Danioover9000

A great video on how culture effects martial arts, and why sometimes it's not enough to defend yourself physically. Also another reason why the education system should teach self-defense and martial arts:

Take videos of yourself, and marvel at your existential cringe-ness . Or watch cringe compilations until you desensitize to it.

@Chives99 This had almost the opposite with me, my mind goes more crazy in meditation, and much more of a struggle to keep focused.

@Javfly33 I'd try to be mindful of what I'm feeling, and let it go.

@iceprincess Have you tried it out before?

@PurpleTree I've watched that episode, and one of my porn binges in the past started after watching this. Nearly put myself in the hospital.

@AlphaAbundance This is interesting to explore here, because this is a fatal mistake that could undermine almost all progress, especially faced with many different types of rejections that it almost feels like a dark ight of the souls moment that the person could've pushed further, but instead thought it was really the end and just like that gave up and moved on to something else entirely.

@No Self I agree that more information about context is needed before making demeaning comments, ideally shouldn't be given. I tend to think that people who are/identify as asexual have slight advantage with dating.

@Keyhole I definitely think studying body language is needed in social settings because it can make conversations more efficient. However, if someone has low or lower levels of social intelligence, they'll end up having to self experiment and trial and error their way into social fluency. In these cases I'd say if you take into account all other signs, and decide to say hi to a phone user, then it's okay to interrupt, as long as your own body language, facial gestures and tone is not aggressive and more assertive/passive. I also tend to wear headphones, but no music, as my visualization is strong enough I play my own music in my head, so if I'm interrupted, I know it waaay before the other does.

@Hardkill There are a few things I disagree with Jocko here, and that's claiming that owning a gun is the ultimate form of martial arts. Yeah, owning a gun is considered the ultimate form of martial arts in the USA and nowhere else. It's such a ridiculous claim because some people don't own a gun, some countries have tighter gun regulations or owning fire arms is illegal, and only a small percentage like ex soldiers and police officers are allowed to own guns, some criminals somehow have guns, but most of the population in some countries have little access to guns. I'm feeling uncomfortable pointing this out because he's ex navy seals, he should be aware how simple his generalization is when he made such a claim. Same thing with Joe Rogan, and his gripe with different martial arts, and having some bias for MMA. I'm not too harsh on Joe as he's a bit more open minded than Jocko, but when it comes to addressing where MMA is weak and traditional martial arts is strong, he tends to not want to go deeper with deconstructing MMA's weaknesses and distracts by pointing out traditional martial art weaknesses.

@Hotaka What does that Latin phrase mean?

@Gesundheit We do need some examples of trolling behavior. In the past I was joking to some other users, but didn't even know that I was trolling and my sense of humor was different to normal people and got some warning points.

@Striving for more Go do just that, be boring and say whatever to the woman, like 'Hey, you've got a cute face/hair/clothes or whatever, and I find it refreshing. Came from a party/birthday party/ whatever place?' Nice approach is to come up to her and ask 'Hi, there, do I know you from somewhere?'. She might say 'No, sorry, do I know you?'. This helps you in some ways, gives you a chance to exit the small talk later, or deepen it if she chooses, and gives her the chance to reject or accept your approach because it's so innocent. Follow up like ' Well, I've seen you before at my work place/party/holiday at some country, and I saw you doing/talking to somebody/helping somebody out, and I remember your cute hair/face/clothes from before, I'm the nerdy/jock/edgy/shy guy from before, remember?' Again, this give her two or more options, to reject you by saying 'Well, I'm sorry, I still don't know you. I'm kinda busy or something', or she might play along or actually think you're from her past encounters, and you follow up. This interaction you're leading, and you're in charge of the flow of the conversation, taking whatever conversation threads she's giving you, and anytime you want, you can still exit and ask for her number to keep in touch., or something like that.

@Striving for more Small talk about anything, like the weather or what's around you.

@Preety_India Try to contact that mod to seek clarification, and if that doesn't work, try and pm Leo, regarding say warnings. Getting a ban and resolving that might be more difficult, because it may take other users to raise this issue.

@Loving Radiance Actually that's good framing, like just say hi, small talk and exit. Make annoying people your mission by greeting and small talk at least, anything else is bonus. It's pretty automatic to me to say hi, small talk about my surroundings and weather, and exit. Key is doing this mindfully.

Like I've said, it's not enough to physically defend yourself, you'll have to be able to socially defend yourself as well, because most self-defense situations could be de-escalated within the social context. If there's preparation already in place within the education system that covers this, there's a higher chance of managing social situations better.

@Heart of Space Yes, this is what I want for societies going forward: general confidence, greater mindfulness, proper knowledge and procedure within the education system at varying degrees of complexity, and a decrease in social situations where people just freeze, or turn the cheek and ignore when some intervention, for example first aid or calling out would be enough to save a life. Also, thanks for bringing up the additional point that self-defense in the education system can make it easier for communities to self-police, and develop community policing, even increase the quality of available police officers for hire and for training as well. Despite my vision for the education system including self-defense, I do see how this vision can be distorted and corrupted for more than it's intended purpose. For example, a third world society and a dictator or elite might really like my proposal, and would happily implement it leaving out some crucial parts like mindfulness, in the aim of militarizing a country, similar the North Korea.

@Byun Sean This is what I'm trying to say to everyone: Don't make a decision having little to no experience first hand. How hard is it to get into easy mode Nofap? Or semen retention for the truth seekers out there? @Leo Gura needs to give it a try before demonizing this holy practice first.

@soos_mite_ah Yes, I meant explore your sexuality, more than just appearance. Same with different relationships and dating.

@How to be wise Obviously, of course.

@AlphaAbundance It's justified to view people like this who haven't gone through dating/sex/relationships, however we've got some people who gone years of hell with dating/sex/relationships, and on top of that their minds distort this. Do such people qualify for this belief system?

@PurpleTree It depends where you post. Mostly if you just post in your journal nobody would be too critical and bash, but posting on other sub-forums besides the journaling sub-forum, get ready to be bashed. Also, depends on how you write the topic, as a discussion or for a debate. Of course, if your making an assertion, be prepared to fight using points, reasons and gentle rebuttals. Everything here pales in comparison to being bashed face-to-face though.

@Striving for more Have you tried Nofap? It might give you extra motivation to at least greet, then question like how are you? and comment. Comments can vary, but the most effective is guessing comments/question, like 'I think you work at the hair dressers in town, and she may/may not correct, but if she does, and asks why, comment on what aspect of her appearance or behavior, be friendly about it. Or 'Do you work at the hair dressers?', or straight up say ' Are you single?' friendly tone and body language. Guessing statements/questions offer him/her the chance to correct you, harshly or lightly, and this give you the chance to follow up more, like with compliments or comments about the environment, chances to describe/tell a story. Don't forget to alternate between questions and statements.

@NoSelfSelf Confirmed this a week ago. My experiences would vary from person to person, but this did happen. Also, I've had discussions with dreams with her.