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White Privilege
White PrivilegeBeing white will grant you privileges in any society.
I've spent years and years living outside of my home (majority white) country, and this is extremely apparent. In east Asia, south Asia, South America, Central America, North America, Europe, from the poorest ghettos in Brazil to the poshest clubs in London, to airport security, to emergency room admissions it has never been to my disadvantage to be white. It would definitely be a different story if I was black, latino, asian, south asian.. the world has a very long way to go before it's an even playing field.
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White Privilege
White PrivilegeYes. The non-white communities in America and elsewhere are still feeling the effects of Colonialism.
The black community deals with generational poverty that's a hold-over of not being able to accrue wealth like white people, due to a ripple effect stemming from Colonialism and slavery, to segregation, to redlining, gentrification, institutionalized racist policies and unconscious biases that proliferate through society. It has also been studied that, when there's a job application that has a black-sounding name it's less likely to get a call-back then a job application that has a white-sounding name... even if it's the same exact application.
Also, schools in America are funded by property taxes. So, the poorest schools with the fewest resources are located in minority communities. And the wealthiest schools with the most resources are located in upper class mostly-white neighborhoods.
The Latino community is also hit from many of these same racist forces. Native Americans are barely around anymore because of the stealing of their land and mass genocide of their people. Native Americans are actually a really small group... despite the fact that they are Native to America. And they're still living on reservations... of which many are poor ghettos.
And the infant mortality rate for people of color is higher than for white people.
For White people, we get to walk around mostly not thinking about race. Situations that pertain to our race rarely even come up to the point where it feels really awkward to us if it does. We are thought of as "race neutral"... which is the biggest privilege of all. It means that we'll have representation in the media and the actions of one white person won't be used to define the whole group. We are also less likely to be poor per capita compared to those in marginalized communities.
And we are unlikely to be profiled based upon race, even if we're just as likely to commit the same crimes... like smoking marijuana.
But White defaultism is the biggest White Privilege.
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Leo's video on how to love does not correlate well with getting girls
Leo's video on how to love does not correlate well with getting girlsI literally gave you a book to get if you want to know the Secret to Understanding Women. Instead of asking for said book....you are still on here complaining. If you think guys who do pick up all day and are toxic and getting laid are actually happy. Then you have no clue. They are actually miserable and want something deep.
Here is what you don't understand. The Nice Guy (The true one not the fake one most people are) is able to connect with a woman on a deep emotional level. He can hold long conversations and is able to make her feel secure and safe.
The Player brings excitement to a woman. She feels girly around him, is turned on sexually, and feels the urge to play and be freaky. His confidence is so strong and his refusal to be tied down to anything brings out feelings of insecurity and that makes her want to try harder.
The Player is the attraction. He is the chase. The Woman has to work to get him, because if it was too easy she would be bored. The insecurity is exciting because she is not sure she can get him to commit long term. THIS IS WHY IT WORKS.
But all that is...is attraction. Most players SUCK at relationships long term. Because relationships is where the NICE GUY excels (if he is a REAL NICE GUY) because he is all about connecting, deep emotional connection.
The book I recommended to you teaches you what both types of guys go through and how to incorporate aspects of both. If you incorporate aspects of BOTH you become Mr. RIGHT.
Mr. Right is fun, playful, dominant, confident, but can also be deeply sensitive and endearing to a woman. So we as men need to incorporate aspects of both!!!
The Nice Guy....is more feminine, and that is why they are able to connect deeply on an emotional level. The Player is Masculine, and that is why they are able to arouse attraction. When a man can embody both.....he will never have trouble getting women EVER.
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Leo's video on how to love does not correlate well with getting girls
Leo's video on how to love does not correlate well with getting girlsThe reason you're not getting laid is that you're not leading. Leading is critical for the end-result.
If you want serious results with women you have to learn to lead like a fucking boss.
Learning to lead and handle logistics is one of the hardest parts of game to learn. It requires so much failure and practice. It cannot be learned as theory. It's pure practice.
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True causes of evil- My opinion
True causes of evil- My opinionI wrote this small essay after some conteplation. The nature of evil always fascinated me and after going through Leo's work and a few other teachers and my own contemplation on the matter this is what i came up with. Would like to hear your guys opinions and thoughts.
Limited identity- The true cause of evil.
