I will have trip reports on pharmahuasca, mescaline, ketamine, MDMA, toad, and iboga in the future.
I can also report on every 4-ho, 4-aco, 5-meo subtype.

No idea about the enlightenment part tbh but keep in mind Sadhguru comes from a different era and culture than most of us here. Also keep in mind that he doesn't have a partner. If you want to prioritize your union to the world itself than I guess go down that path but if you want a high quality sexual/romantic/intimate relationship with another human partner than I have a hard time seeing how you'd do it without first a lot of experience.
The guy I know with the healthiest and most grounded mindset when it comes with women has a lay count of 500+, not that it's necessary to get that high but it does follow the principle.

Of course it's your job to make them intimate/sexual.
It's not just about "making a move". You must set the entire frame of your interaction with her to be intimate/sexual from the very beginning of meeting her. And then you build on it at every chance you get.
You should be looking at her like you're in love with her. Build a bubble of love between you and her. It's you and her against the world.
Yes, you're failing to lead, which in itself is unattractive in a man.
Don't wait for anything or any indicators.
If a girl shows up to a date with you, she's willing to sleep with you, as long as you lead it properly.
Yes, you need a lot of escalation experience. Force yourself to escalate quickly and stop doubting yourself. You need to get in touch with your desire for her, and then just act on that desire and take her. Stop hesitating. If her ass turns you on, start squeezing it. If you feel like kissing her, kiss her. Etc. Treat her like your doll. And watch her face and reactions as you escalate to see if it is turning her off. If it's not turning her off, keep escalating. If you over-escalate just back off a bit and start escalating again in a few minutes.
A girl is not going to let you escalate like that unless she likes you.
Fundamentally your mistake is that you are not being true to your desire for her. If you were, you would manhandle her appropriately and this in turn would turn her on. She wants you to claim her as your own. But you are too scared because you're still too weak as a man. So you gotta become a stronger man -- which means you act and lead without a bunch of self-doubt. You've become pussified the way you were raised, so you doubt yourself way too much with women.
For you, you should escalate and even risk getting slapped. Get slapped a few times for over-escalating. This will be good for you. It's better to over-escalate than under-escalate on a date. On a date you should be pulling her panties down. See how much you can get away with.
If you are not occasionally over-escalating, you're being too meek.

I have no problem with sticking with one partner. But first you gotta find the right partner.
You are not just gonna sleep with one girl and find your partner.
Enlightenment has nothing to do with who you sleep with.
And learning game is not about getting one girl, it's about becoming a strong and attractive man. This requires experience and practice. If you sleep with 20 girls you will become a stronger man in the process. If you settle down with the first girl you sleep with, you're gonna stay a pussy forever. And eventually she'll leave you anyways.

Don't ask her unless you actually care.
Cut the shit and be genuine about why you are talking to here. Don't invent excuses to talk to a girl, own your desire for her. Become the kind of guy who needs no excuse.
"I just saw you and felt attracted." No other justification necessary.
Work on making your game as genuine as possible.

@Yali Muse is the best if you want something cheap. Used Muse is about $200.
Neurosity Crown is the best if you have more money, but want a neat-looking commercial device.
But If you have money for Crown you can also choose a 2-channel EEG device. It can have more channels, but 2 is all you need.
You don't need medical-grade equipment, something like OpenBCI or Neurobit or Q-wiz will do. Maybe you can find something used in your area on craigslist or Ebay or whatever you use in the US. Remember that for devices other than OpenBCI you often also have to buy the software.
Here's a book about meditation using EEG:
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/35254171-meditation-interventions-to-rewire-the-brain

1) Stop listening to women on this matter. They are not conscious of what makes them attracted nor will they give you accurate guidance on what is required to attract them. It's like you are asking an enemy castle to tell you its weak points.
2) Once they fall for you, women backwards rationalize that you are handsome and hot.

What I said is not polygamy.
As with anything in life, experience is king.
A typical attractive girl will have way more sexual experience than you anyways because sex is so easy for them.
You have no idea what you even want in a girl.
You would be a fool to buy the first house you see. Apply this logic to girls.

What females are attracted do is not arbitrary, they are attracted to specific things.
Beauty is not what females are attracted to. The problem is that you fundamentally misunderstand female attraction and what women need from men.
Also, more practically, the reason girls haven't yet found you attractive yet is because:
1) You haven't talked to enough girls.
2) You are not good at exhibiting masculine energy, strength, and value which girls are looking for.
3) You are waiting for a girl give you strong indicators of interest and lead you into sex, which will almost never happen. You haven't learned how to approach girls and how to lead them into attraction sex. You are the man, it's your job to convince a girl to sleep with you even if she gives you no indicators of interest from the start.
4) Girls may find you attractive but if you don't lead they'll never even tell you.
You need to learn how attraction works and you need to become proactive about attracting women. You don't wait for them to like you. It shouldn't even matter to you if they like you. You approach the ones you like and you do your thing. Some will hook. Most will not. It's like fishing. You don't sit around wondering if a fish likes you. You just cast your bait over and over again until something hooks. And you make the bait as juicy as possible.

