@Breakingthewall Relying on a chemical to sustain your consciousness is a terrible long-term strategy. You must find ways to get the same effect naturally. Otherwise you will always be a slave to that chemical.

@Leo Gura
This is my current meal plan & I don't want to listen to what you're saying. I'm young and healthy & no fish is going to take that away from me.

Really, entirely new board games need to be invented. Chess is such a stale game. It could be made much more interesting but people are just conformist about it. Chess pretends to be creative when it really isn't. And honestly it is sad to see grown ass men devoting their entire lives to something as unoriginal as chess. It's like watching a herd of sheep who think they are extremely smart. Reminds me of how science works. It's a stupid endeavor that only a very smart person would fall prey to.
This is basically the case with all sports.

Yes, the right music will send you into ecstasy.
It's a bad idea. 5-MeO makes most people very nauseous. Although I have eating right after the peak without throwing up, but I don't recommend this.
You have to be very careful here. You can reach levels of consciousness where you can destroy your own body, let a long furniture.
Depends on your work. At least 12 hours would be ideal.
Just don't eat for 4 hours. The stomach does not digest food for longer than 4 hours.
And then right before you plug, you must take a shit.
I've done it many times. It's both awesome but also the climax is underwhelming relative to the bliss of consciousness that you're in. No sex can compare to existential bliss.

I didn't want to go to the club and the musical today buut I went because in the video, Leo said go even when you feel like it. He said something like he was in a  bad mood because someone broke up with him but still go.
I thought okay, I just have a bad stomach and I have acne but I'll bite bullet be decisive and go!
 
I went to the Adams family musical first alone and then went to club. A lot of crowd and I was dancing just trying to keep my state high. Then after like 1.5-2 hrs later, I was standing and a girl was in front of me and I started dancing with her and she was grinding me for like an hour. Well thats the first time that happened to me and she even gave me her number. Knowing how flaky women are I don't have my hopes up high but it was an experience I don't regret having!
 
Literally re-watching Leo's pickup videos before sleep as I'm slowly seeing it

A therapist and a Zen master are very different things.
Shinzen Young does a sort of modern Westernized version of Zen.
But it won't lead you to God-realization.
You can google for Zen retreat centers. Lots of in California.
You can use Yelp to find any kind of therapist you want locally.
Sat Yoga is an interesting retreat center in Costa Rica. But it is cult-like.
Peter Ralston does some powerful workshops and apprenticeship programs in San Antonio. It's sorta Zen beyond Zen. But it still won't lead you to God-realization.

Meditation is useful and has its place. All I said was you won't fully underatand consciousness with it alone.
Psychedelics are the highest tool, according to me.
This does not mean you shouldn't meditate. I meditate.

Solo is just much harder. You have to really push yourself to approach. But it also grows you the most if you manage to do it.
There's no easy solution to solo. You just force yourself to approach, or you don't and you have a shit day.
Never ask for directions or the time. Do a proper direct approach.

Do it, experience it, and notice it's okay, life goes on.
There is no shortcut here. You must do 1000s of approaches until you develop mastery. There is no way you can be good after just a few hundred approaches. That's like thinking you can be good at playing guitar after 20 training sessions. Nope! Not possible.

You need to be able to hold a long conversation. This is fundamental to having game. This will be one of the biggest factors to you getting laid.
If you cannot hold a 45 min conversation, you can forget about getting laid with any consistency.

You can always turn an indirect/social approach into a direct one by dropping in a simple line like, "Oh my god, I just noticed, you're so adorable."
Like this:
You: "Hey, I thought I'd meet you."
Her: "Oh, Hi. I'm Sarah."
You: "OMG, I just noticed, you're so adorable. I'm Leo."
You can drop such lines anywhere in the conversation to turn it from a social one into a sexually charged one.

I have been rejected by thousands of women. Doesn't matter.
The problem is that you have way too little exposure to women and rejection. Go out, talk to 1000 women and get rejected 100s of times and then you still stop caring.
If you're talking to 1 or 2 women in your whole life and getting rejected, you will obsess over it because you're in such scarcity.
There are millions of hot women in the world. So getting rejected by even 1000 of them is irrelevant. And also, this idea that every woman is supposed to like you is absurd. If only 5% of women like you, that's more than enough. You are not going to be compatible with most women regardless of how good you are. You can be the perfect human and 50% of women will still reject you, because it's not about you, it's about her needs at the time.

Make your date as small investment as possible. A coffee, a drink, or an ice cream. Then pay for it. You'll be losing $5-$10 and the girl will appreciate it.
Don't do fancy dinner first dates.
The only time you should pay for a woman is if she's heavily emotionally invested in you and extremely compliant. If she's acting flakey and not hooked on you, don't pay for anything. And even if she is hooked on you, you should set the frame that you're not her sugar daddy and she will have to pay for stuff too.
When a woman truly likes you she will be eager to buy you things to lock in your approval and love -- because she values it so much more than money.

You basically have no idea what spirituality is until you do your first full dose of psychedelic.
It's like discovering another universe.
So if you're interested in spirituality and philosophy, it's a crucial move.
If you're more interested in chasing sex, money, and success, then it will be distraction from that.

