get those same material things! You will have to work harder for those same material things. Which one will you choose? The one in which you are offered those things on a silver platter for abusing your power or the one in which you will be a good leader but you will have to work to get those same material things? If you choose to abuse your power for those material things, if you choose the easy way, nobody will ever catch you or punish you. If you choose the hard way, you are already committed to it and you have closed the door to the easy way forever. Imagine now that all of your peers are choosing the easier way. What would you do then? This is the moral predicament of being in a high position of power. It is very difficult to not abuse your power! It takes a very strong moral character to be fair and to not abuse your power. If you are in your ego, you will inevitably abuse your power. Especially if nobody is punishing you for it. There's no way you won't. There is only one way to avoid this situation. If you are in your Life Purpose and you have that position of power according to your Life Purpose, you aren't just thinking about getting what you materially want, you are also thinking about the legacy you will leave behind and the contribution you make to those below you when you had that position of power. This is the only real way to be a good leader. You have to care about what you're giving the world, what you are contributing to the world more than material things, more than your own material desires. Do you see why this is such a tall ask? Do you see why so few people like Gandhiji or Martin Luther King ever pull this off? The ones who do pull this off though make history. They're the ones whose names are permanently etched in the history-books.

@TheDude0 Create a syndicate! Create 'the mob' and partner with The Big Brother.

Didn't ask her. If you'd like further details though, watch her documentary 'Open Shadow'. She's explained it all there. If you're skeptical (I don't see why you would be, but if you are), that's her version.

I've met her. I've seen the scars on her body. They're real. I'd believe her.

I don't think it's fully accurate to say that it's a feminine trait. What I would say though is that disconnection is the biggest male shadow today in the world. The patriarchy is a manifestation of this disconnection. The biggest problem with the patriarchy is that it's by men, for men. It is hyper-masculine. There is a serious lack of femininity. Connection with the feminine within yourself and within women is something that hyper-masculine men lack. This is the problem with hyper-masculinity - it lacks connection with the feminine. This is why if you are a hyper-masculine guy, owning the feminine within yourself is a step towards greater connection and awareness.

@onacloudynight I'd suggest you focus on connecting with women. If you say you're feminine, don't focus on initiating sex or flirting or anything. Just focus on connection. There was a time-period of a good 1-1 1/2 years where I was fully focused on developing my femininity. I am a very masculine guy and at that time, my hyper-masculinity was running me into the ground. I needed more connection and that's what I focused on. Not even dating or sex, connection. After figuring out a way to bring in people into my life I feel connected to, then I went to bringing my masculinity into the relationships. Then I started to focus very heavily on masculine seduction!