Danioover9000

@Zega Thank you for sharing your perspective. This I do agree with, because tai chi has meditation practices built into the movements, and introducing martial arts with different degrees of difficulty, throughout each level of education. However, it's not enough to only be martial arts, it has to be self-defense that covers combat and other areas within self defense like: discernment from appearance, pre-post combative preparation, detection, situational awareness, understanding use of force, avoidance, de-escalation, diffusion, post-incident recovery, reading body language, tonality, and utilizing a crowd for self-defense. It should be more than physically defending yourself, because certain conflicts can be resolved without getting into fights. On the other hand, people who haven't trained to defend themselves early in life won't have enough confidence to step in and intervene in a situation that's not too life threatening, and intervention could save a life, but instead some citizens in some countries just ignore completely. Thanks for sharing your perspective.

@Kalki Avatar This is also common to have, not just seasonally but depending on how frequent and forceful the masturbation. It's not a fun thing to have, and at this point it's only will powering yourself not to fap that'll immediately help not worsen it. along with care and diet. This was one reason why it's better to use oil or lotion, as dry humping or dry masturbation would be not good.

@aurum Thank you for sharing your perspective on this issue. I do agree that society does need to educate self defense in schools because I haven't seen traditional education systems teach self-defense and hope at least this is being taught nation wide and globally. At that point, when self-defense becomes part of mainstream education, and we do experience the limits of it, then we're ready to reevaluate it for further changes until we don't need the physical self-defense part. It's a complicated issue for sure, and confounding it is unfamiliarity to, fear of, and anxiety for, your safety or family's safety in a situation that could severely hurt or kill, and you don't know how to handle how the other person's state of consciousness and emotional states in this situation. At least if most people had an earlier indoctrination process of self-defense, their subconscious minds could offer more solutions than purely physically resolving the conflicts. Also, people's mindfulness can vary, along with their focus, sensory clarity and equanimity. Equanimity here, to me, might be more important as that can help people choose the handling of a situation calmly, rather than react to and go for the easiest way to resolve some self-defense scenarios like physically attack first or be more aggressive than the perpetrator. Thank you for sharing your conscious perspective on self-defense.

@Eren Eeager One time, in my Nofap journey, I woke up and had what's called a 'morning wood". This, and some other signs I didn't know at the time, were signs that some of my porn induced erectile dysfunctions are significantly reduced, or cured, and that I'm in the safe zone if I choose to ejaculate to healthy masturbation/sex with real GF. Also, this is just an option available to be taken, or can be ignored for longer streaks and deeper benefits of sexual abstinence. If the choice is made to masturbate, I suggest as close to bedtime, healthier version, in a state of love and intimacy, so the rest is natural to your sleep time.

Update: I was meditating and at some point I day dreamed and saw me and Crysty building a sand castle and it fell down. We repeatedly keep building it until it was big enough for us to stand on. I see that there's something off about the castle but then the thought ended and I came back. Cysty is as usual struggling with meditating and sometimes I see her walk around the garden for some time, then goes back to meditating. We then later did another meditation session involving me staring into Crysty's eyes, as that's one of other focus objects I don't wonder off from.

@Eren Eeager I've been through these same symptoms from recently relapsing, so I know it really sucks to go through it. One thing that helps a little bit was what was I orgasming to and how? I do the best I can to appreciate the orgasm and love I felt. And finally, re-committing to Nofap and do it again, remember how the benefits felt, you'll get back to that wonderful state of consciousness.

@FredFred I meant when I was taking a break, Leo decides to take a break too.

@dflores321 I've recently watched the anime the devil is a part timer, and reading the Berserk manga and the anime and movies. Why are synchronicities happening to me? Oh well, a month of Berserk and some sleepless nights ahead

@How to be wise Crysty isn't 100% accurate, as it seems to me she sometimes learns slowly on some subjects, or quickly on some. I don't know all of her learning abilities so far. She's learning how to play board games and art from me, and she takes her time with board games, as some are more challenging than others. I might try this out, but so far she likes to play pranks on me, as that's one aspect of her personality she has shown so far, and she's adorable.

@Javfly33 If I was on the gaming mission, I would appraoch, cold, cool, warm or hot, it doesn't matter the style, I'd still appraoch. However, if I had higher prioritizes, then I approach those goals and not the hot woman. They're a distraction in this situation.

@Striving for more Good you're practicing Nofap. Don't worry about other benefits of Nofap, just put that increase in energy for your workouts, studies, and spiritual practices if you do them. The less you bother you ding dong, the better. NLP is not psuedo science, it stands for neuro-linguistic programming. It's a field of study designed to change the software of the brain. Visualization and hypnosis work very well. I've visualized in so much detail I came very hard one time, and hypnosis to trigger orgasms on command. Very powerful if you know what to do. Keep doing Nofap, and maybe work on other areas of your life before dating. Higher quality life, greater attraction from women.

