BlessedLion

Good question, I've have been considering this for a while, and i think becoming a father is a beautiful part of life for many. But i also have to be honest with myself and my personality type. I thrive in solitude, i love peaceful, predictable days where i can read, meditate, write, relax, nap, have sex or spontaneously travel. I don't want to introduce unnecesary stress and potential hardship into my life, I live completely on my terms and am free financially. If i had kids all that would likely go away. Money would become a source of stress and i would have to get some lame job probably, sex would go down with a wife and kids, i wouldn't have time to read and rest or contemplate. I see myself as a bit of a Tantric Yogi who will be a master one day like a Ralston or Wilber (hopefully), so i see myself taking on the archtype of wise sage, I also want to take my time with what interests me in life which is consciousness, discipline and habits, understanding of many aspects of reality, sexuality and dating dynamics, and kids don't really fit there. I just don't find it very profound and the day to day grind of it seems like hell for someone like me. Luckily my brothers will have kids so i can be cool crazy uncle who lives in Bali and Mexico hahah. You?

There are few better feelings than a woman willingly following your lead and seeing you as dominant and powerful, also makes for great sex

i actually feel this, i think if i'm going to be in relationship it will need to be a radically unique container not a traditional relationship. It is quite exhausting.

if people could actually just manifest what their egos wanted it would ruin the whole game of reality on a foundational level

Thanks, I'll keep that in mind.

this is actually really helpful reminder, even having a life purpose and passion and following it is already the win.

This is what I am living now. I love making videos and coming up with models for the topics I am passionate about. Mostly consciousness, sexuality and dating, work and purpose/craft, discipline, and understanding of reality (evolution, relationships, etc). It lights my soul up because it has been such a medicine for me to even talk about, even with less than 1K subs on a YT channel. But i've poured my whole soul into and 3 years of work including interviews with authors like Ralston and it just isn't budging. I am not getting the viewership, subscribers, or success i had imagined. I'm not going into a victim mindset about it and honestly making videos in itself has been so fun and developing i would never regret it, but it is a bit draining to see what i think are unique and powerful perspectives basically go nowhere (with others). Honestly, I'm finding making Life Purpose actually work to be really tough. However, YT is only a small subset of my life purpose, it's just a reflection of it, my whole channel could get deleted tomorrow and nothing would change because my life purpose is mastery of all those mentioned pillars for it's own sake. However, it would feel nice to see some success in that domain. If i hadn't saved up a ton of money to pursue this I would be absolutely fucked, so i am definitely priveleged to have the time and freedom to pursue something like this. Had i stayed in tech i would probably have 1M+ now, but also, fuck living without passion, i'd rather just die and money means little to me once basic needs are met

Agreed. Thank you for the feedback Personally i find dating and women as one of the best self improvement tools because they are such sharp mirrors and the market doesn't lie, similar to business.

Great feedback, thank you! I agree, i don't really like making it about money, which is why i made the point about "being above" in terms of character or spiritual understanding for example. And i don't think we need to look at development as a way of "fixing ourselves because we are broken" but doing it simply because it is badass in itself, like a game, how well can you improve your avatar for the fun of it. I appreciate the thoughts and agree with most of what you said.

I see what you are saying with this post, but also it's tough to deny when you genuinely notice yourself aligning almost perfectly with the explanations of a certain stage. Like when i hear Integral post a video on Stage Yellow like this one shared, it almost perfectly explains my values and way of thinking right now. And then i think back to 5 years ago when i was living in a hippie yoga village in Mexico and it basically perfectly aligns with Green. If i was to hear a Green video now, it likely wouldn't resonate so much, same with Orange. I even tested this out, i lived in an extremely Stage Orange environement and while i wasn't judgemental and could appreciate it, it felt limited in certain ways. I don't think we should put Tier 2 SD as this impossible and super rare thing to achieve, once you know about it and study it properly and actively work on it, it should only make sense that you would move up the spiral. Do some people over shoot and create an ego about it? Absolutely (like the person saying they are Stage Coral here) but I don't think everyone who genuinely asses themselves in Tier 2 is automatically cringe. If they use it as a weapon or superiority thing, then yes, that's super cringe and an almost immediate indicator they are not in Tier 2. Also, part of SD is to go back and "clean up" as Ken Wilber says, to integrate shadow parts of previous stages, so if someone in Stage Yellow wants to "dip back into" Stage Orange to maybe integrate some of their sexuality, power, and money making, that is totally healthy and encouraged. Those are not "lower than" Stage Yellow, they are integrated, like rungs in a ladder. Good post though, a reminder not to create a superiority complex about it

Yeah, i think it's something like this. Similar to how you cannot go into another person consciousness (I can't see what my friend in Europe is looking at right now) that has a strong firewall that doesn't get fucked with

I'd be curious to know how many people are capable of actually changing their personality structure, the personality after all is nothing solid or material, it's conceptual

Do you guys sometimes feel like these personality tests and such kinda put you in a box? Like if you believe you are INTP or whatever (someone introvorted) that you can't excel in something like social skills?

Thank you for the support <3 San Marcos! So cool, I went to UT Austin so we would visit there sometimes, beautiful nature

Ah, you're in Pipe Creek? Yes, Ive done about 6 weeks in person working with Ralston, i've also interviewed him on my channel. He's one of my top teachers in life, him and Sahajananda are my 2 main teachers.

I also want to say LordFall has great points too, just because our inherint worth isn't tied to things like success with women, money, etc, those are still important aspects of life tied to your self esteem and stability and ability to kick ass and create things in life and are essential. Also, they 100% don't fall on your lap, you as a man have to take massive action to become skilled in those domains. It's cool to see people on the forum take off the masks and hiding behind the screens and actually have a "face to face" discussion. Props.

It's crazy how he just totally mastered the world of material pursuits and money then just gave it all away before pursuing consciousness, inspiring.

Definitely

Its an interesting discussion. I have to side more with Yeti Neti, it's essential to have a base of contentment and wholeness and most value metrics are relative. A Stage Green women will find value in things that a Stage Orange woman cannot even see. You want to align with where you thrive and your value is seen, not neccesarily create it based on the values of a certain culture. So many people (men) value money and status because that is what their culture and the women in it value, it's not neccesarily their authentic values. So they dedicate decades of time and energy to essentially fit in. Value is not defined by the abundance you bring others, because that hinges your value on others way of perceiving value. Not to say it's not badass to master something in life and crush it if you can, simply for the love of the sport, but happiness should never hinge on extrenalities.

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i always wondering about this, as i've read the book too, it's a beautiful book, but i found this a strange ending because it creates God as a dual being, something outside of him, makes me question if it was more mind because God is not a person or being you can perceive like that.

Damn, thank you for posting... I hadn't see this. 3 hour master class let's get it. I feel like Brendan is holding the torch for Ralston's work. I

MILFs too

Great for socializing and having some routine/stability, also having a solid degree out of college helped me land a job which let me basically retire at 28. I think people underestimate the importance of university, it's seems to be a trendy thing now to say it's unneccesary, but the reality of the situation is it is still important and good for you. Also, you are surronded by hot chicks

It's childish, ultimately it's an immature way of relating to God. Which is why it is Stage Purple Age 0-5 for most humans, it's that level of development. If this is your cup of tea, go follow Aubrey Marcus and his Jesus-Alien guests.