Nothing wrong of course.
But the longer you drag it out the more energy you potentially lose since a girl will not be truly invested in a guy until sex. So the longer it takes the more likely you are to lose her.
That is generally the how it works. Attracting the hottest girls requires much higher skill. Attracting average girls is way easier because there is less competition.
Fair point.
But it is sorta the case that plenty of women don't reward decent behavior in men very well. The whole, nice guys finish last. There is truth in that.
The reward is not just sex, but the relationship itself. There can't be a relationship without the sex first.
I have lost plenty of girls who I wanted relationships with but the sex never happened therefore the relationship never happened either.
Except it doesn't necessarily come. Women are fickle and change their moods and minds easily. So dragging it out means you will lose some girls.
That may be acceptable, but it can also be very frustrating because you get invested in it.

You gotta keep in mind that introversion/extroversion is a spectrum. Many people are somewhere in the middle.
For me, I am very introverted and have been my whole life. Yet most people who meet me face to face would think I am an extrovert because one-on-one I can get very animated and go into a deep conversation with some close friend. But I am terrible at small talk or meeting new people because the shallowness of it bores me and drains my energy.
For me, the introversion label fits perfectly. And I know others whom it fits perfectly too. And I also know extroverts who are just the opposite: they go into a bar and light up like a Christmas tree. As an introvert I just can't do that. Small talk wears me out. I need quiet intimate environments, not noisy clubs or bars.
All that said, I can still push myself to go to a bar and be extroverted. It just feels very unnatural.
So a lot this has to do with what feels most natural to you.
Would you rather have 100 friends who you rarely have a deep conversation with, or 3 really close friends? Extroverts tend to have 100s of friends, so many they don't even have time to meet them for more than 10 minutes. An introvert will have a couple good friends but spend hours talking to them.
Of course, as with all theories, categories, and models, don't let it limit you. Use it to deepen your understanding, and if it doesn't help you do that, throw it away. For me it's a handy distinction which explains how I tend to act.

@MrDmitriiV I think you're misunderstanding what an introvert is.
Introvert: someone who get energized being alone, drains energy being with people. Introverts make fewer but deeper friendships. Doesn't like to approach new people, prefers new people to approach them.
Extrovert: someone who gets energized being with people. Extroverts makes lots of shallow friendships. Loves to approach new people and make new friends.

Their hotness actually plays a fairly important role. A hot girl has enormous value to men. Men know it and she knows it. And she will use that to up her survival (as any living creature would).
Getting 5's, 6's, and 7's is pretty straight forward. But if you want to date 8's and 9's, you gotta bring some serious value to the table. Hotness comes with a price. Hotness ain't free. As far as 10's, forget about it. Not even worth thinking about.
Handling 9's and 10's is not gonna be worth your time most likely. They can be really high maintenance and have spoiled rotten materialistic souls.
The best way to land 9's and 10's is to become famous. So your social value is obvious and glaring it's never in question that you are the prize and she's be lucky to be in your presence. Fame is an awesome dating strategy and can tie in nicely with your LP. For example, if you're a famous author, you should have no problem getting laid from social events and book signings.
Just be careful not to abuse it.

They don't care how much sex you have, nor will they ever know.
But what they do care about is that you have some value as a man. To a woman, value in a man is his survival value to her. A valuable man usually acts confident, witty, easy-going, leader in his pack of friends, outgoing, charismatic, takes initiative, knows what he wants, passionate about his life, has a clear sense of direction in life, has a decent job, a results-maker, the boss, etc. The girl needs to feel that YOU are the prize. If you feel that she is the prize, she's basically out of your league and she knows it and so she won't get attracted to you.
Guys who are surrounded by lots of friends, who are the hub of their social network, have high value to a girl. She will find such a guy much more attractive than a loner because girls are social creatures and love to leech off social networks. That's a big part of their survival strategy.
To get the hottest girls you need to build a lot of social value. It's a full-time job. Having lots of friends who are girls are a great way to get girls interested in you. That's like the epitome of social proof. The more hot girls are around, the more will flock to you. Just like earning money. Winner takes all, loser ends up getting scraps.
Being famous is the best way to have social value. Which is why rockstars, DJ's, and celebrities get laid the most. Girls love a guy who has some solid social status which everyone recognizes.
With all that said, you don't need any social value to get a girl. It's mostly only necessary if you want to land the hottest girls, the top 5%. Ordinary girls will settle for much less. To attract an ordinary girl all you need is some confidence, humor, and decent conversation skills. All of which can be trained up.

