Yali

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  1. What's is the fastest shortcut to not reincarnate as human again?
    What's is the fastest shortcut to not reincarnate as human again?
    An important part of many Theravada teachings that remain today highlight the idea that no longer incarnating at all is superior to heavenly or supremely pleasurable incarnations. Sure, the story goes that these higher incarnations are in ways better than being human, but they all involve suffering to some degree whereas parinibbana is essentially the ceasing of incarnation altogether which leaves no room for pleasure or suffering. To some, this can sound bleak, but I will say that going through cessation shows why many highly developed spiritual people have viewed no further incarnation as better than even the most heavenly and transcendent of incarnations. 
     
    IMO, no one has a clue about what is going to come even in the next instant. The idea that one does know is a tricky illusion. Creating hollow beliefs of what comes after death seems like a waste of time to me. Enjoy this as much as you can. What comes next is a mystery. Hell, even this is infinitely mysterious. 

  2. How do you accept the unfairness of life?
    How do you accept the unfairness of life?
    Well it 'sucks' while you're going through the process, but you kind of just have to accept it and move on and make the most of what you do have. Accept that somehow you ended up on a hard mode. You could think of it as extra fire for the purification process so to speak. 
    "If you have suffered, your life has been forged in fire. If you are still suffering, it is because you do not fully see what the fire has forged, only what it has taken from you." - Teal Swan

  3. 54% of Americans read below a sixth grade level. 21% are functionally illiterate
    54% of Americans read below a sixth grade level. 21% are functionally illiterate
    46% of Americans read above a 6th grade level, and 79% are literate. I think those are great numbers. Compared to where we were just a few decades ago. Perspective is a game changer. 


  4. Unable to Love, but I’d Love to
    Unable to Love, but I’d Love to
    I don't particularly feel a deep love for people. People are pretty huge pains in the ass.
    Some people are people people and others are not.  Your love might be more universal and should be expressed in ways that are not one to one.
    Then again, don't turn this into a crutch. Explore deep intimacy with a few select people and use that to open yourself up to loving people more. Or psychedelics can do that for you.
    Overly flowery love for people is usually paper thin and doesn't hold under survival pressures. As soon as you do the wrong thing those flowery lovey-dovey people get all pissy.

  5. Leo featured in suicide cult article
    Leo featured in suicide cult article
    He was banned years ago.
    He is unsufferabley dense and egotistical.

  6. Building Muscle = Ego?
    Building Muscle = Ego?
    Currently nothing because I have a serious stomach disorder that makes it very painful for me to eat anything. So I conserve calories as much as possible.
    Once that's healed I will be doing jogging, weightlifting, and maybe I'll buy a bike.

  7. Building Muscle = Ego?
    Building Muscle = Ego?
    Dudez, I've done bodybuilding. Don't bullshit me about why you're doing it. I know exactly why you're doing it. It's vanity.
    But if you enjoy it, knock yourselves out.

  8. NN DMT vs 5MeO DMT
    NN DMT vs 5MeO DMT
    God is an Infinite Mind. This Mind imagines reality. There is no distance, boundary, or seperation between God and whatever it imagines.
    God is you imagining a universe.
    You are Infinity. Infinity is dreaming.

  9. Bentinho Massaro & His Shadows - He could be in some serious shit this time.
    Bentinho Massaro & His Shadows - He could be in some serious shit this time.
    Yup. And apparently there’s something like a two year waitlist, so you better start applying now.
    For all the poor peasants who can’t afford that, you can join his “inner circle” platinum group for around 100k a year. Includes I believe a couple vacations and a stay at Tony’s hotel in Fiji.
    For those who think I’m bullshitting:
    https://www.inc.com/magazine/201610/most-confident-man-tony-robbins.html

    So now here’s the relevant question to this thread: Does that mean Tony Robbins is a grifty cult leader?
    I’d say it depends on how we’re going to make the distinction of what a “cult” is or isn’t.
    I mean clearly he’s not running a suicide cult. I went to UPW and I think I could argue it helped me make some changes I wanted to make.
    But then again, there’s clearly an inner circle that pays to be close to the guru. And they all believe pretty much the same things and have a group narrative that keeps them in paradigm lock.
    But then again, all groups have that. And Tony has a tremendous record of apparently being ethical. In his 40+ years of working with thousands of people, only a few allegations have been levied against him, and even those have been largely dismissed. He seems to genuinely love his family and want to do good in the world.
    But then again again, isn’t he just exploiting emotionally vulnerable people who will pay to hear an uplifting message? He says he wants the money to be President, but does he really need a hotel in Fiji to be President?
    I hope anyone reading this is appreciating how difficult these questions are. It’s just not a simple as EVIL CULT LEADER or HEROIC GOOD GUY. Nope. In fact, sometimes they might even be the same person.

