It's not possible to get it without doing it.
Only after a few thousand approaches does one start to understand what game is. And it's extremely counter-intuitive.

Yes, commitment is emotionally challenging because commitment only makes sense from the POV of an attractive guy with many options if the girl is exceptional. There is little desire to commit to an average girl.
For commitment to make sense she has to be really amazing. But most girls are not that.
Also, commitment means losing years not developing one's game. And the longer a guy wait to development one's game, the harder it becomes. Also the sex and even the relationship will start to get stale after some years unless special measures are taken. So there is a fear that commitment will lead to mediocrity.
Having very high standards makes commitment very challenging. In a sense commitment requires surrendering or lowering one's standards.
From the male POV, sex is a daily requirement but commitment requires something exceptional. Which is why guys tend to have sex but not commit. If a guy waited to only have sex with girls he was willing to commit to, he would be starving like a homeless dog waiting for years for the right girl to come along. And then he would fuck that up with neediness.
So ironically girls are attracted to the guys who are least likely to commit. These are the guys who have so many options that commitment makes little sense. Because a guy who doesn't have all those options will be super needy and repel most girls. You girls are attracted to the most detached guys, and then you wonder why he won't commit.
The guy who would commit to you, you have no interest in sleeping with. He doesn't make you wet or emotional. And your sleeping decisions are purely emotional, not logical. Hence you keep hooking up with guys who won't commit.
The more arousing the guy the less likely he is to commit. That's how this game works. You have to find some sort of balancing point. You can't just chase the highest arousal. You have to make sacrifices. You can't get it all unless you are bringing massive value to the negotiating table.
Sex is a value exchange. And everyone is trying to leech maximum value. Everyone is trying to get something for nothing. And then suffering ensues of course because leeching and theft are self-undermining.
In a sense, when you are dating you are trying to steal sexual value. You aren't doing this consciously, but subconsciously that's exactly what all your arousal and emotions are doing. Your emotions precisely motivate behaviors which steal sexual value. This survival mechanic is so deep that you aren't even aware it's happening. To you it just feels like romance. When you get super attracted to a guy so much that you can't stop daydreaming about him, that's because you know he has more value than you, and that locking him down would be a really good deal for you. It's like walking into a car dealership and seeing your favorite car 50% off. You are giddy with joy at the bargain you just found and you want to pounce on it immediately before someone else does. But of course no quality car is ever 50% off unless there is something seriously wrong with it.
Bottom line: If you want the best car in the dealership you should expect to work hard and pay a lot for it. If you don't want to pay a lot, then expect a mediocre car. Madness is expecting the best car for dirt cheap.
Men's commitment phobia is their emotional way of maximizing sexual value.

After tripping on shrooms, I'd like to summarize the main point of this article : the importance of meditation. 
But it also came with the wrong assumption that psychedelics somehow hurt your meditation habit. Both are beneficial and there's no point in a debate or comparison. 

That's why you go out and spend 1000+ hrs learning how to be fun and chill. That's called learning game. You learn it by doing it, not by philosophy.

Ironically, cold approach is amazing for building a social circle quickly.
You can make dozens of new friends within a month of going out every weekend.

I have clubbed in totally packed clubs in Vegas post-Covid. No mask. Club packed so tight can hardly walk. Lots of makeouts with random girls.
If you are vaccinated you should be fine. Of course there are risks so it's up to you what risk you wanna take.

When a hot chick is grinding on your dick in the nightclub, no-mind dawns. Thoughts vanish like ashes scattered to the wind
I think you could put that into Haiku form:
Chick grinding on dick,
Club music blaring,
Thoughts nowhere to be found

Pickup takes so much work to get good at that it requires a guy with serious motivation. This motivation usually comes from trauma or serious lack. Therefore of course many guys who get into pickup are creepy or dysfunctional by default. They also tend to be extremely sex-obessed with very high sex drives.
Pickup is not gonna be worth it to most low sex-drive guys. You have to want sex like a madman.
Owen's father was an abusive alcoholic. Jeffy's father tortured and murdered his mother.
Serious trauma there.

If you keep brooding in a toxic Incel ideology, then yes, you might be better off just killing yourself.
But that's not what I suggested to you. I suggested to develop yourself spiritually and come to love yourself.
Stop watching Incel garbage. It's poison for your mind.
It's true for good-looking men too.
Good-looking guys have it way easier in life.
By realizing that resentment is toxic and will not help you one bit.
What will resentment do for you? How will it help you? How will it improve your life?
When you realize that, you can let go of the need to be resentful. You can also work on loving yourself and focusing on other areas of your life where you can do great and experience great joy.
Remember, even if you had great looks, you would eventually lose them and have to deal with that loss.
You need to channel your mental energies into something else which is positive and productive. Something you love. There are many other aspects of life which can be great sources of joy besides romance. In fact, romance can be a shallow source of joy. It comes with many bad side-effects. Most romance ends in misery. People who are celibate can have wonderful, powerful, enjoyable lives.
Focus on living up your strengths, not your weaknesses. Your mind is over-dominated by this one issue to the point where you're not seeing all the other amazing aspects of life which you could channel your energies into.
And remember, just because some people are pretty and have it easy in that department does not mean their lives are fucked up in many other ways. Many of the most beautiful women are so toxic, spoiled, and dysfunctional precisely because of their beauty that they are not even worth dating. There are thousands of beatiful women who want to kill themselves because their lives are so bad in other ways.
Just from my personal experience, I am not a good-looking guy, but I know I more than make up for that in other departments which makes my life more enjoyable and profound than the best-looking guys who get laid a lot more.
I know guys who have slept with 200-500 girls. And I consider their life less rich and rewarding than mine. Actually, I tend to feel sorry for them. They have no idea the depth that life offers.

