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Ok then. I wanted to point it out for anybody reading. Wasn't my desire to start a debate, sorry if I triggered you. I find it's too obvious for me that it's silly peddling black/blue/red pill ideologies. Somehow, people still get charged up and dogmatic over it. While I don't know much about anyone's upbringing, personalities and preferences for these ideologies, I'm still learning and open minded to them. Exploring and experimenting. If you don't mind, could you share what brought you to your understanding of red pill? Thanks for reading.

I wouldn't know where to begin either? Black pills taste too salty for me, blue pills are too bitter, and red pills have this minty sweetness, especially after a blue pill. Probably placebo. To me, black pills are negligible, while blue pill is actually more worthwhile than red. Why? Without the blue, there'd be nothing for red's standing, it has to prop itself onto blue's victimhood and women's manipulations. That, to me, makes it worse than toxic garbage. Like some disabled ideology that needs other ideologies and victims to parasite off of. I don't know if reliance on pills is sustainable for the long run. Even worse, as we're being, we're swimming in a sea of shit yet realized and perpetuated by most people unconsciously. Maybe this is it. The real deal.

@Dumuzzi @Kalki Avatar are you both satisfied with where this thread is at? Went from one user asking a simple men's dating advice to intensely charged discussion on patriarchy/matriarchy, men's rights/women's rights, PUA dating/classical dating, swathes of narratives for women's victim mindset/ men's victim mindset, maybe hints of black/blue/red pill (maybe another pill), MGTOW/metoo. I'm not bashing, I just noticed a pattern forming. Also, keep in mind that we're still inside a egoic collective that consists of male egoic collective and female egoic collective, sub divided into different cultures, sub divided into age, into biologically body parts, into gender roles and sub roles, into sexual directions. With a mix of narratives and a dash of distortion and denial with a pinch of suffering, and we got a mean Monterey of a problem. a collective problem firstly, not an individual problem. Took me a while to notice it, but wow, it really isn't an easy problem. I don't mind mentally entertaining a Leo guru PUA, but it's not an ideal use of time. I'm tempted to find something more valuable than a man or a woman to pursue. We've got more than enough bodies here. I don't know anyone's or OP's intentions to pursue dating, but further theorizing is'nt the solution. Maybe the OP's topic is already answered, regardless of OP, and this thread has/is mutating issues from different topics, cramming into one, compounding the issues. I don't know if continuing would shed more light into this morphing problem or add more confusion from related to unrelated issues, but it's worth a shout out to anyone's awareness in case this slips under the radar.

If she was here to learn, then there would be more asking questions from her to other users about whatever topic is discussed on thread and giving advice when needed. I agree that it may look harsh for banning her, but she executed poorly, being religiously dogmatic, again and again and again. Also, her 3 latest posts, on top of being dogmatic, rubs against meditation, spiritual work, psychedelics and awakening, which is Leo's leading purpose here, which some mods and him are doing the work. What do you expect? A slap on the wrist? Especially on awakening and enlightenment? It's brutal work not for the faint of heart. Ideally, keep it very short. If you gonna give advice referencing religious material, keep it short, and paragraphs that follows are to elaborate and relate that info to whoever you're addressing, without the dogma. If you can't execute that without getting triggered and dogmatic when some user questions back, don't reference religious material, and either find some other way of explaining or close it off. People's times are limited. Hypocritical, coming from me when most of my past posts are not useful, and I've trolled on other websites, but I had my moments when I've helped some users and given lots of questions for them to ponder. And for Leo, congrats on your awakening experience!? You looked like a toddler re experiencing life. The post man's timing couldn't get more perfect than it is! ?

@Stakres you are right in that there are multiple models of truth that people should consider to stay open minded. The issue that follows is two fold: these are 'modals' about truth, and confusing ego for 'true self/I AM'. Every modal about truth and frankly anything in reality is partial. It's partial as long as it's an idea. And you can create modals that don't even need to directly interact with reality( modal about gravity vs modal about fleminitynityle): your mind is powerful enough to conceptualize anything and twist it to suit it's survival. Furthermore, through repetition, the modal is made into a belief with a list of justifications for the belief, further complicating things, and all this eventually becomes unconscious. And there are many ways to realize this. If you've had mystical experiences, getting glimpses, depending on the method, it sounds like you had the one were the self dissolves in a moment, revealing the SELF, then self rapidly reforms whilst you're basking in it. Somewhere along the way, you're so amazed at it, it becomes concept, and repeatedly justified as 'true self', becoming a belief you cling to. common mistake. Solutions simple: question your modals, keeping in mind that it's relative, keep open minded, and now work on realizing the 'no-self', however you get there.

