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Doesn't it bother you? How can you make it go away?

My opinion about woman seems to hinder my survival. Why is this so? Am i trying to maintain a personal identity? If so, how can a concept be more powerful then a biological need?

@flowboy If somebody is not interested simply does not reply.

Should i even take you seriously?

Do you think i have not thought those things for myself? I have studied dating coaches for 1 year now, wasted my time. The looks being a "slight advantage" is fantasy. It's responsible for sexual attraction. And, when it comes down to whether looks matter or don't, people always says "Looks are useless if you are arrogant". Well of course it is. If you are good looking but arrogant girls don't flock to you. How about those guys who like to improve themselves and give their heart and soul and develop humor and social skills, but don't get laid because of their looks? What about those guys? Let's talk about those! If you are good looking and have a shitty attitude or personality you can work on that and get amazing result. A fkin incel can develop an even more fantastic personality but he will never get those results. Only in his dreams.

All of his videos are free... I know he has a life purpose course but i don't think it's enough to make a living Ho does he make a living? Is he a coach?

Thanks for the encouragement! Yes i hear examples like that sometimes... I am aware of this very well, thanks for the reminder though Ultimaltely i studied pick up for a year now. I probably know more than you. I know soo much about dating. But i don't give a shit anymore. I am working on releasing emotional trauma from the past and my past relationship. Which was a fkin huge miserable failure. I want to feel fulfilled without needing a single girl in my life. This is what i am working towards. In the end, if i find a girl fine. If i don't, fine. I will be happy anyway. Thanks you all for the encouragement, i appreciate it

Yes. people often talk about how they see ugly guys with hot girls and fantasties like those. When i tell them where are they? I get no responses. Admit that you don't actually know those people, you just heard about them

Depends.

Alright.

@tsuki Can i send you a private message? Or should i post here?

I have lots of questions to ask you, ahaha

Im open to that... can you please help me? Yes i want to, im in the process of releasing emotions right now and eventually i will increase my self confidence and love.

Allright, you seem to know something about this. Can you help me? Or have you already told everything you had to?

I have felt that way too. Why it's @tsuki laughing about it?

I am very open minded. More than you think. I have already considered this point of view for myself. Now that somebody else is talking about it, this makes it more interesting.

I want to give up. I just can't... im tired of this shit.

No, it's not about an egoic desire to have sex with an object. Im talking about meaningful experiences. Making love. Im not talking about being shallow here, if i was talking about this, i would have worked through it more easily. When she wonders if she can have a guy with the same personality but good looking, that ruins everything. You can't make her feel special. You see, she is not lucky being with you. Of course you are with her, you don't have other choices when you are ugly. If you try it with a girl who is less attractive then you, or even a lookmatch, you would not feel those feelings of passion in the first place. It's something out of your control. Im not saying you can't love someone who you don't find attractive. But: Sex is not a shallow thing. It is something that i deep and meaningful in a relationship. This is a definition that you have attributed to sex to deal with pain. Don't rush into thinking that i am a victim of my mind. And i only want hot women or something like that. I am a very loving being who want to connect with people and share meaningful experiences.

Some girls didn't find me ugly. I don't hand out with people who call me ugly. I was clearly exaggerating. I don't want a hot girl "per se"... My first GF was not that beautiful, she was skinny. I loved her, she loved me. Yet, she refused to have sex with me because as she said "You are too ugly". She always pointed out that to me. When i see people talking about what attracts girls... it's just pathetic. You can't make love with somebody you are not physically attracted. Even if she loves you to death and would never want to leave you. Even if you are her perfect type speaking personallity wise, she adores your personality and your whole being. Even if she falls in love with your soul. Can you immagine loving somebody and not being able to give her some meaningful beautiful experiences only because of something you can't control? It's an important component, and yes, maybe 15 years from now i will have a gf that doesn't care about passionate love since she has already done her experiences and now it's time to settle and make a family. It's disgusting. There is no solution to that. You are fooling yourself. It's alright, as i said, this is something i have to go through on my own, i don't want to explain the whole story to you,it would be too much... But thank you for replying and for trying to understand.

If survival is done by maintaining your self image which causes only suffering and it's illusory, why survive at all? Is this a question that has been answered in the video? Or it's me that i didn't quite get it? Lol

The desire to have a beautiful relashionship with a girl is inherent in every human. You would get hurt too if you put yourself in the shoes of a kind of incel that i was talking about. Put yourself in the shoes of someone who is missing a deep meaningful part of his life, and he won't ever be able to attain it. It seems to me like you are simplifying things because you just don't know what you are talking about. I told you, even if i change my beliefs and my reality, this does not mean that i will ever be able to have a girl i like. Yes, i can grow and go beyon that. I can not to suffer anymore cause of this. I can let go. But still this does not mean that i will get hot girl. Baby, the reality changes only for you. In the eyes of the girls around you, your face is still the same.

@Shin @mandyjw You are exagerating this. A guy can fall in love even if a woman is not exactly "Hot" or his "Physical type".

To me seems that you have a problem with shin here. You are contraddicting him.

Stop this. There are a lot of men who have feelings and are intelligent, kind creatures. And will be happy with an avarage looking girl. More than you think.

was he?