@Roy She obviously thought she was secure and "cool" about it, but in the end realized she is not.
Continue doing and watching what you were warching, I guess that's normal and natural, just make sure that she doesn't have a reason to doubt yout love and devotion for her. All she cares about is that you absolutely adore her physically and as a person.
When girls get angry and insecure about their bfs watching porn, most of the time it's because they doubt their love for them. They interpret it like by you watching porn it means that you have lost attraction/love for her so you're doing these kind of things.
We just like to get assured over and over again that we're desired by you.

I said that because usually if we “don’t want to know” something intimate about a partner, it’s because we are afraid of the answer.
It’s pretty much always about safety and / or love. So for whatever reason, she didn’t feel she was getting that.
It might not have been anything you did per say, could be her issues. Or maybe it was what you didn’t do.
This is a good answer as well.

Since he was 26 I think. From what I remember

@Eonwe5
You have to be careful about how you are using your mind here. Notice that a lot of mental activity is going on -- thinking -- and this thinking is putting you into negative states. This is not awakening nor consciousness, this is the ego-mind at work. Your mind is trying to compensate for lack of consciousness and awakening by coming up with philosophical conclusions and stories about reality.
A thought like "I don't exist" is NOT awakening, nor is it high consciousness.
I recommend a few things:
1) Stop thinking about this stuff so much and instead do a meditation practice like mindfulness with labeling so that you bust out of your mental masturbation. You have to learn to step outside your thoughts and observe them. Thinking about thinking is not the same thing as stepping outside of thinking and observing it. Taking your thinking too seriously is the fundamental problem here.
2) Make a rule with yourself that no matter how much you suffer or what you think, you will never physically harm yourself.
3) Make sure you create a fulfilling life for yourself before you go deep into spiritual seeking. Ground your life in normal stuff like career, life purpose, fitness, healthy eating, socialization, sex, relationships, friendships, learning, etc.
4) If you're going into spirituality have a rigorous practice that you do, not just thinking about spirituality. Thinking about spirituality is NOT a spiritual practice.

If you're THAT behind the curve and you suck with women, then I would recommend pick up or some other form of dating material. Just do it responsibly and understand the limitations.
There is no way to get better at dating without actually dating people.
And it helps to learn the basics of how women think and what they are attracted to in a guy, because it's very counter-intuitive at first. If you've never been around women, then you will have a lot of wrong ideas about what they want.
My rant video against pickup was mostly aimed at HARDCORE players and pickup fanatics, not newbies who just want a girlfriend. Like I said in the video, I personally got A LOT out of pickup and I did it fairly responsibly.

Dude, of course people are doing to judge you. She isn't space Jesus.
Girls are commonly insecure about such things.
Really the solution here is read between the lines of her words, quickly realize she's being insecure, and then rather than trying to logically convince her of anything, just give her the security she craves. So you hug her, maker her feel loved, look in her face, kiss her, etc. Be careful trying to win over girls with logic. It usually backfires. You gotta learn to shower them with love instead.
Basically when a girl gets pissy with you, whatever the logic is, just cut through it and realize that what she's really telling you is, "Love me more". It's not really about the porn, it's about how you make her feel. She doesn't really care about your porn, she cares how she feels. So make her feel good and then she will be fine. Rather than trying to explain yourself to her logically, just skip straight to making her feel loved.
Also, take the lead. Lead her into understanding that porn is normal and trivial for guys. Lead her to understanding that porn does not diminish your love for her.

Ahahahahahaha....
If you were clever you could have used this moment to deflect and also entrench your frame with a response like: "I was thinking about your mom." And then move on to another conversation topic. You don't have to engage girls in conversation topics which don't lead anywhere good. If she asks you who you fantasize about when you jerk off, you don't have to tell her. Which is not to say you lie to her. You just say, "Don't fill your mind with such things." and then change topics. Don't let girls lead conversations in lose-lose directions.
You should already know if your girl is too insecure to handle such a conversation.
For example, if my girl asks me to take her to the strip club and I sense that she's not secure enough to handle it, I will say NO. Because nothing good will come from that. A girl only gets to go to a strip club with me if she demonstrates that she can handle it. Many girls can't. Some girls can't even handle going to a nightclub with me. I once took an old ex gf to a Vegas nightclub and she ran out of there after 15 minutes crying. Because she was too insecure to handle the competition. I learned my lesson: I should have known she was too insecure to handle it and just refused to take her. BTW, it was her idea to go to the nightclub. I should have said NO. Because I knew she had insecurity issues.
A Vegas nightclub will make a lot of average girls feel insecure and unworthy.
Your girl is just too entitled and insecure.
You tell her you were jerking off to some pornstar as if you don't even think twice about it.
Your girl just sounds inexperienced with guys. She doesn't understand how guys work. Of course you jerk off to other girls. Of course. You and 4 billion other guys.
If she protests about this, you tell her that you would rather be inside her, but if she's unavailable you are willing to settle for porn. You're doing her a favor here by not bothering her with your horniness. She also needs to understand that you have a high sex drive and you're going to use it, either on her or elsewhere.
But again, this is about proper framing. She should sense from the moment she meets you that you're a sexual tyrannosaur. There should be no doubt in her mind that you have a high sex drive and that you own it and use it. Then it's her job to satisfy you if she wants to keep you. Again, this is not said explicitly, this is sub-communicated by setting the player frame vs the boyfriend frame. Of course you can still be her boyfriend and be committed to her, but she has to know that she is taming a player here, not some dickless chump, and that you are doing her a huge favor by going exclusive with her and that she should respect that rather than getting all spoiled and whiny with you about something as trivial as porn.
Setting frames in critical for your relationships to go well. Your girl must have proper expectations about you. Once these frames are set early on, they are very difficult to reset. So learn to set them correctly right off the bat.

