Danioover9000

@DrewNows @Leo Gura Unrelated to UFOs, I read that Albert Einstein, prior to developing his theory of spacetime relativity, had insights about spacetime by doing visualizations of being light itself traversing space, and zooming in and out of the top of the Eiffel tower. I think to really understand UFOs is to try to imagine yourself as one flying through the air, or hovering in the air.

@creator20 The main issue you're facing is how you spread out the negative behaviors of your interactions with men on a general basis across your personal time line, which is a common mechanism of the mind to not concentrate any needed work to change a problem or a belief it holds itself. In order for you to change a personal problem, you need to clarify more and more the nature of the problem until the problem ceases to be a problem. you've demonstrated that you could offer context to your problem, like with your example of at a social situation you communicated to your male friend about your desire to become a manager at work. Notice that in this context there's still missing details like how you communicated to your male friend speech wise, how you sounded to your friend, how you held your body while conversing, what were you thinking about while conversing, what were you feeling while you're conversing. Also Notice a lack in detail in describing your male friend: What is his appearance like? Is he younger, the same age or older? What is his mood earlier in the conversation, his tonality, his body language? How has his voice and body changed after you tell him of your desire to become a work manager? Does your male friend also work at the same workplace as you? Another lack in this context is the situation itself: Is this occurrence at lunch break in work? At the afternoon cafe? At the restaurant? In a nightclub? Was the location noisy and busy with people, or is it too quiet and isolated? Is this at a funeral event? This occurrence were you communicated your desire for becoming a manager to your male friend, say, at lunch break in the cafeteria is different compared to communicating at the nightclub, around midnight while consuming alcohol. There's also the same issue with the lack of context to the occurrence while you were driving your guy friend to his friend's house. Is this the same individual you confided you desire to become a manager, or a different guy friend? Is his body language relaxed or tensed? What is his general mood before the ride, during the ride and after? What does his voice sound like? How does he speak? If he's annoyed before he's defensiveness during you conversation with him, what is he annoyed about? What is the condition of the interior of your car? Was it a mess, or was it very clean? Was there a fragrance you used for the car? What was it? Since this event occurred while driving, what was the traffic like? Was it too busy, or a quiet road? What was playing on your car radio? What music was playing, or what were the radio people talking about? What were the weather conditions like? Was there a minor emergency, like a quick turn to avoid a collision or bystander crossing the road or a miss firing of your car, that could've altered the relaxed mood between you two? Since you're driving, how competent are you as a driver? Fresh out of the driving school, driven for a few months or years? How's your pedal management like? Do you smoothly transition from baking to acceleration? Do you slow down smoothly before a sleeping policeman or yellow to red light, or is the transition broken rhythm? How's your handling of the stirring wheel? Too sharp or smooth transition? I'll share a bit about what annoys me the most in situations around driving: I have a sister that can drive, and has driven for about 2 years. Despite the years of driving, she still hasn't got down the timing of the stirring wheel turns, the accelerating and braking still have these staccato broken-up timings with each press of those pedals, which can effect my general mood and thinking into annoyance about her level of driving skill the times I would be the passenger. However, my father can drive his vehicle excellently, his handling of the pedals was smooth and timed well, his handling of the wheel is also smooth, his parking, frontal and reversal, is superb compared to my sister, and I know this from one of his stories about when he was a child, he had these types of toy cars that had an extended metallic stick that controlled the stirring of the toy car. When I was the passenger with/without other family members at the car, his driving has little to no adverse effects on my thinking and moods. My mother's driving is closer to my Dad's driving, except she would put more distance between her car and other cars, and her acceleration was more sharper than her braking. Sometimes I noticed I'd think and feel more nervous when she accelerated too much or enters the highway. In each driving situation, I'd also say depending on my thinking and mood prior to driving, and what's on the radio and how I communicate to the other passengers and driver, that their responses to me may also effect my thinking and moods. Another issue I noticed about your post is how you briefly offer some context to your personal individual problem with communicating to your male friend, but then you exit out of that context to go to a bigger, general context about unclear societal issues and unclear male/female dynamic problems and gender inequalities that is unclear. You bring up social problems with gender inequality, social treatment of females by males, and set up a meta justification that because society has moved on from physical threats, we don't need to fixate on male/female dynamic issues, all still too general. However, the additional meta contexts (society + patriarchy defensiveness + female victimhood) is a leap of faith of your mind: It doesn't want to work to resolve the personal problem with your guy friend's defensiveness, it now distracts by generalizing this specific context of your personal problem into other bigger problems involving different contexts like with other men treating women ( not how I was treated by my guy friend), because which society are you referring to with these male/female dynamics? The USA? The UK? Canada? Mexico? Europe? Africa? South America? Really, notice how different your personal problems look like with each society looks like as you replace the meta context of society surrounding your individual, personal problem at the social context between you and your guy friend? Also, notice the historic context your mind surrounds your personal problem with in reference to the lack of physical problems as a universal context to explain the social dynamics of male/female dynamic issues: What does this lack of physical threats look like? Native American savages? African tribal barbarism? Viking mass pillages? I also noticed in your last paragraph that you have no issue with unbiased, fact based discussions in context of performance between the sexes. Why no issue? Here I'll presume about your mind a bit: Because you stated you have a mind that prefers logic, rationale and is a 'male mind', then of course you'd have not issue with unbiased, fact based discussions in context to performances between the sexes, as these qualities are acceptable modals of reality your mind has acquired and developed early childhood-present time. What your mind might take serious issue with are biased, feelings-based discussions/debates not in context with performances between the sexes, and especially will avoid addressing problems at the self identity level, where issues in context to social events involving family members, peers, students, in social contexts, where your forming self identity as a growing woman was challenged, and your mind had to delete, distort and generalize that physical/psychological/emotional trauma with male values of your upbringing and resists some of the female qualities that your mind perceived as what led to your vulnerability in the first place. I would first say to try and allow yourself, in a quiet private room in meditation, to allow yourself to feel your emotions, to identify your biases and really own your preferences, and let yourself be ok with being more right brained, more open to new experiences and alternative contexts, to explore different viewpoints of your problem.

