Yali

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  1. Women laughing at me
    Women laughing at me
    @Raine As a man you just gotta grow a thick skin and don't get wrapped up around the axle about stuff like this.
    Some girls laugh at you? Who gives a flying fuck? You should laugh at them and laugh at yourself too.
    It sounds like you are being too serious. Whatever insecurities you have, you must own them and learn to laugh at them, even using them as the butt of jokes. Make jokes about yourself being bald. "I'm too cool for hair. Hair is for losers.", etc. Learn to embrace your weaknesses and make light of them. Self-deprecating humor is very powerful not just for attracting girls but for making yourself feel good.
    Honestly, I doubt those girls were even laughing AT you. Your mind is likely just interpreting situations that way because you are fundamentally insecure. It is not normal for girls to just laugh at an ugly guy. That like never happens. People don't laugh at ugly people, they laugh perhaps at some lame way that you're acting. Maybe you are overcompensating and they laugh at that.
    No one has ever laughed at me for being bald. Never. And I've talked to like 5000+ girls. Sometimes girls will walk up to me and ask to rub my head for good luck. And I laugh. I don't take it personally.
    You need to develop a sense of humor about yourself and about life. It sounds trivial but I'm telling you this is a huge part of not only getting good with girls but just overall personal happiness. Happy people laugh at themselves. Miserable people cannot laugh at themselves.
    You want to develop a delusional level of self-confidence such that when people interact with you they walk away thinking: "Damn, that guy is so charming, carefree, humorous, and cool that maybe I should go bald like him. Maybe being bald just makes you cooler?"
    Stop trying to hide your insecurities and weaknesses. Wear them on your sleeve. Talk about them. Laugh about them. Makes joke about them. Eventually you will stop worrying about it.

  2. Long-term Meditation is Crap: Why would anyone want to stop thinking?
    Long-term Meditation is Crap: Why would anyone want to stop thinking?
    Really good

  3. Why do I have such a low level cap irl?
    Why do I have such a low level cap irl?
    1) You have to understand that we're not all built the same. Some people just aren't built for climbing the corporate ladder or for university. This is okay. You just gotta look for other niches in life where you will fit more naturally.
    2) You have to understand that we don't all have the same energy levels or physical or mental capacities. Some people are just more energetic or more robust or even healthier than others. Again, you must find a place for yourself in life which honors your energy level and physical and mental health. You just may not be able to work as hard as someone else. But this doesn't mean you can't find a good niche and be well-off. You have to find the right position for you and work smarter not harder.
    3) There is enormous opportunity in the world every year. But it takes passion to seek them out and capitalize on them. I think your biggest problem is lack of clarity about your passions. You say you're not interested in any other subjects. This is a problem. You need to connect more with your passion and curiosity for life. There are so many cool aspects of reality to study, explore, build, etc. You gotta what those are for you. To do well in a job you gotta be passionate about it and it has to suit your energy level, personality type, and health. Try to find something cool to pour your life into.

  4. Long-term Meditation is Crap: Why would anyone want to stop thinking?
    Long-term Meditation is Crap: Why would anyone want to stop thinking?
    1) Yes, there is def a trade-off between no-mind and using the intellect for creative work. For the mind to do creative work it needs to light up and make connections.
    2) But meditation is not necessarily supposed to nuke your whole mind forever. Ideally it trains you to turn your mind on and off based on what the situation calls for. The problem for most mentally creative people is they cannot shut it off and it causes lots of suffering at some point.
    3) Paradoxically meditation can make you more creative. Some of my greatest burst of creativity comes a few days into a meditation retreat. My mind floods with creative ideas. Of course to make use of this creativity requires that I stop meditating because it does interfere with proper meditation.
    4) Consider the possibility that creative intellectual work might itself be a sort of attachment that needs to be transcended at some point to reach the most advanced stages of spirituality. Of course this is not for most people. Maybe this is not for you. But it could be for very serious people.
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    The bottom line is that you have to decide what you want out of life and even out of spiritual work. Do you want to be more creative? More productive? More happy? Better at relationships? Deeper connection to God? Ultimate understanding? Freedom from all suffering?
    These can be very different goals requiring different methods. And no one can tell you what you should want. That's up to you. Nowhere is it written that you must aim for the highest spiritual stage. In fact, maybe the highest spiritual stage is not appropriate for you because you want something else out of life. Get really fucking clear what you want and then work toward that.