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I've accepted the Nofap for 90 days challenge because I used to watch porn/ had sexual fantasies and fapped 1-3 times a day. I wanted to know if all these benefits are either true or false. I'm posting what I've discovered for 42 days of hard-mode Nofap and I'll be posting weekly what I discover. Before the journey: I'm 25 years old, currently living in the UK. I sometimes feel ill once or twice a year. I exercise once a week. I suffer from laziness, fatigue, feelings of defeat and depression. I have little to no contact with people outside of my family, I'm introverted, I'm unable to focus or listen to people. So far into the journey: I haven't felt ill at all, especially the cold I usually get in November-December time. I don't feel as lazy as I used to feel, I'm more productive. Feelings of defeat and depression are significantly reduced. While I somewhat still feel introverted, most people I come across I don't feel as bothered by. My ability to focus, listen and articulate my thoughts has significantly increased. These are some of the benefits I thought were not possible to experience: week 1: I felt more energy, confidence in myself and more sex drive. 2-3 days felt stressful, but I meditate my way through it. week 2: I felt more energy, confidence, more mental clarity, more present, more appreciation of some things, felt more self-control. week 3: I felt the horniest I've ever felt! I felt more energy, more confidence, more present, more mental activity, more grateful, more self-control, more willpower, I felt my dick and balls are larger, I felt more strength and endurance to the point I nearly injured myself doing too many exercises, more emotional, and less tired at night. week 4: Overall the same benefits, except I feel stronger, endure more and feel pressure on my forehead. I felt more alert, present, and could visualize things more clearly, more grounded, more emotional, more happy, more mindful. week 5: I felt more energy, more confident around people, less sexually aroused yet more random sexual feelings arise, more mental articulation, more joy in hobbies and life, more self-control, more discipline, and motivation. physical effects: I sometimes have harder, random erections are more sensitive and harder from random arousing thoughts. My hair feels smoother, my skin is slightly smoother. Side effects: I felt I was going through a strange flatline, had weird dreams, I struggled to relax while sleeping, sleeping less, and I overdid most of my arms and some of my legs and core and had DOMS almost all over. And headaches, headaches everywhere! Been slightly lazier, depressed and had weird dreams. Week 6: all the above, more amplified that it scared and amazed me a little. I really felt so much happiness, creativity, and proper philosophical to the point I could focus, contemplate, self-inquire and meditate so much more powerfully! I've lately picked up new habits like drawing, doing tai chi, and listening to new music. I usually don't like remixes, but lately I'm liking them, especially the Luna Remixes and that artist's music. I could easily create loads of stories and drawings and even start having ideas of making animations and not being bothered at all!

Sorry to hear about your situation. I've been through a similar negative spiral myself and survived. In regards to meditation, I think you're pushing WAY too much. I would do 20-30 minutes of meditation and focus more on hobbies and things I love/like than the negative. Move the body, shake it a bit, because a few of my negative moods occur when I don't move my body enough. Good luck!

I think the main problem is that most people A. still are struggling to fulfill their basic needs, B. have little innate/developed intuition, C. Have little innate/developed philosophical skills and the real kicker, D. don't have access to psychedelics and fear psychedelics. Any chance of immense growth is thrown out the window if you're struggling with all the above, or lack some of them. I'm re-focusing on the more basic videos, as they're starting to be more profound in contrast to his latest videos and I'm getting more value from them. I wish you good luck with your 2020 journey!

It's been more than a month since I've taken on the nofap hard mode challenge and being with a girlfriend. I've lately experienced some side effects: Intense insomnia. Even when I've tired myself out physically and mentally, I still have energy to be wakeful at midnight. Am I experiencing a form of hyper mania or mania that plagued Victorian women? Hyper aggression. Holy shit. Even though I meditate every day, and developed good letting go abilities with doing some tai chi, yoga and meditation, on occasions that're weekly or monthly I go through a phase where I figuratively transform into a werewolf. Do I keep meditating and letting go and treat it like a phase? Too much attention from women. This I started noticing and was brought to my attention by my girlfriend. And this is starting to bother me and my girl a bit. If you have any insight into downplaying this share. I'm at the very least free from Pornography and it doesn't bother me much. I've done a lot of work to unwire this part.

