Bro, that's how life is for most people on the planet.
Not only that but by the end of the week you'll be so exhausted you'll just want to spend the weekend crashing on the couch and watching some TV, not doing any kind of personal dev work.
The solution is to build a career with a job that you're really passionate about, so that those 8 hours working each day are actually something you want to be doing.
The hope lies in building a career aligned with your life purpose.
Or starting a business and earning so much money that you can afford to take a lot of time off to work on your own side projects. This is what I did. Today I could not work for 10 years and just travel the world or do side projects. But still I choose to work because I mostly love my work. But I had to work real hard and real smart to reach this point. This is not any easy point to reach. You'll have to be super committed to reach it.

Hey everyone, 
This is my first post and where do I begin? My name is Daphne, 24 years old and I'm from The Netherlands. I sometimes feel very stuck in life. Allthough I made much progress in the last years. I feel like I'm lacking behind on everybody 'living the normal type of life'. Study, get a great job etc. To me it's more important to develop myself than to find a job but maybe to others I seem lazy? I'm very uncertain about my life purpose and what I want to become work related.
I feel like I'm not the type of person that will go to work, marry, have kids. And for this reason I feel stuck because all the people around me are like that. I'd rather explore the world and grow myself as a person. But you need money right? I don't know. I wish I could find my passion and make a living out of it, but I don't know how or where to begin? Tips are very welcome.
 

I meant, it needs to be the most meaningful thing out of the things you could be working on.
Unless you are a billionaire, you don't have a choice in life. You will have to work to make money. The only question is, will you work on things you find most meaningful or not?
Even if you value deep relationships, you'll still have to work. Because work IS survival. You cannot be alive and avoid survival. The only question is, what will be the quality of your survival? Are you gonna be scamming old ladies out of their life savings, are you gonna be selling poison at McDonald's, or are you gonna do something meaningful for the world?
Up to you.
Don't be surprised if you hate your life when you sell poison at McDonald's for 8 hours every day. You should hate your life at that point because what you're doing is so stupid. That hate is a message that God is sending you. God is telling you, "Why you being so stupid when you could be doing something so much more amazing with your life?"
Living life in stupid ways leads to lots of suffering.

You are exaggerating and creating stories.
You can find people.

I suggest to you that this isn't actually true but a self-deceptive story your crafty mind concocted.

I get it. It went through it. You just gotta focus on the growth and the adventure of it rather than the rejection. I stopped caring about rejection at all at some point. It doesn't even register in my mind if some girl ignores or rejects me. I will laugh at her.
It was extremely difficult for me too. But that challenge is what makes it so rewarding once you conquer it. So just learn to be more optimistic.
You must drop that competiton framing. I never think about flirting with girls as a competition. Rather it's about molding yourself into a more extroverted, humorous, fun guy. You're not in a battle with other men, you're in a battle with yourself to build social skill.
Also, social status and value can be built. For example, you can build a cool circle of friends. Or you can build up a career that also gives you some social status. You can design these things. For example, you can host parties. You can become a leader of your social circle. These things are within your control.
You gotta stop fixating on getting the girl and focus more on building skill and enjoying your time out. If you go out and have 3hrs of fun and you improve your skill by 1% that's a win. The girl is truly irrelevant in this.

Whenever you feel like it.

Sounds like you're just overthinking it. You gotta learn to take the early stages of datings less seriously. Treat it as an adventure and exploration. Don't think too far ahead in this domain.

Actually it came from meditation not psychedelics. I describe it in some old video, can't remember which.

@RawJudah Of course the life experience is worth it. Especially if you do it in less touristy ways. The best would be actually living in lots of different places for some time. If you live in a very foreign place for a month, that will generate massive experience.

The only solution is to socialize more to increase your odds. It's a numbers game. The more people you meet the more likely you are to meet exceptional matches. There's not any magic to it, you just gotta invest energy in socializing way more. Consistency is the key. Half the battle is won just by showing up every day when you could be doing something else.

