Moving to a big city is the #1 thing you can do to improve your game.

What's preventing you is not being social enough and not have the experience to know how to vibe with girls.
Doesn't matter that you are in India. All girls love to be social and to vibe with fun guys.
Seek nightlife in your country. Every country has nighlife spots where people sing, dance, and party.

Bro, that's how life is for most people on the planet.
Not only that but by the end of the week you'll be so exhausted you'll just want to spend the weekend crashing on the couch and watching some TV, not doing any kind of personal dev work.
The solution is to build a career with a job that you're really passionate about, so that those 8 hours working each day are actually something you want to be doing.
The hope lies in building a career aligned with your life purpose.
Or starting a business and earning so much money that you can afford to take a lot of time off to work on your own side projects. This is what I did. Today I could not work for 10 years and just travel the world or do side projects. But still I choose to work because I mostly love my work. But I had to work real hard and real smart to reach this point. This is not any easy point to reach. You'll have to be super committed to reach it.

Hey everyone, 
This is my first post and where do I begin? My name is Daphne, 24 years old and I'm from The Netherlands. I sometimes feel very stuck in life. Allthough I made much progress in the last years. I feel like I'm lacking behind on everybody 'living the normal type of life'. Study, get a great job etc. To me it's more important to develop myself than to find a job but maybe to others I seem lazy? I'm very uncertain about my life purpose and what I want to become work related.
I feel like I'm not the type of person that will go to work, marry, have kids. And for this reason I feel stuck because all the people around me are like that. I'd rather explore the world and grow myself as a person. But you need money right? I don't know. I wish I could find my passion and make a living out of it, but I don't know how or where to begin? Tips are very welcome.
 

I meant, it needs to be the most meaningful thing out of the things you could be working on.
Unless you are a billionaire, you don't have a choice in life. You will have to work to make money. The only question is, will you work on things you find most meaningful or not?
Even if you value deep relationships, you'll still have to work. Because work IS survival. You cannot be alive and avoid survival. The only question is, what will be the quality of your survival? Are you gonna be scamming old ladies out of their life savings, are you gonna be selling poison at McDonald's, or are you gonna do something meaningful for the world?
Up to you.
Don't be surprised if you hate your life when you sell poison at McDonald's for 8 hours every day. You should hate your life at that point because what you're doing is so stupid. That hate is a message that God is sending you. God is telling you, "Why you being so stupid when you could be doing something so much more amazing with your life?"
Living life in stupid ways leads to lots of suffering.

You are exaggerating and creating stories.
You can find people.

I suggest to you that this isn't actually true but a self-deceptive story your crafty mind concocted.

I get it. It went through it. You just gotta focus on the growth and the adventure of it rather than the rejection. I stopped caring about rejection at all at some point. It doesn't even register in my mind if some girl ignores or rejects me. I will laugh at her.
It was extremely difficult for me too. But that challenge is what makes it so rewarding once you conquer it. So just learn to be more optimistic.
You must drop that competiton framing. I never think about flirting with girls as a competition. Rather it's about molding yourself into a more extroverted, humorous, fun guy. You're not in a battle with other men, you're in a battle with yourself to build social skill.
Also, social status and value can be built. For example, you can build a cool circle of friends. Or you can build up a career that also gives you some social status. You can design these things. For example, you can host parties. You can become a leader of your social circle. These things are within your control.
You gotta stop fixating on getting the girl and focus more on building skill and enjoying your time out. If you go out and have 3hrs of fun and you improve your skill by 1% that's a win. The girl is truly irrelevant in this.

Whenever you feel like it.

Sounds like you're just overthinking it. You gotta learn to take the early stages of datings less seriously. Treat it as an adventure and exploration. Don't think too far ahead in this domain.

Actually it came from meditation not psychedelics. I describe it in some old video, can't remember which.

@RawJudah Of course the life experience is worth it. Especially if you do it in less touristy ways. The best would be actually living in lots of different places for some time. If you live in a very foreign place for a month, that will generate massive experience.