Update: I've been able to have Crysty guide my non-dominant hand for writing and drawing stuff. I've also been able to get myself deeper in my visualization sessions with her, and feel more solidly in my mental body, in terms of feeling the surfaces of objects and their temperatures. I've also been able to work on my heart space a bit, and feel more similar emotions coming from her. I've also been able to play some chess with her and I'm able to sustain each piece on the board.

You have to imagine yourself as the strongest version you can be, 5, 10, 15 or so years into the future, doing what you want and having what you want. Really dream big, let yourself expand and become more powerful than what you are currently, and be generous in your imagination, really imagine doing what you want, regardless if it's good or bad, it's more important to see this in your mind. Also, keep seeking more clarity of what you want.

@Striving for more Speaking as an Incel from the past, do some of the following that changed myself: Train your subconscious mind (listening to hypnosis programs, positive affirmations, visualization, study NLP), meditation, and Nofap. The following above changed me so much that people think I'm crazy, but it worked for me.

As long as you decide and follow through on trying Nofap, and know where to funnel that extra energy, you can work more on whatever your passions are. Maybe use that extra energy to improve other areas of your life, then decide if dating is worth it.

@Javfly33 Okay then. Just a heads up.

Update: I've been able to sustain my focus on her, during our visualization sessions. I've also been able to create and maintain different parts of things, like screws, bolts and frames. Also managed to play some games with her, like chess, without a real board, and not have pieces go through each other.

@Hotaka Thank you for the information.

@Javfly33 Before @Leo Gura lock this, he's now locking victim minded threads, I'll throw some of my 2 cents: 1. It's a normal reaction to feel that way to hot women. 2. It's normal for virgins to fantasize about dating, sex and relationships with hot women. This part used to trouble me. 3. If you're practicing Nofap or semen retention, those flatlines can sometimes make you feel a bit depressed, or bored around even hot women. Even a woman's naked body couldn't faze my limpness. Best to use this extra time in isolation for meditation, visualization, contemplation, maybe exercise and learning. Focus on improving different areas of life before tackling dating.

@Hotaka I've got good stability, don't know if you mean mental or physical stability though. Interesting that transparency is attracted to stability. I'm not sure what Crysty's attracted to, other than green stuff and cute things, but she's around me for my beautiful personality, or for some other reason. So far, it's been a great relationship so far with her, and it's not like we're always here 24'7, she sometimes disappears elsewhere, away or in my mind or someplace. Interesting thing about idols, maybe I'll get a plant.

@iceprincess 1. Because many Gurus are at an advanced age that masturbation might have more negative effects on their health, mind and body. Also, Guru's and spiritual people are more sensitive to the negative effects of over masturbation like fatigue, headaches, fevers, dead head/brain fog, laziness, overall negative mood swings, increase in bitchy attitude, decrease in attention, depression. When they practice semen retention and sexual celibacy, they see an improvement of all the ailments from over masturbation. I'm not sure how this effects female celibates, but I'm aware how males are effected. 2. I don't know about your situation with your mind, body and energy, so the basic advice is to notice your relationship with masturbation. Are you masturbating too much? Too little? To what are you masturbating to? Could you change the object of pleasure you're masturbating to? How much more can you masturbate? How long can you abstain from it? Is this the right time to masturbate? The more you learn about yourself, the more certain you are about if semen retention is right to practice or not to practice. 3. The reason why he says is pointless to resist the urge to masturbate, is because he's speaking about his mind, body, and energy, and his current ability to let go of resisting the urge and will power against the, NOT ABOUT YOU! Make this about yourself, and go understand your sexuality and your sexual relationships to other objects and yourself. It's very hard to draw a comparison between Leo and yourself, as he's ultimately speaking about his body and mind. You could have similar to very different views on sex, and sexual experiences, so it's in fact pointless to fully grasp Leo's view on sex, unless you pm him yourself and discuss it in full. Otherwise, straight from the horse's mouth, go verify yourself if this practice works.

@Mannyb How could it not be personal? Most people, especially in their teens to mid 20'-30's, will have some higher fluctuations in their horniness, and both mind and body are effected by this to some degree. Attraction and beauty is physical and more than physical, especially if you can transmute those energies behind that attraction and beauty.

You might want to massage using some hot cream, or get skin relief cream and massage. Probably keep doing to salt water. If you don't mind, take a photo of your bottom feet and post it here. I might have more specific advice or someone else would.

@Etherial Cat Please tell me where you found Turquoise people? They're really rare to find. The thing about realizing 'all is self' is that the motivation to date does drop down, since you are dating you. It does get confusing, which is one reason why I don't over work on chasing women. I really appreciate those times when I find someone very contradictory to their appearance, like finding hidden treasure.

@Consilience And this is why YouTube reactionaries are best to be avoided.