Eventually I broke through into total forgiveness and resolution, recognition that pain is for learning, breaking free from self judgement that I am not perfect on the relative level, but complete and perfect on the absolute level.
Empathy for others has always been easy for me. It's is empathy toward myself that is a recurring theme for exploration and mastery.

For me ayahuasca is deeply introspective. Among other things it led me to meet directly with every way I've ever caused harm, through action or negligence, and I had to reconcile with and accept that as part of the totality of my being and of existence.
It is also not highly visionary for me, and neither are mushrooms for that matter. It is dose dependent of course but there does appear to be variation from one person to in whether the nature of the experience is primarily visual.
I find 5-MeO-DMT to feel fundamentally different from other forms of DMT including mushrooms, aya, or pure freebase 

It is excellent.
DMT is tops.

Yes, the dangers are real and I have incurred costs doing what I do. It ain't all positive. But in the end it comes down to your values. My top value was understanding consciousness, so it wasn't even something I had to make a hard decision on. The more psychedelics you plan to do the more careful you gotta be.
Most reseach chems in the 4-HO, 4-AcO, 5-MeO, and LSD classes are pretty safe.

This black pill shit is retarded. I cant believe any of you take this seriously. I'm 5'7 and I can tell you from personal experience, this is complete horse shit and only serves to give you an excuse as to why you are so useless to women

keep thinking pretty thoughts

@Yali If I see you posting this limiting belief blackpill stuff here again you will be banned.

You forgot rule number 1. Never listen to woman what they are attracted too/ how to attract them.
This means that the statistics is not accurate either. Figure out what's true from direct experience.
 

You need to approach your fashion and look holistically. It's not about any one type of thing, it's about the whole package which must suit your body type and personality too.
Best advice is to hire a professional image consultant and follow her recommendations to buy a whole new wardrobe. She needs to help you develop a style which you will then shop in alignment with from now on.
It's hard to develop a style on your own unless you got a knack for that sort of thing. Invest some money in a consultant. It will pay dividends for the rest of your life.
Style matters a lot. You can increase your attractiveness several fold just by figuring out your style. Women are very keen to notice if you got style or not. It's all part of your whole vibe that she feels upon first impression. If you are dressed in ratty stuff you will be losing girls.

Yup, sometimes you just gotta follow through on your commitment to go out even if you don't feel like it or you don't have any hope for results. Results can come randomly even on bad nights and lessons are learned even on bad or slow nights.

Have you actually tested this? Or is this just your theory?
In my experience I can still get addictions if I'm not careful and I do get bored. And I think this will be true for most people.
We live in an era where digitial stimulation is so pervasive that it's really hard not to get addicted to it because you can't abstain from it entirely like you could in the past.
Today, even a Zen master will have a smartphone. And it's really easy to get addicted to your phone.

My explanation of it is pretty simple. In order to be human you must reside within a very narrow and low state of consciousness. This is true even if you are a fully enlightenment Buddha. Your consciousnes is still less 1% of what is possible. And that is simply because that's what it means to be human. The highest levels of consciousness are so alien and non-human that a human can barely remember or think about them, nevermind access them at will, nevermind making such changes permenent. What the human can make permament is very very little. Which is why enlightenment teachers poo-poo the whole idea of "chasing states". They tell you not to do it because a human can't sustain them. That's what "human" IS. Human means being pretty much in the state you're currently in. But what a human can sustain is something like deep surrender and emptiness. Which is what they call enlightenment. And this has it's benefits for humans, but as far as consciousness goes it's still weak.
So it's sort of a sad situation because most of consciousness remains inacceesible and unsustainable for humans. Merely by the fact of being human. I guess after death that will change. Which is the point of death. Death finally frees you to explore higher domains because you are no longer attached to the human experience scheme.

I'm pretty tired but I'll make a little effort to uptade.

