The last girl I slept with

BTW, she thought I was homeless when she came home with me.
But don't let me stop you guys... keep bullshitting.

If I showed you a pic of the last girl I slept with, your jaw would drop. Hotter than a Playboy model. She was into spiritiality and read David Hawkins too
You don't know what a 10 is until you come to Vegas.

It's not a function of my work. People are just suicidal. It's pretty common. I have no control over if people want to kill themselves.

@Hardkill @Leo Gura
I wonder if it'd be a good idea to instead shmooze with the high status young males in the college and then get into some sort of party clique and fuck girls that way

The bottom line is, you need to gain enough mastery over your emotional state such that you feel good and solid most nights out.
Gaming from a depressed state is not really gonna work. Fix your depression. Controlling your state is like the biggest aspect of inner game. Everything else hinges on it. You need to become a generally happy, go-lucky guy who doesn't easily get ungrounded.
Work on enjoying and loving going out and socializing with new people. This is the gold.

Actually you can see hot girls with average looking guys fairly commonly. Which shows you that looks aren't as important as you think.
When you see short guys, fat guys, bald guys, skinny guys, asian guys, black guys, etc pulling a lot, you will realize it's not the looks so much.
Get some wings who aren't so great looking but pull consistently. This will blow your limiting beliefs apart.

"Attractive" is a holisitic quality which involves a lot more than just looks. A girl will think a guy is good looking when she is actually attracted by his status, confidence, masculine vibe, charisma, eye contact, humor, etc.
Solid game makes a guy appear attractive.
But of course some lucky guys simply get laid off their looks. It's not a solid strategy though. Guys who get laid the most are working for it. It doesn't land in their lap.

Dude, many marriages and relationships are already in the death process.
Obviously I'm not going to lead a girl to break a good marriage. It was obvious that her marriage was mostly a formality and that her heart wasn't in it.

Dude, what the fuck? I never told you to say anything like that.
I deliberately go out of my way NOT to insult girls. Sometimes it happens by accident and kills the set.
Teasing and flirting is not insults. << Get that through your bean brain
You never want to say anything what she would perceive as an attack on her core self.
Don't say hurtful things to people. Saying hurtful things is not game, it's just cruel.
You also shouldn't be aiming to say sexist things. You say funny things and if they happen to be a bit sexist you will skate by.
If she is not laughing then you are failing.

I have talked about this in my How To Get Laid series.
Ideally you start with the player frame and then switch to the boyfriend frame once she's slept with you a few times and is seriously invested into you.

Bro, I know. I used to be the biggest nice guy.
Yes, if you are stuck in nice guy mode then a scummy PUA is a good counter-balance. Just be careful, it's easy to go to the dark side. The dark side will get you laid so much with such hot girls you will forget the word integrity exists.
Haha, good luck.
While you're at it, teach your son to ignore looking at tits.

1) Nightclub builds skills
2) You can meet all kinds of girls in the club. Example: I pulled and made out with a PhD professor of mathematics doing stocastic modeling. She was smarter than all you guys here making excuses about going out. Didn't close that one cause she was married.
You can pull doctors, professors, engineers, businesswomen from the club.

Well, to be fair to John, I think his case was dropped and didn't actually involve sex. Not all charges/accusations are automatically true. I don't know all the details, I'm just saying what I heard.
But yeah, he's is a sketchy guy. He was too sketchy for RSD. Let that sink in.
To be fair, Fox News anchors probably sexually abused and harassed more women than John. Now let that sink in.

Girls are easily seduced because they are emotional creatures.
One of my wings talked to a girl for 20 mins in the casino lobby. He pulled her into the casino restroom. She said she could only give him a blowjob because she loves her boyfriend. Such things are not uncommon. Normies just don't know.
With the married girl I wanted to see how far she was willing to go. I try these things to see how attraction actually works. She told me, "You know, I'm actually married." And I told her, "But I'm Santa." And that was the end of her moral qualms. Attraction does not work how people think it does.
You know how creepy it would be to go to a meditation retreat or satsang to game girls? Go try it. See how well that works for ya.
Besides which, you won't have the skills to do it.

Owen actually coined that term. It's a guy who basically has zero social skills and zero experience talking to girls and very introverted. The opposite of a natural.
Game comes easily to some guys because it aligned with their natural personality. Game comes really hard for others. Game for me is like 180 degress against my strengths and personality. By all rights I should be living in a cave, not pulling models from the craziest nightclubs in the world.
It's like you're asking if Albert Einstien had great game.
I had to push myself super hard to do precisely what I was worst at in the world and what I hated doing most. Learning game was one of the hardest things I've done in my life.

Lol. John knows nothing about me or my game.
He talks shit about everyone as part of his marketing strategy. It's toxic. His approach to marketing himself is the same as his approach to gaming girls. Like I said before, a low integrity PUA is going to not just treat girls badly, he will treat everyone in a manipulative way, especially his clients and customers. He's gaming you with the same integrity he games girls.
I was not known in the community at all because I was a nobody, there was nothing noteworthy about my game, and I never made any claims about my skills or results. This whole dick measuring contest about who has the best game is childish. All that matters is that you are improving your game. You can learn valuable lessons from all the instructors. You can also acquire many toxic ideas and habits if you're not careful.
There is nothing more creepy than having your wingmen imprisoned for rape and yourself having rape accusations brought to court. Next to that I am a saint.
Remember, I am not a pickup coach and I never was. So don't compare me to those type of guys. I was critical of the pickup community from the day I learned about pickup. Obviously much of it is low consciousness and toxic stuff sourced from deep trauma and lack of spiritual development.
Be careful who you learn from. Their integrity, or lack thereof, will rub off on you.
Have I done some flashy game? Sure. Have I turned girls off? Of course. That's all part of learning game. Flashy game is not solid game. I explained this in my How To Get Laid videos. But exploring flash is valuable nonetheless. Knowing how to do a bit of flash at the right time is very effective. People also have different styles of game. And much of what is considered flash is also just part of self-amusement and warming up. Sometimes I will say something silly or outrageous just to blow up a set and put myself into a playful mood.
Keep in mind that all my game was done sober. Most of John's game was done drunk while he was gaming in Vegas. He says he quit drinking now -- which is great if true -- but that's after 10 years of drunk game. The majority of his supposed lay count is drunk game. I had to build my state from zero each night. So did Owen.