That's a bit tricky to say that. Leo's dangers of spiritual work video do explain that for the majority of mankind, there's either the minority that's born with the right genes or accumulated the right 'karma' from their past lives to have a stronger start for their spiritual journey. And the other minority with the wrong genes, brain chemistry or karma to still work through that makes it next to impossible to do the spiritual work. This is probably why, one of many other factors, that spiritual masters play coy and tell stories and metaphors to their students: to let the students develop some experience with their practices, get some mastery, and let their egos develop just enough spiritual ego, that it could tank these mystical insights and still be able to function. Bad example: you don't straight away give a child a full glass of wine, or else they get dead drunk. Instead, give a teaspoon, and over time, slowly increase the amount, until one day, the full glass does not affect them so much. This had saved my life one day when somebody drugged my punch juice at a party when I was in high school in the past, and I slipped away from that party and walked home by myself, not too heavily affected. Also, there are problems with the classical way of teaching spirituality, because you could waste a lot of time in one spiritual path, so being so direct with the listener, telling them straight about what's really at the end of the path, can both save that student's life if they really are not fated to do spirituality, or if they are fated to do spirituality and have experience, this 'preview' could help them prepare themselves much more and help speed them to realization compared to the classical way. So, suffering from damage onset muscle soreness might be more helpful in growing stronger than gentler exercises if you want stronger muscles. Actually, sleep and nutrition help much more in growth, but that's something else entirely! And yes, Leo said in one of his videos he's working on a better way of delivering his teachings, that's more compassionate, less icy and rough. Give him a break sometimes.

Well said.

Thanks for your suggestion. I might reconsider being in this Nofap state. Both my girlfriend and I love to experiment around with our lovemaking, including making it spiritual like astral sex. She'd be the death of me if we'd do it in diamond lotus Thanks for your suggestions! All I got to do is exert myself a bit more in my exercises, my hobbies and take some melatonin and get used to chamomile tea. When you say soak in the horniness, do you mean 'sexual transmutation'? I've heard about it somewhere before. Suggest any methods for sexual transmutation? Speaking about horniness, I've experienced what some would call edging and the 'blue balls'. What I haven't found yet when Nofappers talk about this is that it's even more painful the longer your on Nofap. A week or two in, no problem, just uncomfortable for roughly an hour. A month or more in, was enough to give me cramps for hours. So if I transmute my sexual energy, I keep it short and simple?

Have you learned anything new since you came actualized.org? Anything that helped you?

Basically, don't shoot the messenger, and any disagreements are with personality and presentation.

Thanks, already on the gratitude journaling.

For me, I'm learning way too much theory from him and taking less action. Also, this really depends on where you are at in life and who you are when you discovered actualized.org.

Well said.

I would tell that friend to probably take a break, and just focus on more basic stuff.

1. I'm grateful that I could type on the keyboard. 2. I'm grateful that I have three languages learned. 3. I'm grateful I could understand what I'm typing now. 4. I'm grateful that I woke up from sleep. 5. I'm grateful that I could take naps roughly in the middle of the day. 6. I'm grateful I could differentiate between night and day, and my eyes are healthy enough to see a bit more of the dark. 7. I'm grateful I haven't gone blind yet. 8. I'm grateful my body hasn't radically transformed yet. 9. I'm grateful that I have incredibly healthy teeth, haven't gotten any fillings or crowning yet, and 4 extra teeth more, and how weird my teeth are compared to people's teeth that are in a row, jutting and crocked. 10. I'm grateful I haven't gotten any dental/oral issues yet. 11. I'm grateful I could visualize anything/anybody in detail, almost close to being hyper-realistic, and that this ability is somewhat innate. 12. I'm grateful to have enough discipline to train my visualization abilities. 13. I'm grateful for being able to hear mental sounds clearly, and training this ability. 14. I'm grateful for being able to somewhat bring to mind feelings and physical sensations clearly in my mind. 15. I'm grateful for training my body's sensations through martial arts and fitness. 16. I'm grateful for discovering porn accidentally years ago, and explored most of what porn had to offer, and be amazed at what I thought was impossible to do during sex. 17. I'm grateful for having enough courage and willpower to try out Nofap and be sexually abstinent for a month and a half. 18. I'm grateful for being aware of how much more energy and presence I have during my state of Nofap, to the point I'm now suffering from insomnia, hyper aggression and hyper mood swings. 19. I'm grateful to discover that Nofap has limits, that Nofap alone won't help you grow, that the Nofap movement is limited to a degree that as a methodology it lacks any others methods than "just avoid porn" and has to borrow other methods from other methodologies like meditation from spiritual philosophies, exercise from fitness methodologies, cold showers from alternative medicine ideas. 20. I'm grateful for being able to remember smells and tastes from some of my favorite foods. 21. I'm grateful to realize I'm not that good with remembering smells and tastes to a hyper-realistic degree, and I'm grateful for looking forward to training these senses. 22. I'm grateful that I've experienced the paranormal in my childhood, and the spirit hadn't killed me. 23. I'm grateful that Leo's video on reproduction made me hyper-aware of my life purpose, that I'm currently re-evaluating my impact I want to have. 24. I'm grateful that I've caught myself agreeing to Leo's claim too much because I don't quite like the idea of having kids, family, a wife, and this I feel is the next challenge I might have to either overcome or accept. 25. I'm grateful that I wasn't born with severe schizophrenia, that I might have only a minor case of hearing some voices, and that I had come across imaginary beings, a few being my friends, and one is incredibly helpful, kind and patiently hears out all my bullshit. 26. I'm grateful for having so much bullshit in myself, and my life that it makes it worthwhile to do personal development work. 27. I'm grateful that I've come across actualized.org in the youtube recommendations. 28. I'm grateful that this website is of high quality and that I was treated fairly, and I am grateful that a few here demonstrated patience and fairness that other people in my culture won't have, and having actualized.org videos in my subconscious mind. 29. I'm grateful for discovering NLP and being able to trigger enough curiosity in me to contemplate in greater detail and helping out a few users here with some of their problems. 30. I'm grateful that I can start some new year resolutions. 31. Happy new year, everybody!