It got wonky because he is mentally ill and uses his channel to make money from his putting his mental illness on show.

Of course!
The more a girl likes you and sees you as boyfriend material, the slower she will be in doling out the sex. Because in her mind she respects you so much that she wants it "to be special" and not cheap. The cheap quick easy sex is for the douche bag player who she will never see again.
Girls are super counter-intuitive.
This is otherwise known as setting the boyfriend vs the player frame. If you set the player frame, she will have sex with you on the same night. If you set the boyfriend frame, it will take 3 dates.
I once was gonna have sex with a girl who really liked me in my car. But I had set the boyfriend frame. So she said, "No, I want it to be special". This is how girls think. Everything is backwards. You will not be rewarded for the boyfriend frame like you might expect, even though that's what she most wants.
The other problem with just playing with her but not closing the deal is that very often she will flip her mood the next day and never call you back because she feels like a slut or just awkward. It's quite risky to not close the deal. If you got her half-naked, it's usually best to close the deal. The chances of future success after that situation drops quite a bit. My general rule of thumb is: don't get her naked or too horny unless you can close the deal. Because setting up the next date will be so awkward in her mind.
If your plan is to court her over multiple dates, then the best move is to not push for sex the first date. Then you don't come off as cliche pushy guy and she will be excited for it on day 2.

I've never worried about crying in front of a girlfriend. In fact I think it's a technique more guys should use. It builds crazy intimacy.
Of course you wanna do it very infrequently when the situation really calls for it. Not over petty things.
If your woman can't appreciate you crying, you probably should upgrade your woman. I find that the higher quality ones, the more conscious ones, will appreciate it and actually want to be there for you when you're suffering through heavy shit.
Then again, if I cry in front of a woman it's not gonna be tears of sadness or misery, it's gonna be tears of love and joy. That is a pretty big difference.

Just the fact that you put her on such a pedestal already means you will never attract nor keep her.
And you are focused on the wrong thing. You putting all your attention into looks without any consideration who she is as a personality and what it would be like to relate with her. You imagine her personality will match her looks and you two will get along great, but that's not how it works in real life.
Chasing girls like that will certainly bring you much suffering, even if you get one.
Change your dream to a cute girl who's personality you jive with and fits your lifestyle, and who still has plenty of flaws that you will have to work your ass to deal with. These flaws will both be physical and psychological. Even this will be challenging to obtain, but worth it. And this should make you plenty satisfied to get.
RSD theory will get you laid, the skills you learn are important, but RSD is not a fundamentally healthy lifestyle to emulate. Those RSD instructors have deep trauma and they have been chasing girls for 20 years with not much satisfaction or intimacy. Most PUAs are psychologically damaged. Remember that. Healthy, conscious guys do not remain players for long. The healthiest guys in RSD left RSD. You grow out of it pretty quickly if you are doing serious personal development.
Learn the skill set of attracting women but don't try to emulate the player lifestyle and philosophy. That is, if you care about consciousness, truth, and love. If you want a stage Orange existence, okay, be a player to the hilt. See how happy that makes you.

Of course, that's how survival is. All survival is deeply unjust. Think of how just it is for a rabbit to born a rabbit rather than a wolf, or the wrong color of rabbit in a winter environment.
It's unrealistic to transcend physical sexual attraction unless you transcend the craving for sex altogether. In which case mating would cease to interest you much. You're basically talking about cutting off your balls.
A huge part of the spiritual work is accepting the unjust nature of survival. It's fucking brutal. It breaks your heart. And yet, you have little choice but to survive. Learning to accept / love that is the challenge.
Giving up chasing the perfect 10 girl is pretty much a must. Otherwise you're in for so much suffering. But that doesn't mean you need to sleep with a crack whore. You need to find some comfortable place where you can be happy. But you will not get everything you desire in a girl. It is madness to expect so. You have to learn to make some strategic compromises to maintain your own sanity.
Practically speaking you should be able to find happiness with an 8, 7, or even a 6 girl. If you can't find happiness with an 8, you're really fucked.