The only solution is to socialize more to increase your odds. It's a numbers game. The more people you meet the more likely you are to meet exceptional matches. There's not any magic to it, you just gotta invest energy in socializing way more. Consistency is the key. Half the battle is won just by showing up every day when you could be doing something else.

Eventually I broke through into total forgiveness and resolution, recognition that pain is for learning, breaking free from self judgement that I am not perfect on the relative level, but complete and perfect on the absolute level.
Empathy for others has always been easy for me. It's is empathy toward myself that is a recurring theme for exploration and mastery.

For me ayahuasca is deeply introspective. Among other things it led me to meet directly with every way I've ever caused harm, through action or negligence, and I had to reconcile with and accept that as part of the totality of my being and of existence.
It is also not highly visionary for me, and neither are mushrooms for that matter. It is dose dependent of course but there does appear to be variation from one person to in whether the nature of the experience is primarily visual.
I find 5-MeO-DMT to feel fundamentally different from other forms of DMT including mushrooms, aya, or pure freebase 

It is excellent.
DMT is tops.

Yes, the dangers are real and I have incurred costs doing what I do. It ain't all positive. But in the end it comes down to your values. My top value was understanding consciousness, so it wasn't even something I had to make a hard decision on. The more psychedelics you plan to do the more careful you gotta be.
Most reseach chems in the 4-HO, 4-AcO, 5-MeO, and LSD classes are pretty safe.

This black pill shit is retarded. I cant believe any of you take this seriously. I'm 5'7 and I can tell you from personal experience, this is complete horse shit and only serves to give you an excuse as to why you are so useless to women

keep thinking pretty thoughts

@Yali If I see you posting this limiting belief blackpill stuff here again you will be banned.

You forgot rule number 1. Never listen to woman what they are attracted too/ how to attract them.
This means that the statistics is not accurate either. Figure out what's true from direct experience.
 

You need to approach your fashion and look holistically. It's not about any one type of thing, it's about the whole package which must suit your body type and personality too.
Best advice is to hire a professional image consultant and follow her recommendations to buy a whole new wardrobe. She needs to help you develop a style which you will then shop in alignment with from now on.
It's hard to develop a style on your own unless you got a knack for that sort of thing. Invest some money in a consultant. It will pay dividends for the rest of your life.
Style matters a lot. You can increase your attractiveness several fold just by figuring out your style. Women are very keen to notice if you got style or not. It's all part of your whole vibe that she feels upon first impression. If you are dressed in ratty stuff you will be losing girls.

Yup, sometimes you just gotta follow through on your commitment to go out even if you don't feel like it or you don't have any hope for results. Results can come randomly even on bad nights and lessons are learned even on bad or slow nights.

Have you actually tested this? Or is this just your theory?
In my experience I can still get addictions if I'm not careful and I do get bored. And I think this will be true for most people.
We live in an era where digitial stimulation is so pervasive that it's really hard not to get addicted to it because you can't abstain from it entirely like you could in the past.
Today, even a Zen master will have a smartphone. And it's really easy to get addicted to your phone.

My explanation of it is pretty simple. In order to be human you must reside within a very narrow and low state of consciousness. This is true even if you are a fully enlightenment Buddha. Your consciousnes is still less 1% of what is possible. And that is simply because that's what it means to be human. The highest levels of consciousness are so alien and non-human that a human can barely remember or think about them, nevermind access them at will, nevermind making such changes permenent. What the human can make permament is very very little. Which is why enlightenment teachers poo-poo the whole idea of "chasing states". They tell you not to do it because a human can't sustain them. That's what "human" IS. Human means being pretty much in the state you're currently in. But what a human can sustain is something like deep surrender and emptiness. Which is what they call enlightenment. And this has it's benefits for humans, but as far as consciousness goes it's still weak.
So it's sort of a sad situation because most of consciousness remains inacceesible and unsustainable for humans. Merely by the fact of being human. I guess after death that will change. Which is the point of death. Death finally frees you to explore higher domains because you are no longer attached to the human experience scheme.