Yali

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  1. Pickup feels fake and low conscious
    Pickup feels fake and low conscious
    Most people underestimate how much their relationships are driven by survival.
    Before you can transcend survival you must first face it truthfully.
    Well, if you're so conscious you should understand that the world does not revolve around you.
    You are talking about you. I am giving advice to thousands of men who will be interacting with women who are not you.
    I am not going to cater my videos around you. I was targeting men who suck so bad with women you have no idea how much work they have to do to turn that around. I targeted such men because that's what I have massive experience with and it is a serious social problem.
    Cold approach and getting laid is just an entry point for deep relationships, intimacy, and love -- which I will teach in the future.
    You are taking cold approach as mutually exclusive with relationships, which is silly.
    The skills a man needs to attract a wife are identical to that of attracting a drunk club slut who's looking to snort coke off a dude's dick.

  2. Do guys care less about looks as they become more consciouse?
    Do guys care less about looks as they become more consciouse?
    I never said personality doesn't matter.
    It matters a lot. But this makes things even worse because trying to maximize for looks and personality only makes the situation twice as hard.
    A lot of pretty girls have shit personalities. But that doesn't mean a guy will be happy with an unattractive girl with a great personality.
    In the end the guy has to find the girl hot otherwise the girl will feel a lack of passion from him. You girls want your man to find you hot because if he doesn't he won't commit, which is what you want most.
    But most guys have way lower standards than me. I actually had to lower my standards a lot when I started learning game because otherwise it was impossible to get laid. I had to lower standards on everything: phsyical appearance, personality, career, consciousness. Everything. Because most humans are just mediocre. Very few humans are well put together. Most girls have all sorts of bullshit lives filled with dumb problems.
    Looks do matter less as one matures, however not as much as you ladies would want. You want looks to not matter at all, and that's just not how men are wired.

  3. Pickup feels fake and low conscious
    Pickup feels fake and low conscious
    Of course.
    Sex is survival.
    Not just women, men too. Your genitals don't care about consciousness.
    You can say whatever you want but most women are attracted to low consciousness behavior. Which is why the most low consciousness guys get laid the most and the most conscious guys get laid the least.

  4. Question for Leo about love
    Question for Leo about love
    Attraction happens in seconds, but you'd have to get to know her quite deeply to fall in love with her. That usually takes months of deep intimacy.

  5. Guy getting a gf? How?
    Guy getting a gf? How?
    When a girl falls in love with you, she's falling specifically in love with YOU, not just "a guy". She wants you, not anyone else. The idea of finding better guys is not even in her mind because she already sees you as the one for her.
    Girls are loyal to a fault.
    Stop making up victim narratives and go approach girls. You will see that at least 1/20 girls will be attracted to you if you develop a bit of game.

  6. Why woman I like flake on me?
    Why woman I like flake on me?
    Then don't expect results with girls. Expect random adventures and nothing concrete.
    Of course it's forced. You're training and learning.
    That's like saying going to school to learn math is forced. YES! Do you want to learn math or not? If not, then go to the park and have fun.
    You have to be ready to drop your friends and go with the girl when she hooks.
    The best way to develop your game and get results with girls is: 1) go solo and be focused on girls like a sniper, or 2) go with 1 solid wingman and focus on 2-sets which you two are aiming to pull. Keep the fun to a minimum so you can keep your focus on the girls.
    Just going out and having fun with friends will not get you good results with girls nor will it develop your game much. If you want to learn game you gotta be methodical and surgical about it. You're out to learn game. That is your goal, if that's your goal.
    If your goal is to have fun then just do that and forget about results.
    Just get clear with yourself what you want. There is no right or wrong per se.
    You can also have one night per week where you go out purely to have fun. And the rest of the nights you focus 100% on building your game.
    In the end you'll find that you don't need to have fun more than once a week. Maybe even once a month of pure fun and partying is enough. It will get old quickly. How many nights can you party with friends before it gets old?

  7. To those of you who stopped smoking weed, why did you stop?
    To those of you who stopped smoking weed, why did you stop?
    That's the whole point!
    Daily relief is a bullshit crutch which will not solve anything.

  8. Which is the best book on game
    Which is the best book on game
    The framework is: go out and talk to girls, flirt, and bring them home.