"Hey, I thought I'd meet you."
Ask for her number towards the end. But if it's a very long interaction, over 30 mins, then somewhere in the middle.

Of course if you press them on it they will be forced to admit it, but most of them keep it unsaid.
Most of them don't even make the connection in their own mind that they started on the path because the culture changed to allow it because psychedelics became widely used.
The only reason stuff like yoga and Zen and Buddhism and TM became popular in the West is because minds were opened thanks to psychedelics in the 60's. Psychedelics made the myths tangible. All of this gets taken for granted and unacknowledged.
You think it's an accident, for example, that Ralston and Shinzen Young both lived in San Fransisco during the 60's??? They didn't do it on their own. Their culture led them to it.

@Rob06 Raising kid is tough because it forces you to confront with the part of your shadow which you haven't integrated yet, and teaches you empathy, patience, how to set and enforce boundaries, how to be vulnerables, how to consciously deal with another vulnerable person, and so on. It will be tough, especially if you had a dysfunctional childhood, because all your traumas will be triggered by your children (you are in the parent role now).
If you value psychological healing and integration, then yes, raising children is a valuable road. You also need the right partner

1) Yes, the louder it is, the more physical game is necessary and effective.
2) But you can also train yourself to just speak louder and hear better.
3) Practice your verbal game and not running out of things to say in quieter environments. So then you can transfer that skill to loud places. Running out of things to say is not a loudness problem, it's a verbal game problem. I bet you'll run out of things to say even in a library. So don't blame that on the loudness.
4) If you open on the dance floor, open physically with great eye contact etc, dance for a bit, and then pull her off the floor to a quieter area to talk and build a connection. It's just the inverse of a typical approach, where you talk first and then pull to dance floor after you've built a connection.

What you have to do is:
1) Learn to socialize
2) Develop solid inner game
That's really all there is to it.

You cannot learn socializing through a book.
Stop thinking of this issue as even pickup-related.
It's not really about pickup, it's about the fact that you are fundamentally insecure with yourself around other human beings. You lack core socialization skills. This is not about manipulating women into bed, it's about the fact that you are incapable of walking up to a stranger and holding a fun conversation.
Yes, and the only way you'll develop that is by socializing with 1000s of people. So get out there and get started. You don't fix this sitting at home thinking about it. Go out, approach, socialize. You don't even need to do it with girls. You could learn it by talking to guys.
As you develop those skills, you will get a girlfriend along the way. You don't need to stress about that. What you need to do is start developing the social skills like going to the gym.
I've gone through this process. From zero. Nothing you're describing is in any way original or unique to you. Tens of thousands of guys have gone through it. You can too. It's not easy, but it's worth the effort.

@d0ornokey It's very challenging. Western philosophers are masters at weaving together genius and bullshit.
Best to stick to modern nonduality teachers for the most of you. So you don't waste your time.
The books on my book list are what you should be focused on reading and mastering. You'll notice, I don't put a lot of philosophy books on there.

Those things count. Especially status. Raw success, like money in your bank account, does not count.
Yes, that counts as emotional stimulation. Not that I endorse it.
No, don't be so extreme. We are speaking in generalities.
1) Of course most of the manipulation men do is unconscious. Although some guys can also do it very deliberately, with pure calculation.
2) You can always gets some girls through pure random luck without doing anything, just being at the right place at the right time.
3) Good looking guys and high status guys require a lot less manipulation. Also, it's a question of the quality and quantity of girls the guy wants. If you are happy with low quality girls then you don't need to manipulate as much.
4) I'm not saying that you can't get laid without manipulation. You can. You'll just get laid a lot less and with a different kind of girl. It's a bit like sales. You can still sell stuff without being a used car salesman about it. But there is also a good reason why used car salesmen are the way they are, and why you shouldn't sleep with one.

You need more leads in your funnel. Socialize more so you have more fodder to screen through. Then screen based on values and actual important points, not superficial and shallow ones.
Go on many more dates, but screen harder. Don't judge a guy too much before the date. Use the date to actually get to know him and then you can judge once you have some material to work with.
I feel that a big mistake girls make is that they judge way too early on way too little information and in superficial ways, not really giving the best guys a chance, while falling quickly for the wrong guys. A great guy's qualities take time to see. Your intuition is not good at picking it up. So be careful with that intuitive approach. Your intuition is often wrong because it has too little information. If your intuition was so good, you wouldn't be sleeping with so many wrong guys. So the problem is that your intuition gets you into trouble. It's very easy for a player to fool your intuition because it's easy to trigger attraction in a girl just by doing the things girls are attracted to. You must realize that you are very robotic in what you are attracted to, like a fly to shit.

FAST FOOD + Lack of experience + Abusive Traumatized Narcissistic Parents + too much stimulation + drugs and alcohol available everywhere to everyone + Media that make mental illness problems seem ordinary (Mr.Robot) + subliminal messages in movies and songs? + Sexual Frustration 

Honestly, if I had the chance, I would just go straight for smoking it, I feel like shoving and plugging it would be too difficult. I'd just smoke on it. Lol, maybe one day, we can smoke on 5-Meo Together. I wonder what I would experience, what kinds of stuff did you guys see and experience on it?