Dude, you have no clue how deep in the hole Owen started out. He was an autistic suicidal hard case. He has come far given his starting point.
You take this shit for granted, as if mastering game is easy.
Owen's forte is not getting girls, it's leading lazy guys like you. Owen spends most of his time running a business, not in the clubs.

Julian has a very high lay count from what I heard and amazing game. That's why Owen made him his main sidekick.

It's obvious he never had it.
You'd have to be a fool to think that Owen gets laid massively.

A bit, not much. I never winged with him, just saw him out at the clubs a lot back in 2013 in Vegas.
But I have friends who winged with him and the rumors aren't great.
Not getting into that.
To be clear, my game was never great. I'm not some pickup instructor and I am not structuring my life to maximize lays.
Learning to pull and close consistently is way harder than you imagine. People and girls especially tend to assume it is easy. It's not easy at all unless you are a master.

Introverts are often self-conscious, which is not the case for most extroverts. Being self-conscious is like being your own enemy. Extroverts don't have that enemy, so they tend to be more free. But most extroverts have very low consciousness. They don't know what they're doing or why they're doing it.
The truth is that introverts are often one level higher than extroverts, consciousness wise, simply because self-consciousness is a feature that extroverts lack and have no access to, nor do they care about it or want to develop that capacity, so they're stuck in their comfort zone.
If an introvert somehow manages to get over self-consciousness, it'll be like when the pawn advances to the end of the chess board. The line between introvert and extrovert will blur. They will become a Queen and have the best of both worlds. The same thing will happen if an extrovert develops their consciousness. But that's rare in introverts, and a lot rarer in extroverts.

Hello, first time ever posting!
I’m an eighteen year old female and for my entire life I’ve been struggling with low self-esteem. I was very narcissistic as a young child, later becoming more of a people pleaser, probably due to growing up with neurotic parents.  Its improved significantly due to spiritual work (meditating since 16 years of age) and other practices. I’ve gotten rid of the vast majority of my people pleasing tendencies, nowadays I have zero trouble saying no and setting boundaries. But one aspect of the people pleasing “mindset” that’s left is the tendency to put people on a pedestal. In particular highly social extroverts. 
 
I’m currently in high school, and I’m basically surrounded by a bunch of high energy extroverts (my school is known to be rich socially so we’re not talking about the average person here). Meanwhile I’m this low energy introvert, still struggling with self esteem. 
 
so I have this unhealthy tendency to put my peers on a pedestal. Their extroverted energy gives off the impression that they:
• are confident (sign of maturity and high conscioussness)
• don’t take themselves seriously (once again sign of the same things)
• are well developed ego-wise 
It fascinates me because let’s say I’m surrounded by a group of people who all have much higher IQ than me, I wouldn’t feel insecure because I have self-distance to my IQ so I don’t take it personally and put them on a pedestal for it, because it’s not like they are superior to me because they are logically smarter.
But I’m struggling to apply the same mindset to these extroverted socially competent people at my school.
Shyness tends to be associated with children, meanwhile more confident and outgoing behavior is associated with confidence which is what an adult is “supposed to be”. So I’ve subconsciously judged myself for not being that way, while at the same time overestimating how developed these people at my school are.
It seems like extroverted behavior can when expressed in a friendly way, give of the impression of “having ones shit together”, causing a person to seem more stable and grounded than they are.
I know on an intellectual level that these people also have insecurities, and that just because they are highly socially competent doesn’t mean they are highly developed and mature. But it’s hard to feel this on an emotional level. 
 
Also since I’m non-Swedish from the suburbs going to a school with a lot of rich inner city Swedes I can’t help but feel a bit different.
Basically I'm trying to find confidence in my low energy introverted “nature”, but it’s a struggle. 
 
My question is, does anyone relate? 
How come some people can be so extroverted and seem so confident?
im just venting at this point lol but just felt like sharing this. No matter what I’m working hard on building self esteem as I strongly genuinely feel the desire to actualize the confident version of me that I know is somewhere underneath the layers of fear and social conditioning. 
thank you for reading 
 
 

I don't doubt JA's game skills. I've seen him pull hot girls. But there is more to life than game.
Owen never claimed to have great game. It's pretty obvious that Owen's value was never in having the best game but in higher topics.

Owen's teachings are over JA's head.
Owen is not teaching you how to get laid, he's teaching something higher.
Be careful dismissing Owen so easily. He is a serious intellect despite whatever shortcomings and biases. Owen is one of the few PUAs that thinks deeply about reality.
2 of JA's wings are in prison for 10 years for gang-raping drunk girls in Vegas.
JA is so sketchy he was too sketchy to work for RSD in its heyday.

He never read 1 book a day. That too was a scam.