I'm going to do a practice of gratitude for 30 or more days to see if my happiness increases or I feel more positive. I might put my lists into categories or not. 1. I'm grateful for the home environment I'm in with my family, that our home is quiet. 2. I'm grateful that 20-30 years ago my parents decided to renovate this house by removing a wall and a small bedroom to increase more space. 3. I'm grateful for my bedroom, for having a double bed, having two shelves that hold my books, some clothes, and my boxes. 4. I'm grateful that I get to sleep in a bed mattress that's high quality, that used to belong to a hotel, that my parents decided to include in the shipping before we left Montreal. 5. I'm grateful for having a pillow for my head, another for hugging while sleeping, and a huge cover for my sleeping body. 6. I'm grateful that I still have a few big boxes for my older clothes that still fit me. 7. I'm grateful that the boiler still works to provide hot water for the shower, taps, and radiators in the house. 8. I'm grateful for the dinner table being the way it is, and the chairs are still good even though they're from another country. 9. I'm grateful that we still have plates to put our food in, that the kitchen has a working cooker and the pans allow me to cook my foods. 10. I'm grateful that we have a Christmas tree and some of the ornaments are from 20 + years ago. 11. I'm grateful for being alive. 12. I'm grateful for having a pet cat with me right now. 13. I'm grateful for having had a few pet goldfish and crickets decades ago. 14. I'm grateful for my parents who had a labrador that protected them and their old home in Indonesia when I was just a baby. 15. I'm grateful for having small plastic bags and litter which makes it easier to clean up after the cat. 16. I'm grateful for some pet stores I've been to and for the bunnies being super cute. 17. I'm grateful that birds visit the garden now and again. 18.I'm grateful for my garden being so big and spacious enough that I could walk around it. 19. I'm grateful that most of the garden has flags and a Japanese style stone mini garden in the middle, mostly done by my parents. 20. I'm grateful that I used to do martial arts like Tae Kwon Do and further developed discipline. I had taken the chance to buy a martial arts book on Shaolin kung fu, learned a little bit of it and came across how they meditated. The next couple of years of meditating here and there gave me enough experience to be able to handle some of Leo's other meditation techniques years later. 21. I'm grateful that meditation helped reduce my stress and anger issues I had when I was a teen. 22. I'm grateful that I'm able to focus a little bit more on a subject thanks to meditation. 23. I'm grateful that I could relax more from meditating. 24. I'm grateful for developing more patience thanks to meditating. 25. I'm grateful for the education I received so far, from maths, science, languages, art, history, and mechanics from my high school. 26. I'm grateful for learning about numbers, algebra, geometry, and probabilities. 27. I'm grateful for learning about science, physics, and chemistry even though it's at a basic level. 28. I'm grateful that I'm mainly speaking the English language, Indonesian, French and Portuguese languages when I was growing up. 29. I'm grateful for having taken part in a mechanics course and practicing my drawing abilities to the point of nearly drawing a realistic object. 30. I'm grateful for being able to go with my parents when they traveled to Indonesia, the USA, Brazil, Canada, Quebec and finally to the UK.