  10. Girlfriend is Very Attracted to Rock Star. Concert this Month
    Girlfriend is Very Attracted to Rock Star. Concert this Month
    Just fuck her real good and don't worry about it.
    Focus your mind on that which you can control.
    When you are fucking her, make her say, "My pussy belongs to you. Nobody will ever fuck my pussy like you."
    Pull out of her and don't fuck her until she says it. Then fuck her brains out after she says it.
    Keep doing that. She will fall in love with you real hard.

  11. Should you only approach off of ioi's
    Should you only approach off of ioi's
    I've found with cold approach you have the best success when you approach off an indicator of interest. When girls like you like in a club they will hold eye contact or you will look at eachother look away, then make eye contact again. It's like women signal for you to approach them implicitly. 
    Whereas if you just go up to a random girl who  didn't give you an ioi even after seeing you then it hardly ever works. So should we only approach girls who give an ioi? 
    I went to a club for the first time a few days ago. I just kept staring at every girl and they'd look away except for two , I went up and closed , even got a lay from one later that night. Then I tried approaching one who didn't give me an ioi and got rejected.
     
    p.s
    Leo your getting laid series inspired me to go out for the first time, I was shocked when those girls gave me their numbers and insta. It was my first time in a club and it really opened up my worldview , I still think looks matter, but not to the extent I used to think. I saw guys pulling who if they ever went on a forum would get told "It's over for you, don't even try you're too short or ugly or ethnic"  and there they were making out. So thankyou for that series I think it is really helping out a lot of guys, I was getting cold footed I didn't wanna go out alone but then I remembered you said "just be social" and the night went great. 

  12. Share Your Morning Routine
    Share Your Morning Routine
    @Michael569
    I deviate from this from time to time. But generally speaking this is how it goes:
    First thing I do is meditate for an hour. This ensures that I get my most important habit done first and gets me grounded for the day. Next thing I do is what Tony Robbins calls Priming. It's a rapid succession of deep breathing, practicing gratitude, metta meditation, encantations and goal visualization. All in all, takes about 20 minutes. Fucking amazing, everyone needs to get on that. By this point, even if I felt shitty when I woke up, I'm rocking now. I'll then make a quick all-vegatable breakfast or some green juice while listening to some music or an inspirational YouTube video. Whatever I feel is going to keep that high-vibration mood going. If I have to drive somewhere, I'll throw on Audible while driving. So that's it. Takes almost two hours by the time it's all done. But whenever I start my day this way, the rest usually goes so smoothly it's crazy. That good mood I spent two hours consciously creating in the morning can carry all the way through.

  13. What The Fuck Are Healthy Ways To Have Fun?
    What The Fuck Are Healthy Ways To Have Fun?
    @Mrkvn8
    Wait till you feel on track with your life purpose. Your whole definition of "fun" changes.
    Aside from my work, here is the list of things I find "fun" at this point in my life:
    1) Meditation, i.e doing nothing
    2) Yoga, i.e doing nothing while on a mat
    3) Eating Vegetables, i.e eating what tastes like nothing
    4) Hot Saunas and cold showers
    5) Watching documentaries
    6) Attending self-actualization workshops
    7) Answering people's questions on Leo's forum
    8) Sex
    9) Walking in nature
    10) Swimming / surfing
    11) Making music
     

  14. What's Your Meditation Time Highscore?
    What's Your Meditation Time Highscore?
    I just bumped up my daily practice to 1.5 hours straight, so that's a record. I've been slowly working up to that number though so it's not difficult.
    Also, it's not necessarily about the time. I did 30 minutes outside the other day in the blazing hot Florida sun and was crying on the inside for most of it. That was hell.
     

