Markus

Dating is essential for dating.

Holy shit, you weren't kidding about the infinite creativity

@Voyager Hey come over, let's try some strong determination waterboarding It's probably safer. Seriously though, watch out with that shit. If I enter cold or hot water and the body gets used to it & I stop suffering - it probably isn't doing any damage. But if it's still uncomfortable, it's probably not good for you.

Decriminalized =/= legal of course.

Probably not. But she's like a medium that puts his wisdom into a form the regular unenlightened folk can more readily grasp Peter minus Laura = Reflections on Being (that book is some heavy stuff )

Outdated in the sense it doesn't nearly capture Leo's current depth of insight that we see in recent videos. He's changed a lot. Though by all means, Leo was knowledgeable on a large variety of things in personal development back then already.

Works for me. Outdated as Leo has said.

Good questions for you to personally contemplate, rather than speculate. Love ya, Markus

I see entertainment as somewhat of a guilty pleasure among self-actualizers. It's what you allow yourself a little of (or in my case, a lot - which really isn't helping;) ) on the side of more important endeavors. But while you're at it, why not pay attention, and even that avenue could teach you something. I'll give three examples. One is Jack from "Talk Dirty To me", who inspired dating coach Alan Roger Currie's highly bold and straightforward way of interacting with women. @Leo Gura mentions an example of a strategic thinker in his video about strategic thinking, I have written it somewhere but won't look it up right now. Thirdly, David Duchovny's character Hank Moody on "Californication" gives I think a fairly realistic portrayal of the behavior of a prolific womanizer. You can trace his behavior back to an attitude a person exhibiting such behavior would need to have. And one can also learn from him fucking up at pretty much everything else. What I'm expecting from this thread is more examples from you people. Let's make our leisure time more fruitful and creative.

Yea you better

@HypSandar Was there some specific video where Leo mentioned this stuff? Or was it a forum post.

I think the high self-esteem = bigger ego thing is a misunderstanding. High self-esteem and excessive pride is not really the same thing. Excessive pride is a cover-up for lack of self-esteem. Like the people who need to feel like they're the best, they're the king - they need to feel grandiose to feel worthy as a human being. A high self-esteem comes down more to being aware of one's ego. Take that awareness high enough, you'd be enlightened. I invite you to make a distinction: healthy/unhealthy ego vs big/small ego. Any big ego is generally unhealthy, and both an extremely meek and extremely proud person likely to have it. What makes a ego healthy is not really size but awareness. But awareness also lets you see that a lot of facets of the ego are limiting and unnecessary, so you'll drop them. Thus enlightened people have egos that are both smaller and healthier. A high self-esteem means you are secure with who you are. Young children have a high self-esteem, before traumas fuck with it. High self-esteem is a default, in a sense. A person with a high self-esteem is already more aware than a person with low self-esteem. Or they just never had so much ego crap in the way in the first place. So enlightenment would be easier for them, actually. Love ya, Markus

If you remember Leo's self-acceptance exercise (video with similar title), where you were supposed to isolate a feeling of love and project it towards traits of yourself you don't like, you can do that in everyday life as they arise. You may soon find loving yourself and loving another can't really be separated. The important thing is, the love is unconditional. You don't have to deserve or earn it. It's not true most people love their ego. Not at all. You can't love your true self anyway. Love the ego. And love other egos. Look at yourself like a child who's been hurt. Or a sad puppy. Love yourself the way you'd love that child or puppy. The beginning step is to realize whatever you have done or whatever has happened to you is not your fault. You didn't pick your genes, your parents, your environment. You have no say in it. Once that is a given, denying anybody, yourself or another, your love just doesn't make sense any more. Check out some of Matt Kahn's videos like "Radical acceptance". Love ya, Markus

Would you use a condom receiving oral from a new partner/sb who hasn't been tested? Statistics show most people don't but that seems stupid considering the risk of gonorrhea. I'm pretty sure you'll answer yes because you're a health nut

Martin Ball and Rali agree that DMT is too colorful and quick to be that effective with regard to enlightenment work. Like "that was some cool shit, but wtf?" Don't know any other enlightened people's opinion on DMT.

Good. What else can I say, heh. Love ya, Markus

I'll play the contrarian, skeptical pessimist by saying it sounds like exotic hype where all kinds of fancy terminology is stuck together.

Sounds like Social Anxiety. Practical things are necessary. There's lots of techniques and practices obviously, but if I'd have to do it myself I would 1) meditate 2) contemplate the feelings that come up with regard to social situations. Visualize or remember the feeling and feel into it. What's behind it? Why are you feeling this way? Let the feeling speak to you. These are "inner" things. There's of course also progressively exposing yourself to social situations, high volume, slow increase in intensity. Start by walking on the street and asking 10 people for the time for example, or directions to the bus stop. Then ask that, and additionally how their day is going. Look it up, there's lots of ways. Love ya, Markus

For one thing, check out Zen Body-Being. Work on feeling your body in more detail and more holistically. Because that's where your emotions are. If you don't notice them, whatcha gonna do, eh? Love ya, Markus

@Revolutionary Think Yeah, okay. That's something to be mindful about. Generalization is practical in the sense that people just won't be able to process all the nuances. But we could certainly be a lot more open to nuance. Thanks. Love ya, Markus

@Vladimir @aurum This is something every single person who delves into pickup/dating would be better off understanding. I remember reading one particular thread on here, and I'm sure there's more where a person expresses wanting to date girls & have sex etc. but just by reading what they write, I can tell their lack of emotional mastery. It all starts with self-acceptance and self-investment. If you don't have that, then what the fuck are you doing? I mean really. Then, pursuits like fitness or dating will be driven by an egotistical insecurity, which will be destructive to yourself and others. If dating is hard for somebody, instead of getting pissed and reactive about it, they should look at it holistically. Thinking you're entitled to women's sexual and romantic companionship when you're not able to attract/maintain it is essentially saying you're willing to compromise others' well-being for your own egotistical gain. If women don't want to be with you, there's a good reason why. Be empathetic to that. As well as yourself, and work on improving what you want to improve. I'm writing this first and foremost for myself. I also agree with aurum's contributions. I don't think there's an actual disagreement here. Love y'all Markus

The point of life purpose is the doing of something you love. The process itself. Its impact is a bonus, not the core. If you focus on the impact, you're heading into moralism and distress, because you can't control the impact - you can only control what you do. How many people sacrifice fun and joy for a greater good? It's like the noble ideal of our society. And now look at us. A bunch of miserable apes. And if you want to be most effective, spirituality is a must. How are you going to be changing the world in the most effective way you can if you're neurotic about it needing to change. You need that grounding, that inner knowing that everything is fine regardless. Gary is not a happy person for exactly this reason.

I'm not sure what the purpose of your thread is within the context of this forum. Could you clarify that? What do you want from us?

Tony Parsons, eh? Nobody's gonna come to the event and listening will happen to nobody while nobody is talking about how there's nothing to find

It sure isn't experientially the same. What I mean to say is, your physiological response to ejaculation will be the same.