  9. Is a man not interested in me if he doesn't ask me any questions in return?
    Is a man not interested in me if he doesn't ask me any questions in return?
    @somegirl Everyone wants someone with higher reproductive value than themselves. It's just selfishness 101. You want the best deal you can get.
    When someone's reproductive value is lower than yours, you don't find that person attractive. That's what attractive means: someone who's a good deal for you. The reason you don't find a homeless bum attractive is because he's obviously a bad deal for you. You think you can get better.
    We all do this.

  10. Dating advice
    Dating advice
    @Illusory Self Buddy, learn game. Your looks don't work without game. You need to become a leader and a closer. Game will teach you that.
    Dude, once you get experienced with physical escalation you can go physical immediately in night game with no pretenses.
    I open most girls with physical and just by looking at the reaction on her face I know whether I can immediately escalate further. Within 30 seconds I can have my hands holding her hips and rubbing her body in a sexy way and she is loving it.
    It takes practice and calibration.
    Do a 30 day challenge where every girl you open with physical and escalate as rapidly as she will let you. This is for night game only.
    Physical opens are polarizing. They force her to immediately decide if she is into you. You either get blown out immediately or it hooks like crazy. It's a great way to cut the bullshit and see if a girl is DTF.

  11. Feeling The Need To Be Understood
    Feeling The Need To Be Understood
    No, that is not correct.
    Game is way more important than anything else.
    I would rather not give advice to women on this because it would not be based on my direct experience.
    The truth is I don't know what it's like from an unattractive woman's POV.

  12. Feeling The Need To Be Understood
    Feeling The Need To Be Understood
    Huge mistake. Girls will never understand why guys learn game and they will give you zero points for it and they will find it repulsive.
    They just expect you to have masterful game.
    Don't talk about game with girls. Just do it and enjoy the benefits. Don't try to explain anything to her. She does not give a fuck about your inability to get laid. And she will not fuck you out of empathy.
    And in general, stop interacting with girls on a serious level. You are way too serious here, trying to push your problems on the girl. Don't burden her with your personal struggles. She does not care and she will not help you.

  13. Casual sex = More depression and anxiety?
    Casual sex = More depression and anxiety?
    Dude, when you meet your dream girl you will not have the skills to close her. You will fuck it up.
    You can easily convert casual sex into a relationship. Like maybe 50% conversion rate if you want.

  14. Cheap tendencies
    Cheap tendencies
    If the girl is invested in me and it's a gf situation, I don't mind spending some money. It's less a function of buying her things and just more a function of sharing my abundant lifestyle with her. I don't buy her stuff directly, it's more about sharing with her the opportunities and adventures that my lifestyle affords.
    So she will feel well-treated. For example, when I cook her food, I buy high quality food, not cheap junk. When she sleeps over at my house, it's a nice house that lots of money and effort went into building. Etc.
    Building an awesome lifestyle is an important part of game. Then you just share that lifestyle with girls are invested in you.
    But I am not going to be directly paying your bills.

  15. Casual sex = More depression and anxiety?
    Casual sex = More depression and anxiety?
    The point of casual sex is that it is part of a larger process of finding a good long-term partner and building up skills and experience.

  16. Cheap tendencies
    Cheap tendencies
    Why taint your love life with financial matters?
    If she loves you, she loves you for you, not anything else.

  17. Dating advice
    Dating advice
    1) Start getting excited for dates. Make them fun and playful and interesting.
    2) Start by hugging her as soon as you see her, and then keep touching her throughout the night. Learn the Kino Escalation Ladder and practice it.
    3) Bounce around to multiple locations. Walk and hold hands with her.
    4) Kiss her half-way into the date, not at the end.
    - - - -
    Stop being a pussy and start making moves. The longer you delay the harder and more awkward it will get.
    Your dates are boring because you are not in touch with your raw desire to fuck her. Look at her like a wolf looks at a rabbit. Stop suppressing your sexual desire and intent. Let her turn you on and then use that to turn her on. Dates are not interviews. Dates are there so you can fuck her. Let that guide you. Stop being polite and formal about it.
    Nothing is happening because you are being too big of a pussy to lead it to your bedroom.
    LEAD!
    If she shows up to a date that means she is interested in sex with you. All you gotta do is lead and be fun.

  18. Cheap tendencies
    Cheap tendencies
    I've never done such things.
    I have never felt a need to spend money to impress a girl.
    In fact, if I spend money on a girl I would rather her not know it. For example, if I buy her a drink, I would rather tell her that I got the drink comped for free. If I buy a hotel room, I would rather tell her I'm borrowing my friend's hotel room for free.
    Lol
    Guess that makes me gay.