Dude, these guys are the complete package: epic social status, epic wealth, top 1% looks, top 1% charisma.

Haha
Women are not sexually aroused in the same way as guys. They are not aroused by visuals alone. They are attracted to powerful personality and presence and leadership. They are attracted when the guy is good at pumping up her emotional state and making her feel like a girl. Women are emotional creatures. A photo of the biggest dick in the world will not make her excited. You must pump up her emotional state first. The silent James Bond approach will not get you laid. You must be chatty, playful, and extroverted. You need to play with her.
Your looks are a great advantage -- they get your foot in the door -- but getting your foot in the door is NOT closing. Learning to close makes or breaks your whole lay count. If you are good-looking but have no clue how to close, you'll get laid less then ugly guys who know how to close.
Right now it's like you own a Ferrari but have no clue how to drive. The Ferrari is a fast car that will beat a Toyota, but if I know how to drive my Toyota and you have no clue how to drive your Ferrari, I will beat you every time.
If you want to understand what turns on women, go to Walmart and buy a romance novel. Read it. That's is porn for women. Women are turned on mentally, not visually.
Also... attraction is also not seduction. You can get attraction pretty easy but then you must lay on the seduction until she's horny. A women does not get horny instantly like a guy. You need to guide her into it and manage all the logistics so sex can happen. You absolutely cannot count on women to handle the logistics. Learning to handle logistics like a champ is the #1 key to getting laid consistently.
It's the logistics, stupid
All game boils down to two things: playful leading. Everything else is an unpacking of those two things. If you can't be playful and you can't lead, your game sucks, and so your chances of getting laid become extremely low.

Sure, of course feeling unloved is a way deeper issue than sex. And sex alone may not even solve it.
Yes, there are some guys who have been abused by parents or grew up not receiving sufficient love. These guys need a lot of inner work beyond getting laid.
But also, I think most guys just need to learn how to get laid and get a loving girlfriend. This will auto-correct many problems. If problems still remain after that then they can do some deeper inner work on that. But the deeper inner work is not gonna help a guy who hasn't gotten laid in years. There is an order of operations here, and I don't like it when I hear people telling guys who haven't gotten laid in years to "stop thinking about sex and focus on finding love". That's BS. The sex must be handled first. Guys require sex. This is like food. Get yourself fed, then see what problems remain. Sex is the gateway to love in this case. Once you start getting laid you will feel like a brand new man.

Of course normal dating will yield more relationships. But also normal dating is very low volume. You get a date once in a blue moon.
If you want to do normie dating, go ahead. But you will be in such scarcity, so needy, and the quality of girls you get will be meh, and when your girl breaks up with you, you will want to kill yourself because you know you will not get a new one for years.
It also depends on how social you are. If you're highly social without doing pickup, then you will naturally have decent dating opportunities. But most guys are not that social so they are screwed.
You have to decide how much abundance you want in your life. Most guys sleep with less than 10 girls in their entire life and the quality is meh. You also have to decide how high of quality of girl you want. If your standards are very low then you can be much more lazy about this whole thing.
It's also a question of how good do you want to be with girls? How much do you want to grow yourself as a man? Normal dating doesn't really grow you because it's too infrequent and random.
Your neediness for a girl's love will turn off most girls and make them run away from you towards a guy who doesn't give a shit. So even those few girls you manage to date once in a blue moon, they will likely lose attraction for you and break your heart because you're going to be the biggest classic "nice guy".

That's the devil of pickup.
There is a tradeoff between growing with relationships vs growing your game.
If you seriously want to build your game you have to say no to relationships for at least a few years. But then again, if you find an awesome girl, it may be worth it to do a relationship.
I am not telling you what to do. The choice is yours. But the combo of a really well-matched and pretty girl is rare, so don't throw that away when you stumble upon it.

At the highest level of consciousness even reincarnation is imaginary because you are imagining the past and the future.
At the highest level of consciousness death simply never occurs, so reincarnation becomes moot.

I find it of little value reading philosophers original works. Read a summary of their key ideas. Most of their ideas are quite bad and deeply misguided. You could spend a decade or more sifting through that dung pile and not come out of it any more developed than when you started.

If you are starting pickup you will be banging so rarely it's not an issue.
If you get to expert level, then get a vesectomy.