  5. You need to meditate HOURS back to back continuously!
    You need to meditate HOURS back to back continuously!
    That's the kind of stuff we need.
    An EEG machine basically does that. But still, meditating with an EEG involves plenty of work.
    The thing is, when you're meditating rigorously it's exhausting work. It's not fun and relaxing. At least not until you get really good at it, then it can become effortless. But it doesn't start out effortless.
    In the future we'll probably have some kind of brain surgery that just makes you great at effortless meditation without any practice. Until such time, teaching kids while they are young is probably the best way.

  6. How to hold frame?
    How to hold frame?
    Rarely a girl will just be sexually explicit and blunt with you.
    For example, you might be talking to a girl and then she just says something out of the blue like: "So are you gonna fuck me real good?" or "I'm horny" or "I'm wet" or "I want to fuck". This is very rare, but it does happen and you should be ready to capitalize on that without flinching. I've lost a few girls in the past by flinching because it just takes you so by surprise because it's a rare thing for a girl to say. You have to not flinch and just play it cool. Don't get too eager but also lead directly for the close.
    You can also adopt the girl frame by saying a line like: "Easy there... I'm not just a peace of meat. I need to romanced first. You have to promise to buy me chocolates ".
    The "promise to buy me chocolates" line is a stroke of pickup genius! It's such a powerful frame control . If a girl is coming on to you, make her promise to buy you chocolates

  7. You need to meditate HOURS back to back continuously!
    You need to meditate HOURS back to back continuously!
    That is precisely what makes meditation so inaccessible.
    99.9999% of people will not / cannot do that.
    Yet people are sold the fantasy that meditating for 30 mins a day will get them somewhere deep.
    If you are willing and able to meditate rigorously for 4-8 hrs per day, congrats, you are in the top 0.0001% and you will probably have huge gains. But also, how can you expect most humans to do this? There has to be some better way otherwise mankind will remain asleep forever.

  8. How To Find Wingmen
    How To Find Wingmen
    Every city I've gamed in I had found amazing wings.
    Dallas, Austin, Vegas
    It's worth looking for good guys.
    I learned so much from good wings. I basically couldn't have started without them.
    Some cities will be a lot better than others. If your city sucks, seriously consider moving.
    For international cities, yeah, this resource may not be as good because it's on an English website. You might have to find more local resources in your language.
    But also don't discounter foreigners. You can meet some awesome wings who are traveling around the world and dropping by your city for a week or a month. Still worth learning from them. Some of them could be really good.

  9. How To Find Wingmen
    How To Find Wingmen
    Second he Game Global recommendation, I'm in a lot of these groups as well. Ice(the guy that runs it) is pretty well connected in the game community and he is a pretty cool dude. He took over the mantle from the RSD Inner Circles when they shut those downs to get away from their game connotations.
    Leo is 100% right, if you're a shy/introverted/socially inexperienced dude, you HAVE to learn from men more experienced than you. That is a ritual going back to tribal times that we've lost in modern society for some reason. 
     

     
    This is from my first Inner Circle meeting many moons ago. Shot the shit with the boys at a restaurant and they took me out to a club for the first time. I think I went clubbing 50+ times before being somewhat comfortable inside of one, good times. For the ones saying clubbing is not their scene; I'm an INTP that was addicted to playing League of Legends 12 hours a day in those days. Clubs are my natural enemy and I still went 2-3 times a week.
     I wouldn't be the person I am today if I hadn't been to that meeting, really thankful to those guys. I still talk to some of them to this day and this was maybe 2014? 