  19. Cheap tendencies
    Cheap tendencies
    @Vzdoh Keep in mind, some people are just cheap. It's not necessarily about you as the girl.
    I used to be extremely cheap. Still sorta am. Simply because I had to learn to be cheap in order to start my business and survive.
    I used to not even pay for a girl's coffee. I'm less cheap now, but still I won't just throw money away on a girl.

  20. Cheap tendencies
    Cheap tendencies
    You don't need to spend money on girls to get them crazy in love with you. Just up your game. And up your sex. Amazing sex will have her paying for you, Lol.
    The reason guys feel the need to pay is because they offer little else.
    Of course the girl would love it if you paid, but she will settle for just the amazing intimacy and sex you give her. That is worth 100x more to her than money.
    When your game gets good girls will start offering to pay for you just to be near you.

  21. How To Get Laid - Part 1 - The Foundations Of Success with Women
    How To Get Laid - Part 1 - The Foundations Of Success with Women
    It's not possible to get it without doing it.
    Only after a few thousand approaches does one start to understand what game is. And it's extremely counter-intuitive.

  22. Commitment phobia in men - HELP
    Commitment phobia in men - HELP
    Yes, commitment is emotionally challenging because commitment only makes sense from the POV of an attractive guy with many options if the girl is exceptional. There is little desire to commit to an average girl.
    For commitment to make sense she has to be really amazing. But most girls are not that.
    Also, commitment means losing years not developing one's game. And the longer a guy wait to development one's game, the harder it becomes. Also the sex and even the relationship will start to get stale after some years unless special measures are taken. So there is a fear that commitment will lead to mediocrity.
    Having very high standards makes commitment very challenging. In a sense commitment requires surrendering or lowering one's standards.
    From the male POV, sex is a daily requirement but commitment requires something exceptional. Which is why guys tend to have sex but not commit. If a guy waited to only have sex with girls he was willing to commit to, he would be starving like a homeless dog waiting for years for the right girl to come along. And then he would fuck that up with neediness.
    So ironically girls are attracted to the guys who are least likely to commit. These are the guys who have so many options that commitment makes little sense. Because a guy who doesn't have all those options will be super needy and repel most girls. You girls are attracted to the most detached guys, and then you wonder why he won't commit.
    The guy who would commit to you, you have no interest in sleeping with. He doesn't make you wet or emotional. And your sleeping decisions are purely emotional, not logical. Hence you keep hooking up with guys who won't commit.
    The more arousing the guy the less likely he is to commit. That's how this game works. You have to find some sort of balancing point. You can't just chase the highest arousal. You have to make sacrifices. You can't get it all unless you are bringing massive value to the negotiating table.
    Sex is a value exchange. And everyone is trying to leech maximum value. Everyone is trying to get something for nothing. And then suffering ensues of course because leeching and theft are self-undermining.
    In a sense, when you are dating you are trying to steal sexual value. You aren't doing this consciously, but subconsciously that's exactly what all your arousal and emotions are doing. Your emotions precisely motivate behaviors which steal sexual value. This survival mechanic is so deep that you aren't even aware it's happening. To you it just feels like romance. When you get super attracted to a guy so much that you can't stop daydreaming about him, that's because you know he has more value than you, and that locking him down would be a really good deal for you. It's like walking into a car dealership and seeing your favorite car 50% off. You are giddy with joy at the bargain you just found and you want to pounce on it immediately before someone else does. But of course no quality car is ever 50% off unless there is something seriously wrong with it.
    Bottom line: If you want the best car in the dealership you should expect to work hard and pay a lot for it. If you don't want to pay a lot, then expect a mediocre car. Madness is expecting the best car for dirt cheap.
    Men's commitment phobia is their emotional way of maximizing sexual value.

  23. Enlightenment, Attention Span and Myelin : Why Psychedelics can't replace Meditation
    Enlightenment, Attention Span and Myelin : Why Psychedelics can't replace Meditation
    After tripping on shrooms, I'd like to summarize the main point of this article : the importance of meditation. 
    But it also came with the wrong assumption that psychedelics somehow hurt your meditation habit. Both are beneficial and there's no point in a debate or comparison. 

  24. What is the minimal that girls demand from guys?
    What is the minimal that girls demand from guys?
    That's why you go out and spend 1000+ hrs learning how to be fun and chill. That's called learning game. You learn it by doing it, not by philosophy.

  25. how do i start a social circle?
    how do i start a social circle?
    Ironically, cold approach is amazing for building a social circle quickly.
    You can make dozens of new friends within a month of going out every weekend.