I drove with my Campervan from Marbella ( my home city ) to Valencia center. Around 800km away. Population : 800K people. Third largest in Spain . I've never heard anythign about it and I was recommended not to go, but my instinct said to try it out. Barcelona is amazing but I can't live my nomadic lifestyle there as there are restrictions for old vans like mine .
I had spend several thousands € to get the van in good shape both aesthetically but more important mechanically, so that I dont break down on the road .
TLDR : I broke down three times, but each time I managed to fix the problem by myself, which made me feel a sense of pride. I'm no mechanic btw . I was an inch away from paying for a toetruck  with money I dont have and spending three more months in my hometown working at some job.

I decided I really want this trip so I pushed and after literal blood sweat and tears I made it .
 
I had researched a bit the city beforehand. Parking spots. Libraries . Clubs, bars, crowded areas, gyms. Even got a job interview lined up for Monday.
I DM'd 45 guys in Valencia  Game Global Telegram group fishing for wingmen. TLDR I actually have 2'5 wingmen from the group now + I joined a  local spanish Game group of 25 wingmen by sheer luck. Jackpot!  I'm meeting some of them tonight at Mya Club. Google it, it's beautiful,
 
The dude I'm hoping to be my main wing was sick yesterday when I arrived  so I went out solo to explore the city. 
 
Ofc I'm tense and in my head. I haven't gamed  since 2018 and I wasn't even good to begin with .
 
Therefore the title of the thread . I bootstrapped some quick plan just to get a bare minimum momentum snowballing over the next days months and weeks . I speak fluent spanish and the locals are pretty friendly. I walked through this huge beach road and started asking groups of 2, 3, 5+ about their opinion of safety in Valencia and general stuff about the city, + a little chit chat . It felt good to get a bit more loose doing smalltalk. Super friendly environment. It is allowed to bring out foldable chairs and tables to the beach and entire families have dinner close to the beach. Very cozy ambience.
I went to the beach showers to clean up after 50 hours of sweaty travelling  ( the drive was suposed to be 7 hours but complications extended it five fold...
I chat up this dude at the beach showers,  who clearly works out ( there is literally like 400 people around)   - I compliment him on his physique and ask him if he knows about any calisthenics park nearby ( I'm skinny but I love pull ups ) . We chit chat and he invites me over to his towel at the beach to practice some kickboxing and muay thai ( I have pretty much no idea about it but he's very chill and goes easy ). His spanish GF came and we had good laughs and a good time . I got his number for more training later and got a first friend here basically . 
Pretty good step up from being lonely and in my head walking alone .
I told them I had to leave but that we will see us again in the future . I went to check out Mya club and the logistics are absolutely amzing for me . Pretty much cant be better . It's also packed , free if you enter before a certain time and full of language exchange students . !!! 
I went out alone again ( wing is sick, doesn't want to go out tonight ) . It took me 2 hours to clean up my van after the drive and clean myself up and make myself presentable. It took me so long that I got late at the free entry ( until 1 AM ) and I'd have to pay entry fee ( 20 € ). I'm pretty much broke AF so I did not pay it .
I observed the area and the beautiful buildings . I chatted up plenty of people doing small talk just to do smth rather than being in my head . I talked to a group of 4 girls for a moment asking about an opinion and then ejected myself. I could have stayed longer if I thought faster. I didn't want to overstay my welcome but after I left I came up with good verbals to keep it going . It's okay, im getting the ball rolling. I need to keep the big picture in sight or otherwise I'd overwhelm myself and crash. I'm staying neutral / positive / upbeat but not negative. Perhaps it's even bad that I don't allow myself to "fall into very negative states ". Perhaps I could use it to fuel more action taking .  I don't know how good of an idea that is .
They were pretty cute. I saw the initial fear in their eyes once I started the conversation . It may have been from them or it may have been reflected from my eyes / expresion, but as I shared some stuff about myself and I started smiling I instantly saw one or two of them smile as well. 
Whatever you feel they feel , they say .  That was my clue to keep plowing, but I ejected and didn't want to overstay my welcome . I should have done it for the sake of experimenting .  It's okay .
I came up with a new banter. Basically ask some opinion and when I see the chance mention playfully something along the lines of that " I don't really respect the opinion of women"  of course said in a cheeky way, and saying that I'm kididng . When I disagreed on her firm opinion they all started giggling. They love a little emotional drama. Note taken .
 