Pretty much yes.
If I were to place you and that girl alone in a room together, you would be so nervous, fearful, shy, and inept that she would never get attracted to you. You're not man enough to talk to her, never mind fuck her properly.
To successfully keep a girl you gotta feel slightly or significantly higher value than her. If you treat her like she is the prize, she will quickly lose attraction for you. She needs to be able to look up to you.
The guy who will attract that girl will be a scumbag player who has 3 other girls she's fucked that week and gives little care about this one.
He will be some rockstar, DJ, celebrity, player, millionaire, artist, etc with lots of obvious social status. Or he will be some gnarly roided up weightlifter covered in tattoos who punched his previous girlfriend in the face.
I know. I wasn't speaking to such childish pipe dreams.
Yup, pretty much.
Dude, that girl you linked is a unicorn. That's not how women are. You linked the top 0.01% of women. You have an extremely cartoonish notion of women.
I have gone out the hottest nightclubs in Vegas for months at a time. I have approached probably over 3000 women. And in all that time maybe I seen a handful of girls that hot. A girl like that has so many dicks orbiting her that just finding her single will be next to impossible because as soon as she dumps one guy she's with another guy the next week.
A girl that hot is getting approached by multiple guys per week just as she's walking around doing her chores during the day, or at work. Guys are blowing up her phone to get her out to some club or party because they wanna get with her. Offering her free meals, free drinks, free rides, free airplane flights, free vacations, job interviews, networking events, fancy private parties, modeling gigs, film auditions, etc.
This girl is using her body to survive in the Social Matrix and she's good at it.
The kind of men you probably shouldn't be.
Yes, I get that. But you can still get turned on A LOT by women who are not models.
When you actually get an above average naked girl in your hands, you will be so turned on you will not need a model to fuck. You will be happy fucking her.
You've grown up on too much porn & models. This has skewed your view of women.
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It's not that you can't attract a hot girl like that. It's that you'll realize it isn't worth all the chasing and work and bullshit. What you really want is a deep connection with a cute girl who is well-matched to you, not an empty model.

Because all these videos are made for guys.
The more you believe that women are out there looking for casual sex, the more you will be able to find it. It suits your needs to believe it.
But Leo is right. Sure, women enjoy sex. And they might settle for casual sex at times. But really what most of them want is an intimate relationship, which is also where the sex becomes the most enjoyable for them.

Hard to say. He's definitely a very intelligent, highly developed stage Green at least. Probably some shades of Yellow, but also probably held back by the lack of knowing Spiral Dynamics and what Yellow even is.
To really get into solid Yellow it's extremely important to learn Spiral Dynamics so one can explicitly see the whole Spiral at work in society.

You can always find more books. But at some point you gotta stop reading and start doing.
Forget about quantity and focus on grasping the fundamentals.
If you read and actualize the things said in those 200 books, I don't know what else you need. You would become superhuman.

Reaching the Tier 2 stages will require most people more time.
Yellow and Turquoise at 26 would be pretty rare because most people at that age are still just starting to get a handle on Orange and Green.
I didn't even know Turquoise existed until my 30's.
It's important to give people time to grow.

@beastmode 99% of people in society are mediocrity zombies. So the percentage of people excelling in anything -- let alone consciousness (the hardest thing to excel at) -- is of course super low, but that doesn't say much. The bar is set very low at this point in human civilization.
Which is good news for you in a way. It's easy to rise above the herd with a bit of wisdom, intelligence, and heart.

Yes, of course.
In this case this girl is telling him: "I'm losing attraction for you".
Raw attraction is what makes her wet. Love is a different matter. You can have one without the other and vice versa.
It's like two balls that you're juggling and you gotta keep them in balance.

Dude, get real. 95% of girls want serious relationships, not friends with benefits or open relationships or whatever.
You can't make her feel better with some "friendship route". Most girls are sleeping with you because they expect to be your girlfriend.
If you want to be ethical about dating then you should try to fuck only those people who you might want to be in a relationship with. Unless perhaps you're just clubbing and having obvious one night stands with girls who clearly understand it's just a one night stand from a party. But in this case you don't see them after that one night. And still, you will hurt some girls even then.
You can't just have sex with a bunch of people and not hurt anyone in the process. You're kidding yourself.

Most people struggle a lot with dating and relationships so it turns into a survival contest and blaming the other side.
Few people actually want to take ownership of mastering this domain of their life. Which leaves only one thing: blaming and fighting. Either you're going to handle it, or you're going to become bitter and jaded.