Identity is what we associate ourselves with at a deep almost existential level. It is what we have concern for and what we care about. Our sense of morality, of what is right and wrong is directly associated with what we identify with. Whenever something that is harmed within our sense of identity, we consider it immoral. Whenever something that is harmed outside of our sense of identity in service to something we consider as part of identity we do not consider it immoral. There are different degrees of identity which are expansive. Here are they listed from least to most inclusive. Note, that this should be taken with a grain of salt.
1. Identifying with a specific part of yourself, not your whole
2. Identifying with yourself as a whole.
3. Identifying with your close family.
4. Identifying with your large family.
5. Identifying with your city.
6. Identifying with your country.
7. Identifying with your region
8. Identifying with your ethnicity.
9. Identifying with your continent.
10. Identifying with your race and religion.
11. Identifying with your species.
12. Identifying with all living things in your planet.
13. Identifying with all living things throughout the universe.
14. Identifying with creation itself, in all shapes forms and sizes.
Now, as you might see humanity in the 21set century has done quite some progress in expanding its sense of identification. However, much work needs to be done. Why does this identification stuff matter you might ask? For a very simple reason. Everything that we define as “evil” is an act made out of love within a specific identification level in expense to something else outside this identification level. I will now dissect this into simpler and easier to understand language. Let us take the example of a person in Germany. This person identified himself with a specific race, called the Aryan race. In his mind, the Aryan race was the primary thing that he cared about and what mattered the most was the best for this race. Then you have another group called Jews. This person did not identify himself with Jews and therefore in a twisted, deluded version of love tried to exterminate this group because he thought their eradication would benefit the Aryan race. This act of love based on limited identity is considered as one of the worst tragedies that has ever happened in human history, and the person in hand is considered one of the evilest persons in history. Everything he did was out of love however. Interesting, isn’t it? Let us give some more simple examples to clarify it even further. The atomic bombings of Japan- An act of love made to save American lives on expense of another country’s lives. The crusades- An act of love made to help a religion on expense of another religion. The great purge- An act of love made to solidify and maintain person power in expense of other people. As we can see, every tragedy that has happened in history was nothing more than a twisted, limited, self- biased version of love based on limited identity. If we want to eradicate what we consider as “evil”, our only solution is to expand people’s identity. I have friends who are against the European Union idea and when I ask them why, their response is simple. “I do not want to pay for other country’s issues”. Fair enough, well what about your city paying for another city’s issues on the same country? “That is the same country, that is different”. Well, this is also the same continent, why complain about this? “Continent and country are different”. This circular logical, without a clear explanation is nothing more than limited identity not being able to be properly articulated. If we use the “they are different” logic to justify a limited identity, as in the above example then we would shrink to the point where we only care about ourselves. I mean we are different from our family members, why care about them? See, how idiotic this logic is. Just because something is different does not mean you should not care about it and not identify yourself with it. We are all different parts of creation in the end.
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Text game
Text gameWell, it does feel like you're trying a bit to hard to game her.
The paradox of game is that your game has to feel non-gamey. Girls are very sensitive to fake, gamey tactics. So you should work on trying to be more natural and normal rather than so edgy and clever. Too much cleverness gets you in trouble.
Think about it this way: Would a high value guy like Brad Pitt be investing a bunch of energy trying to game a girl with a barrage of really clever lines? No.
If you're going to tease a girl or say something edgy, make it rare. Like a bit of spice added to a dish. The problem here is that you opened well but then kept pushing the teasing and edgy stuff too far to the point where it makes you just seem like a weirdo.
In general, complimenting really hot girls on their physical appearance is a very bad idea because it makes you like very other desperate horny guy. With a girl like that you need to treat her very normally, like a normal human, and try to find things about her to compliment which are not her physical appearance. This will make you stand out.
Your opener was great because it was unique and different. She responded well. At that point you should have moved into building some genuine human connection rather than trying to pummel her with clever gamey lines. Great game is all about exquisite balance. Don't give two compliments when one already did the trick. Don't use two openers when your first one worked. Don't try to build more attraction when she's already attracted. And try to be genuine. She's not going to sleep with you unless you develop rapport with her and come off as a normal human.
Things that make for bad game:
Being weird & socially uncalibrated Being creepy Being desperate/needy Being angry/upset Being gamey Being try-hard Being supplicating Bragging Over-compensating Being fake Being mean/cruel Being sexual/vulgar Complimenting hot girls on their hotness
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Is it really possible to be successful in nightgame alone?
Is it really possible to be successful in nightgame alone?Yeah it can be challenging.
That was one of the nice things about RSD. They provided a container where you could meet guys who were into this and who weren’t at least total sociopaths.
