Bill W

That's fucking awesome. Just read the first link. Relates nicely to my.12 step AA programme. Thanks for that. Really resonates me. Big time.

Here is fine. Or DM if you prefer not to get journal bogged down! Yeh I find the tears quite therapeutic. But at every new job I tell myself I will not be that person again who hides in the toilets crying or cries driving home from work. I try to keep a positive spin where I can. This recent hardship is a sign that there is still plenty of work to do. AA and spirituality generally has taught me that at times like this for me, it's not necessarily that I have to acquire skills and wisdom but more likely that I am clinging too much to things I think are important. Material things and ego related goals. There is much to surrender. Without the surrender I don't have space for new wisdom anyway. Much is rotten and needs to be discarded. The difference now is that I am typing to you from the gym. Doing a workout. I'm not drinking to ease the pain or waiting to take a sleeping pill. I hear you on going back to basics. Diet. Exercise. Sleep. Nourishment. I also keep reading steps 1 to 3 of AA. You can replace the word alcohol with emotions if you like. Read those 3 steps. Just the steps. They each a line or two long. Might help you.

Hey man. I'm with you on this. I had to take a sick day today and am on the point of collapse at work. Started crying like a baby yesterday about it all. Crying doesn't bother me but intense anxiety does. Yeh man. Re group. We have to keep up the good fight. But I'm beat. Worn down.

I figured it wouldn't be that simple! I actually love David Hawkins by the way. Love him. Although I'm obviously not too clued up on calibration.

Great post there

So you'd need two therapists working together to get your Love at 540? Three therapists would calibrate at 810 and if you could afford four therapists you'd become enlightened as they would combine for a calibration of 1080 - although I am not sure how many people could afford to pay for four therapists at once. There was that big piece of research, I can't recall it to hand. They researched all the main types of therapy and the result was it didn't matter what kind of therapy you had, the results of your progress/treatment were all down to individual therapist qualities regardless of modality. Makes sense. In the UK the flavor of the month/year/decade is Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) of which I am trained in. But I'm starting to think that in a few years time or a decade, more psycho-dynamic psychoanalytical approaches will be proved right and people will step back and think Freud and Jung etc were right all along. Those types of therapy (sometimes) get a bad wrap over in the UK compared to CBT. If I had to pick, I'd go for any therapy that combines the work of Albert Ellis and Carl Jung. ACT also appeals as it's values driven and involves more work on acceptance and mindfulness.

Hey man, I was just browsing this section and seeing if there was anyone I could relate to and make a post. I've had an awful shit show of a day and I actually emailed my boss tonight and said the words to him "i am lost" to describe my state of mind. I was actually crying when I emailed him. So your thread title caught me eye! I don't have a ripped muscular body lol but there is a lot of similarities here. Most people think I'm doing well but sometimes i feel dead inside, lost, hopeless, the weak link and a fraud. On the plus side I see the light at the end of the tunnel and I know in my heart and mind that life needn't be as hard as I make it!

Wow. I was just browsing the forum and found this. I needed to see this. I have had a shit day which resulted in tears and overwhelm and feeling sorry for myself so I needed to see this.

@Husseinisdoingfine Yeh I second that. Looks won't be your problem, so feel free to disregard any negative feedback on that. I've also seen your posts on here. I think you said you are 18 years old? You going places, don't forget that! Doing well my man.

It's the Ann Summers version of a voodoo doll. Lol

I think it would be a shame if it did exist. It's like people abusing the spiritual domain. I would like to think people are capable of turning away from the darkness and into the light but I would imagine there is a cultural element to this and perhaps people who practice it don't know any better or don't know there are more loving and kind ways to practice spirituality. Or am I being ignorant in just assuming black magic is all negative?

Well this post seems authentic. So that's a good start. Doing things you don't want to do doesn't necessarily make you not authentic. And doing things you want to do doesn't necessarily make you authentic. What helps me at times like this is to have a think about what values and/or spiritual principles you want to associate yourself with and then identify behaviours and habits that can reinforce these values and principles. And it won't necessarily come naturally. I believe personal values have to be exercised and practiced to become real. Not just agreed from a conceptual framework. There is a spectrum of authenticity ranging from 100% real to 100% fake.

A true scientist! You recorded the statistics and you even considered the ethics. You should get in touch with these guys below and see if you can get it published. Title could be something along the lines of "New study highlights that women are willing to overlook every single conceivable character defect as long as the profile picture resembles Ken" https://www.thelancet.com/

People have had a stab at answering this but I would need to know a little bit more exactly what you mean. You have articulated it to a degree, but your idea of desire might be different to mine. Are we looking at a standard dictionary definition of a strong feeling of wanting to have something or wishing for something to happen. I guess it starts from knowing what you want and believing it's truly worth having (that thing you want). I like this, and you don't need to be religious to benefit from this message from 5.12 to 7.30

Lovely clip. Made my day nicer.

I love that Adyashanti does not feel the need to "perform" when he teaches and talks. There is no trying to be charismatic, eccentric or funny. His wisdom sells itself. He is like this in all the clips I've ever seen of him.

You can still meet the girls who message you. Just say that since you did your profile you had a bad accident and needed a complete face transplant like that film with John Travolta in. Let us know how you get on. If it works I might try it.

It's where they hide their psychedelics in case they get stripped searched.

Brilliant, brilliant, thank you. I've only looked at a little bit so far but love it. 7.45 to 8.40 is especially awesome.

I think the main thing is to find a vagina that fits you lol. They say there is someone for everyone lol Sorry man. I'm not helping. Men who worry could perhaps be grateful that they can even get an erection or have a penis at all. Imagine how tough it must be for an ex military alpha Male who stepped on a landmine and survived but has nothing left in that department. No penis. No ball bags. Nothing. Perspective is important but most of us take stuff for granted and worry about things excessively. I guess the unhealthy ego mind prefers comparing self to better off people like men in porn films etc rather than worse of people like above example or impotent men.

Lol. Well why waste time wondering what other men worry about. You are not worried and that's the main thing. Unless you are training to be a cock size specialist counselor ???

Then you have nothing to worry about. Are you asking for a friend or doing some kind of project on it? All the best with the research. No one size fits all.

What size are you?

It's less thorny than the alternative.

You know I actually hate these kind of threads that state an opinion or experience in the title and then just post a quote from someone else. Admittedly my post here is pointless as well and doesn't contribute to your intended discussion. Sorry. Just needed to vent. Nothing personal.