Doing day game, I tried and tried to do it by myself. Boy was it hard. I told my friends that I will reach 93 approaches just this month. We promised that if I don't reach the number and have no evidence, I'll have to pay those 3 people 50 dollars each.
And the first 3 days, I could only do 10 by myself with great discomfort. Every approach required a lot of mental effort. Today is the 4th day, and in one day, and I met this older guy in his later 20s, who've already done day game for a year. I've done 16 approaches on sets yesterday just being with him. Girls who looked intimidating on the streets, girls in the back alley, cute girls in souvenir shops, bookstores, girls walking down the street, bus station and I saw my fear wither away in a heartbeat just because I had a wing who was into pick up, not some slob old friend who talks shit and tries to make me feel bad for approaching (I cut him off from my life). I approached way more than the wingman, but we both got one girl's phone number each. And it was all about the details and the technicalities of the game, we were all about creating solutions when we were talking. It was productive. I was so glad that we were both action based, not some piece of meat hanging around doing nothing and talking shit for nothing. The guy didn't know how to speak English, but he read the book, The Game, in Korean. He was analytical but still was intrigued enough to ask me a lot about what Tyler. So I showed him his pick up and many of his ideas to him. Overall, great experience.
I've found doing this with a friend in the beginning phase and then doing it by yourself is a preferable way. Better, not some slob mf who won't take action for shit, don't ever go picking up chicks with the guy. Just don't hang out with such a person when picking up chicks (and life).
Anyway, I write this for anyone who is into day game, but struggle to take massive action. The point here is to tell you the importance of having a person next to you doing the same thing, competing for the same thing, challenging each other and cooperating with each other. Motivation and action taking levels go up in a heart beat. And I could see myself doing it by myself now without any fear.  
 

That's not about awakening at all. He's just showing you how to be vulnerable and more authentic in social situations.
You're not going to master social skills unless you hit the bars and clubs like a beast. 1000s of nights out talking to girls.
There is no book, video, seminar, or course that can give you such skills. Only by going out.

Finding the right house takes time.

@electroBeam Until about 6 months ago, I meditated for no more than 60 mins per day, and I was seeing good results.
The intent and focus you put into your 20 mins is way more important than sheer quantity of minutes.
I said 10 hours per day in the very radical context of using meditation to fix all of life's problems.
You guys need to listen more carefully. I notice a lot of sloppy listening, where you listen without any nuance and your ego runs away with it.
Sloppy listeners are not cut out for spiritual pursuits.

@Marinus That's great action-taking. 31 daytime approaches is a lot.
There are many stages to a successful pickup that must be mastered: the open, body language, the smile, eye contact, keeping conversations going, flirtation, kino/touching, authenticity, sexual tension, hitting a hook point, screening for boyfriend, getting the close, leading and pulling for instant date, number closing, etc.
It's quite hard to learn all those on your own. It helps to go with a wing-man who already has experience with this and can help you evaluate your interactions. Try to find some wings in your city.
A successful daytime approach requires a lot more than just opening the girl and saying Hi. You must learn to make the conversation fun, flirty, and interesting. And you must learn how to close in order to get any results. All daytime approaches must end with you asking the girl for an insta-date coffee.
Yes, you will be very awkward and mechanical at first. But you can quickly improve. Your goal should be to approach a girl in the same way you might approach and talk to your own girlfriend. It has to be very natural, like it's no big deal, like you've known her your own life. You must just assume this vibe and sense of friendship and familiarity right off the bat. It has to be super casual so the girl is not put on guard.
A great way to practice conversation skills and body language is by chatting with store clerks at the mall. Go find some girl clerks. They are bored most the day and will be happy to talk with you. Try to flirt with them a bit without outright hitting on them. Try to get them to open up about themselves. Try to charm them a bit. Tease them. Wink and smile at them. Tell them some stories about yourself, etc.
At this point your goal is not even to have sex but simply to become a more social, extroverted, talkative, charismatic person. You can even practice on guys and old ladies. Get good at small-talk and self-expression to strangers. Get good at building rapid social comfort, so people are comfortable around you. So they feel you as a fun friendly guy.
I love day game. The biggest problem with it is that it's not easy to find a lot of hot girls during the day unless you live near certain great locations. Cities like LA, London, and NYC are amazing for daygame, but most cities aren't.
The advantage of night is that you get a lot more girls to talk to. And there's possibilities for same night pulls.
Oh, it's also VERY IMPORTANT that when you approach a girl during the day you stop her and face up to her squarely, face to face. Do not be approaching girls from the back or the side. If she is walking, you must stop her cold by getting her attention. You must face her directly. You must have her full attention before you deliver your opener. Do not be whispering your opener to her side or back as she is walking. Run around her and stop her without scaring her. And you must always open with a smile. If there is a look of fear on your face, she will freak out. Practice that smile like your life depends on it.

I have a lot of rejections from girls in real life but also on an online dating platform where I usually  get blocked whenever I reveal my photos. How do you not let that get to yourself? I mean you have to be real with yourself that you start with a huge handicap, I'm already 30 and it feels so hopeless at times.
Looks wise Ive done everythig I can (good clothes & fit)