BlessedLion

never forget that Stephen Hawking got laid. Jokes aside, regarding the scandenavian/Euro women, i've been noticing on netflix tons of these movies and shows (Cocks (dutch), Alpha Males (spain), The year i started masturbating (sweden), Dudes (germany) that are just making an absolute mockery of men and masculinity and framing men as completely useless and clownlike with the equality of genders today. The women make more money men, the men have trouble making decisions and have serious insecurity around their masculinity. I think it points to a larger pattern and the changing times. I just find it really interesting watching these European shows and movies and how brutally they portray men as these fumbling idiots who are basically rendered useless.

Great stuff, thank you all for your inputs

Yeah, this is so much healthier than scrolling. Even reading fiction or romance, reading in itself is super grounding

I've ran into this problem as well. That's why i am so excited and read so slow when Ralston drops a new masterpiece. Have you found anything really profound lately? I think audio books might be a good route for me, excluding masterpieces, because i do stop and think so much. My mind just tries to really GET what the author is saying but maybe to a fault

In terms of biology and science they aren't that old and still hold profound theories. I'm more interesting in understanding and integrating the foundation of all these things. I'll probably even read evolutionary books written in the 19th century just to have a deep grasp on the whole field

appreciate your take on this, i do think most can probably be enjoyed on audio. I also like to throw them on and play a mindless game like snake while sipping coffee, it makes it kinda fun and i still get the information. One book per week would be great. Also, the AI is great, i can get lots of clarity from having the AI explain the concepts to me. I'm doing that with Red Queen and it's been helpful

Bruh, i'm literally reading it right now and it's absolutely mind blowing. Only 6% in and it's beyond words quite literally. His best book yet so far imo. 4 pages per hour lol and i plan to re read it over and over

Absolutely, that's a good point. There is a category of books, I would say the high consciousness material like Wilber or Ralston where you are better off finishing one page per day (I admit, my pace with Ralston is like 5 pages per hour lol) because i just stare at the book contemplating how it is infinity. But it's hard to know where to draw that line. For example I'm listening on audio to the books "Anxious Generation" and "The Path Of Excellence" they are perfect for audio But Red Queen is quite complex evolutionary theory and even though i'd probably get 70-80% of it by audio, when i read i can stop are really grasp the models and theory. But then again maybe that is where something like the 80/20 rule can apply

I kinda like that this work is a bit nerdy. You can't say someone like Ken Wilber isn't a consciousness nerd

Leo I have to disagree with you recent post on work not creating fulfillment or happiness. I think that if someone is hinging their happiness on work or expecting it to fulfill them totally then yes, that is misguided. But work in itself, especially meaningful life purpose work can be very fulfilling and a source of pride and inspiration, solely for it's own sake. Also, all this is still rooted in selfishness, "how can my work and life purpose make me feel better" (self-focused) not "hey, this is valuable information that can actually help a lot of people, how can i share it in a powerful way?" (genuinely doing it for others). Sure there is still some selfish motive there but it's not the sole reason you are doing it. I think of Ralstons' book on Ending Suffering, he did it to help people end suffering because he has a unique and powerful perspective on that. He didn't need to do it for himself, or to keep busy, or to fulfill himself, he has mastered being happy with nothing. Lastly, if you already are happy and whole with nothing, why not play the game of life a bit? Is the expectation to just sit on the couch doing nothing because you can be happy there? Why not still be happy but do things, not because you think they will make you happy, but just for the challenge, fun, joy of it and yeah maybe you can even help people along the way.

i've noticed that too, it's why i have him on "ignore", was a great decision.

We love you Natasha! And you are definitely a positive influence here, i could imagine it might be tough as a female in this environment.

It's really wild. I've noticed this too, and had to miss out on a lot of potential sex and intimacy because i refuse to treat women poorly, or manipulate, or play games. I can't be anything but authentic and i'm proud of who i've built. I just can't do it anymore, i've done way too much work on myself and my Heart to just play these games. But, unfortunately it works! It's what actually works! Pretty much every beautiful female friend i know has some recent psycho ex who was verbally and sometimes physically abusive, addicted to drugs, cheating or a total mess and they stuck with them for years through it all. If that's what it takes to get lots of women, count me out.

What are the best ways to have the clearest and sharpest mind possible? A few things i thought of Heavy metal detox Great and consistent sleep Focus deep work blocks , no distractions Excercise No caffeine, alcohol, porn, scrolling as it scatters the mind and nervous system Walks and nature time Solititude and staying away from Drama Healhty whole foods, brain foods Anything else?

One issue i've come across on my Self Actualizing journey is that there is simply too many high quality perspectives and materials out there. Leo's book list is stacked with high quality thinkers whose books you could and should honestly read 3 times over, then i have my own book list and that's just the factual conceptual models and maps. Throw into that all the fiction, history, auto biographies, biographies and artistic poems or memoirs I want to read and it's literally hundreds of books. The thing about me is I am a VERY SLOW reader, with a physical book it can take me months to finish becuase i really procces and integrate what i am reading, almost to a fault. And i love reading, it's become one of my favorite activites, but my pace is so slow that i feel like i'm not going to get to all the information i want in a sufficient time. Right now i am studying sexuality and male/ female psycholgoy and attraction, books i want to read here are: The Req Queen Sperm Wars Double you dating Dating essentials for men Different The male brain The female brain The value of others Evolution 2.0 And a few others However, i've given myself a time zone of 3-4 months for this before moving back into consciousness work starting with Ralstons new book. Along with this study i am actually going out into the feild and observing it in action, going on dates being social etc, which takes time and energy. So like, if it takes me a month or two to finish a book you can see how this is problematic. One solution i found is audiobooks, a 400 page book might be 12-14 hours in audio format. Therefore, if i set a timer for one hour a day on audio i am guaranteed to finish the book within 2 weeks. What i don't like about this is i feel like i don't really let the information land or proccess as much. What has been your experience with this? Do you have a preference? Can you still get as much from audio versus physical? Thanks!