@Vercingetorix Life in the middle ages for a peasant is far more difficult and different to modern life that You'd need to study some history, do lots of visualization from each perspective involved in that time period, really open your mind and maybe take psychedelics to fully appreciate how lucky you really are compared to these people. Life really was different back then.

@Demeter That does take a lot of meditation and mindfulness experience to surrender to the void. I'll speak from past experience of that void: most of the negative qualities to it are actually coming from your ego and mind, very quickly, projecting negative qualities to this 'void'. 'no consciousness present', 'dead', and 'empty', are descriptions coming from your mind, not the characteristics of the void itself. There are much dangerous pockets of dimensions like the 'Abyss' that contain alien entities that have negative frequencies, some have paranormal events surround particular ones, can traverse pockets of space and time, and have long ago from interactions with different life forms have influenced deeper parts of our psyche. Just stay consistent with your meditation/mindfulness practice and you'll develop a stabilizing ability for the 'void'.

@_Archangel_ It's hard to imagine any use for aliens visiting us and interacting with human beings. I'd say don't worry about aliens and improve your life instead.

Update: I'm now able to prolong her form more in my waking state more solidly, the colors and shape. Her voice is more pinpointed at the spot I'm super imposing, like if I see her sitting on the bench to my right and we're conversing in mental voice, it's coming at the right side of the bench. During meditation, if she visits me and she places her hand on my shoulder, I could now perceive the weight and warmth of that hand. There was also a moment of hurt, followed by anger and some depression from some individuals a few days ago, and in private when I conversed with this being it felt similar to a weight lifting off my shoulder.

All this because the OP didn't clearly contextualize the entire situations she heard the phrase 'men are objectively superior to women'. We don't know anything about the situations the phrases are used, we don't know from the OP the nature of her relationships to the men that uttered the phrase, we don't know enough to say they got defensive first or are provoked by OP's behavior/communication. So far, there's so little context that advice is limited down to 'don't be triggered by such phrasing'. I hope OP is willing to give detailed explanation of the context of the phrasing because guessing work isn't my strong suit and it saves time and energy for all involved.

@Jennjenn Your mind is making that comparison, that's the key issue you're missing. You're used to being self identified as a woman that any other self identification and worldview not programmed from upbringing is already threatening.

@datamonster I think when we are comparing, we are comparing for usefulness and for maintaining our models. However, those that compare to maintain modals instead of comparing for updating or replacing modals are the ones that are more threatened. For example with the people who hold the belief of male superiority, they generalize that as saying that all men are superior compared to women in all ways, instead of contextualizing that belief down. They also distort this view, especially if they identify strongly as a man and repeatedly experience life as a man and delete other bits of information that contradicts the meta programming of your self concept( I'm a male, I'm strong, I can handle pain, I can drink bear.) and worldview (I'm a patriot, I love my country, I love my stuff, this is my likes and body, I have these friends at bars. I live here, this is what I do and these are what I don't do or say.). Also good to not forget that evolution is still occurring.

@Frenk What is going on is that most people still new to this journey, when they encounter the void, their egos react with fear and depression. The reports from people who experience near death experiences have different contexts vs other people's reports of the void by psychedelics, spiritual practices and unexplainable accidental glimpses of reality. people who NDE have little control and expectation of witnessing the void while others meet the void at varying degrees of control, they have some idea about the emptiness, have lots of ideas and a few glimpses of it and so on. All evaluation of the void is post mortem: judgements of it's goodness and evilness are from the ego or the newer ego. Also, a surviving mind will have new ideas that further distorts and generalizes the void. There's another possible conflation they are mistaking unconsciously and that is they refer to the abyss and not the void. Both the 'void' and the 'abyss' hold special functions in consciousness as different dimensions, similar to the Akashic records. The abyss is special in that the majority of negative paranormal entities dwells there, and some travel through pockets of space and time, others are capable of projecting their bits of consciousness into other planes of existence similar to how gifted spiritual people can soul travel or astral project deeply into a dimension. Throughout human history and earlier parts of evolution, these entities come and go, interacting directly and indirectly with life here, until we have some of their essences left in deep parts of the psyche, which may have formed the architypes later discovered.