  15. How To Choose A Girlfriend
    How To Choose A Girlfriend
    Clubs, bars, shopping malls, restaurants, street corners, whatever. It's going to depend on your personality and unique situation.
    For many guys, they want a place where they have some anonymity because they are going to face a lot of rejections. Plus, I don't consider meeting one woman a week at your job "a lot". So clubs and bars are great because you're going to meet a lot of people but none of them are going to remember you unless you make the effort. This is more of the "hardcore" route, which is mostly what I did. Benefits also include massive social experience and having a ton of fun. HIGHLY RECOMMENDED, especially if you're a shy person. Trial by fire.
    However, that may be something you're genuinely not interested in. Don't rationalize not doing it out of fear, but if you HONESTLY feel like your time would be spent better elsewhere, go for it. You don't have to listen to me.
    As far as books, @reez pretty much nailed the classics. You can go MUCH deeper than that though if you wish.

  16. Missed A Day
    Missed A Day
    No. Meditation is a habit that you'll probably be doing for years. One day won't matter much in the gram scheme.
    That being said, there's something to be said for momentum. I've found that if I rationalize not meditating one day, you'll tend to miss more. And then the next thing you know, it's been weeks or even months and you haven't done any meditation. So just keep that in mind.
     

  17. Shouldn’t Blue meditation move you up SP?
    Shouldn’t Blue meditation move you up SP?
    I don't know anything about the monks from Mount Hiei.
    But Blue stage has glimpses of infinity and turns it into dogma.
    So it's not that they don't have glimpses. It's how they "react" to the glimpses.

  18. Shouldn’t Blue meditation move you up SP?
    Shouldn’t Blue meditation move you up SP?
    When done in a rigid Blue ecosystem like a monastery, mediation can keep you Blue.
    In practice Zen monks evolve to Turquoise on the spiritual/metaphysical line but remain underdeveloped on the other lines because meditation alone will not develop all lines.

  19. Zen Monks -- Stage Blue???
    Zen Monks -- Stage Blue???
    then why are many Zen monks at Stage Blue? @Leo Gura

  20. Bentinho Massaro & His Shadows - He could be in some serious shit this time.
    Bentinho Massaro & His Shadows - He could be in some serious shit this time.
    What’s the point if it doesn’t stabilise into some kind of a (permanent - not literally, you know what I mean) shift in consciousness.
    You can’t keep tripping on 5-Meo forever

  21. Bentinho Massaro & His Shadows - He could be in some serious shit this time.
    Bentinho Massaro & His Shadows - He could be in some serious shit this time.
    Being like Tony Robbins is not a good thing. The dude is obsessively Orange. Like a carton caricature of Orange.

  22. Socially awkward guys
    Socially awkward guys
    Of course guys with autism/Aspergers tend to struggle especially much in this area, however, today there are so many guys who are not autistic who are socially awkward simply due to lack of experience -- because they spend so much time online or playing video games. I used to be very socially awkward, but not because I was autistic, simply because I lacked experience.
    The solution is to go gain massive experience in this area.
    Owen from RSD is autistic. He is an example of how a struggling abused autistic kid can turn his life around. His videos show you the effort and principles it takes to do that.

  23. Why I want to awaken
    Why I want to awaken
    No, it doesn't.
    You cannot maintain life at the highest levels. Which is why your baseline state is so much lower than the peaks that are possible. It's like living on top of Mt Everest, you can only do it for a short amount of time.

  24. If other people are you…
    If other people are you…
    @AMTO You can use thought to change your life. But thought is very limited. You can't use it to change the speed of light.
    Changing how you think about yourself will slowly change how people think about you. But indirectly.
    For example, if you think you're not attractive, others will think the same. If you change that to feel you are very attractive, others will start to get attracted to you. This is inner game 101, and it works.

  25. Suicidal. I had an idea
    Suicidal. I had an idea
    If you feel suicidal please get some help as the others have suggested. I actually did have a suicide attempt 13 years ago. Put myself into a coma for 5 days on life support. There were complications and I messed myself up a bit. I had pneumonia from fluid draining into my lungs while being vented, then they couldn't get me off the oxygen for 2 1/2 weeks. I'm lucky I didn't get brain damage. 
    My point is things go wrong during suicide attempts and you can mess yourself up. Like jumping off a bridge and becoming a quadriplegic, instead of dying.
    Here I am 13 yrs later and everything is fine. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. 
    Don't do it.