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Negative thoughts about others Any negative thought about others is a reflection of your own state of mind, your own self esteem. Catch these negative thoughts and question them. Accept them as natural for the mind, and natural for a person who has had a lot of negative experiences in life so that you do not create resistance and duality to negativity. But once accepted the thought must be questioned. That is how you raise self esteem and allow positive thoughts to arise from the mind.

This is what non-duality means to me at this point in time Everything I sense in another is actually a part of me that I disowned. When I move up the spiral of development it's very easy to get identified with a higher self and this has an effect of creating a dissociation from lower traits. When I feel bad I am attacking a part of myself that I have dissociated from. The goal is to do 24/7 shadow integration by noticing an attack (irritation, complaining, condemnation, superiority towards, inferiority towards) and reintegrating that trait by accepting it as part of the body mind in humans - it's just the way life is! Everything is me, everything I see out there is some aspect of me. Everything is non dual already, but as an ego identified with a particular altitude on the spiral I forget that this is all me and I feel seperate from it. Alienated. And the worse I feel the more alienated I am from my disowned aspects. That is non duality 101. Shadow integration is not different from non dual spirituality- it is the same thing. Make peace with what you hate about life and about others, because it's all you. Ultimately even if you cannot feel oneness, it is indeed one.

Shoulds are a direct attack against life. Even the should of self actualization. Notice your shoulds as often as you can.

You mean making peace with life?

I am suffering with angry anxious and sad thoughts. How do I deal with them and find peace?