  10. She rejected to have sex after looking at my picture
    She rejected to have sex after looking at my picture
    Have you put effort into your looks? Think of them as a skill(of course there's a limit that each person has and some can achieve more than others but that's like any skill) rather than something you're born with. 
    Are you working out? Have you researched and actively worked on your fashion? Have you researched guys that look like you that are more attractive and broken down how they look different? Is your hairstyle/facial hair trendy?
    You know how they say makeup drastically changes women and can bring them up a few points, the exact same thing(if not more) can be done for a man but it perhaps takes more effort. 
    I used to have girls say eww in reference to me and after a few years of working on it, when I dress well at the club I get asked if I'm a model all the time.b
    Don't get offended, get to work. You will get laid off of looks alone if you put effort into it, it's a part of game for a reason. Just don't get obsessed with it, that's a sad rabbit hole to fall down. 

  11. Is going for bathroom lays at the club a viable strategy?
    Is going for bathroom lays at the club a viable strategy?
    You'd have to use the break to stop it. And check that it doesn't have security cameras. This would require a low traffic elevator.
    Well, horny mode is mostly good enough. But there are degrees to it. You gotta pump up her state so she's feeling adventurous, slutty, and looking for fun.
    You learn it through lots of experience pulling. Keep leading and pulling. You'll get lots of failure and each one will teach you valuable lessons so your future pulls go smoothly. Pulling is an art you can only learn through massive practice. You should have tried to pull that girl to the bathroom just to learn a lesson from its failure. Stop thinking of this in terms of sex and start thinking of it in terms of lessons in pulling. Practice pulling girls even if you think it will fail. It's better to pull and fail than to just wave her goodbye and never see her again.
    Do 50 failed pulls and you will learn how to pull.

  12. Is going for bathroom lays at the club a viable strategy?
    Is going for bathroom lays at the club a viable strategy?
    I went out tonight and meet this girl that I actually liked. I really wanted to fuck her but the problem was that she couldn't come with me becuase she had work in the morning and needed to sleep at her friend's place. I'm sure I could have gotten her home otherwise.  We made out and she was into me and I also made raport.
    Should I have tried fucking her in the bathroom at the bar/club? Is that a viable strategy or is it too risky? How do I suggest that if that's the case? 
    Do I just say like " hey, wanna do it (; "
    Would love to hear some inspiration of what's possible.
    @Leo Gura
     

  13. Losing interest in intellectual pursuits/matters
    Losing interest in intellectual pursuits/matters
    Well, it will depend on how deep your awakening and spiritual work goes. If it goes deep enough you will probably transcend and outgrow everything in normal human life. However I have not reached that point. I am still motivated by many aspects of life, including sex, intimate relationships, some forms of business, creative and artistic pursuits, and I still have intellectual pursuits although they are more grounded in my own personal contemplations rather than listening to humans. I still have a lot of spiritual work to do. I haven't gone full monk mode.

  14. How important are looks to women?
    How important are looks to women?
    Girls rarely get attracted in the first second, they get attracted more slowly as they sense the guy's vibe and energy.
    But of course not all girls will be attracted to what you got to offer. In such cases no amount of confidence will help you. But she's also not rejecting you purely based off looks. Girls give guys much more leeway in terms of looks. It's not 100% leeway but much more leeway than a guy gives a girl.
    A lot of times the girl rejects you simply because she's not in the right mood. It's not even about you in most cases but about the bullshit going on in her own life which is distracting her from being fully open to dating. Most of the time she's not even thinking of dating or sex.

  15. What is the safest E-juice for vaping NN-DMT?
    What is the safest E-juice for vaping NN-DMT?
    You can vape DMT without any juice at all. You just need the proper rig.
    That is the safest. Otherwise use organic terpenes.

  16. Problems with pick up
    Problems with pick up
    Took me ~450.
    Learning pickup is a lot harder than it sounds/looks.
    If you want to be successful in life stop looking at the odds and stop quitting. If you want to get good with girls you shouldn't mind doing 1000 approaches and still not getting laid.

  17. Optimal Frequency for Mushrooms
    Optimal Frequency for Mushrooms
    No
    I still plan to do some solo retreats.
    Yes, and so I view it as one tool in my toolbox.
    There is value to retreats and I recommend you guys do more of them. They are just not a replacement for psychedelics.