Here are the exact problems: INSOMNIA, HYPER AGGRESSION, TOO MUCH ATTENTION. I'm having trouble getting good quality sleep. I sometimes wake up late. I sometimes feel groggy, and more irritable than usual. I try my best not to get too riled up and am thankful I can channel this into a martial art and exercise. But this level of anger is worrying to me because it arose a few times in some social situations, and I managed to keep myself grounded. I was not expecting this much anger to happen during Nofap. I'm more worried that this much attention would strain our relationship and put unnecessary pressure on my girlfriend. Moreover, I became more aware of a feeling of disgust. To what? To have to face the possibility of cheating on her. And I'm starting to work through this feeling.

It would depend on what you really want from having a hot witch girlfriend. I'll give my take on how to start pursuing a relationship with a witch. The first thing I'll do is contemplate what I really want from having a relationship with a witch. For example, I'll ask myself questions, chunking up/down and clarify my values I want to fulfill in this relationship"what do I really want with a hot witch girlfriend?", and my answer " I want a hot witch girlfriend because I want to have sex with a hot woman and be with a cool witch.". "Is hot sex and belonging with a witch what I really value", "Well, I want to be able to have amazing orgasms with this woman and feel sexually satisfied, and I do empathize with how a witch is judged by normal folk, and because of having a similar experience of being negatively judged I feel for a witch.". " Is satisfying my sexual need, my need for company, and feeling empathy values I want out of this relationship?", "Well, an image and sound in mind of a hot witch girlfriend are what's attractive to me, and a woman who's brave enough to be what she wants to be is attractive to me.". "what state do I want from a witch?", And so on until you have your set of values you want out of a relationship. It's like winning a million dollars. You're not satisfied with just the money, or the freedom and opportunities it can give you externally, but the values and feelings that getting this amount of money would provide you, along with the state you want to satisfy in you. Once you have clarified your values and states, you move on to further clarify if those values are uniquely your own or from culture. It's not enough to be told by someone, like a family member or authority, a set of values towards relationships, and be like "well, my family is of an occult tradition, and they told me to marry a witch and to pass on 'power', 'tradition', and honor 'family', and raise the 'chosen one'.". Instead, be like "well, actually, I value in myself being cool, authenticity, freedom, and sexuality, so if a woman exhibits these values and similar, that's who I want to be in a relationship with.". After contemplating what you actually value in this relationship, you then start visualizing, using your senses, and construct multiple visualizations that are context-based. Without context, you won't be effective in finding a hot witch girlfriend. See, hear and feel each visualization, from dating a witch to having sex with a witch to living with one. See your relationship with a hot witch girlfriend morph over time, weekly, monthly and yearly. I would first disassociate with this timeline, see myself in 3rd person being successful and modify around every element of my senses around, then associate into that me, and re-experience this success movie from 1st person view. If I can change some elements here and there and find myself experiencing more powerful states, then that's good. If there's any resistance to these values or visualizations, I would alter how I frame the values and visualizations into a more positive one. If I catch my self-talk being negative, I would flip the frame by both changing the wording around and/or my mental tonality around into a more positive one. I would then challenge any limiting belief I might have in this relationship, and integrate any resisting part of me that has its own values with the newer part of me with its own values. Then I would start taking action and go find these witches. Meanwhile, during/after getting dates with witches, I would match my behavior and tonality to every future date with witches, so that my voice/facial expression/body language is congruent with both my intention and her own, which helps speed up trust between you to if the prior dates you picked up any social anxiety/awkwardness in your tonality/body language which could make the other insecure about you. Be mindful of your voice/face/body! Also, it might help if you could rehearse this and somehow seal this state into your body repeatedly so that the state is associated with a particular external part of your body or surrounding. Also, be flexible and willing to integrate and try out many pieces of advice your receiving here, and adjust your visualizations and approaches accordingly. Very important! What I just told you are a series of techniques found in NLP(neuro-linguistic programming), from eliciting values, reframing, visualization using all modalities, to changing sub-modalities, mapping across, using a timeline, future pasting, addressing limiting beliefs, parts-integration, calibration, and anchoring. If you are serious in actually finding a hot witch girlfriend, then NLP might help you. Or not. It all depends on you. Good luck with your witch hunt!

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