Game Global exists like OP said. Michael Sartain also has his Men of Action network, but you have to be in his program. And I bet you can still find people on Seddit and other forums.
Also, consider expanding your definition of a wing. A wing doesn’t technically have to know anything about pickup, although it can be nice when they do. They could just be dudes who like to go out and party.
In fact in some ways, regular dudes who like to party or who have status are going to be way better wings than puas. Puas are often pretty socially awkward.
So just meet guys who are social and get laid a lot. Maybe at your gym, maybe at work, maybe at school, maybe doing a hobby, wherever. If you make friends with them they can help you a lot. Cold approach guys as much as women.
The only downside with regular party dudes is they tend to eschew cold approach. They usually have a good social circle and get laid from that. So they may not be interested in doing approaches. So you may be on your own, depending on the guy.
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The best pick-up techniques
The best pick-up techniquesThe verbal content of your opener is basically irrelevant.
I've opened with "I have the most amazing sperm."
I've opened with "Hey ladies, what's your opinion on glory holes? Pro or con?"
I've opened with "I'm looking for a wife."
I've opened with "Hi, I'm Sprinkles. Who are you?"
I've opened with "I love you."
I've opened with "I hate you."
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The best pick-up techniques
The best pick-up techniquesBut, I wouldn't do that many approaches without having a system. '
Go buy a PUA course, then do that many approaches. Otherwise, you'll be a deer in headlights.
If you have a career, than buy PlayingWithFire or John Anthony Occams Razor. Even Bradicus.
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Interview with a guy that spent $8000 on PUA coaching & still got 0 results
Interview with a guy that spent $8000 on PUA coaching & still got 0 resultsThat's his problem right there. Pickup has a steep learning curve. Took me 440 approaches to get my first result. But I didn't pay no $8000 for it.
If you are a hard case newbie with serious social anxiety issues and deep introversion, you'll need more than 300 approaches to start to see results. But the good news is, your results grow at an exponential rate. The first year is the hardest and driest.
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Am I alone? Enlightenment experience led to Solipsism, and it made me Depressed
Am I alone? Enlightenment experience led to Solipsism, and it made me Depressed@Betterself Yes, you are alone. As God.
Nonduality means there cannot be any "other" who is not you. The deepest levels of nonduality can make you start to feel lonely, as you realize that you created this entire dream all by yourself and the illusion of "otherness" gets shattered. It can feel very solipsistic, but also, as the mind adjusts to your new understanding, the loneliness should dissipate.
I do not exist. You created this forum to entertain yourself. And here you are reading all these posts that you yourself wrote to yourself. Seeking advice from "others" who are really just yourself.
Try to see the beauty of that.
Aloneness and connection are ONE. You can look at it like the glass is half empty, or the glass is half full. By being everyone, you are infinitely connected to everyone.
You still haven't surrendered fully to nonduality. Yes, it's very radical and scary to surrender fully to it. The truth is radical beyond words. Your fear of being totally alone is precisely what you must explore and ultimately surrender. The ego-mind hates it of course and will be resistant, trying to anchor itself into something, anything to avoid Absolute Nothingness and Total ONENESS.
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Leo's video on how to love does not correlate well with getting girls
Leo's video on how to love does not correlate well with getting girlsThere is a silver lining. What you lose in quantity and raw material hotness you can make up many fold in depth of connection.
You are going from shallow as an oil spill to deep as a well.
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Leo's video on how to love does not correlate well with getting girls
Leo's video on how to love does not correlate well with getting girlsOh, pussy will activate for a man who is truly spiritual. Trust me
But you must still learn to be a MAN. Spirituality is not a shortcut around that. The core fundamentals of game are still operative. You can use spirituality to ground yourself deeply in an authenic masculinity.
But you still have to leave your basement and talk to girls to get girls. There is no shortcut for that. If you are too scared to approach a hot girl and look her square in the eyes then what does your spirituality really mean?
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Girl ghosted after videocalling > triggering insecurity
Girl ghosted after videocalling > triggering insecurityWell, in this case obviously focus on the other girl who slept with you.
How many girls must sleep with you before you feel secure?
It's a holistic equation that factors in everything.
Just reaching hook point. Enough that she would be willing to sleep with you if things moved forward smoothly. Attraction usually happens within 5 mins. The rest is just follow-thru.
Less than 20% of girls will get attracted to you. Don't make it personal. You are attracted to less than 20% of girls so its only fair.