Not gonna lie, I went out with the total determination of approaching girls , but I didn't happen. I was in too much of a logical antisocial state. That's okay for now . I've seen that street game is also good at around 3 AM when people are more loose hanging outside of the club instead of when they havent drank yet and are all self conscious ( to some degree ) entering the club .
On the way " home "  some hooker cat-called me saying me that I look like Dicaprio a bit . I've been told that a dozen times already but I don't see the similarity. Perhaps when he was young or smth. Whatever. 
Some girls were really cute and I honestly wanted to approach but it's extremely difficult to do it solo and out of state . I wont say impossible but I need way more experience. Still, it's okay.
To master game you need to stay delusionally optimistic because of the extremely steep learning curve. I will not allow myself to crash and burn out .
 
the next morning I woke up early , 7 AM. I had to move my van because you can only park overnight at that specific spot . I got finished my self care morning routine quickly and drove around exploing . I park my car, get out my kick-scooter  ( not even an electric one lol ) and explore the city a bit .
 
It's 9 AM and I go to a big Carrefur. for like 3-4 hours I do some social freedom exercises . There's mosly older people, 40+ . It's okay, im building state over the next months , thats my mind frame .
 
I do little comments about the products people are looking at. " situational ""openers "" are very effective. Too effective almost . I talk about the heat, the AC, the high prices , recommendations... etc, taking the chance to pause , my speech, do eye contact and smile , all basic skills that transfer over to game . 
A new one I came up with in the moment was speaking out loud to myself, instad of thinking . It unstiffles me a lot if people are around hearing me . Great one . And actually, about 5-6 people that heard me talking to myself commented on the things that I was saying and THEY initiated a conversation with me ! Cool insight . I may have had around 40 interactions in that shoppping mall . between 5 seconds and 3-5 minutes . I see that as a win, contrasted with being lonely, quiet, alone and in my head .
This talking out loud to myself idea was taken from the Freaks of Nature thread where there is a girl that literally doesn't have an internal monologue and the way she reads or thinks is by saying the words out loud. I imagined I have this condition and it INMEDIATELY made it okay and socially acceptable to be speaking gibberish, random thoughs and stuff alike out loud .
Pretty kind people overall and it snowballed my momentum a bit more. I still havent directly approached a girl today and I hope to do so. Aim should be 5 per day and in this city there are no valid excuses pretty much. Perhaps I'd have to lower my ridiculously high semi-virgin bar lol . I absolutely love super asthetic girls but who doesnt . I have unrealistic standards .
 
I'll take a napperoni today as im still sleepy. When I wake up I'll explore some more and if its not unearthly HOT outside I plan to do a liittle solo daygame or at least more social challenges / drills  to keep the ball rolling .

Keep ya updated - Jack ?

That's the trick. It's very hard to put into words. I am developing a course to guide people to it.
What I am talking about is so advanced and profound that I cannot put it into words and it is not enlightenment or centerlessness.
Sorry, I know that's not useful to hear.
You become conscious of God as an Infinite Mind dreaming up reality.
The biggest difference between the consciousness I talk about and Buddhism or enlightenment is that enlightenment is reductionistic. It boils consciousness down to emptiness. Whereas what I am talking about is a top-down, non-reductionistic process of God comprehending itself. When you boil God down to emptiness is as Buddhist methoda do, that's a very different thing and inferior in my book.
I explained this in my video: An Advanced Explanation Of God-Realization where I made a distinction between Buddhism's reductionism vs top-down comprehension. Stop trying to boil consciousness down to some kind of empty substance. That is the wrong direction to go if you want to understand consciousness.
Really, the best way to explain it is: do 300 trips of 5-MeO-DMT and notice that that's not Buddhism. It's a totally different level of consciousness. The things I am pointing to can only be understood with massive psychedelic experience. A Buddhist will never understand it. It cannot be explained to him. And that's where this conversation ends. Words are not up to this task. You must actually do the technique, which is psychedelics. People keep expecting me to explain it to them without them doing the technique.