Purchase high quality porn. It's worth it vs the free stuff.
You can find high quality, classy, artistic porn.
You can also find erotic fiction and the like.
Of course the most powerful way to cum is through visualization.
I can make a girl cum harder via text messages than most guys can via real sex. The mind is more powerful than any physical stimulation. I've made girls come just by talking to them and no touching.

Hehe... of course I'm serious. That you would be surprised by this is in itself sad and funny.
A girl never has to fake her orgasms with me. They are epic and multiple.
Of course her perception of me is critical. But her perception of me is shaped by me and she's not going to experience the kind of orgasms I give her with almost any other guy. Because I invested serious time and effort learning sex, and for me, giving her epic orgasms is an art.
Most people are simply clueless about how to create amazing sex.
I take 90% of the credit

@ValiantSalvatore You can land a gf from online, but it's gonna hinge on your pics.
Online it doesn't really matter what you write as long as you're not creepy or needy.
You're never going to convince a girl to fuck you with clever text messages. She has to want to fuck you first based off your pics.

You CANNOT convince women to sleep with you. It will never work.
Online game is all about your pictures. Nothing you write or say matters.
Stop doing online game and start doing real-life game. That's where you can run serious game.

@kamill Videos and courses will be much better than books for this purpose.
Better yet, consider hiring a dating coach or taking a bootcamp. Getting good a dating is extremely hands-on. You cannot learn it as a theory. None of the theory translates into real life. You need massive field experience.
50 parts experience to 1 part theory. Otherwise no results.
For cold approach to work you need to be doing 100s of approaches each month. At least until you develop some skill. Then you can ease up.

The solution is obvious and simple, but not easy: Go out and socialize 3-4 times per week and approach 1000s of girls.
This process will force you out of your logical mind.
You are not going to solve this problem by sitting at home thinking about it. Nor will you just "let it go". You need to retrain how your whole mind operates in social situations. And the only way to do that is to throw yourself into hundreds and thousands of social situations consistently until your mind is forced to change.
Check out Owen Cook's channel on YT. His whole channel is about how to do this.

So what? Approach another 10-20 girls and you will hit state.
It doesn't matter what your approach is. It can be a horrible approach, it will still build state if you do enough of them in a row.
In fact, the horrible, cringy approaches tend to build state the best as long as you keep doing them. Because you realize a horrible approach is no big deal, and your mind relaxes.

@Whitesnow I understand how frustrated and bitter you must feel.
But the whole game of life is to learn to love yourself despite all your limitations.
Naturally good-looking people have no idea how easy they have it. They will never understand.
Your solution is either to kill yourself or to learn to love yourself. Life is brutal in this regard. I suggest you do the latter. Psychedelics can be very helpful for discovering a profound Self-Love.

A) Only a handful of people are suicidal here.
B) This is a psychology-related forum that deals with people's emotional challenges in life. Of course there will be suicidal people here. It couldn't be otherwise.
It's like asking a doctor why there are people with horrible diseases in his office.

If you just want to socialize, day game is a poor choice because volume of people is low and they are all busy doing stuff so they will not stand around just chatting with you. Day game is good for direct approaches and getting phone numbers.
If you want serious socialization practice then bars would be ideal.
If you approach a girl during the day, you need to be hitting on her directly. You're not there to chit-chat.
If you want the easiest way to practice socializing, go to a mall and socialize with all the clerks. Don't hit on them, just try to see how long you can keep a friendly conversation going. Go during the slow part of the day where they have nothing to do but talk to you.

I have no serious criticisms of him. He knows his shit.
He doesn't deny love. He talks quite a bit about Eros (his term of Love), and he says that the driving force behind all evolution is love. Which is correct in my view, although even that doesn't go far enough to underscore the importance of Love in all of Creation.
He might not be as explicit about Infinite Love as I am, equating Love & Truth. But that's probably because he has not accessed some of the deepest insights I have accessed via psychedelics.
I think his understanding of reality would be deeper if he went deeply into psychedelics. But oh well. It's good enough. You can only ask so much of a guy. He has done several life-times-worth of amazing work.
Ken is one of the greatest Western philosophers and intellectuals who has ever lived. We are lucky to be alive alongside him. It's sad that his health as deteriorated so quickly.

Yes, threat can certainly require a regression to address it.
But also, most people simply don't have a very deep experience base for any of the stages. Their experience of the stages was never a deep exhaustion or transcendence of the stage, therefore their stage is quite fragile. It hasn't been put to a stress test. It's like a soldier who has never been in the battlefield vs a veteran. To prevent regression the stage has to be deeply explored and exhausted.

There are plenty branches of Christianity which are horrible cults.
Evangelicals and others are also batshit delusional.
You could argue that most of Christianity is a cult.

The solution is obvious: eat high quality unprocessed whole foods.
The devil is heavily processed foods and foods that combine many ingredients together.
It's hard to go wrong with a whole fruit, veggie, or cut of meat.
If you want to stay effortlessly lean, cut out starchy carbs like potatoes, wheat, rice, grains, oats, etc. If you want to bulk up or need a lot of energy to burn, then load up on the starchy carbs.

Because you're living a life disconnected from Truth, lost in delusion.
Do you want a good life or a shitty life?

Forget weed. Upgrade to serious psychedelics and do them occasionally.
Weed is addictive. Serious psychedelics are anti-addictive.