  18. Problems with pick up
    Problems with pick up
    You must prioritize.
    I have no idea what your priorities are. Sit down and figure it out.
    If you are going to be a cold approach machine on a school campus word will definitely get around.
    You have to be more careful and calibrated about how you approach on a campus.
    But a campus offers a lot of socialization events and activities, so your game can be more indirect social-circle than direct cold approach. Sign up to social events and chat up girls.
    Frat parties is where it's at.

  19. Optimal Frequency for Mushrooms
    Optimal Frequency for Mushrooms
    I wouldn't do it more than once per week.
    If you want daily tripping you need 5-MeO substances or DMT. 4-AcOs and 4-HOs should be done no more than weekly. 5-MeO / DMT you can blast all day long. But be careful what you wish for.
    Too much tripping will destabilize your mind and life.

  20. Optimal Frequency for Mushrooms
    Optimal Frequency for Mushrooms
    It's not purity. 5-MeO molecules simply work differently in the brain than 4-HO and 4-AcO molecules.
    Actually the novelty wearing off has never been an issue for me. I did 28 days straight of 5-MeO-DMT and the novelty only increased each day. It didn't wear off at all.
    If I was hooked up to a 24/7 IV drip of 5-MeO, I don't think I would ever get bored of it. I'm hoping in the future someone will invent a device that can be implanted in the body like a pacemaker which will just manufacture chronic mild doses of 5-MeO and drip it into the bloodstream. This would solve all of mankind's problems with spiritual practice and the majority of the population would awaken.

  21. What do you do for a living?
    What do you do for a living?
    @Vision Sorry i misunderstood what you where asking, i thought you where asking about cloud services as a business model. I know a few guys who slowly built up there own over time, for every new client they would add a service to there infustructure and in a few years they had a entire package of cloud services to quickly build any app and keep there customers tied financially to them lol. But the services are no different from using google or amazon cloud services, so they basically remade what has already been done a million times, but now they own it and can charge for it. 
    Excellent.
    Yes but are they profitable? There are so many alternatives/competition. Most of the work people do goes to open source or ends up freely accessible to people. 
    Im constantly learning new technologies for different jobs, so ive done a few things like, Full stack web development, Smart Contracts, Game development, IOT and Hardware modeling/programming, Mobile apps, Chrome extensions, Trading bots... ++
    I worked in a company for a few years 9-5, its definitely less enjoyable then working with startups, but the pay is good + benefits. Working with other people is a pain and a distraction, its takes a lot of effort coordinating, tracking tasks, meetings, bug management...
    I work for people and have side projects. Ideally i would of done things differently and started a company or various services but life doesn't always give you the opportunities.
    22, i would of started sooner if i new coding existed, i had no idea what it was. But before any of that i was addicted to problem solving and games like chess, so programming was a immediate addiction that suited me. 

  22. What do you do for a living?
    What do you do for a living?
    Software Developer

  23. The 5-MeO-DMT Mega-Thread
    The 5-MeO-DMT Mega-Thread
    Got my hands on a bag of 5MEO-DMT HCl for the first time. (Only managed to source freebase before.)
    I have had a few experiences smoking it and breaking through. 30mg was the sweet-spot when smoking it.

    Now with the HCl (plugging), I wonder how much I should use to get on the same wavelength as a 30mg smoked dose?
    As plugging makes psychedelics much more intense for me. 2CB can for example get very intense (In a good way) when plugging.
     
    Any tips? @Leo Gura

  24. 5-MeO-DMT Fumarate Dosing and Trip Report
    5-MeO-DMT Fumarate Dosing and Trip Report
    Good work. Especially that last trip.
    For me 20mg would be a breakthrough dose. 30mg would be intense enough to be physically harmful. 25mg is my sweet spot.

  25. Starting my Nofap & Attraction journey
    Starting my Nofap & Attraction journey
    I’m going to start Nofap from now on, no PMO for 90 days at least.
    And im going to start talking to girls while out, Im going for 500 approaches this year at least.
    what are some high quality/high consciousness dating gurus online? I really like Owen Cook aka rsdtyler, maybe you guys have more suggestions like him.
    Gonna start a journal as well soon.