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Leo's video on how to love does not correlate well with getting girls
Leo's video on how to love does not correlate well with getting girlsIf you knew how much sex I sacrificed you would cry.
I didn't say no pussy. I said less.
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How much time talking to a girl in club before asking if she has a boyfriend?
How much time talking to a girl in club before asking if she has a boyfriend?Your sexual subcommunication should be so strong that she tells you about her BF within a few seconds or minutes herself.
If girls are not telling you about their BF until much later that tells you that your intent is too weak and needs work. Sexual eye contact is key. Work on that.
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Is Mathematics Invented or Discovered?
Is Mathematics Invented or Discovered?Invented. I don't even see how this is difficult.
You don't see number under a rock. You impose abstractions on top of a rock.
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How to deal with rejection because of Looks?
How to deal with rejection because of Looks?Haha! That won't work! If that worked, that's what I would tell you to do.
What you misunderstand is that women aren't attracted by looks, they are attracted by a strong masculine persona, which you cannot fake through any external material modifications.
See, you are trying to trick women into being attracted to the weak guy that you are, and you think that will work. And what I'm telling you is that won't work, and you should attract them legitimately by actually turning yourself into a strong masculine persona.
But you want to cheat women. You think it will work. Well, good luck.
It doesn't matter how good you look, if your game sucks, you will not get good women.
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Dear Leo, please make a blog post on Don Beck’s recent passing
Dear Leo, please make a blog post on Don Beck’s recent passingNot sure what to say about it. I have mixed feeling about him because of his support for Trump, denouncement of Ken Wilber, and trademark striking my Turquoise video.
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"Talk with everybody" nightgame
"Talk with everybody" nightgameYeah, that's a big struggle for us introverts. Extroverts have a much easier time just talking random bullshit.
Here are a few tips:
Talk about yourself. Talk about your ideas and feelings. Ask less questions, make more statements. Tell little stories from your life. Talk about topical stuff from the news. Read a bit of news before you go out. Or pop-culture news. Make up some assumptions about them like, "You look like you're from California". It doesn't have to make any sense or be accurate. Make observational comments: "Your dress reminds me of Pocahontas."
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Do guys hate it when you play with your clit?
Do guys hate it when you play with your clit?I've come close.
How it happens is you fuck and she cums.
Build up the emotional connection between you two as you're fucking, and talk dirty to her to get her really turned on. Crank up the dominance and intimacy.
If that fails, finger her.
Plenty of girls are sexually repressed, so that might be an obstacle. But that's her issue, not the guy's.
Some girls cum very easily, others take more time.
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Slave morality?
Slave morality?You will get far more value from talking to girls at the club than you will reading Nietzsche.
At least when you go to the club you are not mentally masturbating.
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Do guys hate it when you play with your clit?
Do guys hate it when you play with your clit?Cause you've never properly fucked a girl.
Ha. I feel sad for you. You have never been properly fucked.
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You have to keep in mind that most people really suck at sex.
I've made girls cum vaginally without even touching them. Multiple orgasms. Minute long orgasms. Squirting orgasms. Etc.
Tiny or large makes no difference. Stop making up bullshit excuses. Instead, learn to create amazing sex. Great sex doesn't just happen. You must CREATE IT. I got videos on that
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Radical implications of oneness
Radical implications of onenessOf course he's maximizing love in his twisted way.
Devil = God
You guys keep forgetting that final twist.
If you do not understand that Devil = God, you are not properly understanding my teachings. I've been very explicit about that when speaking of devils. That's what makes my teaching different than classical Christian teachings which separate the devil from God, resulting in a duality. My teaching is nondual.
I don't hate Trump. I merely use him as an example because he's the epitome of ego. I understand exactly why Trump must be Trump and that it cannot be otherwise for him. Trump is just a part of my Infinite Self. I would be foolish to hate myself.
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Radical implications of oneness
Radical implications of onenessThat's a good sign of consciousness.
But also what must be integrated and accepted is that if the mouse is killed, that too is oneness and love. If you fail to integrate that then you will not be able to love those who do evil.
It is not enough to not do evil oneself. You must realize that even if you stop committing evil personally, you will still commit evil as others. But since self = other, it makes no sense to judge other since you are just judging yourself.
Perhaps the hardest thing to accept is the inevitability of evil.
For example, next time, kill the mouse and accept your own evil for what it is. Can you love evil? That is the true test of your realization of oneness. After all, if everything is one, then love and evil must be one.