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Make sure you are drinking enough water. Large numbers of people are walking around all day dehydrated, i reckon. I’ve made drinking water a priority, i carry a water bottle around everywhere and sip throughout the day. Gets refilled 2-3 times depending on activity level. it’s early days yet and there are other confounding variables i need to get to grips with but i’ve been feeling better thus far.

act on it while the inspiration is there. good luck!

Fear is an interesting one. I'm looking at confronting fears systematically - see anything by Geoff Thompson, or fear-setting by Tim Ferriss. But while you are investing time and energy worrying about what happens in the next life, you are wasting time and energy in this one.

I think when you are doing self-development you are looking at difficult things, if you are doing it properly. You are in the trenches, whereas some people aren't, for whatever reason.

Book reco - The Beginners Guide to Darkness (Geoff Thompson) The big 5 (chapter 12) Pornography This is one of the biggest issues I am dealing with. Maybe the most urgent. Sex with GF's has suffered for a long time in preference of pornography. It's compulsive and an addiction People pleasing I tend to say 'yes' by reflex and this needs looking at. I need structure and routine in my week otherwise I suffer anxiety. There is free time in the week and this is the time it's ok to say yes Junk food Diet, health and fitness is one of the areas I'm focusing on to improve my mental and physical health. My diet ranges from good-poor throughout the week Drugs and Alcohol Drugs aren't an issue. My alcohol use wasn't massive but it was habitual, using as a crutch to unwind every evening before bed. It was disturbing my sleep and leaving me groggy and dehydrated the next day. Dry January was a reset and my use of booze is much smaller. Will continue to monitor Gambling Not a big one for me

Thanks for this. I am looking to get into a meditation practice. I've read the books, watched the vids. I've made some attempts but been unable to engage with it so far. There is a lot of conflicting information about how to do it. What is your experience of it?

Alright everyone. There's tonnes to read on this board so I'll keep it brief where possible. Top page will remain a progress log and I'll update as and when. The name of the thread is because that's what I'm doing... throwing mud at the wall and seeing what sticks. I've got issues like a lot of people. I've got anxiety, I've got attachment and abandonment issues, I'm currently miles off my mental and physical goals and some important life intentions but I am willing to try things. Cheers, James.

It could be some social anxiety. I have some myself. In my case it's not as simple as 'i'm anxious to go out'. It's unpredictable. I can go to a festival for 5 days, I can go away for a weekend. Then last week, I spent two nights away and felt anxious for a full day afterwards. Part of it may be tiredness. I am in my 30's and the need for a proper night's sleep has crept in. Otherwise the door is open to anxiety and a cloudy head. And on this occasion my sleep wasn't great. I also need routine and structure to function well (although this is another can of worms for another thread). I also experience some of this annoyance when asked to join in with an activity or a trip somewhere, if it's spontaneous or last minute. I think it's because I usually want to do it, but I am in conflict with it because it's going to disrupt my routine and structure. I also have some people-pleaser tendencies, and often say 'yes' by reflex, without thinking it through. For me, going forwards, I'm going to look at saying yes to things that fit in with free time in my week, and no to things that disrupt it. Simple as that.

one of the reasons I've joined this board is because I have an issue with pornography. I tend to binge on it for days or weeks at a time then abstain for periods, thinking it's done and dusted. It's always snuck back in. It's not just porn vids. it's pictures of ex gf's, one of which dates back 15 years. that's right. for 15 years I've been fantasising about an ex-gf. I am seeing a girl at the moment and sex ranges from good - average. I have no problem getting it up but often have delayed ejaculation. part of the issue is I know we aren't compatible long-term. After having sex but no ejaculation I'm back home and fapping to porn. for several years now (i'm in my 30's) the threshold has been on the rise and to get the same buzz my fantasies have become more warped. picturing my gf with other guys. that progressed to online chat rooms where i'd pose as someone who wanted to see their GF getting banged, and chatting with other dudes about her and what they'd do with her. This currently is the biggest 'bad habit' that I have to deal with. I am not against a period of nofap. It would be nice to recover some sensation and eliminate the delayed ejaculation. It would be nice to have a healthy sex life instead of relying on porn.

I have tried setting out a morning routine but haven't managed to stick to anything so far. I read the book 'miracle morning' and was inspired to try some of that out. Maybe at some point i'll revisit. For now, my morning routine consists of one thing and one thing only: fill my water bottle. Rehydrate It's a small thing but I needed some aspect of control. I needed the stream of victories each day and it's been working since I start doing it last month. Again, I've had no luck setting out big goals on paper and comprehensive plans/schedules to achieve them, so I'm breaking things down to their smallest components. I see making sure I'm not walking around dehydrated all day (as I previously was) as the first small step. Next month - i'll add something else and try to make that habit stick, too.