@creator20 What did you do or say that triggered these men in the first place to defend male superiority?

@Galyna Just to be safe, maybe do 5 more years of contemplating the boundaries between self and experience, experience and experience. Solipsism as a notion is when a person has changes to the perceptions and concludes that objects and subjective experiences like emotions and thoughts that come from otherness, because of separate conscious agents, are not himself/herself, therefore not real. Every explanation for a solipsists to explain the solipsism view hinges on the self as the only existing thing and is real. Solipsists are partially correct in their explanation, except they conflate ego self for a sense of existing. I think spiritual techniques primarily for developing strong states of disassociations of self might be good against solipsism view .

Really, there isn't an age restriction to learning and going to college. Most important is deciding on what to study and wanting to do it. Roughly half the population unconsciously and lazily study, while the other half and less consciously study, and even less have more consciousness to utilize. Really the greatest challenge at this era is sorting out true from false information, and more difficult is to figure out a way to stop learning at will. That's it.

@Proserpina This sounds quite the poetic hook. I think the restriction should mainly be at the political sub-forum or the spiritual sub-forum, where any type of distortion and denial like trolling has the strongest negative effect. Hopefully this doesn't foster trigger happy bannings.

@Mikael89 I've been going through a grieving cycle where I was mostly depressed and sometimes angry, but I'm lately recovering. Don't know if that's another indifference or actual acceptance of what just happened. I think the only hope for scientists to release themselves of the materialist paradigm is to do some meditation, visualization work, intense spiritual work and psychedelic, and a combination of these and more. Probably to still have an open and flexible mind to begin with helps a lot too.

@Fadl @Tim R It's more likely that to admit that most of his life and the condition he's in was so full of suffering that to admit that it's all illusory is a real bitter pill to swallow. It's far easier to make God an enemy than to be God and take responsibility, because that taking responsibility also invalidates his majority of suffering he went through his life in that condition. It's tough when suffering is that deep.

@Mikael89 I also think it's because these types of people have spent a lot of time and energy building themselves up as scientists until it's a subconscious belief. Really nice quote there! Also been a while, how are you doing?

@Opo Sure, people need guidelines, but a basic course on using this forum and doing high quality posts is really important, especially for users that don't over browse the interent, and still learning. You're faith in online users is too much! Nowhere in the guidelines teaches me how to post high quality posts ( the old version not the new updated guidelines) and how I use basic features of my user and profile and something basic like that.

@Consept There was some truth in Obama colluding with the UK, but in the other direction: The PM wanted Obama to voice his support for him and to slightly condemn the conservatives for whining about the PM's leanings towards the EU because of his Lib Dem position. The PM even spent a holiday living at Obama's place LOL!

@Gesundheit What this forum needs is a course on basic tutorial of using this website, posting high quality threads and replies, 5-7 hours of content on how to use this forum, post high quality posts and identify low quality posts, and a few hours of clarity on debating versus discussing, I've interacted with some users who admitted to me that they haven't even known an ignore option was available! You can ignore trouble making users here, yet that wasn't taught the first time becoming a member, and other basic online functions here. I was harassed here years back and I could've saved myself the headache if I knew the ignore option was a thing.

@TheSomeBody The blue is referring to the spiral dynamics modal that Leo made a video series on. Go and watch the entire series to get a good overview of other people's psychological development and your own. Conformists, conservatives, republicans, traditionalists, historians, religious fundamentalists, Alt right/left like fascists, extremists, nationalists, virgins and people who tend to think in good/bad extremes have a similar thinking to you. These types of views are constrained views of relationships and sexuality, and their egos are more on their group than their own selves, which is one reason why these types have a more difficult time dating and leading other women. Also, traumas and perceived faults of women can factor in. Using insulting labels onto another person is one of the signs of a mind projecting it's shadow away from itself, so in this case your self identity is likely an Incel or virgin, but admitting that is the last thing your mind will do, so it calls others the things it doesn't like itself to be to not face up and integrate that part.

@99alvarosanchez First of all it's really wrong to go too far into spirituality compared to too little basic self help techniques, NLP and so on, especially if you're still mid 20's and younger and still developing a self concept. The more hardcore spirituality comes later when your ego is fat enough to take it on. Secondly, 'having an ego is wrong' is just like saying 'having a sense of self is wrong'. You're wrong here, because you having a sense of self, thoughts and emotions and being incapable of having other people's sense of existing, thoughts and feelings means you're the only one existing and all places and people to you is a projection of your mind.

That everyone, including you, is a projection of my mind, and I'm the only one existence so far.

If you mean from your physical eyes then no you can't see 100% through eye lids, other than the lighting. If you're referring to mind's eye, absolutely yes you can see beyond your closed eye lids to worlds and things you can't quite explain.

@Hatfort I'm referring to born psychopaths incapable of emotions, and possibly birth trauma related psychopathy as these types struggle with identity the most towards other people, and some cases to themselves. However the people pretending to be psychopathic as a distraction isn't what I'm referring to.. I can't believe I have to explain this.