I have talked to somewhere close to 5000 girls. I have never been in a fight.

Scientists are like women, can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em

What happens with the solipsism thing is that you spend a lot of time in denial about it. Then you feel depressed and bothered by it. And then eventually you become so conscious you stop even thinking about it and just enjoy being conscious. Ruminating about the downsides of solipsism is a kind of delusion which you must transcend.
Nothing about GOD can be bad. That's AWAKENING.

Enlightenment certainly does not obviate stage development. Ken Wilber is right to stress this point.

@mr_engineer Dude, stop worring about long-term relationships. Sleep with some women first.
You are putting the cart before the horse.

Ken Wilber has done amazing work though. He's one of the few philosophers who have a clue what reality is.
Anyone who would dismiss the insane value in Ken Wilber's work is not serous.
You just have to never forget that all models are limited. As far as explaining general human behavior we have no better models as far as I have seen. So really the burden is on any critic to provide a better model.
If you think Spiral Dynamics is bad, you tell us a model that's better, or pipe down with your whining.

You are being way too logical with these girls. You have to stop taking the things they say seriously and just be very playful and emotional and sexual with them.
And def stop listening when they tell you they want a nice guy or whatever.
It takes a few years and lots of practice to develop a sense of humor. It's worth the effort.

Stop caring what any girl calls you. Don't take it seriously. It's just a joke.

Online dating is a scam unless you got great looks or no standards.

Why would you want that?
Being valued for your beauty is the greatest curse.

You simply need to learn to socialize.
You are overthinking all this.
If you went out regularly and socialized, you would get laid.
No amount of your theorizing will change the simple fact that you need to start going out a lot.
You can either sit there and stew in resentment and self-loathing, or you can just muster the balls to go out and socialize.

You are trying to reduce this whole thing to a money, status, looks thing, which is very shallow and will get you very stuck.

It's not merely some blind optimism, you need to build a rock solid inner game grounded in core principles.
That produces massive improvement in results.

NO! Nonduality is imaginary and no one here is conscious of that.
When you nondualists try to cast what I'm saying as, "Oh, Leo just wants to explore finite states of consciousness and all kinds of forms, but I am beyond that". NO! You don't even understand what CONSCIOUSNESS is! You are missing the highest possible level of understanding. I am not saying you're missing some finite apsects of consciousness, I'm saying you're missing it's very nature. The very essence of AWAKENING is what you do not have.
No nondualist knows what consciousness is, and they never will.
No nondualist is beyond anything I say. No nondualist, Buddhist, nor enlightened person will ever transcend psychedelics. They do not understand what I am talking about.
To be AWAKE you must realize that you fooled yourself into imagining that nonduality is the core of spirituality. Of course! Nonduality is a self-deception. Of course it is! Why wouldn't it be?

@tashadwoodfall I'm guessing what you really want is not a big dick, but for him to deeply satisfy you in bed. A big dick is not necessary for that. How many times does he make you cum per session? Zero? Then that's the problem, not the dick.
Lasting longer is something that he can develop.
He can also employ other methods to make you cum deeper. The physical size is not what makes you cum hard. A guy who knows what he's doing can make you cum deeper via text messages than you ever came from a big dick. The mind is what makes you cum, not the dick.
It sounds like you just need to communicate to him that you're not feeling fully satisfied sexually and you want to explore WITH HIM deeper ways of satisfying you. Encourage him to learn how to satisfy you better in bed. There are so many ways. You can suggest methods, books, courses, videos, toys, tantric techniques, etc.
Also you need to be explicit with him about what makes you cum hard. So he understands your needs. Be specific with him.
Of course you can also tell him that you want to work on satisfying him deeper in bed too. He will like that part.

All this means is that you have insanely high tolerance and psychdelics do not work with your genetics and metabolism. This does NOT mean that you are somehow more conscious than psychdelics.

I have a friend who has such a unique metabolism that DMT makes him less conscious, not more.
YOU CANNOT ASSUME THAT EVERYONE HAS THE SAME METABOLISM. Remove that idea from your mind.

Why would you associate money with IQ??
Many people who make lots of money are simply scammers or theives. But most of them are in unique positions at the top of social heiracheries.
The key to making tons of money effortlessly is to position yourself at the top of a social heirarchy. How you position yourself socially is way more important than the actual work you do.

Very few women are loved for who they are.
The whole beauty of being a man is that you get to love yourself. Which is the best kind of love.

I prefer certain races over others. The difference is I don't act out those biases and I try to treat people equally. A proper racist acts out on his biases and tries to justify and enshrine them into law.
If you are very honest, most people are racist. It's just wired into the human mind. Nothing surprising about that.

You do not see reality for what it is. I promise you. You are living in a human spiritual fantasy and whatever you call realization is 1% of what you could be conscious of. Since you are so lacking in consciousness you just call the best of what you know "realization", but this means nothing in the grand scheme of things.
Spiritual people are simply too unconscious to know that their highest realizations are just human illusions.

Mostly you just need a strong frame and don't treat socialization seriously. You don't socialize for intellectual gain, you socialize just to have fun. You don't take people's ideas seriously, you just have fun and then go home and be serious.

Also, I should add, there is no dispute whatsoever that highly processed foods and heavy metals and pesticides are unhealthy for everyone. It's just that if your genetics is strong enough your body can endure A LOT of abuse.

If you stop spinning that story then it will literally be a non-issue. You have to be confident in your own values. I don't have much relationships or sex and it barely bothers me because I love all the other benefits I get for it.
An important part of your development is honestly just saying Fuck You to all of society's expectations of you, opting instead to be full yourself, your own source of authority and values.
People will certainly try to gaslight and shame you into adopting their values, but if you develop a backbone eventually you will rise above all that.
Just trust in your own value system. That's the key!

Go out and learn to socialize. Find some "natural" guys and emulate them.
It's okay to be creepy in the beginning. You will grow out of it with more experience.